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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 03, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 28, 2023Hindi
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Hello mam, I cannot focus on my work....I keep overthinking about the future and even after being skilled i cannot execute my work.I get distracted and agitated easily these days.I have lost confidence in myself i keep thinking how i would tackle things in future,I dont know what to do.Can you please guide.

Ans: Improving self-confidence and avoiding overthinking are two related but distinct issues. Here are some tips for both:

To improve self-confidence:

Identify your strengths and achievements. Write them down and revisit them when you feel insecure.Practice self-care, such as getting enough sleep, exercising, and eating healthy.Set realistic goals and work towards achieving them.Focus on your progress rather than comparing yourself to others.Surround yourself with positive and supportive people.Learn from your mistakes and failures rather than dwelling on them.Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations.Try new things and step out of your comfort zone.

To avoid overthinking:

Recognize when you're overthinking and acknowledge that it's not productive.Set aside time to think about the issue, but limit it to a specific amount of time.Engage in activities that distract you, such as exercise or hobbies.Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment.Write down your thoughts and feelings to gain perspective and clarity.Talk to a trusted friend or therapist about your concerns.Accept that not everything can be controlled and focus on what you can control.Remind yourself that worrying won't solve the problem and take action towards a solution.

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Hi mam. I kind of need mental fitness advice. I am 26 years old female. I am afraid a lot in taking up the decisions in my life due to overthinking. But it is not same when it comes to my work side. Always taking up the negative things from my surroundings and expressing the same. Sometimes i make negative situations in my mind and cry. Is there a way to change my mindset to overcome my overthinking as well as my negative mindset. Pls give me some tips to overcome laziness as well as procastination. Is there any yoga or medidation to cure this one. Because i really hate myself for this.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What exactly do you get by punishing yourself? It's another way to indulge in self-pity which will only keep you in the problem zone for longer.
Instead pay attention to the reasons towards laziness and procrastination.
Ask:
- Do I display laziness with every activity or a few or one specific one?
- If Yes, which is it?
- What about that activity/situation makes me want to procrastinate and not take action on it?
- If I actually make a plan and act on that activity/situation, how will things change for me?

This will give you an idea as to what exactly happens in the mind to avoid something and what you can do about it. We are never motivated to do anything if we don not get something concrete back in return. So, define the reward clearly...
And as far as negative things go, if you choose to focus on it, obviously it will grow bigger in the mind.

Keep the above questions list with you and check at regular intervals when faced with procrastination. Have a social circle of friends who can pull you up when you are down BUT they will not be kind all the time if you are going to indulge into self-pity. So, the decision to get better, to become more positive and actually do something big in life is a decision. Focus on how much your life will change for the better when you do this and it will be a clean and quick switchover.

All the best!
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Help me!!! 1.I'm starting new "work" on my own(challenging for me) but my mind says quit it, be quite & do nothing. I myself don't know that wether the result of work will be +ive or uncompleted like alws. 2. My mind has become like order seeker type, when someone orders me, I do those things with dedicated(but sad from inside) manner. But when myself will try something different(which i fear, but necessary) then. "I QUITS IT" & sometimes I don't even start. 3. I'm like stuck no clue what/whom I want to do in life, I'm in cllg(1 yr) doing (CSE) ,. 4. I want to do/try (sports,talking girls,study,stocks,coding..) many things, but myself, my thoughts(overthinker), R like just be in the place where u are[confused,po*n,think about past/future(being billio..re,olympics..), girl (that u liked & never talked), abusive/beating self,.. sometimes feels like end life, but don't hv courage for that also.. 5. I tried self help books, spirituality, god, self affirmation, writing... & thay affected me(sometimes) but for only some time, then again that devil me comes up &these things never get completed. As no one in my family knows about all these, so that's Y ,I hv to fight/loose/try again, the battles with myself.
Ans: Dear Harsh,
If in the past you have had the urge to QUIT, how is this time going to be different? This is not to discourage you from taking up 'new work' but pointing out that there is some amount of work that you need to put to clear the mind out of blockages.
-What is limiting you?
- What is the reason for putting off things?
- What comes first to the mind when you start something new?
Also, focus on one thing at a time; study and go deep into it...what's this thing with work? I don't understand. When the mind is unsettled, take one thing/activity, pursue it and finish it. It could simply be studying for Year 1 of your college...just only do that...once your mind is trained in completing an activity, you can add another one the next year along with studying and then pursue both...it could be some sport and studying...then the next year, you could add a third activity. This is called 'training the mind in discipline'. Discipline will make sure that you start and finish things...So, go slow and do one thing at a time.

