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What advice will you give a close friend if she came to you with the same problem that you have stated? Will you ask her to reconcile or keep her sanity intact?
Controlling the spouse is a classic way of coping for insecurity related issues within a relationship.
Being years older to you and having a young wife possibly might have given him goosebumps of you being attractive to people your age.
Whatever the reason, being passive aggressive and registering his insecurity through not talking for months, stalking you, monitoring your social media accounts, threatening to blackmail you with screenshots from your previous affairs; does it all sound like he is a person who you want to spend your life with?
If you still feel there is small chance and you want to, seek the help of a professional who can work with him and then the two of you to create an element of trust that is absolutely missing.
Any relationship that lacks trust, just crumbles as the foundation is weak and every little act that questions the other person’s integrity drives a further wedge.
You have a child that is dependent on you; be strong and whichever way that you choose, drive it…Inaction is what is causing you health issues, so do something NOW.
All the best and Be Strong.
You have simply allowed people to feed off your emotions, money and time. You want to continue being nice and do this?
See what you have asked me: What's the point in living in a marriage for sake of it without having any emotional, physical, financial dependency or security?
Haven’t you answered yourself already?
Do you want to carry a baggage on your shoulders that clearly isn’t lightening your burden in anyway?
Drop down your financial commitments and plan as to how you will support yourself and your child with your income.
Also, imagine going through life without your husband and if this feels like stress is leaving you, you know how you can live from hereon.
Sometimes, you need to take hard calls and you deserve to live free and happy only if you choose that.
Be well and happy!
Time this one out! Which means, drop a deadline by having a conversation with your husband as to when your family will finally have a chance to function independently from in-laws or any other external circumstances.
Dropping deadlines means, both of you will be under the pump to put down a plan as to what needs to be done to clear out the existing muck and how beautifully you will create a loving environment for your baby to grow.
Not taking care of the baby or you, is not an option for him; but I guess it has become a convenient arrangement for him as you live with your parents and he does not need to take care of the fights and expenses as well.
This could only mean he is escaping reality and finding peace in avoiding it. Put him in the face of reality and that goes for you as well.
Being too accommodative can also become a habit where you rely on the comfort of what it brings to you; in this case the comfort at your parents' home.
For the sake of the baby, work together as a team and create a beautiful relationship; which will help the baby grow healthy, physically and emotionally.
All the best!
This is a classic case of crying out, blaming the spouse for the crying and sending her on a guilt trip, promising to do better, not following through and when she walks out, crying out again.
It's cyclical and traps you within in the loop.
He really needs to work out his stuff with a professional, else this is going to be something that you have to deal with repeatedly.
To not be able to take responsibility for his actions, shifting blame onto you, acting insecure and preventing you from leading your life the way that you are used to -- like talking to your family and friends -- are all red flags.
Step up, take charge and suggest that he goes to a professional if he wants the marriage to work.
If he doesn’t and continues the same way, you know what you must do to secure yourself and your life.
All the best!
What led to this? It rarely happens that people go after people with no reason.
Did you have any reservations about them coming and staying over?
Did you express it in some form to them? (Ask these to yourself so that you know that any act on your part did not lead to this situation. Of course, nothing justifies their plotting to get their son married behind your back).
If the answer to this is NO, then it's time to confront your husband, get a mediator and put things on the table.
What does he want? What do you want?
Do you both want to continue in this marriage?
What are his responsibilities towards your son?
These need to be addressed without anymore delay. Being in a limbo state is not fun as it keeps you guessing and the uncertainty can cause a lot of stress.
Also, kindly sensitise your parents towards what you are going through, so that support you in this time of need.
Act NOW and whatever you decide, put yourself first and take care of you emotional state of mind.