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BPH Question by BPH on Feb 11, 2022Hindi
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 Anu, I have been married for 3 years now, and things are not good between me and my wife.
We have a kid of 2 years, but my wife is angry with me. She went to her home for pregnancy and she is not ready to come back to our house. I am not able to convince her to get her back to our home. Even my in-laws are not doing any effort to convince her.
I spoke to her regarding is she really interested in continuing this relationship, but she is not ready to break this relationship.
I am fed up of this and don't know what to do. Please help me.

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Dear BPH,

I have no clue what led to this breakdown in your marriage. Whatever the reason, I wish the two of you know what this is doing to the child.

I am not judging either of you but there is something that is keeping her away from coming back. Kindly involve a Marriage therapist or any expert who can step in.

She needs to know that moving on or leaving, one of that has to happen. At least, the mind can fathom how to manage either of the paths.

From the little information that you have given, this is what I can guide you with.

Speak with her about involving a marriage therapist or you appeal to her with love and compassion to start the discussion for the way ahead.

All the best and make a move on this soon.

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We both work in IT company and she earns a very nice salary. We were living happily without ANY major quarrels with my wife or mother. After 6 years of marriage our child was born and since Day One she started behaving differently and went to stay back with her parents. It’s almost about 3 years and she is neither returning nor allowing me to speak to the child and insists that she will play with him at her place.We tried different ways to convince her but she doesn’t want to return nor shares the reason for this behaviour. When I asked recently she said she wants to live away from my family and not together and that too on her terms and conditions. If not, she wants to separate but I don’t want to. I have not done any mistakes then why should I suffer?What should I do? What is running on her mind? It’s really difficult for me to understand. No elders are eager to resolve the matter. Awaiting your earliest suggestions.
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Dear SS,

Something has happened which you might not be aware of that has triggered this behaviour from her.

To not let you be with the child suggests that there is something else that is going on. It requires an intervention.

Speak with her parents who can talk to her sensibly about the requirement of the child being with both parents at this time.

It is highly likely that there have been some disagreements with your family that is preventing her from coming back.

So, you possibly have been naïve to believe that nothing happened. There is a reason for every action, so something so extreme from her certainly warrants a strong reason.

Why exactly did you wait for three years is something that I cannot understand as matters like these get worse with each passing day with room for disappointments.

Well, let’s keep the past right where it belongs in.

Initiate a conversation with her and take things slow and patient.

After three long years, much has changed and to expect things to be as they were is bordering on being very gullible.

State clearly what you expect within the marriage and please be an excellent listener as you encourage her to share her version of the story, her expectations, her complaints and so on…a patient, listening and compassionate ear can go a long way in rebuilding lost relationships only when you don’t go on the defense and she feels pushed again.

I do believe that it takes two people to create or destroy a relationship but since I heard from you, this is my suggestion to you.

Please be the bigger person and keep the larger picture in mind of the marriage and the child, and swallow pride and ego and simply focus on rebuilding if that is eventually a possibility.

All the best!

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Hi Dr. Ashish, Good Afternoon, Iam 45 years old. I got married in 2010. My wife has ego and doesnt get adjusted to me and my family. I occured the experience after 2012 when my wife was 2 month pregnant. I was going to job, there was no peace of mind at all. From 2013 february we are not staying together. Her life is running as per her mother advice. We are having a communication very rarely. I had heard from her mother in law like impotent, not capable of doing anything. There are de-grading words always used and treated with no respect whenever i visited my wife house. My wife has communicated me verbally on January 2023, that she doesn't want the relationship to continue. She blocked me on whatsapp dated 03rd February 2023. I have one daughter aged 9 years. I am calling every week to get in touch with my daughter. The wife family not responding to the phones and my wife also. Request your sincere advice for permanent solution. Thanks & Regards, Deepak Shetty
Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you're facing in your marriage and with your wife's family. It sounds like a challenging situation, but I'll try my best to offer some general advice.

Seek professional help: Considering the complexities of your situation, it might be helpful to seek professional guidance. Marriage counselors or therapists can provide a neutral space for both you and your wife to express your concerns and work towards finding a resolution.

Legal advice: If your attempts at communication and reconciliation have not been successful, it may be advisable to consult with a lawyer to understand your legal rights and options. They can guide you through the process and help you navigate any legal implications, especially regarding your relationship with your daughter.

Open communication: While it may be challenging, try to maintain open lines of communication with your wife. Clearly express your desire to work on the relationship and be involved in your daughter's life. Choose a calm and respectful approach when communicating, even if the response is not favorable.

Mediation: Consider involving a mediator to facilitate communication between you and your wife. A neutral third party can help create a constructive environment for dialogue and negotiation, increasing the chances of finding a mutually acceptable solution.

Patience and understanding: Dealing with relationship issues takes time and effort. It's important to remain patient, understanding, and willing to work towards a resolution. Focus on the best interests of your daughter and strive for an amicable co-parenting relationship, even if the marital relationship cannot be mended.

