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Raajp Question by Raajp on Apr 13, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu , This Raaj here this side, I have seen your views on the relationship here on this site . so for that I need your help and your valuable expertise . About myself I am 42 yrs self employed businessman ,I got married in march 2010, it was a arrange marriage . from the day 1 there is a problem and it increases day after day. From the that wedlock I had baby girl . from 2012 situation got worsened matrimonial cases started it continued for next 4-5 yrs . after long battle I got divorced in 2016-17. This divorce cost me a lot , bcoz of that I lost my friends , social stigma, financial lost ( hefty alimony)and lot other problem which are associated with this . Now the main problem comes here , as after my divorce I was not ready to get re marry again but my parents are pressuring mr to get settle again ASAP. After long persuation I said ok …. I started searching my own and parents also started there own . In last 4 yrs I have seen lot of prospects ……..( kissi ko main nahi pasand , kissi ko mera kamm nahi pasand , kissi ko mere parents ke sath rehna nahi pasand …….. kissio ko meri income se problem hai,……………toa kuch mujhe nahi jachi.)there is lot of pressure on me that I should be perfect now after my divorce . after all this I had few good prospects ………….1. she was good but she wasnot happy with my income , she said no to me initially but continued talking and we are still in touch as she moved to Australia in APR 2019.As now we r really very good friends now ,Jab main usme interested tha toa usne na boll diya ………but jab usne dubarra reconsider karke propose kiya toa maine na boll diya. Than in 2020 COVID hits which upsets everybody’s life .360degree . In NOV 2020 I met 1 girl on one of the matrimonial sites ….we shared our details stated talking to each other , she liked me but didn’t responded her positively but continued our talks………in march2021 pata nahi kaise aur kyu …..maine use propose kiya…… maine use milne uske passd gaya ……….we talked …..shared our thoughts ….spend good time ……..but raat ko ghar vapis aa ke maine use NO kar diya . REASON is not known ya kahu toa main darr gaya tha .because of this she also got upst and that makes her depressed. For next 10 days I was so depressed I didn’t had my proper meal ……nothing all. I was in guilt ,that make me depressed for really long . I was only thinking about her only all the time nothing else, On 2nd JULY 21 ko maine pher user message kiya ………. After 2-3 days after my sorry and all that we started talking again. Everything stated good again .now in last week of july 2021 my father got severe heart attack ……and he had a surgery . Now they are pressuring me again that I should get settle soon ……..all my family members and sister and all. Maine Phir usko marriage ke liye tyar kiya aur phir batt ko STOP kar diya . and this tym mujhe gharwalo se aur sab se bahut anbun ho gayi. Ab mujhe samaj aa rahi ki main kya karu . main shaddi to karna chata hoon par kissi pe trust nahi kar pa raha hoon . mere ghar valo ka mujh pe bahut pressure hai . there are some other problem which I would like to disscuss in future . pls help me what should I do , I m feeling helpless . Thanks Raaj

Ans: Dear Raaj,
What is it that you want?
You seem to ready to get into a relationship because your family thinks so, your father had a heart attack and then they pressure you to find a girl to marry.
So, what is it that you want and want to do?
And the possible reason for not striking a chord with the women that you were interacting with. When you have decided what you want, it will show up in your body language, facial gestures and within the conversation. You are possibly still healing from your divorce and are not ready to get into another marriage. So, don't. First, sort your mind out and then think of another relationship.
So kindly, start to think for yourself ignoring what your family tells you. Yes, you need to do that. Family pressure is no reason to get married; of course they mean well and care for you. But, what you want is what matters here.
So, if you want to stop feeling helpless, take charge of your life and do what you think is right for you. Heal from your divorce and think about what you need in another relationship and in your partner. When you ready, then it's time. So, no more helplessness, only strength.

All the best!

