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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 26, 2024Hindi
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We got married in 2011 our marriage was not love but also not arranged... it was our both second marriage... I was very much clear about my past marriage & my life with my wife. I hoped that she was clear about hers, we shifted to our own house after 3 years of marriage along with our son. But within 6 months of shifting her friend visited her & she went to other city for vacation with our son for 15 days. Till now everything was fine, but then everything changed she decided for further studies & build her career accordingly to which I welcomed her decision. But when she completed her further studies she started seeing or treating me lowly on various issues. I came to know that she had some past with her friend who came to visit her. First she started telling everyone as I am not highly educated we are having Financial Crisis & she has to leave home & stay in other city to earn. I work in a reputed firm & I am financially stable. After year or so she started accusing me that I am not a good father & irresponsible towards my duties towards my son. After some years she cam back to the city where we lived but shifted to other residence with the support her friend who was with her from the time she went to study. Now my son is 12 years old & I am supporting her with all financial needs, she has left me alone to stay & have cleared me that she will not come back to stay with me as everything is over. I feel cheated what can I do.

Ans: Your marriage, being both your second, likely carried with it hopes for stability and mutual support. It's commendable that you supported your wife in her decision to further her education and build her career. However, it seems that her behavior and treatment towards you changed significantly after she reconnected with her friend and pursued her studies.

The shift in her attitude, accusations, and decision to live separately must be incredibly hurtful and confusing. Feeling accused of being an inadequate father and being told you are financially unstable, despite your stable job, would naturally cause significant emotional distress. Additionally, her move to a different residence with the support of her friend and her declaration that everything is over must feel like a deep betrayal.

Given the current situation, it's important to focus on a few key areas: understanding your legal rights, seeking emotional support, and planning for the future.

First, it's crucial to understand your legal rights and responsibilities, particularly regarding your son and the financial support you're providing. Consulting with a family law attorney can help clarify your position and ensure that you're fulfilling your obligations while protecting your interests. An attorney can also provide guidance on potential steps if you choose to pursue a separation or divorce.

Emotionally, this is a very challenging time, and seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be incredibly beneficial. Professional support can help you process your feelings of betrayal, sadness, and confusion. Therapy can also provide a safe space to explore your emotions and develop strategies to cope with this difficult period.

Your son is another critical aspect of this situation. At 12 years old, he is at a sensitive age, and the changes in the family dynamic likely impact him as well. Ensuring that he feels supported and loved is crucial. Open, honest communication with him, tailored to his age and understanding, can help him navigate his feelings about the situation.

As you move forward, it's important to consider your own well-being and future. Reflect on what you need to feel supported and fulfilled. This might include setting boundaries with your wife, seeking more time with your son, or finding new ways to build your own happiness and stability.

Maintaining a focus on clear communication, legal clarity, and emotional support will help you navigate this difficult situation. It's understandable to feel cheated and hurt, but taking steps to understand your rights, seeking professional support, and planning for the future can provide a path forward. You deserve to find stability and happiness, even amidst these challenging circumstances.

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Mam , I am married since 2000. I have a male child.My wife is a working lady doing Govt. service . Since 2017 I found her behavior towards me & my child has completely changed . She always used to tell lie .She has affair with one of her colleague . She is being completely supported by her family specifically her mother.Without my knowledge she borrowed around 10 lakhs from neighbors of my rented premise at high rate of interest. When the matter come to my knowledge I cleared 7 Lakhs taking loan from Bank . After that she took more loan & left me. Since then , I never inquired about her, never lodge FIR or apply for divorce.I tried to forget her. I have no affair or any mood for remarriage . Rather ,I took care of my child & after rigorous follow up & support , my son cleared NEET & continuing MBBS in Govt. college.My son is aware of everything.He also has no interest towards her mother. In the mean time she has cleared my bank loan & trying to come to me.For this she is pressurizing me.She has no changes.Please suggest what to do.I have no interest towards her.
Ans: Dear Chandra,
It is unfortunate that you have had to go through this. I am sure that you son also has been affected by all of this.
If I understand this correctly, is your wife attempting a reconciliation and wants to have her family back?
If you and your son have a clear decision on not wanting this, I suggest that the three of you meet and hear what she has to say.
Maybe she feels sorry for all that has happened. Hearing her will offer her some respite and also you can convey your decision on not getting back clearly in a respectful way.
Also, your son may or may not want to have a connection with his mother...but give that a chance as well and let them decide that...