Focus on personal well-being: Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally during this challenging time. Seek support from friends, family, or support groups. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you maintain a positive outlook.

Remember that every situation is unique, and the advice provided here may not fully address your specific circumstances. It's crucial to consult professionals who can provide personalized guidance based on a deeper understanding of your situation.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 30, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I am married from last 15 year, having a daughter , my realtion with my wife is very bad, she is like this since start of marriage, our is arrange marriage. She didn't want any kind of responsibility, she always want to go out and if possible do shopping, if I asked not to over spend she thinks not sure what and create scene. She fight with everyone even in office or with her parents, she blames other for all this, never ever think she can be wrong, she is having a feeling if you correct her , she not going to like it, she will say no need to teach me , I know. She even not hving very good relationship with my daughter, she is in class 10th and staying in baording. I am hving 2 flat just like jodi flat adjacant to each other, i am staying in one and she is in another , she hardly let me hv sex, but she talks or chat with stranger whole night, i try to question her but she started fighting, she didn't listen and do what ever she want, if u question she will fight, i really don't know how to handle this situation, I am feeling trapped and she is accusing me for all the mess. We had fight lots of time , we abused each other during fight a lot , but the problem still persist nothing changed in 15 years recently after fight i stop talking with her . Not sure how I should move forward , i talked with my daughter and she also suggesting me leave her for some time she will realize , should i go for divorce or how to move forward.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time in your marriage.
It's important to remember that ultimately, the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is up to the individual. Here are some things you can do to help you move forward:

1. Seek professional help: Consider seeing a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and provide guidance on how to move forward.

2. Take care of yourself: Make sure you're taking care of your own physical and emotional needs. This can include getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in activities that you enjoy.

3. Set boundaries: If your wife's behavior is causing you distress, it's important to set boundaries. This can include setting limits on spending, or establishing rules around communication.

4. Consider couples therapy: If you're both willing, couples therapy can be a helpful way to work through issues in your marriage and improve communication.

5. Think about your options: If you're considering divorce, it's important to think carefully about your options. Consider speaking with a lawyer who can provide guidance on the legal aspects of divorce.

Remember, every situation is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. Take the time to consider your options and make the decision that's best for you and your family.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 15, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir I am 37 years old male and married since 5 years and we had little girl of 4 years old. I need some advice for my relationship. We had problems in our relationship since the beginning of our engagement, as initially I was unaware of my wife's extra marital affairs when I come to know about it she told why she started to see other boy during engagement period also after our marriage as I wasn't upto her expectations, that was the time of 2019 . We had discussed about all each others expectations and solved the problem I tried to regain the confidence in our relationship but still somewhere we had fights every 5 to 6 months on different issues sometimes it's my parents sometimes it's me I dont give her time sometimes financially , in between she left my house and went to her father's home for 8 months after delivery of our baby girl, she told we are not made for each other I told her and explained all about consequences and convinced her to get her back. After that for again after 6 months we started fight with each other on different issues. But recently we fight and she lost control and slapped me and unfortunately in the vague of my anger I also slapped her and she again left me and went to her father house . It's been 1 month now we don't have contact each other because every time I only asked her for compromises and explain and convincing her to come back. This time I don't know what to do.thanks
Ans: Marriage counselling. Enlist at the earliest and see if you can fix matters, but you have to tackle one issue at a time. The infidelity, the inlaws, the lack of compatibility…there’s too many issues here.

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is SBI Gold ETS good option to invest, please tell me pros and cons?
Ans: SBI Gold ETF: Pros and Cons for Investment
SBI Gold ETF (Exchange Traded Fund) can be an option for adding gold to your portfolio. Here's a breakdown of its pros and cons to help you decide:

Pros:

Convenience and Liquidity: Buy and sell units on the stock exchange like regular shares, offering high liquidity compared to physical gold.
Lower Costs: Expense ratios (fund management fees) of SBI Gold ETF are generally lower than physical gold investment options like lockers or jewelry.
Transparency: Gold ETF prices closely track the actual gold price, eliminating premiums associated with physical gold.
Portfolio Diversification: Offers a hedge against inflation and can diversify your portfolio beyond stocks and bonds.
Cons:

No Guaranteed Returns: Unlike Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs), SBI Gold ETF doesn't offer fixed interest. Returns depend solely on gold price fluctuations.
Market Risk: Gold prices can be volatile, and you might sell at a loss if the market dips when you need to redeem.
Tax Implications: Capital gains from selling SBI Gold ETF units after 3 years are taxed at 20.6% with indexation benefits (reducing impact of inflation). Short-term capital gains are taxed as per your income tax slab.
No Physical Possession: You don't hold physical gold with SBI Gold ETF. It's units representing gold holdings by the ETF.
Overall:

SBI Gold ETF can be a good investment for those seeking:

