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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 28, 2023Hindi
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Hello mam, I cannot focus on my work....I keep overthinking about the future and even after being skilled i cannot execute my work.I get distracted and agitated easily these days.I have lost confidence in myself i keep thinking how i would tackle things in future,I dont know what to do.Can you please guide.

Ans: Improving self-confidence and avoiding overthinking are two related but distinct issues. Here are some tips for both:

To improve self-confidence:

Identify your strengths and achievements. Write them down and revisit them when you feel insecure.Practice self-care, such as getting enough sleep, exercising, and eating healthy.Set realistic goals and work towards achieving them.Focus on your progress rather than comparing yourself to others.Surround yourself with positive and supportive people.Learn from your mistakes and failures rather than dwelling on them.Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations.Try new things and step out of your comfort zone.

To avoid overthinking:

Recognize when you're overthinking and acknowledge that it's not productive.Set aside time to think about the issue, but limit it to a specific amount of time.Engage in activities that distract you, such as exercise or hobbies.Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment.Write down your thoughts and feelings to gain perspective and clarity.Talk to a trusted friend or therapist about your concerns.Accept that not everything can be controlled and focus on what you can control.Remind yourself that worrying won't solve the problem and take action towards a solution.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 01, 2024Hindi
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Hi mam. I kind of need mental fitness advice. I am 26 years old female. I am afraid a lot in taking up the decisions in my life due to overthinking. But it is not same when it comes to my work side. Always taking up the negative things from my surroundings and expressing the same. Sometimes i make negative situations in my mind and cry. Is there a way to change my mindset to overcome my overthinking as well as my negative mindset. Pls give me some tips to overcome laziness as well as procastination. Is there any yoga or medidation to cure this one. Because i really hate myself for this.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What exactly do you get by punishing yourself? It's another way to indulge in self-pity which will only keep you in the problem zone for longer.
Instead pay attention to the reasons towards laziness and procrastination.
Ask:
- Do I display laziness with every activity or a few or one specific one?
- If Yes, which is it?
- What about that activity/situation makes me want to procrastinate and not take action on it?
- If I actually make a plan and act on that activity/situation, how will things change for me?

This will give you an idea as to what exactly happens in the mind to avoid something and what you can do about it. We are never motivated to do anything if we don not get something concrete back in return. So, define the reward clearly...
And as far as negative things go, if you choose to focus on it, obviously it will grow bigger in the mind.

Keep the above questions list with you and check at regular intervals when faced with procrastination. Have a social circle of friends who can pull you up when you are down BUT they will not be kind all the time if you are going to indulge into self-pity. So, the decision to get better, to become more positive and actually do something big in life is a decision. Focus on how much your life will change for the better when you do this and it will be a clean and quick switchover.

All the best!
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Help me!!! 1.I'm starting new "work" on my own(challenging for me) but my mind says quit it, be quite & do nothing. I myself don't know that wether the result of work will be +ive or uncompleted like alws. 2. My mind has become like order seeker type, when someone orders me, I do those things with dedicated(but sad from inside) manner. But when myself will try something different(which i fear, but necessary) then. "I QUITS IT" & sometimes I don't even start. 3. I'm like stuck no clue what/whom I want to do in life, I'm in cllg(1 yr) doing (CSE) ,. 4. I want to do/try (sports,talking girls,study,stocks,coding..) many things, but myself, my thoughts(overthinker), R like just be in the place where u are[confused,po*n,think about past/future(being billio..re,olympics..), girl (that u liked & never talked), abusive/beating self,.. sometimes feels like end life, but don't hv courage for that also.. 5. I tried self help books, spirituality, god, self affirmation, writing... & thay affected me(sometimes) but for only some time, then again that devil me comes up &these things never get completed. As no one in my family knows about all these, so that's Y ,I hv to fight/loose/try again, the battles with myself.
Ans: Dear Harsh,
If in the past you have had the urge to QUIT, how is this time going to be different? This is not to discourage you from taking up 'new work' but pointing out that there is some amount of work that you need to put to clear the mind out of blockages.
-What is limiting you?
- What is the reason for putting off things?
- What comes first to the mind when you start something new?
Also, focus on one thing at a time; study and go deep into it...what's this thing with work? I don't understand. When the mind is unsettled, take one thing/activity, pursue it and finish it. It could simply be studying for Year 1 of your college...just only do that...once your mind is trained in completing an activity, you can add another one the next year along with studying and then pursue both...it could be some sport and studying...then the next year, you could add a third activity. This is called 'training the mind in discipline'. Discipline will make sure that you start and finish things...So, go slow and do one thing at a time.