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 13, 2023Hindi
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I am married for 23 years .Both me & my wife are doing job.I have one son staying with me. After 17 years of marriage I inquired that my wife has sexual relationship with another man . This has hurt me a lot as she betrayed me . As a result she gave no attention to me , my son and my parents . When I got this information , my wife left my house taking hand loan from neighbors . I never lodged any complain with police or file divorce case , rather I took it challenging. I took proper care of my son .Due to hard work & logistic support from me , my son qualified in NEET & continuing MBBS in Govt. college.As my son has grown up & knows the actual fact ,he dislikes his mother & has no contact with her since long.Gradually we have started forgetting her. After 6 years of staying outside , now my wife is trying to come back again forcefully which we do not want. Therefore I request that please advice me what to do.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the challenging situation you've been through. It's understandable that trust has been broken, and emotions must be complex. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and that of your son during this time. If you feel comfortable, have an open and honest conversation with your wife about the reasons for her return. It's crucial to express your feelings and concerns. It might be helpful to involve a neutral third party, such as a counselor or mediator, to facilitate the conversation. If she continues to pursue a return against your wishes, you may want to consult with a legal professional to understand your options and rights. Given the complexity of your situation, it might be beneficial to seek legal advice to understand your rights and responsibilities. A lawyer can help you explore options and provide guidance on how to proceed. Take into account the well-being and feelings of your son in any decision-making process. His opinion and comfort level should be considered, especially if he has chosen not to maintain contact with his mother. Decisions made under emotional stress might not be the best ones. Give yourself time to reflect, assess the situation, and decide what is in the best interest of you and your son Ultimately, the decision of whether to allow your wife back into your lives is a personal one. Consider what is in the best interests of you and your son, taking into account your own well-being and the well-being of your family.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 15, 2023Hindi
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Hello, I have been married from 15 yrs. I have a 9 yrs old son with me. In oct 21 my wife (age 38) started making REELS on insta of the facial acting. She got involved and told me that she is just doing for followers and like. People used to comment good and bad which i didnt like. She was trying to make young guy friends. In april 2022 she had an affair with a 22-year-old boy who was not even financial stable. I could she changes in her every day. In June 2022 I caught her and she confess that she did affair and also done physical relationship. I had unconditionally loved her all these years and didn’t wanted to let her go. Also, didn’t wanted to hurt my son by taking a divorce. That guy refused to keep my son and their relation broke, but my wife still loved him and missed him. Few months she was in depression and I took her upmost care and swallowed what she did. I just told her that please come back to our life as you were before but she was not getting back. There used to be few quarrels, she was just staying alone within herself and I never felt that love which she used to give me. Later in feb23 there was a marriage at her family and I agree to go with her so she may get that feel during our times and she promised me to enjoy the marriage and make love with me. But she was happy with her relative and didn’t even bother to make that love and affection with me. from that time, I used to get angry and fight with her. I went into depression. In May 2023 she was getting worst and one day fight increased and I asked her to leave my house which I wasn’t intentionally wanted to. She left and went missing 24 yrs and then called from her mom mobile who was in her village, since she didn’t come back home and from last two month, she has been asking me money for herself and says it’s her rights. She doesn’t bother for my son and just show that she loves him. She works and stay with woman from 6 months and I’m looking after my son all alone. I told her u can work but just come home and make things better for my son. Her conditions is to give money security (money) then only she will return. All my family says she is just behind money and doesn’t care what I and my son is going through. She is not guilt for what she did. 15 yrs of marriage has been ruin and now she has no shame at all. She talks rudely if i dont send her money and now I refused sending her. Please advice what do I do now.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You seem to have done a lot to try and get her back. What can you do if she doesn't want to acknowledge your efforts or appreciate what family life is! One would imagine that a child in the equation may bring about a change in heart but that doesn't seem to be the case here at this moment.
Your family members are right in their mind about the way that see your wife as they have been observing how this has impacted you and your son.
Either you wait for her to come to her senses OR simply learn to live life without her. If the outside world of social media is what seems to satisfy her, no matter what you do, she will be dissatisfied and unhappy. This only means that she has to learn and appreciate what she has with you and your son.
It is also possible that she has been disinterested in the marriage for a while now and has been seeking approval and validation from people on social media. Even if this is the case, being angry with you is understandable BUT what about her own child? What makes her not want to deal with that reality? If you need an answer to this, simply WAIT and WATCH without begging her to come back...That will give you an idea as to where her mind is and then decide on the future course...

