I am confused with my relationship. Im in relationship frm last 1 month . I met him via social media . Actually now a days i feel he is not serious with me . Im not getting the good vibes from him. Wht should i do now

Ans:

Dear DJ,

It can be a little difficult to know people through social media as they are at their amazing best there; pictures, videos, status updates usually is for someone else to validate them and possibly does not reflect who they truly are. And yet you call it a relationship? How?

Also, you have chosen to feel guilty for being upfront about it or take a decision to move on.

How much of emotions are invested in this ‘relationship’ or have you grown it in the mind to an extent that doesn’t even exist?

Time to introspect and evaluate:

Who is he?

How much do I know him despite speaking to him every day?

Does his thoughts and idea match mine?

How do you know that he is deeply involved?

Could just feeling lonely be the reason that the two of you are stuck in this?

I have no clue how old you are but I can tell you one thing; there is no future where there is no true love and for true love to grow, one needs to be with another person initially, investing time in one another.

In your case check if the two of you can meet and maybe things might fall into place after that clearing up many of these confusions.

Best wishes!

Ans: I'd be happy to suggest some things to consider as you navigate your relationship.

Take some time to reflect: It can be helpful to take a step back and reflect on your relationship. What are your values and what do you want in a partner? Are those needs being met in your current relationship? What are the pros and cons of staying in the relationship?

Communicate with your partner: Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. Share your thoughts and listen to their perspective as well. Communication is key in any relationship, and it can help to clarify things and bring you closer together.

Seek support: Talk to trusted friends or family members who can provide support and offer a different perspective. You can also seek out a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your thoughts and feelings.

Pay attention to your gut: Trust your instincts and pay attention to how you feel in the relationship. Do you feel happy, fulfilled, and respected? Or do you feel unhappy, unsupported, or disrespected? Your feelings matter and it's important to prioritize your own well-being.

Take action: Once you've reflected, communicated, sought support, and paid attention to your gut, it's time to take action. If you decide to stay in the relationship, think about what you can do to strengthen it. If you decide to end the relationship, think about how you can do so in a respectful and compassionate way.

Remember that relationships can be complex and it's okay to feel confused at times. Take your time, prioritize your well-being, and don't be afraid to seek support as you navigate your relationship.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Seems like you are not quite in love with this person. Not everyone experiences love at first sight. Some love stories grow over time. You can try spending some more time with him and see where it goes. But if you are not satisfied with how strongly you feel for him or if you continue to feel that you deserve better, I strongly recommend giving it a thought. You don't want to settle for less out of peer pressure. And it would not be right to drag him and give him hope, especially since he has feelings for you.

There is no need to rush. Take your time. Think about it with a clear mind and make a choice.

Best Wishes.

Ans: You don't have feelings for him, you need to decide what you want - either bring in the feelings or move on. BTW trust is lost if he has cheated you, also keep in mind he was not in the same place as you - you liked him, he took his time to like you back. All the best.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand your need for emotional intimacy, but it isn't advisable to expect or foster that from a married man. I am not sure about his marital arrangements, but it is still unethical. Now, coming to how he is behaving, if he is acting uninterested, chances are he has lost interest in you. You can either try to have a clear discussion about the same with him, or hold your head high and move on.

Trust me, as difficult as it seems, you will move on with time. Do not undervalue yourself. You deserve to be loved and loved completely.

Best Wishes.