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I'M 40 years old man, i have had troubled childhood. I faced abuse from my elder brother who later on developed mental health issues whiich broughg lot of stress to the family. I worked very hard to achieve reasonable professional success but my personal life has been very difficult. I got married with lot of difficulty despite being well placed professionally and decent looks. It was an arranged marriage but things went bad after a year. I caught my wife having an affair with her ex but i fogave her for the sake of myndaugher who was just 1 year old then. She keept on having flings with gym instructor and later on her colleagues which i dont have any proof of. She would humilate me in front of my maid driver and other people. But i wanted ti save my marriage for the sake of my daughter who was only 4-5 years old then. Finally she started asking me for divorce after every trivial fights. Fed up i finally agreed and we separated in 2021 November. During that time i came in contact with my school friend. She proposed to me during our school days but due to stress at home and other issues i said no but i always liked her. When we started talking around December 2021 and we realized we still love each other after 20 years. But problem was though i was divorced she was still married and she is from a different religion. She is trying hard to get separated from her husband but her family being very conservative is not allowing her to do so. I'm stuck with her emotionally. Now my ex-wife has started approaching me for reconciliation. Im totally confused now what should i do? Should i wait for my friend knowing that chances are very slim that her family would leave her. Or should i patch up with my exwife for the sake of my daughter. I dont feel any emotional connection with my exwife now as she was never nice to me. But my parents are telling me to go for patch up. They are nkt aware about my school friend and i doubt they would approve her due to religious beliefs. Pls guide me I'm totally confused. Thanks A confused Homo Sapiens
Ans: Dear Pratik,
At this point in time, choose neither. You need space to clear your head first.
Too many emotional situations to jump into one more...Give yourself time to figure out what is that you want out of life?
Do you want to get into another commitment in a short gap? It could be an attraction on a rebound as well; so take time to figure these things out well before you decide to patch up or wait for your friend.
You deserve this time off, to make sure that you not only heal from the marriage but also put things in perspective.
So no need to bring on a new confusion for the time being till you get strong enough in the mind to decide the next course of your life. Making a choice right now means you will be bringing in more confusions of either of the two women into your life as well. So, PAUSE and take this time...

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Hi , I am Jose. I have a very complicated relationship issue. I loved a girl when I was about 18, she was from a financially better off family. This was a major reason that I hesitated to tell her about my love, instead remained a friend. She was better qualified too. I started working and wanted to be in a financially better situation before I confessed my love for her. In the meanwhile she got herself admitted in a college in the US, I decided to tell her, but was too late, she had already committed herself to her senior in college. We made a promise to each other that we will remain friends. We kept in touch through letters. Then I decided to get married as per the family wishes. Shortly she too got married to her boyfriend . We told our partners about each other. We continued to keep in touch thro email and phone calls once/twice in a year. We would meet once or twice every time she would visit from the US. We never had any physical relationship at the most it would be a peck on the cheek or just holding hands. We immersed ourselves in our personal / professional lives. We had 2 sons with our partners. Now the boys are in their 20's. In the meanwhile she found out her husband was having a relationship with some other woman, in the ensuing arguments it led to their divorce a couple of years back. Since 2021 I had 2 heart attacks, and survived. All these years I never had a happy life , we stayed together due to societal pressures and in the last 2 years we never had a physical relation too. She always had a hatred towards physical relationship. I hate forcing myself on her, so we have remained seperate in the last few years. After my 2nd attack, my friend helped me stop my smoking and somehow our chats on whatsapp or personal meets when she comes here have started becoming very mushy and with a lots of deeply loving words. I know I cannot divorce my wife as I would lose a lot of my immovable properties on which i depend for my rental income as I have actually gifted my wife a lot of my properties. Nowadays I am getting drawn towards my friend again and very strongly. Confused, and not knowing how to proceed. I am no longer working and depend on rentals for my earnings.
Ans: My dear friend,

It sounds like you're in a very complicated situation, and it's understandable that you feel confused and unsure about how to proceed. It's important to take some time to really think about what you want and what's best for you, as well as consider the impact of your actions on those around you.

First, it's important to acknowledge that your friend is currently in a vulnerable position after going through a divorce. While it's natural to feel drawn towards her, it's important to make sure that any actions you take are respectful and considerate of her feelings and needs.

At the same time, it's also important to consider your own needs and desires. You mentioned feeling unhappy in your current relationship and feeling drawn towards your friend again. It's important to really examine those feelings and think about what it is that you want in your life and your relationships.