Exposure to gold prices: Offers a way to benefit from potential gold price appreciation.
Portfolio diversification: Helps hedge against inflation and diversify beyond traditional assets.
Convenience and affordability: Easier to manage and potentially cheaper than physical gold.
However, consider these factors before investing:

Investment horizon: If you need the money in the short term, be prepared for potential price fluctuations.
Risk tolerance: Gold prices can be volatile, so assess your comfort level with market risks.
Investment goals: Clearly define your goals for including gold in your portfolio.
Alternatives:

Physical Gold: Offers direct ownership but comes with storage risks and lower liquidity.
Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs): Government-backed, offering guaranteed interest and potential capital appreciation with tax benefits.
Digital Gold: Invest in smaller quantities and potentially take physical delivery subject to terms.
Do more research:

SBI Gold ETF product brochure and investment details.
Compare SBI Gold ETF with other gold investment options based on your needs.
Consult a financial advisor for personalized investment guidance.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 18, 2024Hindi
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How to invest in Index funds. Which are better Index or Etf or FOF. PLEASE Suggest me sir
Ans: Investing in Index Funds, ETFs, and FoFs
Investing in index funds, ETFs, or FoFs (Fund of Funds) can be a great way to build a diversified portfolio. However, it’s important to understand the differences between these options and how they compare to actively managed funds. Let's explore each option and highlight the disadvantages of index funds over active funds.

Index Funds
Index Funds are mutual funds that aim to replicate the performance of a specific market index, such as the Nifty 50 or Sensex. They passively track the index by holding the same securities in the same proportions.

Advantages of Index Funds:
Low Costs: Lower expense ratios due to passive management.
Diversification: Broad market exposure reduces individual stock risk.
Simplicity: Easy to understand and invest in.
Disadvantages of Index Funds:
Limited Upside Potential: Index funds aim to match market returns, not outperform them.
Lack of Flexibility: They cannot adapt to market conditions or exploit opportunities.
Tracking Error: The performance of index funds might slightly deviate from the index due to fees and operational inefficiencies.
Exchange-Traded Funds (ETFs)
ETFs are similar to index funds but trade on stock exchanges like individual stocks. They also aim to replicate the performance of a market index.

Advantages of ETFs:
Liquidity: Can be bought and sold during market hours.
Cost-Effective: Generally have lower expense ratios than index funds.
Flexibility: Allows for intraday trading and better control over buying/selling price.
Disadvantages of ETFs:
Transaction Costs: Buying and selling ETFs incur brokerage fees.
Price Variability: Prices can fluctuate throughout the day, unlike mutual funds priced once a day.
Market Impact: Large trades can affect the market price of the ETF.
Fund of Funds (FoFs)
Fund of Funds invest in a portfolio of other mutual funds. They offer diversification by spreading investments across various funds.

Advantages of FoFs:
Diversification: Broad exposure across multiple funds and asset classes.
Professional Management: Managed by experienced professionals selecting underlying funds.
Convenience: One investment offers exposure to several funds.
Disadvantages of FoFs:
Higher Costs: Expense ratios can be higher due to layered fees (fees of the FoF plus underlying funds).
Complexity: More difficult to track and understand due to multiple underlying funds.
Potential Overlap: Investments in underlying funds may overlap, reducing diversification benefits.
Comparing to Actively Managed Funds
Actively Managed Funds aim to outperform the market through strategic selection of securities. They are managed by professional fund managers who make decisions based on research and market analysis.

Advantages of Actively Managed Funds:
Potential for Higher Returns: Can outperform the market through skilled management.
Flexibility: Managers can adapt to market conditions and take advantage of opportunities.
Risk Management: Active funds can avoid poor-performing sectors or stocks.
Disadvantages of Actively Managed Funds:
Higher Costs: Higher expense ratios due to active management and research costs.
Manager Risk: Performance depends on the manager’s skill and decision-making.
Inconsistent Performance: Not all actively managed funds consistently outperform their benchmarks.
Recommendation
For long-term investors looking for simplicity and lower costs, index funds and ETFs are attractive options. However, if you seek potentially higher returns and are willing to pay higher fees, actively managed funds might be more suitable. Here’s a suggested approach:

Index Funds/ETFs for Core Portfolio: Use index funds or ETFs to build the core of your portfolio for broad market exposure.

Actively Managed Funds for High Growth: Allocate a portion to well-performing actively managed funds for higher return potential.

Fund of Funds for Convenience: If you prefer a hands-off approach with broad diversification, consider FoFs.

Conclusion
Investing in index funds, ETFs, or FoFs each has its pros and cons. While index funds and ETFs offer cost efficiency and simplicity, actively managed funds can provide higher returns at a higher cost. Diversifying your investments across these options can help balance risk and return. Consulting a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized advice tailored to your financial goals and risk tolerance.

