Anu Krishna |1328 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 08, 2022
Dear SS,
Something has happened which you might not be aware of that has triggered this behaviour from her.
To not let you be with the child suggests that there is something else that is going on. It requires an intervention.
Speak with her parents who can talk to her sensibly about the requirement of the child being with both parents at this time.
It is highly likely that there have been some disagreements with your family that is preventing her from coming back.
So, you possibly have been naïve to believe that nothing happened. There is a reason for every action, so something so extreme from her certainly warrants a strong reason.
Why exactly did you wait for three years is something that I cannot understand as matters like these get worse with each passing day with room for disappointments.
Well, let’s keep the past right where it belongs in.
Initiate a conversation with her and take things slow and patient.
After three long years, much has changed and to expect things to be as they were is bordering on being very gullible.
State clearly what you expect within the marriage and please be an excellent listener as you encourage her to share her version of the story, her expectations, her complaints and so on…a patient, listening and compassionate ear can go a long way in rebuilding lost relationships only when you don’t go on the defense and she feels pushed again.
I do believe that it takes two people to create or destroy a relationship but since I heard from you, this is my suggestion to you.
Please be the bigger person and keep the larger picture in mind of the marriage and the child, and swallow pride and ego and simply focus on rebuilding if that is eventually a possibility.
All the best!
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