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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 14, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 13, 2024Hindi
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Me and my boyfriend are dating form past seven years, he’s not from a well to do family and I am. How do I tell my parents that I want to marry him? He is working etc but he has a lot of liabilities so far to pay off and to take care of his family too. My family won’t understand this. How to I convince them

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Don't try and convince them but simply address their worries and concerns. Surely, they wish you well and want to see you comfortable. So, sit with them and address every worry and concern rather than force them into a decision.

All the best!
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Hi ma’am My family is not accepting my boyfriend as he is not well settled and doesn’t have any savings. His parent are also divorced and father has a second marriage. The first children custody is still with parents however my boyfriend and his brother live with his mother. He is 5 year younger than me. My family is not accepting my relationship and showing me new proposals every day. To borrow some time i am just refusing the proposal my giving some excuses but now they know that i am still not out from him and waiting for him to get settled. Kindly let me know how can i convince my family to accept my relationship. My boyfriend is working day and night to get settled and have a good account balance. Please advise.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If your daughter came to you with the same situation, how would you advise her?
Would you not tell her your concern that she is actually choosing someone who may not be able to support her when she goes on maternity leave? Would you not tell her that coming from a broken family, she may have to take care of her boyfriend and possibly parent him on different occasions? Your parents are only concerned for you and are unable to tell you what they are worried about. Put yourself in their situation and tell me that you will not be worried.

At the same time, I do get your frustration. What you can do is to work on your parents' concerns and buy time till your boyfriend manages to settle down. And it seems like he is doing all that he can to be in their good books. And that's the only way you can get them to accept him. Wait patiently and don't put him under pressure. Instead be supportive and at the same time, you continue to work and be independent as well.

Never try to convince someone who does not want to be convinced but instead work on how they can accept him by addressing their concerns.

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I am in a relationship from last 2 years. We are very happy together. But when my parents came to know about us they apposed it as we both belong to different castes different social backgrounds i am from a upper middle class family and he is from lower middle class family. He made his career from scratch. I Don't want to hurt my parents by going against them. They always told me how much they care for me what they have done for me and all that i will ruin there reputation by getting married to him. On the other hand i love him so much , he is a very nice person he cares for me a lot and i know i will never be happy without him. What should i do.. nowadays i Don't feel like talking to anyone and my family thinks i dont love them and i am ignoring them which is not the case i just don't feel like talking. What should i do to convince them for us...?
Ans: Navigating this situation requires sensitivity and careful communication. Start by having an open and honest conversation with your parents. Explain your feelings and how much this relationship means to you. Emphasize the qualities that make your partner a good match for you, such as his care and commitment.

Acknowledge their concerns and express gratitude for their care and the sacrifices they've made for you. Reassure them that your love for them hasn't changed and that you value their opinions. Try to understand their perspective and address their worries about social status and reputation.

You might also consider arranging a meeting between your parents and your partner. This can help them see his positive attributes and understand why you love him. Show them how he has built his career from scratch, demonstrating his determination and resilience.

It's important to remain patient and give your parents time to adjust to the idea. Meanwhile, continue to express your love and respect for them, reinforcing that your decision is based on your happiness and future well-being.

Balancing your love for your partner and respect for your parents is difficult, but with open communication and patience, you can work towards finding a middle ground that respects everyone's feelings.

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I want to write an email stating I want to resign from my current organisation and employer but I don't want to give a reason for leaving. Can you please suggest how I can do it?
Ans: Here's a format of the email you can use:

Subject: Resignation from [Your Position]

Dear [HR Manager's Name],

Please accept this as a notification of my resignation from my position as [Your Position] at [Company Name], effective [Last Day of Work].

I have thoroughly enjoyed my time at [Company Name] and appreciate the opportunities and experiences I have gained.

Thank you for your understanding.

Sincerely,
[Your Name]
[Your Contact Information]


Discussing Resignation with Your Manager:

When discussing your resignation with your manager, aim for a respectful and professional conversation. Here's how you can approach it:

• Be Direct and Brief: Clearly state your intention to resign and the effective date. Avoid going into lengthy explanations or dwelling on negative aspects of your role.

• Focus on the Positive: Emphasize the positive experiences and opportunities you've had at the company. This shows appreciation and maintains a professional tone.

• Avoid Giving Reasons: If you prefer not to disclose your reasons for leaving, simply state that you're pursuing a new opportunity. You don't owe your employer an explanation.

• Offer Assistance: Be willing to help with a smooth transition, such as training your replacement or completing ongoing projects. This demonstrates your professionalism and commitment to the company.

• Maintain a Positive Attitude: Even if you're leaving for reasons you're not comfortable sharing, try to maintain a positive and respectful demeanor throughout the conversation.

Dos and Don'ts:

• Do: Be polite and respectful, even if you're frustrated or disappointed.
• Do: Offer to help with the transition.
• Do: Express gratitude for the opportunities you've had.

• Don't: Badmouth the company or your colleagues.
• Don't: Get into arguments or heated discussions.
• Don't: Burn bridges by leaving on bad terms.

Remember, your resignation should be handled professionally to maintain a positive relationship with your employer and colleagues. By following these guidelines, you can have a respectful conversation and leave the company on good terms.

All the best!

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