However, it's also important to consider the potential consequences of your actions. You mentioned that you cannot divorce your wife without losing a significant amount of your income, and that you've already gifted her a lot of your properties. It's important to consider the financial and emotional impact that divorce could have on both you and your wife, as well as any children or other family members who may be affected.

One possible option could be to explore couples therapy or marriage counseling to see if there are ways to improve your current relationship and address the issues that have been causing unhappiness. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your friend about your feelings, but to do so in a way that is respectful and considerate of her feelings and needs as well.

Ultimately, the decision about how to proceed is up to you, but it's important to take the time to really think things through and consider all the potential consequences of your actions.

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Hello Anu Ji, Firstly thank you very much for your valuable time and feedback on problem. Thanks for understanding me & my POV in this small conversation. After so long Its you who had read between the lines .I am really very thankful of you , that you have given me such a lovely advice. But I am bit confused. After reading mail I was really get very positive and optimistic about my decision. I read ur mail 4 times , I got a positive ray of hope with lot of confusion comes with it . You said “You are possibly still healing from your divorce and are not ready to get into another marriage.” Yes this is the question. Its almost 7 years why I can’t be able to overcome from that dilemma and trauma which I got in past . You said “First, sort your mind out and then think of another relationship” , yes another question what should I sort it down and how ? You said “ what is it that you want and want to do?” this the problem which is not letting me move on.bcoz of this I am so much confused I can’t express you in word . I am not able to understand my wants ……………there is a Cat- Rat Race from Head to heart………from Heart to head all day. In simple words its (Kashmakash). You know ……….. I also want to get married, I want a companion …partner with whom I want to share my emotions, joy’s,……..happiness….etc., I want kids , I want to go for long drives , outings , dance with my wife , and lot of other small big things in my mind, which I was not able to do in past marriage. I want someone, to whom I can share my feeling when I am low. I am strong enough to take care of myself but u know … You need someone who say’s “Don’t worry Allz be well, I am with you “. But for this I have to Trust the other person that’s the thing I Am unable to do it . I don’t know why, I don’t Trust anybody now? why I am creating a vicious circle about trust .? You said one thing very beautiful “So, if you want to stop feeling helpless, take charge of your life and do what you think is right for you” these words really touched my heart .thanks for the encouragement and the words of strength. I really need it very badly. These words give me a new direction to think and bit of strength to my POV. Please forgive me about my English language ……. I am not very good at it and may be you find few thing repetitive and irritating. Pls ignore it . Hoping that I am able convey my POV and feelings of my problem so that u can easily understand…….and on that basis you give Your valuable feedback and advice. Thanks R@@J
Ans: Dear Raaj,
Thank you for your kind words.
The follow-up questions that you have asked me requires a deep-dive introspection from you. You have very clearly and intelligently come up with these questions which is difficult to do when in a problem. But you have managed to do that. So congratulations on taking the first step!

To clarify, always clear any remnants from the previous relationship before you begin a new one. Also, any relationship including marriage is something never to be entered into to please anyone. Do this only when you are ready and there is no need to give into any pressure. Your longing for a companion is sweet but as I have mentioned, ask all these questions to yourself and reflect.
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And yes, the day you learn to love yourself again, you will find it easier to trust again and that's why I said: Heal first...and then think of a companion. Without that trust, you will be playing a game again and it will not end well.
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I took VRS and my age is 51. I have invested my terminal benefit of nearly 90 lacs mostly in bank FD with monthly payout. I also get monthly pension of Rs. 60000 and rent of Rs 10000. My monthly expense is limited to 40000. My daughter is pursuing MSc and has 3 years to complete. I have recently started SIP for 10000 per month consulting a financial advisor. The funds are Mahindra manulife aggressive hybrid reg growth-3000, Samco flexicap reg G-2000, Whiteoak capital banking financial service reg G-3000, Whiteoak capital largecap reg G-2000. My goal is to make my corpus 2-3 crores in next 10 years.
Ans: Congratulations on your retirement and taking steps towards financial planning for the future. It's wonderful that you have a clear goal in mind and are actively investing to achieve it.

