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Diksha Question by Diksha on Apr 10, 2023Hindi
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Mam, my boyfriend doesn't reply me, what should I do, we had a fight from last 2 days

Ans: Some people take time to get over their anger. Give him a cool-off period of a couple of days with no contact. Then you can always let him know that you’re not going to wait endlessly for him to descend from his ivory tower, and if he milks it too much you’ll just break things off permanently. And if that’s what he’s trying to do, the least he can do is tell you like a mature individual, not a brat who doesn’t reply.

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Hi ma'am, something happened between me and my boyfriend as usual fights. His parents misunderstood him and me as well that I've gotten sick due to our fights and that he left me halfway through my house, which he didn't. And due a lot more misunderstandings he's parents have developed bit of a rage against me and they are blackmailing him to not try to Contact or call me or else they'd end their lives and he is scared cause he is an only child. Even if he wishes and tries to reach me he cannot because of his parents. What can be done in this situation. Now i don't understand shall i wait for him to come back or just move on. Since we haven't met or spoken for the last time. I haven't heard anything from him and his parents are saying he doesn't want to talk to anyone.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do not waste your time...his parents and then him; you will constantly be in a stressful spot convincing either one of them that you are the person. If your boyfriend also feels the same as you about the relationship, then he will do something to support you.
If he doesn't and all that is becoming your job, then seriously do not waste any more time on this. And if he really wanted, he would have found a way of reaching out to you.
The very fact that you haven't heard much from him is a huge red flag. Focus on yourself and better people who respect you and your love will come along...
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Hii mam, since i year i am in relationship with him but nowadays fighting are increased in between both of us so what we should do and we both are responsible for the fight cause we both over react for small things
Ans: It’s common for fights to increase in a relationship when emotions are high and both partners overreact to small issues. This pattern often stems from unresolved emotions, stress, or a lack of effective communication. The good news is that recognizing this dynamic means you're already taking the first step toward improvement.

Start by reflecting on the triggers for your arguments. Think about what situations or topics usually lead to conflicts and whether they arise from unmet needs, miscommunications, or external stressors. Understanding the root causes can help you both address the real issues rather than reacting to the surface level.

When emotions run high, it’s easy to say or do things in the heat of the moment that you later regret. To prevent this, both of you can practice pausing during disagreements. Agree on a signal or phrase to use when things start to escalate, giving each other space to cool down before continuing the conversation. This approach allows you to respond calmly rather than reacting impulsively.

Another important step is to focus on improving how you communicate. Instead of placing blame or using accusatory language, express your feelings using "I" statements. For example, say, "I feel hurt when this happens" instead of "You always do this." This small shift can reduce defensiveness and encourage understanding.

It’s also crucial to nurture the positive aspects of your relationship. Make time for activities that you both enjoy and that bring you closer, whether it’s a shared hobby, a walk, or simply having an uninterrupted conversation. These moments of connection can help balance out the tension from disagreements.

Finally, remember that resolving conflicts takes patience and teamwork. It’s not about determining who’s right or wrong but about finding solutions that work for both of you. If you feel stuck or find that the fights are becoming overwhelming, consider seeking guidance from a counselor or therapist. A neutral third party can help you both understand your patterns and develop healthier ways to handle conflicts, ensuring the relationship grows stronger.

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Before my birthday came me and my boyfriend used to talk very romantically and was obsessed with eachother ..he was planning something special for my birthday as surprise present for me but I didn't knew about this ..later he asked me for a night stay with him on my birthday as he's also leaving for his home from his hostel on the next very day of my birthday but due to some family reason I couldn't make time for him on my birthday and i cancelled it because I had to idea of him planning something special for me...From that day he's upset with me and is not talking to me properly I even apologized him so many times and he didn't even meet me before going home..and now he's in his home for 10 days ahead...some days back he told me that his parents is little bit strict so it will be tough for him to have phone calls with me infront of them so he won't be able to make time for me to talk in his home and i understood it...now he's not even picking up my calls and his reply takes 7-8 hours to respond and is still upset with me ...i don't what should I do now i somehow feel like he's lose interested in me and finding someone else or he's really busy spending time with his parents as he's away from his home for year.
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Give him the benefit of the doubt; maybe he is prioritizing his parents- like you mentioned, he is visiting home after a year. It is also possible that he is trying to do what you did to him on your birthday- you chose your family over him and now he's doing the same. But all of these are theories and it isn't fair to assume. If you have a strong gut feeling that he is ignoring you intentionally, then express your concerns verbally. You will get some clarity from his answer and tone.

Coming to your birthday chaos, I understand he might have been hurt because you couldn't make time for him. But what's done is done and you have said your quota of sorries too. You can only apologize genuinely so many times; after that, it is just forced. Let him cool down, things might get better on their own. But if it doesn't, just talk to him. Communication is important in a relationship.

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Hello I'm 35 years old i hv 15months old baby. I have completed my mbbs course from abroad and not clear fmge exam yet. Difficult to focused on preparing for fmge exam handling baby husband and join family. I get frustrated depressed anger comes all the time.ibeck then I was ambitious girl but now lack of confidence lack in everything. So what carrier to choose from now? Can I restart with any course or what to do very confusing. My life is over now. There's no respect those who don't earn. Pl give me good advice so that I can bring better future for my baby
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