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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 03, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 28, 2023Hindi
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Hello mam, I cannot focus on my work....I keep overthinking about the future and even after being skilled i cannot execute my work.I get distracted and agitated easily these days.I have lost confidence in myself i keep thinking how i would tackle things in future,I dont know what to do.Can you please guide.

Ans: Improving self-confidence and avoiding overthinking are two related but distinct issues. Here are some tips for both:

To improve self-confidence:

Identify your strengths and achievements. Write them down and revisit them when you feel insecure.Practice self-care, such as getting enough sleep, exercising, and eating healthy.Set realistic goals and work towards achieving them.Focus on your progress rather than comparing yourself to others.Surround yourself with positive and supportive people.Learn from your mistakes and failures rather than dwelling on them.Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations.Try new things and step out of your comfort zone.

To avoid overthinking:

Recognize when you're overthinking and acknowledge that it's not productive.Set aside time to think about the issue, but limit it to a specific amount of time.Engage in activities that distract you, such as exercise or hobbies.Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment.Write down your thoughts and feelings to gain perspective and clarity.Talk to a trusted friend or therapist about your concerns.Accept that not everything can be controlled and focus on what you can control.Remind yourself that worrying won't solve the problem and take action towards a solution.

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Hi mam. I kind of need mental fitness advice. I am 26 years old female. I am afraid a lot in taking up the decisions in my life due to overthinking. But it is not same when it comes to my work side. Always taking up the negative things from my surroundings and expressing the same. Sometimes i make negative situations in my mind and cry. Is there a way to change my mindset to overcome my overthinking as well as my negative mindset. Pls give me some tips to overcome laziness as well as procastination. Is there any yoga or medidation to cure this one. Because i really hate myself for this.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What exactly do you get by punishing yourself? It's another way to indulge in self-pity which will only keep you in the problem zone for longer.
Instead pay attention to the reasons towards laziness and procrastination.
Ask:
- Do I display laziness with every activity or a few or one specific one?
- If Yes, which is it?
- What about that activity/situation makes me want to procrastinate and not take action on it?
- If I actually make a plan and act on that activity/situation, how will things change for me?

This will give you an idea as to what exactly happens in the mind to avoid something and what you can do about it. We are never motivated to do anything if we don not get something concrete back in return. So, define the reward clearly...
And as far as negative things go, if you choose to focus on it, obviously it will grow bigger in the mind.

Keep the above questions list with you and check at regular intervals when faced with procrastination. Have a social circle of friends who can pull you up when you are down BUT they will not be kind all the time if you are going to indulge into self-pity. So, the decision to get better, to become more positive and actually do something big in life is a decision. Focus on how much your life will change for the better when you do this and it will be a clean and quick switchover.

All the best!
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Help me!!! 1.I'm starting new "work" on my own(challenging for me) but my mind says quit it, be quite & do nothing. I myself don't know that wether the result of work will be +ive or uncompleted like alws. 2. My mind has become like order seeker type, when someone orders me, I do those things with dedicated(but sad from inside) manner. But when myself will try something different(which i fear, but necessary) then. "I QUITS IT" & sometimes I don't even start. 3. I'm like stuck no clue what/whom I want to do in life, I'm in cllg(1 yr) doing (CSE) ,. 4. I want to do/try (sports,talking girls,study,stocks,coding..) many things, but myself, my thoughts(overthinker), R like just be in the place where u are[confused,po*n,think about past/future(being billio..re,olympics..), girl (that u liked & never talked), abusive/beating self,.. sometimes feels like end life, but don't hv courage for that also.. 5. I tried self help books, spirituality, god, self affirmation, writing... & thay affected me(sometimes) but for only some time, then again that devil me comes up &these things never get completed. As no one in my family knows about all these, so that's Y ,I hv to fight/loose/try again, the battles with myself.
Ans: Dear Harsh,
If in the past you have had the urge to QUIT, how is this time going to be different? This is not to discourage you from taking up 'new work' but pointing out that there is some amount of work that you need to put to clear the mind out of blockages.
-What is limiting you?
- What is the reason for putting off things?
- What comes first to the mind when you start something new?
Also, focus on one thing at a time; study and go deep into it...what's this thing with work? I don't understand. When the mind is unsettled, take one thing/activity, pursue it and finish it. It could simply be studying for Year 1 of your college...just only do that...once your mind is trained in completing an activity, you can add another one the next year along with studying and then pursue both...it could be some sport and studying...then the next year, you could add a third activity. This is called 'training the mind in discipline'. Discipline will make sure that you start and finish things...So, go slow and do one thing at a time.