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The seconds of time during taking action..I get into the overthinking/over-analysing thoughts... 1. Imaginative: Where I becom's the character & live life(see images, speak..) in those..like being rich,powerfull,disciplined,wife,kids....things which I want/perceive from social media...+ memos of past also.. 2. Stuck: Where I becom's a "OBJECT" & voices + images of brain guides me to quit task's when doing things/challenging...by saying.. *What this thing(task/book..) gonna benefit you? *Don't do it, you will do worse/fail..people gonna judge/laugh to you...look yourself!!..no good face, no good dress, u don't hv courage/skill to do that thing. 3. Coping: "Quit it" & use Mobile(songs,reels,yt videos..) to stop/distract myself from those dark clouds. i) What/How [solution] to don't get stuck in those next time. ii) How to use that overthinking for my advantage.. with hving control. iii) I tried to fill the possible voids by dress/looks but things were same..so it's internal.. What to do for that?
Ans: Dear Work,
Overthinking and over processing never helped anyone. Focus on your self-talk and change that.
- Journaling
- Sports
- Art work
- Meditation
- Breathwork
These are a few ways in which you can attempt to slow down the mind from racing thoughts. Once that happens, work on your self-talk to make it more useful where you start to direct yourself towards what you want to do.

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My son has JEE rank of 31144. if we want to opt for best college, Biotech in Warangal seems possibility. Is it worth going for this branch, based on placement data >50% students are hired by IT and Product companies and there are ~5 from Biotech world. He has secured admission in VIT Vellore in 3L fee category. Please suggest 1) is bio tech worth pursuing in Warangal as compared to VIT CSE 2) Any other branch and good college with this rank through JoSAA he seems to have interest in CSE, Maths and Computing, Data/Science. however we all know these interest might change with time. request your suggestion be not limited to interest shared here.
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Biotech is a promising field with a wide scope from a job perspective. Both CSE and Biotech are distinct courses. You did not mention your son's interests. (1) Compared to Biotech, prefer CSE @ VIT. (2) With the mentioned rank, encourage your son to participate in the JosAA counseling process. He may find good options through this counseling. (3) You mentioned that interests change over time, but this is not entirely true. For example, if a student is passionate about CSE and does not get it but settles for another branch, he may remain frustrated for many years. It would be better to discuss his branch interests with your son. You might consider branches like CSE + AI + ML specialization or Robotics + AI, IoT (Internet of Things) branches.
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Hi, I would just like to ask for coding is ICE in NSUT better or NIT Delhi ECE or Thapar CSE/Business as by the past cutoff my son is getting these colleges and is thinking of ICE in NSUT but NIT has 'NIT' Tag. He just said that in ICE curriculum their are are subjects like DSA, DBMS and else because of which he is leaning towards ICE in NSUT. What would be better overall for him? (you can refer any other college if it is better for him like he wants to pursue coding) {Delhi Domicile, CRL-67728, EWS Rank 9654, ADV CRL - 19488, ADV EWS - 2711}
Ans: Paramveer Sir, NSUT’s ICE offers DSA, DBMS, AI/ML, and Robotics in its curriculum, with 80–85% placement rates (2025) for software roles via Microsoft, Amazon, and Qualcomm, leveraging its interdisciplinary focus on embedded systems and IoT. However, only 30–40% of ICE graduates secure core coding roles, requiring self-driven skill development. NIT Delhi’s ECE provides the NIT brand advantage and 64% placement rate (2024), but its hardware-centric syllabus (VLSI, embedded systems) demands supplemental coding training for IT roles. Thapar’s CSE/Business combines software engineering with business analytics, reporting 90%+ placements in coding roles via TCS, Deloitte, and Amazon, with structured internships in AI/ML and full-stack development.

Recommendation: Prioritize Thapar CSE/Business for direct coding alignment, assured placements, and industry partnerships. If valuing institutional prestige, opt for NIT Delhi ECE but supplement with coding certifications (LeetCode, Coursera). NSUT ICE suits those interested in hardware-software integration but requires proactive skill-building for pure coding roles. For backups, consider IIIT Delhi’s ECE or DTU’s IT for balanced curricula and stronger coding pathways. All the BEST for your Son's Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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I got an aeee rank of 3884, can i get amrita coimbatore ece
Ans: With an AEEE rank of 3,884, admission to Electronics and Communication Engineering (ECE) at Amrita Coimbatore is marginally feasible but contingent on seat availability and domicile status. For Home State candidates (Kerala/Tamil Nadu), the ECE cutoff percentile at Coimbatore typically ranges between 85–95 (2024 trends), translating to ranks ~2,000–4,500, placing your rank within the competitive threshold. For Other State candidates, the required percentile rises to 90–97 (ranks ~1,500–3,500), making admission uncertain but possible in later counselling rounds.