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Sir, I am planning to invest in SIP Rs.10000/- per month for long term. Say 25 to 30 years. Kindly advise.
Ans: Long-Term SIP Investment Strategy
Investing ?10,000 per month in a Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) for 25 to 30 years is an excellent strategy to build substantial wealth over the long term. Given the extended horizon, you can benefit from the power of compounding and ride out market volatility. Let’s explore a comprehensive investment plan to achieve your financial goals.

Understanding Your Investment Goals
Before diving into specific fund recommendations, it's important to define your investment goals. Are you saving for retirement, children's education, buying a house, or other long-term financial objectives? Clear goals will help tailor your investment strategy.

Diversified Portfolio for Long-Term Investment
A diversified portfolio is key to balancing risk and return. Here’s a suggested allocation for a long-term SIP investment:

Equity Mutual Funds
Equity Mutual Funds are ideal for long-term growth. They offer higher returns compared to other asset classes over an extended period. Given your long horizon, you can afford to take on more equity exposure.

Large Cap Funds: 30-40%

These funds invest in well-established companies with stable returns. They are less volatile and provide steady growth.
Mid Cap Funds: 20-30%

Mid cap funds invest in medium-sized companies with high growth potential. They offer a balance between risk and return.
Small Cap Funds: 10-20%

Small cap funds invest in smaller companies with significant growth potential but higher volatility. These funds can provide substantial returns over the long term.
Hybrid or Balanced Funds
Hybrid or Balanced Funds invest in a mix of equity and debt instruments, providing a balanced approach to risk and return.

Allocation: 10-20%
These funds offer stability through debt investments while participating in equity market growth.
Debt Funds
Debt Funds provide stability and are less volatile compared to equity funds. Including a small portion of debt funds can help manage risk.

Allocation: 10-20%
Invest in high-quality short-term and medium-term debt funds for better liquidity and safety.
Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
SIPs help in averaging the purchase cost over time and instill disciplined investing. Regular investments reduce the impact of market volatility and enable you to benefit from rupee cost averaging.

Suggested Funds
When selecting specific mutual funds, consider the following criteria:

Consistent Performance: Choose funds with a strong performance track record across different market cycles.

Experienced Fund Managers: Opt for funds managed by experienced and reputable fund managers.

Low Expense Ratios: Lower costs mean more of your money is invested, leading to better returns.

Fund House Reputation: Select funds from reputable and stable fund houses.

Regular Monitoring and Rebalancing
Regularly monitor your portfolio to ensure it aligns with your investment goals. Rebalance your portfolio periodically to maintain the desired asset allocation and manage risk.

Consulting a Certified Financial Planner
Engage with a Certified Financial Planner for personalized advice. They can provide a tailored investment strategy based on your financial situation, goals, and risk tolerance.

Conclusion
Investing ?10,000 per month in SIPs for 25 to 30 years is a robust strategy for building wealth. A diversified portfolio with a mix of large, mid, and small cap funds, along with hybrid and debt funds, can help you achieve your financial goals. Regular monitoring and consultation with a Certified Financial Planner will ensure your investments stay on track.

Best Regards,

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I want to start SIP investment in MFs. I have identified 4 MFs schemes. 2 Small Cap & 2 Mid Cap MFs. I am 61 years. Horizon of investment is 5/7 years. Hope I will earn around 15% + in the worst scenario. Please guide. Thanks.
Ans: Evaluating Your SIP Investment Plan
Investing in mutual funds through SIPs is a great strategy to build wealth over time. Given your age and investment horizon, it’s essential to carefully consider your fund selection and risk management. Let’s assess your plan and provide guidance.

Understanding Small Cap and Mid Cap Funds
Small Cap Funds: These funds invest in companies with smaller market capitalizations. They have high growth potential but come with significant volatility and risk.

Mid Cap Funds: These funds invest in medium-sized companies, offering a balance between growth potential and risk. They are less volatile than small cap funds but can still experience significant price fluctuations.

Evaluating Risk and Return Expectations
At 61, your risk tolerance may be lower compared to younger investors. While small and mid cap funds can deliver high returns, they also carry higher risk. Aiming for a 15%+ return in the worst scenario is optimistic, especially over a 5-7 year horizon. Market conditions can be unpredictable, and it’s essential to manage expectations.

Suggested Approach for SIP Investments
Diversification
Diversification is crucial in managing risk. While small and mid cap funds can be part of your portfolio, consider adding more stable investments to balance the risk.

Recommended Allocation
Here’s a suggested allocation for your portfolio:

Large Cap Funds: 30-40% for stability and steady returns.

Mid Cap Funds: 30% for balanced growth potential.

Small Cap Funds: 20-30% for high growth potential but higher risk.

Debt Funds or Hybrid Funds: 10-20% for stability and risk reduction.

Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
SIPs help in averaging out the purchase cost over time, reducing the impact of market volatility. Stick to a disciplined approach by investing regularly, regardless of market conditions.

Specific Fund Considerations
While selecting specific funds, look for those with:

Consistent Performance: Funds that have performed well across different market cycles.

Experienced Fund Managers: Managers with a proven track record.