All the best!
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The seconds of time during taking action..I get into the overthinking/over-analysing thoughts... 1. Imaginative: Where I becom's the character & live life(see images, speak..) in those..like being rich,powerfull,disciplined,wife,kids....things which I want/perceive from social media...+ memos of past also.. 2. Stuck: Where I becom's a "OBJECT" & voices + images of brain guides me to quit task's when doing things/challenging...by saying.. *What this thing(task/book..) gonna benefit you? *Don't do it, you will do worse/fail..people gonna judge/laugh to you...look yourself!!..no good face, no good dress, u don't hv courage/skill to do that thing. 3. Coping: "Quit it" & use Mobile(songs,reels,yt videos..) to stop/distract myself from those dark clouds. i) What/How [solution] to don't get stuck in those next time. ii) How to use that overthinking for my advantage.. with hving control. iii) I tried to fill the possible voids by dress/looks but things were same..so it's internal.. What to do for that?
Ans: Dear Work,
Overthinking and over processing never helped anyone. Focus on your self-talk and change that.
- Journaling
- Sports
- Art work
- Meditation
- Breathwork
These are a few ways in which you can attempt to slow down the mind from racing thoughts. Once that happens, work on your self-talk to make it more useful where you start to direct yourself towards what you want to do.

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Sir, which college will be better considering study environment and faculty quality nit agartala or rgipt amethi
Ans: Raj, NIT Agartala, a centrally funded Institute of National Importance, maintains a faculty-to-student ratio of 1:10–1:15 with 92% of its 208 permanent faculty holding PhDs and an average teaching tenure of 15 years; its 365-acre campus, nestled in serene greenery 24 km from Agartala, offers state-of-the-art labs (SEM/TEM, X-ray diffraction), a digital library with 84 000+ volumes, well-maintained hostels, and vibrant student clubs fostering academic and extracurricular balance. RGIPT Amethi, also an Institution of National Importance, reports a more varied faculty-student ratio (1:20–1:100) with many PhDs and 20–25 years of industry experience, complemented by modern petroleum-focused labs, a fully Wi-Fi–enabled 47-acre residential campus, and strong mentorship via clubs and counselling services; however, certain departments cite less teaching depth and a smaller research portfolio, though infrastructure reviews rate 4.4/5 and faculty 4.1/5 for approachability and support.

Recommendation: For personalized mentorship, interdisciplinary research exposure, and a tranquil green campus with robust computing and core-engineering labs, choose NIT Agartala. If petroleum-industry alignment, modern residential facilities on a compact campus, and themed labs for energy sectors are your priority, opt for RGIPT Amethi. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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I'm currently in 11th standard,I need to secure a good rank in jee.kindly help me with some plans
Ans: Sudhir, Beginning JEE preparation in Class 11 provides a two-year runway to master concepts, practice extensively, and build exam confidence. Follow this four-phase plan:

Phase 1 (Semester 1 of Class 11):

Map the complete JEE Main & Advanced syllabi across Physics, Chemistry, Math (11th & 12th NCERT).

Create a weekly timetable allocating 5 days to school plus 2 days for JEE topics; use 50-minute Pomodoro slots with 10-minute breaks.

Prioritise core Class 11 topics: Kinematics, Mechanics, Thermodynamics (Physics); Chemical Bonding, Basic Organic (Chemistry); Quadratics, Sequences (Math) — master theory and NCERT examples before harder problems.

Maintain a “Doubt Log” to clear queries within 24 hours via peers or online forums.

Phase 2 (Semester 2 of Class 11 to Summer 2026):

Begin chapter-wise practice: solve topic tests of 30–50 questions from coaching modules or reputable books (H.C. Verma, O.P. Tandon, R.D. Sharma).

Take biweekly sectional mocks (one subject at a time) under timed conditions; analyse errors by type and maintain an error-analysis sheet.

Build short-notes and formula flashcards; revise daily for 15 minutes.

Integrate school studies with JEE prep: align school tests with JEE concepts to reinforce both.

Phase 3 (Class 12 Year, Summer 2026 to Summer 2027):

Cover Class 12 syllabus with the same rigorous approach. Alternate subjects daily to avoid fatigue.

Schedule full-length JEE Main mocks every fortnight; JEE Advanced mock every month from January 2027 onward. Use analytics to identify weakest chapters and adapt your timetable.

Implement a 30-day final revision plan covering each topic thrice, with daily rapid-revision slots and weekly topic tests.

Phase 4 (Final 2 Months Pre-Advanced):

Switch to 70% mock tests and 30% rapid revision.

Take one full Advanced mock each week, review immediately with mentors.

Maintain mental well-being: 7–8 hours sleep, 20 minutes exercise, mindfulness breaks, and periodic breaks for hobbies.