With your terminal benefit invested mainly in bank FDs with monthly payout, along with a steady monthly pension and rental income, you have a reliable income stream to cover your expenses and support your daughter's education.

Starting SIPs in mutual funds is a smart move to grow your wealth over the long term. Your choice of funds reflects a diversified approach, covering different market segments and investment styles. It's essential to monitor the performance of these funds regularly and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards your financial goals.

Your goal of reaching a corpus of 2-3 crores in the next 10 years is ambitious but achievable with disciplined saving and investing. Given your current investments and income sources, along with your SIP contributions, it's important to ensure that your investment strategy aligns with your risk tolerance and time horizon.

Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to review your overall financial plan, assess your risk profile, and make any necessary adjustments to optimize your investment strategy. They can provide personalized guidance to help you achieve your financial goals while maintaining financial security and peace of mind.

Continue to stay focused on your goals, and with prudent financial management, you can build a substantial corpus for a comfortable and secure future.

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Iam 41 years earning 32000 pm and after TDS getting 29484 my dad is giving 15000 and interest on fd for 320000 at 7.75 % and personal interest for loan provided for5 lakh is 17500 fd interest and loan interest varies dad's is temporary have rd investment of total 260000 which matures in August ,2024 ppf 230000 sbi pension investment retire smart plan of 500000 I can either avail pension lifelong or lumpsum return before 25 years completion in another 2 years afterwards at 8.1 interest if pension or if lumpsum the fund value gold and silver and residential property which iam currently living in my expenses are about 10000 or so depends I have lic endowment paid till now for about 7.5 years 50000 pa needed to be paid for another 7.5 years if continued maturity amount will be 12 lakh. In commercial property I will get increment upto every 5 years for about 25 years and at 25th year it will be around 57000 at 66 th year which is fixed and then it would be the rent at that point what is prevailing in that area now I want to know what I need to invest and is it sufficient for my retirement and how much more I should make and salary varies as jobs are not permanent so request to guide as iam interested in travelling and need about 30 lakhs or so for all this starting at this age for about another 5 to 6 years taking about 4 lakhs pa to cover up 1 abroad location
Ans: Given your financial situation and aspirations, it's essential to devise a comprehensive retirement plan that addresses your income, expenses, investments, and retirement goals.

Starting with your income, considering your monthly salary of 29,484 after TDS, along with the additional support from your father and interest income from FDs and loans provided, you have a steady income stream.

Your investments, including RD, PPF, SBI pension investment, LIC endowment, and commercial property, provide a diversified portfolio. However, it's crucial to evaluate each investment's performance, risk, and suitability for your retirement goals.

Regarding your expenses, with an estimated monthly expense of 10,000, it's important to factor in inflation and potential lifestyle changes in retirement. Planning for contingencies and unexpected expenses is prudent.

To assess if your current investments are sufficient for retirement, consider your retirement goals, including travel expenses. With a target of 30 lakhs for travel over the next 5-6 years, it's essential to calculate the required investment amount to achieve this goal within the specified timeframe.

Since your salary varies due to the nature of your job, it's advisable to create a buffer or emergency fund to cover any income fluctuations or unforeseen expenses.

Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized insights and recommendations tailored to your financial situation, retirement goals, and risk tolerance. They can help you optimize your investment strategy, identify potential gaps, and create a roadmap for achieving your retirement aspirations.

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Hi. I am ready to invest 5-6k per month. I have selected few mutual fund schemes like quant active fund, quant mid cap, icici retirement fund. I am planning this for long term like 5-20 yrs. Kindly help me with the best mutual fund schemes.
Ans: Certainly, selecting the right mutual fund schemes is crucial for achieving your long-term financial goals. Let's evaluate the schemes you've chosen and suggest some additional options:

Quant Active Fund: This fund follows an active investment strategy, aiming to outperform the market by selecting stocks based on quantitative analysis. While active funds can potentially generate higher returns, they also come with higher expense ratios and manager risk. Keep an eye on its performance relative to its benchmark and peers.
Quant Mid Cap Fund: Mid-cap funds invest in companies with medium market capitalization, offering growth potential but with higher risk compared to large-cap funds. Quant Mid Cap Fund's performance may fluctuate with market conditions, so ensure it aligns with your risk tolerance and investment horizon.
ICICI Retirement Fund: Retirement funds are designed to provide a suitable asset allocation based on your retirement age. ICICI Retirement Fund offers different options based on your risk appetite and retirement horizon. Evaluate its suitability based on your retirement goals and risk tolerance.