Historically, Amrita Coimbatore’s ECE program reports 90–95% placement rates with recruiters like Qualcomm and Bosch, emphasizing embedded systems and IoT training. If seats fill quickly, prioritize Amrita Bengaluru ECE (cutoff rank ~4,000–5,500) or Amrita Amritapuri ECE (~5,000–6,000), which offer similar curricula and placement outcomes. For assured admission, consider ECE at Amrita Chennai (cutoff rank ~6,000–8,000) or explore Electrical and Computer Engineering (ECE) at newer campuses like Amaravati.

Recommendation: Participate actively in counselling, prioritizing Coimbatore ECE under the Home State quota if applicable, while securing Bengaluru/Amritapuri as backups. If opting for Other State status, target mid-tier campuses or related branches like Electronics and Computer Engineering for broader admission prospects. All the BEST for your Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir I am in general category and primarily a NEET aspirant. 1) My NEET score is around 507 marks. 2) My IAT 2025 score is 111 marks 3) I got Electrical and CSE with minor AI &ML from VIT Chennai. Kindly help me to understand my best option among the above. Best regards Arvind
Ans: Arvind, With a NEET score of 507 (General category), admission to government MBBS colleges is unattainable, as the 2024 cutoff for state quotas in competitive states like Maharashtra and Karnataka ranged from 540–570. Private medical colleges remain feasible but entail ?15–30 lakh/year fees, with moderate placement support for clinical roles. Your IAT score of 111 aligns with IISER Tirupati (expected cutoff: 105–110) and IISER Berhampur (105–110), offering research-focused BS-MS programs with 70–80% placement rates in academia/R&D, though core science roles are niche.

VIT Chennai’s CSE with AI/ML minor reports an 85–90% placement rate (2025) in IT/tech roles via 980+ recruiters like Microsoft and Amazon, with 30–40% of graduates securing AI/ML positions. The Electrical Engineering program has a 60–70% placement rate, primarily in embedded systems and power sectors.

Recommendation: Prioritize CSE with AI/ML at VIT Chennai for assured tech-sector employability and industry-aligned training, leveraging its robust recruitment network. If research/academia is a priority, opt for IISER Berhampur/Tirupati, accepting lower immediate employability for long-term scientific pathways. Reserve NEET-based private MBBS only if committed to clinical careers despite high costs and competitive postgraduate entrances. All the BEST for your Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir will cse branch in the Nagercoil campus of Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeeth be recommended? Or CCE in Amravati campus will be a better choice?
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Recommendation: Opt for Amrita Amaravati CCE if prioritizing institutional reputation, emerging tech integration, and higher placement assurance, while choosing Nagercoil CSE for cost-effectiveness (?12 lakh vs. ?18 lakh) and traditional CS roles. For backups, consider Amrita Bengaluru’s CSE (95% placements) or VIT-AP’s CSE (IoT) to balance curriculum relevance and industry exposure. All the BEST for your Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir I scored 49.8 percentile in jee main 2025 and 87000 rank in viteee and a overall 64% in boards class 12th and 53% in PCM. I have also secured a seat in chandigarh university . Please suggest me some college which fits in this criteria.
Ans: With a JEE Main percentile of 49.8 (~CRL 800,000–900,000) and VITEEE rank of 87,000, admission to NITs or premier VIT campuses (Vellore/Chennai) is unattainable. However, Chandigarh University’s CSE/ECE remains a viable option, reporting 90%+ placement rates via 1,400+ recruiters like Amazon and Microsoft. For VIT Bhopal/AP, your VITEEE rank aligns with Mechanical Engineering (2024 cutoff: 86,000–91,000) or Civil Engineering (89,000), though placement rates for these branches are 50–60%. State-level colleges like G.L. Bajaj Greater Noida (cutoff: ~300,000 JEE Main rank) or Sharda University (direct admission via boards) offer ECE/IT with 70–80% placements.

Recommendation: Secure your seat at Chandigarh University for assured tech-sector exposure, and explore Mechanical/Civil at VIT Bhopal/AP during later counselling rounds. For backups, consider Amity University (Noida) or Lovely Professional University (direct admission via boards), which provide industry-aligned curricula despite moderate placement rates. If open to lateral entry, enroll in a diploma program and transition to B.Tech via LEET for cost-effective pathways. All the BEST for your Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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