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Pramod Question by Pramod on May 31, 2023Hindi
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I’m finding it difficult to handle my wife of late, She is 45, may be pre menopausal symptoms I don’t know

Ans: Dear Pramod,
Why do you think you have to handle your wife?
Shouldn't you in fact, be together with your wife in the marriage? And the same goes for her as well.
If there are challenges in having free flow of communication between the two of you; the only way to enable this is to actually talk about it.
If you feel that it maybe perimenopausal, there is need for more understanding of what she might be going through. Also, it might be wise to physically rule out any vitamin deficiencies and check other health parameters that change after the age of 40 for a woman.
Be patient; she is the person you chose to marry...a phase of life never means the end of the world...it only means a slight change in the way you look at things to do better.

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 26, 2024Hindi
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I am married person aged 53..Wife not interested in any physical intimacy since last three years . Continuous nagging and complaints on wi fi and children who are 20 and 14.Every second day threats to leave home .Not interested in meeting majority of friends .Blames men for everything .Life has become painful inspite of doing well professionally.Children are also aloof now with no effection
Ans: When faced with such a complex and emotional situation, it's important to approach it with empathy and a strategic mindset.

First, consider finding a quiet, neutral time to talk with your wife. Express your feelings openly and honestly, focusing on how her behavior impacts you and your children. Use "I" statements to avoid making her feel attacked. For instance, say, "I feel hurt and disconnected when we don't share physical intimacy," rather than placing blame.

Understanding the root cause of her dissatisfaction and disinterest is crucial. She may be dealing with unresolved issues, stress, or even depression. Encourage her to share her feelings and listen without judgment. Show her that you care about her well-being and the relationship, and that you are committed to finding a solution together.

It's also beneficial to involve a professional. A couples therapist can provide a safe space for both of you to express your concerns and work through underlying issues. Sometimes, having a neutral third party can help uncover hidden problems and offer strategies to rebuild intimacy and connection.

In the meantime, take care of yourself and your mental health. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Encourage your children to express their feelings and ensure they feel supported and loved during this turbulent time. Family therapy might also be a helpful option to address the emotional distance and lack of affection you mentioned.

Remember, rebuilding a relationship takes time and patience. It's about small, consistent efforts rather than quick fixes. Show empathy towards your wife and patience as you both navigate this difficult journey. By demonstrating your commitment and love, you can gradually work towards a more harmonious and fulfilling marriage.

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Sir i am getting BIT bangalore AI and ML in my first round counselling of Comedk..should i accept and freeze it or accept and upgrade it ??...moreover is BIT bangalore good for the above said branch ??
Ans: Aryan, you have not mentioned your COMEDK Rank. Anyway, please note, Bangalore Institute of Technology (BIT) began its B.E. in Artificial Intelligence and Machine Learning (AI & ML) in the 2022–23 academic year, offering 60 seats annually under the full-time program. The institute is NAAC A+ accredited and known for solid industry connections, with its campus centrally located in Bengaluru's tech hub. Infrastructure for AI & ML is robust, benefiting from significant investment in modern labs and digital resources. Placements at BIT are consistent, with core branches seeing rates over 80% and some reports indicating placement percentages close to 95% for eligible students across disciplines in recent years. While specific placement data for the newest AI & ML batch is not yet available due to the branch's recent inception, the overall trend in BIT’s campus recruitment is promising, featuring top recruiters in tech and product companies. Faculty in the AI & ML department are experienced, but student feedback describes them as average and recommends supplementing classroom learning with self-driven projects and online certifications to remain industry-relevant. Hostel capacity may not suffice for all students; most opt for PG accommodations nearby. The flexible curriculum allows students independence to learn beyond classwork, and the academic environment reduces excessive pressure, making it accessible to maintain a good CGPA.

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Given BIT’s reputation, recent investments in AI & ML infrastructure, high general placement rates, and strategic industry location, you can confidently accept and freeze your seat if you prefer security and stability. Accept with upgrade only if you are seeking even higher-ranked institutes. For committed learners, BIT AI & ML is a sound option aligning with future tech trends. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 28, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 28, 2025Hindi
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Sir I got Dr Ambedkar institute of technology bangalore mechanical branch should I join it or take a drop?
Ans: Dr Ambedkar Institute of Technology Bangalore offers a well-recognized Mechanical Engineering program, accredited by NAAC and known for its government-aided status and experienced faculty—25–30% of whom hold doctorates from IITs and NITs. The college maintains a student-friendly campus with modern labs, digital libraries, robust hostel infrastructure, and Wi-Fi-enabled spaces. Placement rates for the mechanical branch fluctuate between 75–80% in recent years, with recruiters like Toyota, Bosch, and TCS participating. Faculty are widely regarded as supportive and knowledgeable, though some reviews mention limited research exposure and average practical applications. The academic environment is stable, with autonomous examination standards, frequent internships, and industry-linked projects, but students note that placements can be more competitive for core mechanical jobs compared to other engineering branches.