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 16, 2024Hindi
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Hi , I am a professor mech engineer , after death of my wife and due to having 5 year girl baby I planned for 2 nd marriage as I live alone away from home town because my of job with my little baby . I accepted a widow having 2 child ,she was working in a govt job 250 km away , after ensuring and agreeing her possibility of transfer and job vacancy @govt office near my house and ensuring she agreed that she will come to live with me along with her 2 kids and my little baby as her trasfer was due in comming few months . We lived apart during her job at 250 km away.,while meeting on weekly offs 6 /7 time in 6 months , then she take 360 degree u turn and said she will not get job transfer to my place and get her trasfer in other dept. in same previous office. And started telling many reasons like she will loose her children's inheritance in her in-laws property ,she will loose promotion , kids Don't want trasfer , and said we will live apart forever . This was contradictory to earlier agreed things .and my my purpose to live in family with my baby not fulfilled , so after long ruckus ,I mutually got divorce from her , Then After divorce I decided to marry non working women having no child and don't expect child as I am @48 year old and tired of living alone and managing job ,girl , house chores . I married to a divorcee girl from Pune ,she was BA first year college drop out girl of 44 yr age after 6 months of long dating on week ends . During 6 months I tried to know her indepth but was don't used to talk much as I was trying to know her true nature, we visited many places ,movies . She seemed perfect as per my requirement of girl wanting no child , and she is house wife . after marriage she behave well for 1 st week ,then she started trouble to hate my baby ( became kaikai )on pety things , she want my baby to house chores at the cost of her important year of 10th std study . She don't liked me taking tution of girl , she didn't like if I help my girl any way . She don't like if I spent some money on my girl . She used to fight all night and don't let me sleep . Now she stated demanding that she want baby , though I was against and b4 marriage agreed to not have any more child due to old age ,cost ,and no personal time for self , then I agreed to have child but b4 that I got her and my fertility tested ,she had weak eggs and syst on her reproductive organs and doc warned to not go for pregnancy due to risk and probability of unhealthy baby birth , but she kept repeating That she want child we consulted 4 Drs. She used to fight and go to her mother's home for 2/4 months after living with me for 2/3 days only . Now she wants divorce , and asks me to keep my girl in hostel if I want her in my life . This Ramayan has left me baffled , What should I do ??? .....
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The reason to marry for you mainly has been companionship, a mother for your daughter...
And marriage is not a transaction BUT a meeting of minds...when there is no compatibility, there is no space for agreeing on the same things or wanting to make things work which is possibly what has happened with your 2nd and 3rd marriage.
If you want this marriage to work, there has to be an equal commitment by both of you, so, start by emotionally bonding first. Slowly build on this by making goals for the marriage and the future...your only goal can't be mother for your child...not all women are going to readily accept this and some may even falter along the way. Allow the lady and your daughter to bond together for sometime so they develop a unique relationship...
Understand that transactional relationships do not last; so, invest enough time in building trust in that companionship for it to become something meaningful

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 26, 2025Hindi
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Mere pass Parag Parikh flexicap,Sbi mid cap, axis small cap ,Motilal Oswal midcap and Quant small cap fund hai in sabhi me meri SIP chal rahi hai, abhi Stock market me bahut correction hua hai mujhe lumsum investment karna hai toh inme se kis fund me karu..?
Ans: Investing a lump sum after a market correction can be a good opportunity. However, choosing the right funds requires proper analysis.

Assessing Your Current Portfolio
Flexi-cap fund: This fund invests across large, mid, and small-cap stocks. It provides diversification and stability.

Mid-cap funds: These funds invest in mid-sized companies. They offer high growth potential but come with more volatility.

Small-cap funds: These funds invest in smaller companies. They have the highest return potential but also the highest risk.

Your portfolio already has a mix of flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds. Adding more funds from the same categories may lead to over-diversification.

Factors to Consider Before Investing Lump Sum
Market correction does not mean all stocks are undervalued. Some stocks may still be expensive.

Mid-cap and small-cap funds are volatile. Investing lump sum in these funds can be risky.

If you have a high-risk appetite, invest in small-cap or mid-cap funds. However, avoid putting the entire amount in one fund.

