My boyfriend and his family is not good for my long term because they have mentally abuses me yet because situations are so dire that I am financially dependent on him for a year,I have thought of returning all the money to him after I get a job.I feel v bad about this situation and sometimes he forces me to marry him,but I don't feel it's good to yet I feel he will label me as gold digger in future, although because of him I am in such a situation where I am helpless and dependent for a year or so.

Ans: My Dear Nikita,

It sounds like you have been in a challenging situation for some time, where you have been sacrificing your values and thoughts for your partner, and he has been disrespecting you with his words and behavior. It's important to remember that no one deserves to be treated with disrespect in a relationship.

It's understandable that it hurts to think about leaving the relationship, especially after investing so much time and effort into it. However, you need to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, and it seems like this relationship is not fulfilling that for you.

It's important to have a clear and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. Let him know that his behavior has been hurtful, and that you cannot accept his condition of not working after marriage. It's important to communicate your boundaries and what you need from the relationship.

If he is not willing to respect your boundaries and make changes to improve the relationship, it may be time to consider ending it. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you are respected, valued, and your needs are met. It may be difficult, but prioritizing your own well-being is important for your long-term happiness.

Ans: Dear Aarya,
Time moves and so do people move along with the situations that they face.
Yes, you had both decided life in a particular way; but now it has suddenly shifted to something else. Why they want the Villa with so much of debt mounting, is their decision!
But you can certainly decide if you want to start your life with that debt, repay it along with them, give up on your dreams of living abroad? You can decide it NOW. Your decision will determine your life's path. So choose and decide very wisely.
You have a job offer on hand; so is it going to be life with your boyfriend in debt or starting life afresh on your own terms. Weigh the pros and cons of both and choose wisely.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Financial stability is extremely important in life. If your partner is not earning at all, that could be a problem. I am unclear on whether you are earning enough to support a family. Even if you do, I completely understand your parent's concerns. It would be best to have a discussion with your partner and ask him to put in more effort to find a decent job if he wants a future with you. And if you are not working, you should do the same. Love is great, but money is also important to live a comfortable life. Please consider this before making any decision.

Best Wishes.