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Ghosting of a high order.
Why exactly were you anticipating him to give you all the attention?
Why were you craving for validation from someone who you haven’t chatted or met with?
Why did you base so many emotions on a ‘connection’ that wasn’t one in the first place?
Dating apps are an ocean of people who have different needs to be met and distractions are heavy.
Every moment, the mind is seeking an association with a new person in the hope that he or she will be better than the previous one.
How did you expect him to feel the same way as you did at that very moment? Maybe it’s time to introspect what you learned during your sabbatical.
Did you pour enough self-love so that you wouldn’t wait for someone else to love you? If No, then time to step back and validate yourself for ONCE.
You must learn to look at yourself with a fresh pair of eyes, laud yourself and love yourself even more.
Fill yourself with so much care are love that the next time, you are on an APP, it’s for a very good reason and with a lot of confidence that you can hold your space and not get swayed by who is messaging or who isn’t!
Life offers you with so many opportunities to change from within; start right away and as far as this “Ghost Guy”, even if he is back, he will scout around for more greener pastures as far as an unsteady mind goes.
So you possibly might just be one of them. Investing so much time in all of this is straining.
Join groups that meet often and on a common theme and maybe you might find someone interesting and someone who has similar values and ideals as you.
Good luck to a new way of thinking and acting!
It can be a little difficult to know people through social media as they are at their amazing best there; pictures, videos, status updates usually is for someone else to validate them and possibly does not reflect who they truly are. And yet you call it a relationship? How?
Also, you have chosen to feel guilty for being upfront about it or take a decision to move on.
How much of emotions are invested in this ‘relationship’ or have you grown it in the mind to an extent that doesn’t even exist?
Time to introspect and evaluate:
Who is he?
How much do I know him despite speaking to him every day?
Does his thoughts and idea match mine?
How do you know that he is deeply involved?
Could just feeling lonely be the reason that the two of you are stuck in this?
I have no clue how old you are but I can tell you one thing; there is no future where there is no true love and for true love to grow, one needs to be with another person initially, investing time in one another.
In your case check if the two of you can meet and maybe things might fall into place after that clearing up many of these confusions.
When his words and actions are not in sync, what exactly are you pushing for?
Are you hoping for him to see things your way? He seems to have made it clear that he wants this to be casual.
It could be one of two things:
1. He isn’t ready for a commitment as of now
2. He isn’t ready to stir the hornet’s nest back at home and face the music
Either case, this is holding you up and your movement in life. Why do that?
Please have an honest discussion with him on how this is affecting you and what you exactly want.
Take a call based on his responses and his involvement in the discussion that concerns the future of your relationship.
Best wishes and take charge NOW.