I fart pretty often, but that has become a huge issue with my girlfriend who doesn't want me to fart in her presence or else! How can I stop this bodily function?! And can she threaten me like this? She is a good bird as Bertie would say, but is it time for me to fly the coop?

Ans: Work on your exhalation breath. Also not to talk while eating and not to drink water while eating

Ans: Dear Govinda,
Well, all of us have expectations from each other, don't we?
But some expectations are realistic and some are unrealistic. Any expectation that starts to change the other person, control them, dictate their behavior is almost toxic and not healthy in the long run.
Some expectations like requesting the other person to take care of their health, finances, advice on work and family that attempts to see them in a better space is healthy and necessary.

So, where does your girlfriend's expectation fall into?
It's possible that because it's leading to constant fights, you are certainly not happy about her control about this. Then voice it out and state clearly that you would not like to change for her but only change for yourself and for the better. This may hurt her and there might be a lot of drama around it...but, if she is willing to look at the relationship maturely with you as an equal partner, there will no more fights and expectations around things that bother you.
Sit down together; tell her how this is affecting you and the relationship. There maybe little expectations that maybe good for you and the relationship. Be thankful for those.

But, the bigger ones are the ones that are bothersome and yes, your girlfriend must know about it. Instead of confronting, be firm and gentle and she may very well understand the whole scenario. This will also help you in situations where she expects something and it does not happen and yet she will be okay with it. So, have that clear communication for better understanding. Is this possible? Yes, provided the two of you work at this together not confronting but managing it.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: If it’s an arranged match you may want to hold it in for awhile there, mate! If you’re marrying for love and already know her really well, I’m guessing you can let go! Look, as marriages progress people get more and more comfortable around each other physically, so no, I don’t think your farting is going to be such an earth-shattering issue!