My BF is a stalker. It was fun when he used to stalk me because I thought he was genuinely interested in knowing more about me, but now I see him stalking profiles of other women. When I caught him, he dismissed saying Instagram suggested these profiles. I have known him for 4 years but this is one behaviour I am not comfortable at all. What should I do? Should I report him, break up with him? He hasn't misbehaved with anyone but my friend told me that he sent her a request to follow on Instagram. I did my own investigation and found that he has another account on which he follows only women. I am honestly very confused and shocked.

Ans: She's just insecure. If she is not able to realise that she is overstepping, then it's your responsibility as a man to explain her.

If she still doens't, then you have a choice to move on and keep being in this toxic relationship. Sometimes you just can't change the other person.

So weigh the pros and cons and make your decision.

Ans: Ask him - he said he likes you, but have you had a discussion with him on being exclusive.
And how do you know he is on a dating app?
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how exhausting it can be to be constantly doubted when you are not doing anything wrong. Well, your friends’ opinion, while a bit harsh, is not completely wrong. It is a toxic pattern and it needs to be checked if you want to have a healthy relationship. You need to have an open discussion about this with him; tell him how it makes you feel whenever he suspects you of some wrongdoing. Also ask him why does he feel this way so often when every time it is proven that you are loyal to the relationship and him. It is important to understand what is the root cause of this mistrust. This is the only way to move ahead with this relationship and not lose your sanity. If, even after the talk, he continues to exhibit the same behavioural pattern, I would recommend you rethink the relationship because it won’t be an easy life, where you have to constantly prove your innocence. Relationships aren’t based just on love; it needs mutual trust and respect to grow.

Hope this helps.