All the best!
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The seconds of time during taking action..I get into the overthinking/over-analysing thoughts... 1. Imaginative: Where I becom's the character & live life(see images, speak..) in those..like being rich,powerfull,disciplined,wife,kids....things which I want/perceive from social media...+ memos of past also.. 2. Stuck: Where I becom's a "OBJECT" & voices + images of brain guides me to quit task's when doing things/challenging...by saying.. *What this thing(task/book..) gonna benefit you? *Don't do it, you will do worse/fail..people gonna judge/laugh to you...look yourself!!..no good face, no good dress, u don't hv courage/skill to do that thing. 3. Coping: "Quit it" & use Mobile(songs,reels,yt videos..) to stop/distract myself from those dark clouds. i) What/How [solution] to don't get stuck in those next time. ii) How to use that overthinking for my advantage.. with hving control. iii) I tried to fill the possible voids by dress/looks but things were same..so it's internal.. What to do for that?
Ans: Dear Work,
Overthinking and over processing never helped anyone. Focus on your self-talk and change that.
- Journaling
- Sports
- Art work
- Meditation
- Breathwork
These are a few ways in which you can attempt to slow down the mind from racing thoughts. Once that happens, work on your self-talk to make it more useful where you start to direct yourself towards what you want to do.

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Iiit Bhubaneswar cse vs nit Rourkela biomedical engineering which is better option to choose between them for better placement and further carrer opportunities.actually i want a very good placement.pls suggest some good things abt this
Ans: International Institute of Information Technology Bhubaneswar’s Computer Science & Engineering program features an ACM-aligned curriculum, modern AI, data-science and cybersecurity labs, and structured internships from the fifth semester. Over the past three years, CSE placements averaged 71% eligibility with 42 recruiters offering 224 on-campus roles in 2024, and highest and average packages of ?19 LPA and ?9 LPA respectively. The Training & Placement Cell conducts soft-skills workshops, mock drives and industry mentoring, securing stipends up to ?50,000 and roles in top IT firms. National Institute of Technology Rourkela’s B.Tech Biomedical Engineering combines core biosignal processing, medical imaging and biomaterials courses with hands-on labs in biomechanics and healthcare instrumentation. Recent UG placement data indicates approximately 93% of Biomedical graduates secured roles, with an average package of ?12.09 LPA and recruiters from medical-device, research and consulting sectors. The department’s summer internship program in AI-driven biosensors offers competitive project stipends, while DST and industry-funded research projects bolster hands-on exposure. Both institutes boast NAAC A+ accreditation, experienced Ph.D. faculty, active industry MoUs and strong alumni networks.

Recommendation: Opt for IIIT Bhubaneswar CSE if you prioritise a broader software-engineering curriculum, consistent recruiter diversity and established tech-industry internships. Choose NIT Rourkela Biomedical Engineering for specialized healthcare-technology training, superior median biomedical placement rates and research-intensive project opportunities. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir, my son wants to go in financial field but he wants to do 12 th with Maths. He is not interested doing engineering. What are his options and which universities colleges he should Target ?
Ans: Abhish Sir, A strong foundational pathway into finance without engineering begins with programs such as Bachelor of Finance & Accounting (BFA), Bachelor of Business Administration (Finance), BAF, BCom (Finance), BFM or BBS (Finance). Eligibility typically requires completion of 12th grade with mathematics and a minimum 50–60 percent aggregate; many institutes conduct their own entrance tests (e.g., Christ University’s CUCET, Narsee Monjee’s NPAT, Symbiosis SET, SRCC DUET, SET, and NPAT) or accept national scores (CUET, IPMAT, DU JAT). Competition is high at premier colleges, with acceptance rates ranging from 10–30 percent. Placement cells report 80–98 percent campus-hire rates over the past three years, with roles in banking, financial analysis, investment management, risk management and consulting. Top ten undergraduate institutions to consider are:

Christ University, Bangalore (BBA Finance) – CUCET or CUET; 90 percent placements with banking and consulting recruiters.

Narsee Monjee College of Commerce & Economics, Mumbai (BAF) – NPAT; 85 percent placements in financial services.

St. Xavier’s College, Mumbai (BCom Finance/BAF) – HSC merit and CET; 88 percent placements in audit, corporate finance.

Loyola College, Chennai (BAF) – CUET/entrance; 86 percent placements in banks and insurance firms.

HR College of Commerce & Economics, Mumbai (BAF) – HSC merit; 82 percent placements across investment banking and corporate finance.

St. Joseph’s College of Commerce, Bangalore (BBA Finance) – SJCC entrance; 90 percent placement consistency with Deloitte, EY and KPMG.

Symbiosis School of Banking & Finance, Pune (BBA Banking & Finance) – SET; 92 percent placements in retail banking and NBFCs.

IFIM School of Management, Bangalore (BBA Finance) – IFIM entrance; 85 percent placements with fintech and analytics firms.

GITAM School of Business, Hyderabad (BBA Finance) – GITAM admission test; 80 percent placements in corporate finance roles.

Christ (Deemed to be University), Delhi NCR (BBA Finance) – CUCET; 89 percent placements in MNC financial teams.

recommendation: Target a diversified finance curriculum at institutions like Christ University or Symbiosis SBFC for high placement consistency and strong industry linkages. Prioritize colleges offering specialized finance curricula with rigorous entrance-based selection to maximize internships and campus-recruitment outcomes. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir i have got cse in bennett university and it in ratan tata maharashtra state skill university which should i prioritize please tell me
Ans: Bennett University’s B.Tech Computer Science & Engineering, established under the Times Group and NAAC A accreditation, follows an ACM-aligned curriculum spanning foundational courses in programming, data structures, algorithms, operating systems and advanced electives in AI, cybersecurity and data science, coupled with dual-specialization minors and a capstone project or internship. Its Career Services team engages over 230 recruiters—including Microsoft, Google, TCS and PwC—and delivered a 95–98% placement rate for the 2023 BTech cohort, with an average package of ?7.99 LPA and highest offers up to ?1.37 Cr, while robust Industry-Academia partnerships support specialized labs, hackathons and research projects. By contrast, Ratan Tata Maharashtra State Skills University’s B.Tech Information Technology embraces a 60:40 skill-to-academics ratio and NEP-aligned flexible exits, featuring a 1-year On-the-Job Training with industry certifications in AWS, DevOps and IoT. Its curriculum covers cloud computing, UI/UX, quantum computing and cybersecurity, emphasizing workplace competencies in live projects and mentorship through strategic corporate partnerships. As a skill-first state university founded in 2022, RT-MSSU’s inaugural BTech batches are yet to graduate, so placement data remains emergent, though its placement cell promises industry-integrated learning and startup support.

