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Oh my dear, why are you being so unkind to yourself? It takes two to tango!
Maybe, you realize that you have been taking him for granted, but hey, there’s an expiry date to punishing yourself over it.
Once you know, it’s time to work on your relationship and that certainly doesn’t mean being harsh.
This could also lead you to feel victimised and not be a very favourable mindset. Instead, what if you get to the root of the challenge at hand?
Here’s a few reality check questions. It might give you a chance to go back to the drawing board and reevaluate your relationship with a fresh pair of eyes.
What is causing me to have that temper?
What usually triggers the arguments?
What did I see in my partner when I chose him to be my significant half?
Do I still see the same in him even now or has it changed? If yes, what has changed? Am I willing to adapt to the change?
What causes me to be afraid of him moving on? Am I in a co-dependent relationship?
What will happen to me if he moves on?
Why is important for me to put so much energy into changing myself? Is it for myself or to keep him from moving on?
You get the drift?
You can add to these questions and give your mind an alternate way of processing things into a solution space.
Having said this; it’s time to give yourself some love too, no matter what, prioritize yourself and create some mind space to reevaluate where you are to where you want to be.
Happy 2022 and best wishes!
You have left out one very important piece of information. Do you and your wife live with your mother and sisters?
I know in-laws are a bone of contention in most households at some point, but it comes to such an extreme only when people are forced to cohabitate with them. And if this is the case, you need to change the living arrangements pronto.
Never mind whether your wife is right or your family is right; if you want to save your marriage and improve relations between your family and your wife, move out. Immediately.
I’d like you to write in again and tell me exactly what’s going on. And this is for both of you -- if you don’t let go of the past and forgive each other’s past mistakes, you’ll never move forward.
The idea is not to repeat them and fall into old patterns of behaviour.
You need to make a promise to each other that, when having a discussion, neither will rake up past fights unless they have an extreme bearing on the current scenario.
Time to bring in that wise conversation, that will be open, vocal and honest.
Tell her how you feel; wait for her to respond without judging or demanding.
Also, ask yourself if you are being possessive and jealous and if your imagination is leading you to be insecure!
Whatever it is, do sit down and have that frank discussion with her before you decide one way or the other. Communication does solve a lot of things; so please use it wisely.
All the best!