Low Expense Ratios: Funds with lower costs will leave you with more returns.

Fund House Reputation: Choose funds from reputable and stable fund houses.

Risk Management
To manage risk effectively:

Regular Monitoring: Keep track of your investments and their performance.

Rebalancing: Periodically review and adjust your portfolio to maintain the desired asset allocation.

Emergency Fund: Ensure you have an emergency fund in place to avoid liquidating investments in case of unforeseen expenses.

Alternative Options for Lower Risk
Considering your age and investment horizon, it might be prudent to include some lower-risk investment options:

Balanced Advantage Funds: These dynamically adjust the allocation between equity and debt based on market conditions.

Monthly Income Plans (MIPs): These are debt-oriented hybrid funds that provide regular income along with some growth.

Consultation with a Certified Financial Planner
Engage with a Certified Financial Planner to get personalized advice. They can help you create a tailored investment strategy that aligns with your risk tolerance and financial goals.

Conclusion
Your plan to invest through SIPs in small and mid cap funds is a good strategy for growth, but it's important to manage risks given your age and investment horizon. Diversify your portfolio to include more stable investments, regularly monitor and rebalance your investments, and seek professional advice to ensure you stay on track. A balanced and well-diversified portfolio will help you achieve your financial goals while mitigating risks.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I want to invest for my girl child for her higher education, she is currently 1yr old. Please suggest some good investment plans or schemes other than SSY.
Ans: Investment Plans for Your Child’s Higher Education
Investing early for your child's higher education is a wise decision. Starting now allows you to take advantage of compound interest, ensuring a substantial corpus when she reaches college age. Let’s explore various investment options that can help you achieve this goal.

Equity Mutual Funds
Equity Mutual Funds are an excellent option for long-term goals like your child's education. They offer higher returns compared to traditional savings schemes. Given the long investment horizon (17-18 years), you can benefit from the power of compounding and ride out market volatility.

Large Cap Funds: Invest in well-established companies with a track record of steady returns. They are less volatile than mid and small cap funds.

Mid Cap and Small Cap Funds: While riskier, these funds offer the potential for higher returns. Allocate a smaller portion of your portfolio to these funds for diversification and growth.

Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) allow you to invest a fixed amount regularly in mutual funds. This method is ideal for long-term investing as it averages out the cost of investments over time and reduces market timing risk.

Advantages: Disciplined investing, rupee cost averaging, and compounding benefits.
Public Provident Fund (PPF)
Public Provident Fund (PPF) is a safe and tax-efficient investment option with a long-term horizon. It offers attractive interest rates and the interest earned is tax-free.

Tenure: 15 years, which can be extended in blocks of 5 years.

Benefits: Safe investment, tax-free returns, and compounding benefits.

Child Plans from Insurance Companies
Child Plans offered by insurance companies are specifically designed to meet future educational expenses. These plans provide insurance cover and an investment component.

Types: Unit Linked Insurance Plans (ULIPs) and traditional endowment plans.

Features: Regular payouts during key educational milestones, life cover for the parent, and waiver of future premiums in case of the policyholder's untimely demise.

Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY)
While you mentioned excluding SSY, it's worth noting that SSY is a government-backed scheme offering attractive interest rates and tax benefits, specifically designed for the girl child’s future education and marriage expenses.

National Savings Certificate (NSC)
National Savings Certificate (NSC) is a fixed-income investment scheme that offers guaranteed returns and tax benefits.

Tenure: 5 years.

Benefits: Safe investment, guaranteed returns, and tax benefits under Section 80C.

Gold ETFs or Sovereign Gold Bonds
Gold ETFs and Sovereign Gold Bonds are effective ways to invest in gold without holding physical gold. They offer a hedge against inflation and portfolio diversification.

Gold ETFs: Trade on the stock exchange, offering liquidity and convenience.

Sovereign Gold Bonds: Issued by the government, providing interest payments and the benefit of capital appreciation.

Diversified Portfolio
Creating a diversified portfolio can mitigate risks and enhance returns. Here’s a suggested allocation:

Equity Mutual Funds: 50-60% for growth and compounding benefits.

PPF and NSC: 20-30% for stability and tax benefits.

Child Plans: 10-20% for targeted educational milestones and insurance cover.

Gold ETFs or Bonds: 5-10% for inflation protection and diversification.

Regular Monitoring and Rebalancing
Regularly monitor and rebalance your portfolio. Ensure that your investments align with your goals and risk tolerance. As your child approaches college age, gradually shift from equity to more stable, fixed-income investments to protect the corpus from market volatility.

Consulting a Certified Financial Planner
Engaging with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized advice tailored to your financial situation. They can help you create a comprehensive investment plan that aligns with your goals and risk tolerance.