Recommendation: Prioritize Bennett University CSE for its proven high placement consistency, established industry network and advanced research infrastructure. Consider RT-MSSU IT if you value intensive skill training, guaranteed OJT exposure and flexible exit options, accepting early-stage placement uncertainty. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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My son at 121000 JEE GEN category rank got admission in BTECH CSE in JIIT Noida (JAYPEE University) : Sir, how is the college and what are his future aspects? Please advise to make a better career for future. Rama S
Ans: Rama Madam, Jaypee Institute of Information Technology (JIIT), Noida is a Deemed-to-be University established in 2001, accredited ‘A’ by NAAC and NBA-accredited for its B.Tech CSE program through 2027. Ranked within NIRF’s 54–150 band for engineering, JIIT offers an ACM-aligned curriculum with minors and specialized certificates in AI, IoT, Data Analytics and Cloud Computing, delivered through over 140 dedicated laboratories—from Programming, Data Structures, Security and AI to Advanced Machine Learning and Cloud Computing labs—ensuring robust hands-on learning. The faculty comprises 200+ Ph.D.-qualified professors engaged in IEEE-, DST- and AICTE-sponsored research, while interdisciplinary hubs like RIDE and BIONEST incubators foster innovation. JIIT’s placement cell recorded 144% offers for CSE in 2025, with 666 offers to 461 CSE students, a 98% placement rate, average package of INR 11.13 LPA and median INR 7.93 LPA. Over 260 companies—including Microsoft, Amazon, Cisco, LinkedIn and Atlassian—participate in campus drives, complemented by structured pre-placement training in aptitude, technical tests, mock interviews and workshops.

Recommendation: Embrace JIIT Noida’s B.Tech CSE for its strong accreditation, industry-aligned curriculum, state-of-the-art labs and, exceptional placement outcomes. Leverage its research hubs and corporate partnerships to build a competitive profile through internships, multidisciplinary projects and relentless skill upgradation. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Hello sir, my son may get bits hyd ms chemistry or Civil based on his BITSAT score likely in next round. Kindly guide as one is core and other is integrated. Please help me choose btw two in terms of curriculum, difficulty level and placement scenario of both the prog .urgent plz ! Thanks in advance
Ans: BITS Hyderabad’s four-year Integrated M.Sc. (Hons.) Chemistry immerses students in core courses—physical, organic, inorganic and analytical chemistry—supported by extensive hands-on labs in chemical experimentation and instrumental analysis, computational chemistry modules, electives such as nanomaterials and green chemistry, and two Practice School internships or a dissertation in the final year. The curriculum demands strong theoretical understanding, mathematical rigor and meticulous laboratory technique, with a focus on research methodology. The B.E. (Hons.) Civil Engineering programme provides a balanced mix of foundational courses—mechanics of solids, fluid mechanics, soil mechanics, surveying and structural analysis—advanced electives like earthquake engineering and construction management, and a 12-credit Practice School engagement or thesis. Civil students apply analytical problem-solving to design and field-based lab work using industry-standard software. Over the past three years, Integrated Chemistry graduates achieved an 87.39% placement rate with an average package of ?18 LPA, entering roles in research, consulting and core labs. Civil Engineering recorded an 87.23% placement consistency and average package of ?20.36 LPA, with core infrastructure, consulting and IT firms recruiting regularly. Both programmes benefit from strong industry MoUs, seasoned faculty, interdisciplinary projects and dedicated placement cells, yet differ in academic intensity and professional pathways.

Recommendation: Choose Integrated M.Sc. Chemistry for its research-driven curriculum, advanced lab infrastructure and strong consulting/R&D placement profile. Opt for B.E. Civil Engineering if your son prefers a core engineering pathway with broader infrastructure project exposure, slightly higher average packages and diverse recruiter engagement. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Order of choice for ECE in Bangalore ? RVCE, BMS, MSRIT, PES or any other college you would like to propose?
Ans: Dinesh, RV College of Engineering stands out with NAAC A+ and NBA accreditations, a 97% placement rate for ECE graduates over the past three years, and an average package of ?10.9 LPA supported by top recruiters like Qualcomm, Texas Instruments and Wipro. MS Ramaiah Institute of Technology follows closely with a 96% placement rate in 2024 and an average CSE/ECE package of ?7 LPA–?8 LPA, underpinned by world-class labs, 12-credit Practice School internships and over 350 visiting companies. PES University records an 85% placement rate, average ECE package of ?7 LPA and over 300 recruiters annually, benefitting from a strong alumni network and centralized career development support. BMS Institute of Technology & Management reports a 56.4% ECE placement rate in 2024 with average packages around ?7.07 LPA, but compensates with an A-grade NAAC rating and industry-led training initiatives.