Considering your long-term investment horizon, it's crucial to maintain a diversified portfolio aligned with your risk tolerance and financial goals. Regular review and rebalancing are essential to adapt to evolving market dynamics.

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Hello Sir, please review & advise on my mutual fund portfolio. SIP of 5000 each in UTI Nifty 50 index fund, Parag Parikh flexicap, Quant flexi cap & 3000 each in ICICI Midcap 150 index fund & Kotak large 7 midcap fund. All Started since 4 months, current age 42 & can do SIP for 2-3 years & plan to keep the accumulated amount as it is for next 5 years. I have some investments in equity shares(25%), SGB(25%) & FD's(50%) as well. Expecting to retire in next 6-7 years. Thanks
Ans: Your mutual fund portfolio appears to be well-diversified across different categories, offering exposure to large-cap, flexi-cap, and mid-cap segments. Let's delve into some insights and recommendations:
1. UTI Nifty 50 Index Fund: Investing in an index fund tracking the Nifty 50 provides broad exposure to India's top 50 companies. It's a reliable choice for long-term wealth accumulation, especially considering its low expense ratio and consistent performance.
2. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund: This fund follows a flexible investment approach, allowing it to invest across market capitalizations. Its global diversification and focus on quality stocks make it suitable for investors seeking a balanced approach to wealth creation.
3. Quant Flexi Cap Fund: Flexi-cap funds offer the flexibility to invest across market segments based on market conditions. However, Quant Flexi Cap Fund's performance may vary due to its quantitative investment approach. Keep an eye on its performance relative to peers.
4. ICICI Midcap 150 Index Fund: Mid-cap funds have the potential for higher returns but come with increased volatility. Investing in a mid-cap index fund like ICICI Midcap 150 can provide exposure to mid-sized companies while mitigating individual stock risk.
5. Kotak Large & Midcap Fund: This fund combines investments in both large and mid-cap stocks, offering diversification across market segments. It's crucial to monitor the fund's performance and ensure it aligns with your investment objectives.
Active vs. Passive Management:
While you've included both actively managed mutual funds and index funds (ETFs) in your portfolio, it's important to understand the differences between the two. Actively managed funds aim to outperform the market through active stock selection and portfolio management, while index funds passively track a specific index's performance.
Benefits of Actively Managed Funds:
Actively managed funds offer the potential for higher returns compared to index funds, especially during market inefficiencies or when skilled fund managers can identify lucrative investment opportunities. Additionally, active management allows for flexibility in portfolio construction and adjustments based on market conditions.
Potential Disadvantages of Index Funds:
While index funds offer low expense ratios and broad market exposure, they may lack the potential for outperformance compared to actively managed funds. Additionally, they're subject to tracking error, which occurs when the fund's performance deviates from the index it's designed to replicate.
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Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized guidance tailored to your financial situation and retirement aspirations.
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Hi Advait, I hope you're doing well. I have a question that I think you might be able to assist me with. I'm 52 years old and currently need to plan for my children's education expenses. My elder child's education is ongoing and requires 10 lakhs, while my younger child will require 30 lakhs in two years. Here's a breakdown of my investments: Stocks, Mutual Funds, and Portfolio Management Services amount to 2.6 crores, and I have 40 lakhs in my Provident Fund. I also receive a monthly rent of 2 lakhs. If I estimate my monthly expenses at 1 lakh, do you think I can retire comfortably with this corpus? In the worst-case scenario, I can liquidate one of my properties, which could yield 3 crores. Ideally, I would like to retire without touching my real estate investments. My life expectancy is 85 years. Additionally, I have medical insurance coverage of 12 lakhs plus a top-up of 90 lakhs. I plan to travel twice a year during retirement, with an estimated expenditure of 1.5-2 lakhs per year. I would appreciate your insights on this matter. Thank you, Geo
Ans: Hello Geo, I'm doing well, thank you for asking. It sounds like you have several factors to consider in your retirement planning, especially regarding your children's education expenses and your retirement goals.

