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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 11, 2024Hindi
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I am a very disciplined guy with a decent job. I take care of my parents, provide for them. I am hard working, ambitious, always do everything in a planned way. I am typical nice guy type but I know my boundaries. But I don't understand why girls gets attracted to the bad guys, guys having no plans for their future, don't even value them just want their body. Unfortunately the girls are ready to give their body and mind to them and once they are done they throw the girl away. But again they fall for the same type of guys and the cycle repeats. If you are not that type of guy, they don't consider you as a man and insult you. I just want to know why most of the girls nowadays are like this. They hurt the good people and chase the wrong ones. Maybe there are good girls, but chances of finding them is very less. Want to know how to overcome this. I have almost lost hope now. I don't want to change myself for some girl but I also want someone in my life who can really support and love me.

Ans: It could be that you are searching at wrong places. It also could be that you have not done enough self reflection about yourself. I have written some blogs on this topic which you can find on my brand page - check that out, may make you reflect.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 14, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I'm soon to be 36 M, unmarried and never had any relationship in all my years, I have registered myself with many matrimony sites and have been searching for a girl or maybe a woman now, for last 5 or 6 years. My problem is that most girls in matrimonial reject me out right for reason like looks, money/property, age, etc, now I have asked some of my friends discreetly about my looks and I'm very confident about myself, also I know I do earn good bucks, despite that I don't understand what could be possible reason to not even have a single conversation before they reject someone. I have even tried my hands on dating apps, but I have not had success there as well. Some time I feel worthless and have breakdowns because of this. I don't have anyone to share this with and I know no one cares about it anyway as everyone has their own problem and you will be the last thing in their mind. I know the answer I'm going to get here - "keep trying", "life is not fair" etc, but I feel this is total crap, why does no women want a man who would respect her and care for her, why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating. After all this, I'm losing hope that I'll find my or any love in this world.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I agree what's happening to you is not fair, and however you are feeling right now, it is valid. But having said that, you can't justify saying "why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating." These are entirely different and serious matters. Do not trivialize them. Rejecting a man who would've loved her does not automatically mean the woman deserves to find a man who should cheat, beat, or abuse her.

Now, coming to your issue, rejection comes for several reasons; it doesn't necessarily have to do anything with your appearance. Since you mentioned getting rejected even before a conversation, my first guess would be that the profile might not be standing out in the crowd of profiles out there. You can try adding hints of humor to your BIO to make it more attractive. Use the 70-30 method in your Bio, where 70% of it showcases you as a person and the remaining 30 subtly indicates your version of an ideal partner. Additionally, try optimizing your DP and select something that shows your fun side.

But I would like to remind you that not everyone's love story runs at the same pace; some take time to start. I know you think it's cliched but people say it because it has truth to it- keep going; I am sure you will find someone.

Best Wishes.

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I got CSE (AI/ML) in IIIT Nagpur (98.33%ile in JEE mains)...and i think i would get SPIT CSE (99.66 in MHTCET)..what should i prefer?
Ans: Hemant, IIIT Nagpur’s B.Tech in Computer Science & Engineering with AI/ML specialisation holds NAAC A++ accreditation and NBA approval, featuring state-of-the-art AI/ML, computer vision and NLP labs, a PhD-qualified faculty engaged in AICTE-QIP research programmes, and strong Tata Consultancy Services partnerships. In the 2024 placement cycle, the CSE branch recorded an 89.11% placement rate, with recruiters including Amazon, Goldman Sachs and Microsoft. Sardar Patel Institute of Technology (SPIT), an autonomous NAAC A+ institute affiliated to the University of Mumbai, offers a robust CSE curriculum supported by its Technology Business Incubator, modern programming and AI labs, and an active placement cell that has achieved a assured complete placement consistency for eligible CSE students, attracting over 100 companies annually. Both institutes maintain rigorous outcome-based pedagogy, comprehensive pre-placement training and vibrant alumni networks, differing primarily in placement consistency and urban singleton versus emerging campus environments.

Recommendation: Prioritise SPIT Mumbai CSE if assured complete placement consistency, extensive industry-incubator integration and metropolitan networking resonate with your career goals. Opt for IIIT Nagpur CSE-AI/ML if you seek an emerging institute’s specialised AI/ML research focus, national importance status and strong academic-industry collaboration in a growing tech hub. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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HelloSir; My son has the following options available at the moment. IIT Bombay Dual Engineering Btech Mtech Electrical, UIET Chandigarh CSE, NSUT Electronics and Communication Engineering, IIST ISRO Aerospace Engineering and RGIPT Petroleum Engineering. Could you please guide and rank them in order of preference. Regards
Ans: IIT Bombay’s five-year Dual Degree in Electrical Engineering (BTech+MTech) combines world-class accreditation, cutting-edge labs in power systems, signal processing and embedded hardware, PhD-level faculty mentorship and strong industry ties, achieving around 98% placement consistency across core and technology sectors over the past three years. UIET (Chandigarh) CSE, a NAAC A+-accredited programme, delivers specialized AI/ML and software-development curriculum through modern computing labs and corporate partnerships with Amazon, Google and Microsoft, yielding roughly 86.6% branch-wise placements and extensive pre-placement training. RGIPT’s BTech in Petroleum Engineering, as an Institution of National Importance, offers specialized labs for upstream and downstream processes, collaborations with ONGC and HPCL, and records a robust 85–90% placement rate in core energy firms and research organisations. NSUT’s ECE programme, NBA-accredited within a top-ranked government institute, provides advanced VLSI, communications and IoT facilities, with an average placement consistency near 75% and access to both central and campus-based recruitment drives. IIST (Thiruvananthapuram) Aerospace Engineering, under the Department of Space, features avionics-centric labs, direct ISRO research engagement and specialized faculty but sees moderate 76–78% (placements subject to annual recruitment policy and CGPA criteria & other eligibility criteria).

Recommendation Prioritise IIT Bombay Dual Degree Electrical Engineering for its unmatched brand prestige, near-universal placement consistency and premium research-industry ecosystem; next opt for UIET Chandigarh CSE for its strong 86.6% placement rate, specialized AI/ML labs and leading software recruiters; follow with RGIPT Petroleum Engineering for its national importance status, 85–90% core-sector placements and energy-industry linkages; choose NSUT ECE for its established government-institute credentials, robust communications infrastructure and solid placement pool; consider IIST Aerospace Engineering last for its unique ISRO collaborations and specialized avionics focus, acknowledging variable absorption pathways (placements subject to annual recruitment policy and CGPA criteria & other eligibility criteria). All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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