Hi Anu, I am in a relationship with a guy for 5 months. I met him via social media. We know each other since a year.
Initially I saw him only as a friend, but we grew close, talked daily for a year, met a few times and decided to date. But I am still confused if he is right for me.
It's a long distance relationship and I am not able to connect as much as him. I am not able to decide if I want to spend my life with him.
He is too deeply involved, and that scares me, I try to break up because I feel it's not fair to him, but I end up going back to him because I miss him.
This continues. I am stuck in a loop, I don't know what to do. Please advice.
Ans: Dear DJ,
It can be a little difficult to know people through social media as they are at their amazing best there; pictures, videos, status updates usually is for someone else to validate them and possibly does not reflect who they truly are. And yet you call it a relationship? How?
Also, you have chosen to feel guilty for being upfront about it or take a decision to move on.
How much of emotions are invested in this ‘relationship’ or have you grown it in the mind to an extent that doesn’t even exist?
Time to introspect and evaluate:
Who is he?
How much do I know him despite speaking to him every day?
Does his thoughts and idea match mine?
How do you know that he is deeply involved?
Could just feeling lonely be the reason that the two of you are stuck in this?
I have no clue how old you are but I can tell you one thing; there is no future where there is no true love and for true love to grow, one needs to be with another person initially, investing time in one another.
In your case check if the two of you can meet and maybe things might fall into place after that clearing up many of these confusions.
Best wishes!