Conclusion
By starting early and choosing a mix of investment options, you can build a substantial corpus for your child's higher education. Diversify your investments, monitor them regularly, and seek professional advice to stay on track. Your thoughtful planning will ensure a bright future for your daughter.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Hi, I plan to retire in 2 yrs time .im 53 now . I will have a corpus of 4 crores by that time. If i need to get an income of 1 lac , what are possibilities of investment. I have no liabilities in terms of any loans . My wife is a homemaker and my son will be in his first year of engineering this year and i Have set across separate funds for his education
Ans: Planning for Retirement Income
Congratulations on nearing retirement with a substantial corpus. Generating a steady income of ?1 lakh per month from a ?4 crore corpus is achievable with careful planning. Let's explore some investment possibilities to achieve this goal.

Diversified Investment Strategy
A diversified investment strategy can help manage risk and provide a steady income. Consider a mix of the following:

Fixed Deposits and Debt Funds
Fixed Deposits (FDs) and debt funds offer stability and guaranteed returns. Allocate a portion of your corpus to FDs and high-quality debt funds to ensure a reliable income stream. Debt funds, especially short-term and ultra-short-term funds, offer better liquidity and tax efficiency compared to FDs.

Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs) from Mutual Funds
Mutual Funds, particularly hybrid funds (balanced funds), can provide growth and income. Using a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) from these funds allows you to withdraw a fixed amount regularly. This method can offer both capital appreciation and regular income. Opt for funds with a good track record and consistent performance.

Monthly Income Schemes (MIS)
Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS) is a government-backed investment offering a fixed monthly income. It is a low-risk investment, suitable for retirees seeking guaranteed returns. The interest rates are periodically revised, and it provides assured returns.

Dividend-paying Stocks and Equity Funds
Investing in dividend-paying stocks or equity mutual funds with a focus on dividend yields can provide regular income. Although dividends are subject to market risks, selecting well-established companies with a history of stable dividends can be beneficial.

Senior Citizens’ Saving Scheme (SCSS)
SCSS is a government-backed savings instrument specifically for senior citizens. It offers attractive interest rates and provides regular quarterly interest payments. The current interest rates are attractive, making it a viable option for a portion of your corpus.

Balanced Portfolio Allocation
To achieve an income of ?1 lakh per month, a balanced portfolio allocation is crucial. Here is a suggested allocation:

Fixed Deposits and Debt Funds: 30-40% for stability and guaranteed returns.

SWPs from Mutual Funds: 30-40% for growth and regular income.

Dividend-paying Stocks and Equity Funds: 20-30% for potential growth and dividend income.

Annuities and SCSS: 20-30% for guaranteed income.

Assessing Risk Tolerance
Evaluate your risk tolerance. Given your proximity to retirement, it’s advisable to lean towards conservative investments. However, a small exposure to equities can help combat inflation and provide capital growth.

Monitoring and Rebalancing
Regularly monitor and rebalance your portfolio. As you withdraw from your investments, it’s essential to review their performance and adjust allocations to maintain a balanced risk and return profile.

Consulting a Certified Financial Planner
Consulting a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized advice tailored to your financial situation. They can help optimize your portfolio, ensuring it aligns with your risk tolerance and income requirements.

Conclusion
With a well-planned investment strategy, achieving a monthly income of ?1 lakh is feasible. Diversify your investments, assess your risk tolerance, and consult a Certified Financial Planner for tailored advice. Your diligent savings and thoughtful planning will help you enjoy a comfortable retirement.

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Sir, I am 55 years. I started investing since last two years back due to family responsibilities. Now I am investing in (1)HDFC Midcap opportunities fund RS 5000 (2)Mirae asset large cap and mid cap fund RS 5000 (3)Nippon India Small Cap Rs 8000 (4)Parag Parikh flexicap fund RS 2000. Request you to suggest me.
Ans: Understanding Your Investment Portfolio
Your current investment portfolio showcases a diverse mix of funds, which is commendable. Starting late due to family responsibilities is common, and you have done well to begin investing for your future. Let's evaluate your portfolio and provide some insights for improvement.

Midcap Fund Investments
Midcap funds offer a balance between risk and return. They have the potential for higher growth compared to large-cap funds but come with greater volatility. Investing a significant portion in midcap funds can yield substantial returns if held over the long term. However, consider the associated risks and ensure this aligns with your risk tolerance and investment horizon.

Large and Midcap Fund Allocation
Your inclusion of large and midcap funds is a strategic move. These funds provide a balanced exposure to both stable large-cap companies and high-growth midcap companies. This blend helps in achieving moderate growth with controlled risk. This combination can work well in creating a robust and diversified portfolio.

Small Cap Fund Considerations
Small cap funds have high growth potential but are also the most volatile. Investing in small cap funds can lead to significant returns, especially over an extended period. However, be mindful of the high risk involved. Ensure this portion of your portfolio matches your risk appetite and long-term financial goals.

Flexicap Fund Benefits
Flexicap funds offer flexibility by investing across various market capitalizations based on market conditions. This provides a diversified exposure and reduces risk. Flexicap funds are suitable for investors seeking both growth and stability, as fund managers can dynamically adjust the portfolio.

