Hello Doctor, my wife during periods having mood swings and very short temper she screams on everybody

Ans: Dear Vinay,
yes, it's natural as she says. she's responding to the hormonal fluctuations related to menopause.
So, there is no solution to a problem, as there is no problem in the first place. It's just the natural progression of a woman through various stages of her life. Support her by understanding her and her emotions better.
And intercourse isn't the only way to connect. Intimacy can be non-sexual as well; cuddling, kissing, holding hands are forms of being close. This may take the pressure of the performance and it may lead to intercourse. But if you are simply going to obsess over it, neither of you are going to be ready and it will just drive a wall between the two of you. Instead focus on the beautiful things that you have shared so far and what you can build on from no on....a lot of support, care, love and understanding is the need of the hour...

All the best!

Ans: Dear Pramod,
Why do you think you have to handle your wife?
Shouldn't you in fact, be together with your wife in the marriage? And the same goes for her as well.
If there are challenges in having free flow of communication between the two of you; the only way to enable this is to actually talk about it.
If you feel that it maybe perimenopausal, there is need for more understanding of what she might be going through. Also, it might be wise to physically rule out any vitamin deficiencies and check other health parameters that change after the age of 40 for a woman.
Be patient; she is the person you chose to marry...a phase of life never means the end of the world...it only means a slight change in the way you look at things to do better.

All the best!

Ans: Hello there,
Dealing with a partner's mood swings can be challenging, and it's understandable that you're feeling distressed Encourage her to share her feelings and concerns, and express your own thoughts as well. Healthy communication is vital for understanding each other's perspectives Suggest the idea of seeking professional help together, such as couples therapy. A trained therapist can assist in identifying the underlying issues contributing to the mood swings and offer strategies for managing themEmphasize the importance of self-care for both of you. Encourage your wife to engage in activities that bring her joy and relaxation. Additionally, make time for your own self-care to manage stress Learn more about mood swings, potential causes, and coping mechanisms. Understanding the nature of mood swings may help you approach the situation with empathy and patience Reinforce the stability and commitment in your relationship during moments of calm. Remind each other of the positive aspects of your connection to build a sense of security Explore mindfulness or relaxation techniques together. These practices can help manage stress and enhance emotional well-being.

Best wishes

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is heartwarming to know that you have observed something that might be going on with your wife and want to sort this out and help her.
Many women get into a space after a few years of marriage and motherhood where they don't feel satisfied with what they are doing, This may not have anything to do with you. It maybe just be the monotony and exhaustion of being at home and managing the child.
To infuse some energy into that monotony:
- Find someone who can stay with the child for an hour or two everyday (preferably a family member) so that your wife can step out for her Me-Time
- Try and give a break over the weekend where she can go out with her circle of friends
- Encourage her to take up some online learning course that gives her a sense of confidence
- Spend some quality time with her and go out on 'dates'

These are just suggestions that may work if the problem that she has is one of boredom of being at home. So employ these suggestions and if the challenge still exists, then you might have to look deeper.
I hope you understand that this has nothing to do with you and there is no point thinking that she might leave you. By harboring these thoughts, you are unnecessarily adding a dimension that may not exist and it will not help you help your wife.

Her threatening to leave you could simply be her way of asking for your attention and care. So, extend that even more...

All the best!