With your investments totaling 2.6 crores in stocks, mutual funds, and portfolio management services, along with 40 lakhs in your Provident Fund and a monthly rent of 2 lakhs, you seem to have built a substantial corpus for retirement. Additionally, having the option to liquidate one of your properties for 3 crores provides flexibility in case of unforeseen circumstances.

Considering your monthly expenses of 1 lakh, your retirement income from investments and rental income should comfortably cover your basic needs. Your medical insurance coverage also seems robust, which is crucial for maintaining financial security during retirement.

However, it's essential to account for inflation and potential fluctuations in investment returns. While your current investments may suffice for your retirement needs, periodic reassessment and adjustments may be necessary to ensure your financial security throughout retirement.

Regarding your children's education expenses, it's commendable that you've earmarked funds for their education. By carefully planning the timing and allocation of these expenses, you can minimize the impact on your retirement corpus.

Your estimated travel expenses during retirement are reasonable and can be accommodated within your budget.

Overall, with prudent financial management and careful planning, it seems feasible for you to retire comfortably without touching your real estate investments. However, consulting with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized insights and recommendations tailored to your specific financial situation and goals.

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Hello Sir Currently I am 34 years old working in software career. My monthly in hand salary is 1.7 L. I have home loan of 39 Lakhs with 8 years tenure and another top up home loan of 5 Lakhs. Also I have 4 Lakhs used car loan. Also I have recently invested Rs 2lakhs in tata motors share @ Rs 960. I am investing in tata AIA fortune plus plan with Rs 12k / month. I have around 7 Lakhs rupees in pf account. My monthy expenses are below - Home Expense - Rs 60k Home loan emi - 60k Home loan top up emi - 10k Other emi - 10k Investment in tata AIA - 12k Please help me to close all these loans and want to retire in age 50 with the 6 lakhs / month on that time. Or 30 cr corpus at age of 50.
Ans: Given your goals of becoming debt-free and retiring comfortably by age 50 with either a monthly income of 6 lakhs or a corpus of 30 crores, it's crucial to devise a strategic financial plan.

Firstly, let's address your loans. With a total outstanding home loan of 44 lakhs and a car loan of 4 lakhs, your monthly EMIs sum up to 140k. Your current monthly expenses are 142k, leaving little room for savings.

Considering your 7 lakhs in the PF account, utilizing a portion of it to reduce your high-interest loans can be beneficial. However, completely depleting your PF may not be advisable due to its impact on retirement savings.

Refinancing your loans to lower interest rates or increasing your income through side hustles could help manage the debt burden. Redirecting a portion of your monthly expenses towards loan repayment can also accelerate the process.

Now, regarding your investments, while Tata AIA Fortune Plus Plan can provide returns, it's essential to ensure that your insurance needs are adequately met separately. Avoid mixing investments with insurance to optimize both aspects.

For retirement planning, achieving a monthly income of 6 lakhs at age 50 or accumulating a corpus of 30 crores necessitates a disciplined approach. You may need to increase your investment contributions substantially and explore diverse investment avenues to achieve such ambitious targets.

Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized guidance tailored to your financial situation and goals. They can help structure a comprehensive financial plan encompassing debt management, investment strategies, and retirement planning.

Remember, achieving financial freedom requires dedication, patience, and informed decision-making. Stay committed to your goals, and with prudent financial management, you can realize your aspirations.

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I have a home loan pending 11 lacs in 6 yrs and car loan pending 3 lacs, my current saving is 0 and total monthly emi around 35000. Should I draw around 6-7 lacs from epf account and do downpayment ?
Ans: Given your situation, it's understandable to seek ways to manage your loans effectively. Drawing from your EPF account can seem like a tempting option to make a substantial down payment. However, it's crucial to assess the long-term implications before making a decision.

Taking a significant chunk from your EPF can impact your retirement savings. It's like borrowing from your future self. While it may alleviate immediate financial strain, it could compromise your financial security later on.