Evaluating Risk Tolerance
Assess your risk tolerance carefully. At 55, your risk tolerance may be lower compared to younger investors. Your portfolio shows a mix of high, medium, and low-risk investments. It's crucial to balance the risk to ensure your investments align with your comfort level and financial goals.

Diversification Strategy
Diversification is a key strategy in minimizing risk. Your portfolio shows good diversification across different types of funds. This helps in spreading risk and reducing the impact of market volatility. Continue to review and rebalance your portfolio periodically to maintain optimal diversification.

Long-Term Investment Horizon
Your investment strategy should consider your retirement timeline and financial goals. Since you started investing recently, it's important to maintain a long-term horizon. Long-term investments have the potential to smooth out market fluctuations and yield better returns.

Reviewing Fund Performance
Regularly review the performance of your investments. This helps in identifying underperforming funds and making necessary adjustments. Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to get a professional assessment of your portfolio’s performance.

Importance of Financial Goals
Clearly define your financial goals. Whether it’s retirement, children's education, or other milestones, having specific goals helps in planning your investments better. Align your portfolio to meet these goals within your desired time frame.

Role of a Certified Financial Planner
Engaging with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized advice tailored to your financial situation. They can help in optimizing your portfolio, ensuring it aligns with your risk tolerance, and achieving your financial goals.

Regular Fund Investments
Continue with regular investments. Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) are an effective way to build wealth over time. They instill financial discipline and take advantage of market volatility through rupee cost averaging.

Final Thoughts
Your proactive approach towards investing, despite starting late, is admirable. Regularly review your portfolio, adjust as needed, and seek professional guidance to stay on track. A well-balanced and diversified portfolio, aligned with your risk tolerance and financial goals, will help you achieve your financial aspirations.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Hello sir My salary is 70k.my home loan EMI is 23000. Personal loan EMI is 18000. And credit card expenses also. Please guide how I save money
Ans: I understand that managing multiple loan EMIs along with credit card expenses can be challenging, but with a strategic approach, you can effectively save money and improve your financial situation. Here are some steps to consider:

Evaluate Your Expenses
Genuine Compliments on recognizing the need to save money despite your financial commitments. Start by reviewing your monthly expenses, including necessities like rent, utilities, groceries, and discretionary spending. Identify areas where you can cut back or eliminate unnecessary expenses.

Prioritize Debt Repayment
Your home loan, personal loan, and credit card debts are likely accruing high-interest charges, making them priority areas for repayment. Allocate a significant portion of your monthly income towards clearing off these debts as quickly as possible to reduce interest payments and free up more money for savings.

Create a Budget
Develop a realistic monthly budget that accounts for your essential expenses, debt repayments, and savings goals. Stick to your budget religiously and track your spending regularly to ensure you're staying on track. Consider using budgeting apps or spreadsheets to streamline the process.

Emergency Fund
Building an emergency fund is crucial to cover unexpected expenses or financial emergencies without resorting to further borrowing. Aim to save at least 3-6 months' worth of living expenses in a high-yield savings account or liquid investment that you can easily access when needed.

Automate Savings
Set up automatic transfers from your salary account to a separate savings account or investment account each month. This "pay yourself first" approach ensures that you prioritize savings before spending and helps cultivate a consistent saving habit over time.

Review and Negotiate
Regularly review your expenses and look for opportunities to negotiate better deals or lower interest rates on your loans and credit cards. Explore options such as balance transfers or loan refinancing to consolidate debt and reduce interest costs.

Additional Income Streams
Consider exploring additional sources of income, such as freelancing, part-time work, or selling unused items, to supplement your salary and accelerate debt repayment. Every extra rupee earned can make a significant difference in achieving your financial goals.

Seek Professional Advice
As a Certified Financial Planner, I'm here to provide personalized guidance and support tailored to your specific financial situation and goals. I can help you develop a comprehensive financial plan that addresses debt management, savings strategies, and long-term financial security.

Conclusion
In conclusion, by prioritizing debt repayment, creating a budget, building an emergency fund, automating savings, reviewing expenses, exploring additional income streams, and seeking professional advice, you can effectively save money and improve your financial well-being despite your existing financial commitments.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Hi, I have twin boys 6 year old. If I want them to target having a graduate/ post graduate study from a good school in US, how much higher education funds should I need to accumulate per child over say next 12-15 years. Ofcourse it depends on their capability to join such schools but having an idea about my preparation is also important.
Ans: Absolutely, planning for your children's higher education is a wise decision that requires careful consideration and preparation. Let's discuss the factors involved in estimating the funds needed for their graduate/post-graduate studies in the US over the next 12-15 years.

Understanding the Cost of Higher Education
Genuine Compliments to your foresight in planning for your children's future education. It's crucial to recognize that the cost of higher education, especially in the US, has been rising steadily over the years. Tuition fees, living expenses, and other associated costs can vary significantly depending on the institution and the course of study.

