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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 20, 2023

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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Question by _$!# on Apr 06, 2023Hindi

Does it good to talk about partners past which i get to know later ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
In my opinion, the more you pull things from the past, the more the mind plays games on you.
You start to question why you are with the partner and what more he/she is hiding from you.
Trust plays a very important role in any relationship and if the two of you are together, it's for a reason best known to both of you. Why spoil it with digging things from the past?
And if you have come across something disturbing from the past, ask your partner. Don't confront, but ask...

Also take into consideration if your partner has acted in a manner that is destroying the relationship, then the past can be taken into account...but if he/she has given their 100% to this relationship, let go of the past whatever that may be...A few demons are better buried where they must be. Let be and Let go...What you share now together is important; cherish and grow that.

All the best!

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Dear Love Guru, I was in a relationship for a few years. Our parting was mutual and amicable and we are friends now. My wedding has been fixed through an arranged match. It will take place in May. I don’t know my fiance that well. He knows about my past relationship but does not know it was physical. I have been battling with myself if I should tell him or if I tell him this might break or that I will give my marriage a bad start. What do you advise? AK

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You say he already knows about your past relationship. Has he been accepting of it? If so, then there’s no need to go into the nitty gritty details, is there?

People in relationships are obviously physical with each other; only a fool would assume otherwise.

And what about his past? Has he told you about it?

Yes, I do think you should be honest with your partner if it’s weighing on you or bothering you. If not, and suffice to say he knows of your past relationship and hasn’t asked for further details, then leave it alone.

But I will say this: if you do tell him, you’ll know the kind of man you’re marrying.

If he’s fine with it and accepts that everyone has a history and it is to be accepted as part of them, that’s fine.

If not, then, well, I would call off the marriage if I were in your place, forget him doing so! Who wants to be married to an old-fashioned chauvinist?

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