I’m finding it difficult to handle my wife of late, She is 45, may be pre menopausal symptoms I don’t know

Ans: If your wife is 48 years not getting periods, there could be multiple reasons, but the communist reason could be either perimenopause or menopause itself. It could be also associated hormonal imbalances in a very rare instance of pregnancy also needs to be ruled out.
Please do a pregnancy test in home kit. If it is negative, which it should really be at this age, then consult a gynecologist and get an ultrasound done to see further possible reasons. But the communist reason at this point should be menopause.

Ans: Dear Vinay,
yes, it's natural as she says. she's responding to the hormonal fluctuations related to menopause.
So, there is no solution to a problem, as there is no problem in the first place. It's just the natural progression of a woman through various stages of her life. Support her by understanding her and her emotions better.
And intercourse isn't the only way to connect. Intimacy can be non-sexual as well; cuddling, kissing, holding hands are forms of being close. This may take the pressure of the performance and it may lead to intercourse. But if you are simply going to obsess over it, neither of you are going to be ready and it will just drive a wall between the two of you. Instead focus on the beautiful things that you have shared so far and what you can build on from no on....a lot of support, care, love and understanding is the need of the hour...

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anilkumar,
Clearly there is a mismatch in what you want and what she wants. So, taking her for medical treatment means that you might also need it...
Instead of this blame game, why don't you try and find out the reason for this lack of interest. Maybe it is tiredness of the day and also if you demand everyday, she might come up with some excuse or the other. Sex is not a mechanical activity; it requires a lot of emotional connection between two people which means you and your wife have to connect better emotionally for sex to happen. New thing for you maybe...but rather than blame her for disturbing daily life, try and be more kind to understand what is exactly bothering her. LISTEN and not DEMAND...
Simply listening and helping her through it might help her become warm towards you and things may improve...

All the best!

Ans: When faced with such a complex and emotional situation, it's important to approach it with empathy and a strategic mindset.

First, consider finding a quiet, neutral time to talk with your wife. Express your feelings openly and honestly, focusing on how her behavior impacts you and your children. Use "I" statements to avoid making her feel attacked. For instance, say, "I feel hurt and disconnected when we don't share physical intimacy," rather than placing blame.

Understanding the root cause of her dissatisfaction and disinterest is crucial. She may be dealing with unresolved issues, stress, or even depression. Encourage her to share her feelings and listen without judgment. Show her that you care about her well-being and the relationship, and that you are committed to finding a solution together.

It's also beneficial to involve a professional. A couples therapist can provide a safe space for both of you to express your concerns and work through underlying issues. Sometimes, having a neutral third party can help uncover hidden problems and offer strategies to rebuild intimacy and connection.

In the meantime, take care of yourself and your mental health. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Encourage your children to express their feelings and ensure they feel supported and loved during this turbulent time. Family therapy might also be a helpful option to address the emotional distance and lack of affection you mentioned.

Remember, rebuilding a relationship takes time and patience. It's about small, consistent efforts rather than quick fixes. Show empathy towards your wife and patience as you both navigate this difficult journey. By demonstrating your commitment and love, you can gradually work towards a more harmonious and fulfilling marriage.