Recommendation: Prioritise RVCE for its consistently superior placement outcomes, advanced VLSI and communication labs, high-calibre faculty and strong industry MoUs. Next, choose MSRIT for its centralized Practice School internships, near-perfect placement consistency and modern research infrastructure. Consider PES (RR Campus) for balanced academia, robust career services and diverse recruiter engagement. BMSITM may serve those seeking cost-effective education with decent training support, while exploring Dayananda Sagar or JAIN University for additional ECE options with competitive infrastructure and placement records. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Which is better Nit Patna electronics engineering (vlsi design) or Nit jamshedpur mechanical or Nit Allahabad chemical or iiit guwahati cse or bit mesra cse (in terms of placements) ?
Ans: NIT Patna’s Electronics & Communication (VLSI) graduates achieved approximately 85% placement consistency over the past three years, supported by semiconductor firm visits and specialized microelectronics labs. NIT Jamshedpur’s Mechanical branch maintained around 91% placement rates, driven by core-sector recruiters such as Tata Steel, L&T and automotive firms, and enhanced by advanced workshops. MNNIT Allahabad’s Chemical Engineering reported close to 93% placement consistency, with major PSUs and petrochemical industries recruiting regularly and strong average offers around ?13.5 LPA. IIIT Guwahati’s CSE program saw roughly 67% of eligible students placed, with top-tier tech firms like Microsoft, Amazon and Google on campus and median packages near ?9 LPA, reflecting its growing industry integration. BIT Mesra’s CSE cohort experienced placement rates exceeding 90% in recent cycles, featuring roles at FAANG and consulting firms, supported by a robust alumni network and multidisciplinary internship pipelines. All institutions boast credible training and placement cells, industry-linked curricula, skilled faculty, modern infrastructure, and active alumni engagement to facilitate student employability.

Recommendation: For highest placement consistency and core-industry exposure, choose MNNIT Allahabad Chemical or NIT Jamshedpur Mechanical. Opt for BIT Mesra CSE if you seek a broader software-engineering curriculum with strong recruiter diversity. IIIT Guwahati CSE suits those prioritizing niche research labs despite lower placement rates. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Which is better production engineering from NIT Agartala or mining from IIEST Shibpur
Ans: NIT Agartala's Production Engineering program holds NBA accreditation and is backed by NAAC A+ institutional grading, featuring modern manufacturing, automation, and quality-control laboratories equipped with CNC machines and advanced computing facilities. The department was established in 2005 with its first undergraduate batch graduating in 2009, and achieved an 80.5% placement rate in 2023, with major recruiters from automotive, manufacturing, and consulting sectors including Tata Motors, L&T, and various core engineering firms. IIEST Shibpur's Mining Engineering department, operational since 1906 as the oldest provider of technical mining knowledge in India, operates within an Institute of National Importance ranked 49th by NIRF 2024. The department features specialized laboratories for rock mechanics, mine ventilation, VLSI, and computational mining software like SURPAC and MINEX, with faculty expertise spanning geomechanics, coal bed methane extraction, and mineral beneficiation. Mining Engineering graduates achieved a 75-80% placement rate over recent years, securing positions with prestigious employers such as Coal India Limited, Tata Steel, Vedanta, and international consulting firms, alongside opportunities in PSUs and government regulatory bodies.

Recommendation: Choose IIEST Shibpur Mining Engineering for its Institute of National Importance status, specialized mining infrastructure, and strong PSU recruitment pathways. Opt for NIT Agartala Production Engineering if you prefer broader manufacturing industry exposure, higher recent placement consistency, and modern automation laboratories with diverse recruiter engagement. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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