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Divorcee seeking new family: When is the right time?

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 04, 2024Hindi
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Guru, My childhood wasn't happy and neither my marriage was. Thought we are divorced we are still friendly. How long one should wait to start thinking of family after a divorce? What are the criteria to be considered?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
By starting a family, what exactly do you mean? Is it another relationship? Is it expanding the family through adoption? I don't understand. Kindly clarify...

All the best!
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Asked on - Dec 05, 2024 | Answered on Dec 06, 2024
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Anuji, I wanted to know when to accept a new proposal or what should I look for in a new relationship?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you feel completely healed and ready from your previous relationship, and you seek the next relationship not as an escape from loneliness and it's based solely on wanting to share a life with a life partner, then by all means go ahead.

What to look for in a new relationship:
- Be open-minded to appreciate similarities and respect differences
- If he/she is also coming from a failed marriage, do make sure that they have healed from it; you don't want to become their therapist rather than a spouse
- If the person has children, do talk about how the two of you are going to adapt to it
- If the person is single and never married, you do have work in terms of being honest about what you thought went wrong in your past marriage and how you intend to grow through it
- And of course, always makes sure that your value systems on finances, long-term growth, work, relationships, children align mostly

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Understanding Index Funds and ETFs
Index Funds: These passively replicate an index like NIFTY 50 or SENSEX. They aim to match the market’s performance, not beat it.

ETFs (Exchange Traded Funds): Similar to index funds but trade like stocks on exchanges. They require a Demat account.

Disadvantages of Index Funds and ETFs
Limited Returns Potential
Index funds and ETFs only track the market.
They cannot outperform the benchmark, even when market conditions allow for superior performance.
No Protection in Market Downturns
Index funds replicate the index, so they fall equally during market downturns.
Active funds may reduce losses with better sector and stock allocation.
Lack of Professional Judgment
Index funds follow pre-set rules, ignoring company-specific fundamentals.
Actively managed funds use professional fund managers who adjust portfolios to maximise gains.
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ETFs may seem cost-effective but involve additional brokerage and Demat account charges.
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Active funds are not restricted to index stocks.
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Downside Protection
Fund managers can reduce exposure to risky sectors during market downturns.
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Tax Efficiency with Strategic Planning
Gains can be optimised with periodic review and rebalancing.
Active funds often deliver better after-tax returns over the long term.
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A one-time investment of Rs. 50,000 deserves active management for maximised growth.
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Stay invested for at least 7–10 years for compounding benefits.
Review performance annually and rebalance if needed.
Avoid chasing short-term trends or reacting to market noise.
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