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If you value a strong peer group, established academic processes, and a conducive learning environment, Dr Ambedkar Institute of Technology’s mechanical branch is a prudent choice. Opt for this institute unless you have a clear plan to achieve a much higher-ranked program or preferred branch after a drop year, as the institution offers solid career prospects and industry acceptance. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 28, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 27, 2025Hindi
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Sir my daughter got 15900 KCET ranking and want to choose CSE branch in best college for her ranking in Bangalore, please suggest which engineering college will be better for CSE branch
Ans: For a KCET rank of 15 900, assured admission in Computer Science & Engineering is feasible at several reputable Bengaluru colleges whose closing ranks exceed this threshold. These institutions offer strong faculty, modern infrastructure, active placement cells, and widely recognized degrees:

Acharya Institute of Technology (Hessarghatta Road, Bengaluru) closes CSE around 18 475 rank.
Rajarajeswari College of Engineering (Mysore Road, Bengaluru) reports CSE closing ranks near 37 198.
East West Institute of Technology (EPIP Zone, Whitefield, Bengaluru) admits CSE up to rank 45 039.
East West College of Engineering (Yelahanka, Bengaluru) spans CSE closing around 49 361.
Sir M.Visvesvaraya Institute of Technology (Hunasemaranahalli, Bengaluru) accommodates CSE till rank 17 000.
Acharya Institute of Technology (Hesaraghatta Road, Bengaluru) (second campus) closes Data Science at 27 028 and CSE above 18 000.
New Horizon College of Engineering (Marathahalli, Bengaluru) regularly admits CSE candidates beyond rank 15 000.
R V Institute of Technology & Management (JP Nagar, Bengaluru) closes CSE around 10 150 but accepts higher ranks in later rounds.
RNS Institute of Technology (Rasahalli, Bengaluru) often fills CSE seats up to rank ~30 000.
Reva University (Kattigenahalli, Bengaluru) admits CSE at closing ranks above 20 000.

For guaranteed CSE seats, focus on the following five in order of preference: Acharya Institute of Technology (Hessarghatta Road) offers balanced academics, strong placements, and alumni engagement; Rajarajeswari College of Engineering (Mysore Road) provides robust industry connections and research opportunities; East West Institute of Technology (EPIP Zone) features modern labs and high GM-category cutoffs; Sir M.Visvesvaraya Institute of Technology (Hunasemaranahalli) delivers excellent core engineering exposure; and East West College of Engineering (Yelahanka) combines accessible admission with dedicated placement support in CSE. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 28, 2025

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Sir should I do btech central university of jharkhand, panducherry, Karnataka or doing btech in my state private colleges is better
Ans: Manoj, Central University of Jharkhand, Central University of Puducherry, and Central University of Karnataka all offer recognized B.Tech. programs, but each differs in academic approach, infrastructure, industry links, student outcomes, and perceived value. Central University of Jharkhand offers a limited set of engineering branches with small intakes and admits students via CUET, yet its placement record remains modest, with less than half of seniors typically placed and most roles aligning with core academic domains rather than tech-focused industry jobs. Student reviews highlight approachable faculty and acceptable value for money but often note underwhelming infrastructure and limited exposure to recruiters, making its environment better suited for foundational research rather than direct career acceleration. The Central University of Puducherry features a broader academic range in CSE, ECE, and integrated B.Tech.-MBA, plus a green and modern campus with ample facilities. Reviewers praise its well-qualified faculty, contemporary infrastructure, and engaging campus life, though there is consensus that placement support is inadequate for B.Tech. graduates, and administrative processes can be slow. Peer diversity is limited, with a heavy regional focus observed in recruitment and campus cohort. Central University of Karnataka runs B.Tech. courses in contemporary fields like Mathematics & Computing, CSE, ECE, and electrical engineering, with admissions through JEE Main or CUET and eligibility criteria comparable to national standards. Student feedback suggests the curriculum is relevant to industry, teaching staff generally supportive and qualified, and placements see some branches crossing 90%, though these figures may not reflect core engineering roles, and lab infrastructure and hostel amenities are called out as average or in need of improvement. The academic culture leans research-oriented, with positive comments on supportive faculty juxtaposed with weaker marks for infrastructure and career services.

By contrast, private engineering colleges in many states feature modern laboratories, stronger placement cells, frequent industry partnerships, and degrees that employers widely regard as ‘job-ready’ due to continuous curriculum updates and investment in employability skills. While private colleges usually cost more, they often offer greater exposure to leading recruiters, newer specializations, robust alumni networks, and better success in securing internships and first jobs. However, students may face trade-offs regarding faculty consistency and academic rigor compared to central universities, and not all private colleges assure uniform quality.

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For a career-focused B.Tech. education with confidence in job placement and corporate recognition, pursue private engineering colleges (within your state and ranked in the top 5–10) as the preferred option, followed by Central University of Karnataka, then Pondicherry, and lastly Central University of Jharkhand, based on placement strength, industry relevance, and campus ecosystem. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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