If you want balanced growth, allocate more to flexi-cap funds. These funds can shift between large, mid, and small caps based on market conditions.

Instead of lump sum, consider a systematic transfer plan (STP). This helps in averaging the investment over time.

Where to Invest the Lump Sum?
If you want lower risk: Invest in a flexi-cap fund. It provides stability and long-term growth.

If you want moderate risk: Invest in a mid-cap fund. These funds have strong growth potential.

If you want higher risk and higher returns: Invest in a small-cap fund. However, stay invested for at least 7-10 years.

If you are unsure, split your investment. Invest in a mix of flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.

Final Insights
Your portfolio already has exposure to different categories. Avoid adding too many funds.

A systematic transfer plan (STP) is better than lump sum investment in a volatile market.

Review your risk tolerance before investing in mid-cap and small-cap funds.

If markets fall further, consider staggered investing instead of putting all money at once.

Stay invested for the long term and review your portfolio regularly.

With the right strategy, your investments can grow steadily over time.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

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Iss time pe Flexicap,Midcap and Small Cap mutual funds kisme lumsum investment karna chahiye..?
Ans: Investing in flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap mutual funds through lump sum requires careful analysis. Timing, market conditions, and personal financial goals should be considered before investing.

Understanding Market Conditions
Flexi-cap funds: These funds invest across large, mid, and small-cap stocks. Fund managers have the flexibility to shift allocation based on market trends.

Mid-cap funds: These funds invest in mid-sized companies. They have higher growth potential than large caps but come with more volatility.

Small-cap funds: These funds invest in smaller companies. They offer high return potential but carry the highest risk.

Current Market Scenario: Mid-cap and small-cap stocks have seen strong rallies. Investing through a systematic transfer plan (STP) may be better than a lump sum.

Best Approach for Lump Sum Investment
Avoid investing the entire amount at once. Markets can be volatile, and a sudden drop can impact your returns.

Use a systematic transfer plan (STP). Park the lump sum in a liquid fund and transfer it gradually into equity funds.

Diversify across market caps. Do not invest only in mid-cap and small-cap funds. Flexi-cap funds provide balanced exposure.

Check valuations before investing. If mid-cap and small-cap indices are trading at high valuations, wait for corrections.

Consider your risk tolerance. Mid-cap and small-cap funds are volatile. Invest only if you can stay invested for at least 7-10 years.

Which Category is Suitable for You?
If you want stable growth with lower risk: Invest in flexi-cap funds.

If you can handle moderate risk and aim for higher returns: Invest in mid-cap funds.

If you have a high-risk appetite and a long-term horizon: Invest in small-cap funds.

If markets are at high valuations: Invest in balanced advantage or hybrid funds instead of pure equity funds.

Final Insights
Investing in mid-cap and small-cap funds requires patience. Returns may be volatile in the short term.

A systematic transfer plan (STP) is better than lump sum investment in volatile markets.

Diversify across flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds based on your risk profile.

Review your investments every year and rebalance if needed.

With the right strategy, your investment can grow steadily over time.

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Hi Sir, I have 2 goals - Kindly review my portfolio and let me know if the asset allocation is good to go. Retirement: 10+ years, SIP Value: 15k per month Nippon India Index Nifty 50 growth direct plan - 50% Kotak Nifty Next 50 Index Growth Direct Plan - 15% Motilal Oswal Nifty Midcap 150 Index Fund - Direct Plan - 15% Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund - Direct Plan -20% 7 Year Goal (Education, Marriage and buying car): SIP: 28K per month I am confused which portfolio to proceed for this goal. Can you review and confirm which one is good to proceed. Portfolio 1: Nippon India Index Nifty 50 growth direct plan - 25% Kotak Nifty Next 50 Index Growth Direct Plan - 15% Parag Parikh Flexi Cap direct growth - 20% HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund - Direct Plan - 40% Portfolio 2: Parag Parikh Flexi Cap direct growth - 30% HDFC Flexi cap direct growth - 30% HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund - Direct Plan - 40%
Ans: Your investment approach is structured and goal-based, which is excellent. I will review your portfolio and suggest improvements for better diversification and risk management.