Estimating Future Expenses
To estimate the funds needed for your children's education, consider factors such as:

Tuition Fees: Research the average tuition fees for undergraduate and postgraduate programs at reputable universities in the US. Factor in annual tuition fee increases.

Living Expenses: Account for accommodation, food, transportation, books, and other miscellaneous expenses. These costs can vary depending on the location and lifestyle choices.

Inflation: Factor in inflation to account for the rising cost of education over the next 12-15 years. Inflation can erode the purchasing power of your savings, so it's essential to plan accordingly.

Setting a Target Corpus
Once you have an idea of the potential expenses, calculate the total funds required for your children's education. You can use online calculators or consult with a Certified Financial Planner to estimate the target corpus based on your specific requirements and assumptions.

Saving and Investing Strategically
To accumulate the target corpus for your children's education, consider the following strategies:

Start Early: The earlier you start saving and investing, the more time your investments have to grow. Even small, regular contributions can accumulate significantly over time due to the power of compounding.

Systematic Investment Plan (SIP): Consider investing in mutual funds through SIPs to benefit from rupee-cost averaging and discipline in savings.

Diversification: Diversify your investments across different asset classes to spread risk and enhance returns. A mix of equity, debt, and other investment instruments can help you achieve your financial goals.

Adjusting for Contingencies
Life is full of uncertainties, and it's essential to prepare for unexpected events that may impact your ability to save and invest for your children's education. Build an emergency fund to cover unforeseen expenses and ensure financial stability during challenging times.

Seeking Professional Guidance
As a Certified Financial Planner, I'm here to provide personalized advice and guidance tailored to your specific financial situation and goals. I can help you create a comprehensive financial plan that includes provisions for your children's education while considering your overall financial objectives.

Conclusion
In conclusion, estimating the funds needed for your children's higher education requires careful consideration of various factors, including tuition fees, living expenses, inflation, and investment strategies. By starting early, saving and investing strategically, and seeking professional advice, you can better prepare for your children's educational aspirations.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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I am 34 years old and I have 17 Lac in PPF, 10 Lac in FDs, 24.5 Lac in MFs, 13 Lac in NPS, do you think its a good enough strategy to move forward? I have a kid who is 1 year, so I will need to plan for his education and higher studies. I have no outstanding loans or any liability. monthly SIP is 50K right now and I also have retirement funds like Superannuation as well.
Ans: It's wonderful to see that you've taken proactive steps towards financial planning and have built a diversified portfolio across various investment avenues. Let's evaluate your current strategy and discuss how it aligns with your future financial goals, particularly your child's education and your retirement.

Assessing Your Current Strategy
PPF and FDs: These investments offer stability and security, but they may not provide optimal returns compared to other investment options over the long term. However, they serve as an essential part of your portfolio for capital preservation and emergency funds.

Mutual Funds: Investing in mutual funds provides diversification across different asset classes and the potential for higher returns compared to traditional fixed-income instruments like PPF and FDs. It's crucial to regularly review the performance of your MFs and ensure they align with your risk tolerance and investment goals.

NPS: The National Pension System (NPS) is a tax-efficient retirement savings scheme that complements other retirement funds like superannuation. It's a long-term investment aimed at building a retirement corpus, and its inclusion in your portfolio demonstrates a forward-looking approach to retirement planning.

Planning for Your Child's Education
Given that your child is one year old, it's essential to start planning for their education and higher studies early. Here are some considerations:

Education Fund: Consider creating a separate education fund or earmarking a portion of your existing investments for your child's education expenses. You can invest in growth-oriented instruments like equity mutual funds to build a corpus that grows over time and can fund their education expenses in the future.

Systematic Investment Plan (SIP): Since you're already investing 50K per month through SIPs, you can allocate a portion of this amount specifically towards your child's education fund. Regular contributions over time can help accumulate a significant corpus by the time your child reaches college age.

Retirement Planning
While you've mentioned having retirement funds like superannuation, it's essential to regularly review your retirement planning strategy to ensure it remains aligned with your retirement goals and lifestyle aspirations. Consider factors such as desired retirement age, expected expenses, inflation, and healthcare costs in your retirement planning process.

Review and Adjustment
Regularly review your investment portfolio and financial goals to make necessary adjustments based on changing life circumstances, market conditions, and investment performance. As your child grows older and your financial goals evolve, you may need to reallocate your investments or adjust your savings and investment strategy accordingly.

Seeking Professional Advice
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who can provide personalized advice tailored to your specific financial situation, goals, and risk tolerance. A CFP can help you create a comprehensive financial plan that addresses your child's education needs, retirement goals, and other financial objectives.

Conclusion
In conclusion, your current investment strategy demonstrates a prudent approach to financial planning, encompassing a mix of conservative and growth-oriented investments. By continuing to save and invest systematically, planning for your child's education, and regularly reviewing your financial plan, you're well-positioned to achieve your long-term financial goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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