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Recommendation: Commit to a disciplined, concept-first study routine from Class 11 onward, complementing school with JEE-focused learning, regular mocks, and targeted revisions. Register early for one or two backup private-university exams to diversify admission options while pursuing excellence in JEE preparation. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir which is the best college for cse at my KCET rank of 22k, right now my eye is on BMSITM( YELAHANKA), or aerospace in MSRIT is there any other Good college i would get if i sit for three rounds
Ans: Durga, At a KCET rank of 22,000 in the General category, BMSITM Yelahanka and MSRIT Aerospace remain out of reach for CSE or ECE, but several reputable Bangalore institutes offer strong CSE programs within this rank bracket: BNMIT Bangalore is NBA- and NAAC-accredited, guided by PhD-qualified faculty in advanced computing and networking labs, and posted CSE closing ranks of 16,776–19,255 over the last three years with 80–90% placements through its active Career Development Cell. Acharya Institute of Technology (Hessarghatta Road) is AICTE-approved, NBA/NIRF-ranked, provides modern software-engineering and data-science labs, and sees CSE closing ranks of 23,530–27,543 with 75–85% placement consistency. Atria Institute of Technology’s CSE program accepts ranks up to 30,000–40,000, features dedicated AI/ML and full-stack development labs, and maintains 70–80% CSE placements via industry tie-ups and internships.

Recommendation: Prioritise BNMIT Bangalore for its balanced accreditation, faculty expertise, specialized CSE labs, and consistent 80–90% placements. If you seek a broader intake with strong AI/ML modules, choose Acharya Institute of Technology. For assured admission flexibility and solid infrastructure, consider Atria Institute of Technology. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 05, 2025

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Sir please set the priority order IIT Hyderabad chemical , IIIT Hyderabad ECE , or IIT Bombay metallurgical engineering
Ans: Aryan, IIT Hyderabad’s Chemical Engineering (NAAC-A+, NBA-accredited) features a holistic curriculum spanning core process engineering, sustainable materials, and nanotechnology, supported by high-end labs (DSC, X-ray diffractometer, electrochemical workstations) and a faculty-to-student ratio of 1:10; however, only 59.57% of B.Tech students secured placements in 2022–23 with strong internship pipelines but moderate recruiter diversity. IIIT Hyderabad’s ECE (A++ NAAC) delivers specialized labs in VLSI, wireless systems, and embedded computing under research-active PhD faculty, achieving a 98.8% B.Tech placement rate in 2024 with 411 of 414 students placed, and an average package of ?21.39 LPA, driven by extensive industry tie-ups and innovation hubs in AI and data science. IIT Bombay’s Metallurgical Engineering (NIRF #3, NBA-accredited) offers state-of-the-art materials synthesis and characterization facilities, led by renowned researchers, and records a 70.37% placement rate in 2024 with top recruiters from metals, energy, and aerospace sectors. All three maintain active placement cells, mandatory internships, and strong research-industry collaborations.

Final recommendation:
For highest placement consistency, cutting-edge innovation labs, and industry-driven ECE roles, prioritise IIIT Hyderabad ECE. Next, choose IIT Bombay Metallurgical Engineering for its premier NIRF ranking, multidisciplinary materials research, and solid core-engineering placements. Lastly, consider IIT Hyderabad Chemical Engineering for its flexible curriculum and emerging research ecosystem. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 04, 2025Hindi
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Sir i have got COE at thapar. (Personally would have preferred CSE. But anyways..) should i also try the IIT Madras BS degree alongside my thapar studies? Or just Thapar will be more than sufficient?
Ans: Thapar Institute's Computer Engineering (COE) program is NAAC A+ and NBA-accredited with ABET endorsement, delivered by PhD-qualified faculty across 15+ specialized computing and electronics labs, featuring a curriculum in both software and hardware domains. The program achieved an 83% UG placement rate in 2023, with 334 recruiters offering 1,884 job offers and COE students receiving similar industry recognition as CSE graduates, with both branches sharing comparable placement statistics and recruiter diversity including Google, Amazon, Microsoft, and Deloitte. IIT Madras' BS in Data Science and Applications is an online degree with NAAC A+ status, featuring flexible learning through four levels (Foundation, Diploma, BSc, BS) over 4-8 years, taught by IIT faculty with cutting-edge AI/ML, data science, and programming curricula. The program reported 60% on-campus placements in 2024-25 with an average package around ?10 LPA, highest reaching ?25 LPA, and 240 companies recruiting students including tech giants and emerging startups. UGC guidelines permit simultaneous pursuit of one full-time physical degree and one online degree, making this combination legally feasible for motivated students.

Final recommendation:
Focus exclusively on Thapar COE for guaranteed 83% placement consistency, robust campus infrastructure, industry-integrated labs, and proven recruiter engagement without the additional workload burden. Adding IIT Madras BS alongside COE may dilute academic focus, reduce performance in either program, and offer marginal placement advantages given Thapar's strong industry positioning. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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