Consider the interest rates of your home and car loans. If the interest on these loans is higher than what your EPF is earning, it might make sense to prioritize paying off those loans gradually rather than depleting your EPF savings.

Moreover, exhausting your EPF prematurely means missing out on potential compounding growth. This growth could significantly augment your retirement corpus over time.

Exploring alternative strategies to manage your loans, like restructuring your EMIs or increasing your income, could be more sustainable approaches. It might require some adjustments, but it's crucial to protect your long-term financial well-being.

Remember, financial decisions should align with your overall goals and priorities. While it's essential to address immediate concerns, it's equally vital to safeguard your future financial stability.

I encourage you to consult with a Certified Financial Planner to devise a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your needs and aspirations.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Hi, I have another 5 years to reach retirement. I have my own house, a plot worth Rs.50 Lakhs, 1 crore in Fixed Deposit, Rs.500,000 invested in mutual fund. I have no loans and my present savings per month is Rs.225,000 tax free. I have a wife and two sons. One son is settled and another son is still in college level. Want to know how much more funds are required to lead a decent retired life after 5 years. I am physically fit to work for another 10 years.
Ans: It's great to hear about your proactive approach towards retirement planning. Let's assess your current financial position and estimate the funds required for a comfortable retired life after 5 years:
1. Existing Assets:
• Own house and a plot worth Rs. 50 lakhs: These assets provide stability and potential for appreciation over time.
• Fixed Deposit of 1 crore: Offers liquidity and stability in your portfolio.
• Mutual fund investment of Rs. 5 lakhs: Provides diversification and growth potential.
2. Monthly Savings:
• Your tax-free savings of Rs. 2,25,000 per month are impressive and will contribute significantly towards building your retirement corpus.
3. Future Expenses:
• Consider your anticipated expenses post-retirement, including living expenses, healthcare, travel, and other leisure activities.
• Estimate your children's education and marriage expenses if any.
4. Income Sources in Retirement:
• Assess your expected income sources in retirement, such as pension, rental income, interest from investments, and any other sources.
5. Gap Analysis:
• Calculate the shortfall between your estimated expenses in retirement and your expected income sources.
• Determine how much additional funds you need to bridge this gap.
Given your current financial assets, monthly savings, and future income sources, it seems you're well-positioned for a comfortable retired life. However, it's essential to consider inflation and potential healthcare expenses in retirement.
As a Certified Financial Planner, I recommend consulting with a professional to conduct a detailed analysis of your retirement needs and develop a customized financial plan. They can help you determine the additional funds required and suggest suitable investment strategies to achieve your retirement goals.
By continuing your disciplined savings approach and investing wisely, you can ensure a financially secure and fulfilling retired life for you and your family.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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My returns from MFs during last 7-8 years have been about 10% CAGR. Does it make sense to shift to 2-3 ELSS funds by SIP in next 3-5 years?
Ans: It's impressive to hear about your consistent returns from mutual funds over the past several years. A 10% CAGR is indeed a commendable achievement and reflects your prudent investment decisions.

Considering your investment horizon of 3-5 years, shifting to 2-3 ELSS funds by SIP can be a strategic move. Here's an evaluation of this approach:

• ELSS funds offer the dual benefit of tax savings under Section 80C and potential wealth creation through equity investments.
• By diversifying your portfolio across multiple ELSS funds, you can spread your risk and potentially enhance your returns.
• SIPs in ELSS funds allow you to invest systematically, taking advantage of rupee-cost averaging and reducing the impact of market volatility.

However, it's essential to consider a few factors before making this shift:
• ELSS funds have a lock-in period of 3 years, which may affect liquidity if you need to access funds before that period.
• Ensure that ELSS funds align with your risk tolerance and investment objectives. They predominantly invest in equities, which can be volatile in the short term.

As a Certified Financial Planner, I recommend conducting a comprehensive review of your financial goals, risk tolerance, and investment strategy before making any changes to your portfolio. Seek professional advice to ensure that your investment decisions are in line with your overall financial plan.

Remember, the key to successful investing is to stay informed, stay disciplined, and seek guidance when needed.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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