Retirement Portfolio (10+ Years Goal)
Your retirement portfolio has the following allocation:

50% in a Nifty 50 index fund
15% in a Nifty Next 50 index fund
15% in a midcap index fund
20% in a flexi-cap fund
Observations:

Overexposure to index funds: Index funds have limitations, such as being market-cap weighted. This may lead to inefficiencies, especially in volatile markets. Actively managed funds have the potential to outperform index funds.
High allocation to large caps: While large caps provide stability, they may not generate high returns in the long term.
Lack of small-cap exposure: Small caps have the potential for higher returns over a long period.
No international diversification: Adding international equity funds can reduce risk and enhance returns.
Recommended Changes:

Reduce index fund allocation and increase exposure to actively managed funds.
Increase flexi-cap and midcap exposure for better growth potential.
Consider adding a small-cap fund for higher long-term returns.
Allocate a small portion to an international equity fund.
7-Year Goal (Education, Marriage, and Car Purchase)
You are investing Rs 28,000 per month and considering two portfolios.

Portfolio 1:
25% in a Nifty 50 index fund
15% in a Nifty Next 50 index fund
20% in a flexi-cap fund
40% in a balanced advantage fund
Portfolio 2:
30% in a flexi-cap fund
30% in another flexi-cap fund
40% in a balanced advantage fund
Observations:

Index funds are not ideal for short-term goals: Index funds can be highly volatile in a 7-year timeframe. Actively managed funds provide better risk-adjusted returns.
Lack of debt allocation: A 7-year goal needs some debt exposure for stability. Balanced advantage funds offer some protection, but a dedicated debt fund is better.
Overdependence on balanced advantage funds: These funds adjust equity-debt allocation dynamically, but they may not be the best for all market conditions.
Recommended Approach:

Reduce index fund exposure and add actively managed multi-cap and midcap funds.
Allocate at least 20% to high-quality short-duration debt funds for stability.
Consider a hybrid fund that balances equity and debt more effectively.
Final Insights
Your goal-based approach is commendable. Some modifications will improve diversification, stability, and potential returns.

Reduce index fund exposure and add actively managed funds.
Increase exposure to midcap, flexi-cap, and small-cap funds for retirement.
Add a small international equity fund for diversification.
Introduce short-duration debt funds for your 7-year goal.
With these adjustments, your portfolio will be well-balanced and aligned with your goals.

Best Regards,

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I am 24, and I have around 1 lac in pf and 1.5 lac in mutual fund as I am investing around 25k per month, 70% in midcap and 30% in large cap, how to invest to have at least 1 crore before I turn 30?
Ans: You are 24 and already investing well. Your goal of Rs 1 crore before 30 is ambitious. You need the right strategy to achieve it.

Assessing Your Current Investments
You have Rs 1 lakh in PF and Rs 1.5 lakh in mutual funds.

You invest Rs 25,000 per month.

Your portfolio is 70% mid-cap and 30% large-cap.

Strengths in Your Investment Approach
You started early. This gives time for compounding.

You invest regularly. SIPs build discipline.

You have growth-focused funds. Mid-cap funds can give high returns.

Challenges to Achieving Rs 1 Crore in 6 Years
Market volatility. Mid-cap funds fluctuate more.

Time frame is short. Equity needs at least 7-10 years.

High return expectation. Achieving Rs 1 crore in 6 years is difficult.

Steps to Improve Your Strategy
Increase Investment Amount
Rs 25,000 per month may not be enough.

Try to increase it to Rs 35,000–40,000 per month.

Use yearly salary hikes to boost SIPs.

Balance Your Portfolio Better
Mid-caps are good but risky.

Reduce mid-cap exposure to 50%.

Increase large-cap allocation to 40%.

Add 10% flexi-cap funds for stability.

Use Lump Sum Investments
Invest any bonuses, increments, or extra income.

Avoid keeping too much in PF, as equity gives better returns.

Avoid Index Funds and Direct Plans
Index funds cannot outperform markets.

Active funds are managed by experts and can generate better returns.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) for the best selection.

Tax Considerations
LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

STCG is taxed at 20%.

Plan redemptions wisely to save tax.

Finally
Your goal is aggressive but possible with discipline. Increase your SIPs and maintain asset allocation. Invest wisely through Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and MFD. Stay focused, and you can reach your target.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
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Mai 25 sal ka hu 6 sal nokri ho gye army mai shadi nahi ki abi 61000 pay hai samj nahi aa rahi kass investment kru
Ans: I will provide a detailed investment plan for you based on your age, income, and financial situation.

