Dear Guru I was in a relationship with a guy before my marriage where we had physical relation and he had taken videos without my consent. I had to leave him as he was physically and emotionally abusive and was not taking relationship to marriage. I am now married and my husband knows I had a relationship, but not details. My husband wants to start a family and I am worried if the videos will come out in future and bring shame to family and my kid. I am not able to decide what to do? Please advice.

Ans: Dear Zalak,
From what I know, there is no legal action for hiding a situation unless he's thinking of separation.
There are people who do find it difficult to accept the past lives of their partners which when they find later, leads to constant doubts on their spouses.
There's little that you can do to change his mindset on this BUT I do find that LOVE and CARE can change a lot between partners. As difficult as it may seem in the current situation, deal with it very patiently with showing love instead of anger or anxiety. Obviously he prefers to keep bringing up your past and that is not helpful...If things still don't work, do involve his family and yours, so that they can help with it.
(What is he doing with those photos? Please be careful)...

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