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He has built high-performing teams from scratch by mentoring the them.
Rajesh holds a master's degree in marketing from the university of Mumbai.
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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 16, 2024Hindi
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I am in a job in my current company since last 15 years now i am 43 years old, but recently i am very much mental disturbed by my boss approach, he is shouting to all the staffs and other persons too, but I can not tolerate him any more. I am felling very uneasy whenever I am facing him. Therefor some thoughts are coming continuously in my mind that should I change my job or start my own business, but I can not take any decision.

Ans: Hi,
Since you have been in the same company for 15 years , please speak with your boss in private and let him know that you are not very comfortable with his approach.If that is not working try and speak with your super boss . Meanwhile start searching for a job and start attending interviews aswell. It is much easier speaking to your boss when you have a backup offer in your hand.,
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