Financial Security Comes First
Emergency Fund: Keep at least 6 months' expenses in a bank FD or liquid mutual fund.

Health Insurance: Even if the army covers you, get a personal Rs 10-20 lakh health policy.

Term Insurance: If you have dependents, buy Rs 1 crore term insurance.

Investment Plan Based on Goals
Short-Term Goals (1-3 Years)
Keep funds in a bank FD or ultra-short-term mutual fund.

This is for urgent needs like a vehicle or course fees.

Medium-Term Goals (3-7 Years)
Invest in balanced mutual funds to grow wealth safely.

These funds balance risk and reward.

Long-Term Goals (7+ Years)
Invest in actively managed equity mutual funds through SIPs.

Choose a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds.

Avoid index funds, as they cannot outperform the market.

Investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and MFD ensures better fund selection.

Asset Allocation for You
50% Equity Mutual Funds (for long-term wealth creation).

20% Balanced Mutual Funds (for medium-term stability).

20% Bank FD or Liquid Funds (for short-term needs).

10% Gold ETF or Sovereign Gold Bonds (for diversification).

Tax Considerations
Equity mutual fund gains above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains taxed at 20%.

Debt fund gains taxed as per your income slab.

FD interest is also taxable.

Finally
You are young and earning well. Start early to build wealth. Follow the right asset allocation. Investing with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) helps avoid mistakes. Stay invested for the long term.

Best Regards,

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Hi I purchased my parents house by paying half amount to my brother and paying a loan of 45k per month now the property value is in good appreciation but lacking in financial stability I want to sell my property now and purchase new property in outskirts of city and want to invest 10 percent in mutual fund and remaining amount to do fd with monthly income is it a good move
Ans: You purchased your parents’ house by paying your brother’s share and taking a loan. Now, the property value has appreciated, but you face financial instability. You are considering selling the house, buying another one on the outskirts, investing 10% in mutual funds, and putting the rest in fixed deposits (FDs) for monthly income. Let’s analyse if this is a good decision.

Financial Challenges of Holding the Current Property
High Loan EMI Pressure

You are paying Rs 45,000 per month as EMI. This is a financial burden if your income is not stable.

Liquidity Issues

Most of your wealth is locked in the property. You may not have enough emergency funds.

Opportunity Cost

The property value has increased, but it does not generate regular income. Holding the house may not be the best financial choice.

Selling and Buying Another Property: Pros and Cons
Advantages of Selling
Debt-Free Life

If you sell, you can clear your home loan. This removes EMI pressure.

Better Financial Stability

You will have liquid funds to manage your expenses and investments.

Disadvantages of Buying Another Property
New Property May Not Appreciate Quickly

Properties in city outskirts may take longer to appreciate. Demand is usually lower.

Additional Costs Involved

Buying a new house involves stamp duty, registration fees, maintenance, and taxes.

Liquidity Issues Continue

If you reinvest in another house, you may again face cash flow problems.

Investment Plan for Better Stability
You are considering investing 10% in mutual funds and putting the rest in FDs for monthly income. Let’s evaluate this plan.

Mutual Fund Investment: A Better Approach
Growth Potential

Mutual funds offer inflation-beating returns over the long term.

Flexibility

You can withdraw through a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) instead of locking funds in an FD.

Tax Efficiency

Long-term capital gains tax on equity funds is only 12.5% above Rs 1.25 lakh. This is better than FD taxation.

Fixed Deposits: Limited Benefits
Lower Returns

FD interest rates are lower than inflation. This reduces your purchasing power over time.

Tax Disadvantage

FD interest is taxed as per your income slab. This reduces your post-tax earnings.

Lack of Growth

FDs do not allow wealth accumulation over time.

Better Strategy for Financial Stability
Sell the Current House to Reduce Debt

This removes EMI stress and improves your financial flexibility.

Avoid Buying Another House Immediately

Instead, rent a house in the desired location. This keeps your money liquid.

Diversify Investment

Allocate a portion to mutual funds for long-term wealth creation.

Keep some funds in short-term debt funds instead of FDs for better tax efficiency.

Maintain an emergency fund in a savings account or liquid funds.

Finally
Selling the house is a good decision if you struggle with financial stability.

Avoid locking funds in another house, as it may cause liquidity issues.

Invest wisely in mutual funds and liquid assets for a balanced financial future.

A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can guide you on tax-efficient investments.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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