Mam, my boyfriend doesn't reply me, what should I do, we had a fight from last 2 days

Ans: Dear Helen,
I have answered this question of yours yesterday.
You can find it by clicking on this link below:
https://gurus.rediff.com/question/question-details/5136075

Best wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do not waste your time...his parents and then him; you will constantly be in a stressful spot convincing either one of them that you are the person. If your boyfriend also feels the same as you about the relationship, then he will do something to support you.
If he doesn't and all that is becoming your job, then seriously do not waste any more time on this. And if he really wanted, he would have found a way of reaching out to you.
The very fact that you haven't heard much from him is a huge red flag. Focus on yourself and better people who respect you and your love will come along...
(My suggestions are only under the assumption that you and your boyfriend are above the age of 18 and 21 respectively).

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Sometimes people are truly busy in their work place especially if they have meetings of deadlines coming up. But, if you are feeling that your partner can put a little more effort and reply to your messages, you are not wrong. If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, do not ignore it. Talk to him directly. Tell him that you do not appreciate the way he is acting. There is nothing wrong in standing up for what you think you deserve. And as a matter of fact, you do not deserve to feel this way in a relationship. Talk about it.

Best Wishes.

Ans: It’s common for fights to increase in a relationship when emotions are high and both partners overreact to small issues. This pattern often stems from unresolved emotions, stress, or a lack of effective communication. The good news is that recognizing this dynamic means you're already taking the first step toward improvement.

Start by reflecting on the triggers for your arguments. Think about what situations or topics usually lead to conflicts and whether they arise from unmet needs, miscommunications, or external stressors. Understanding the root causes can help you both address the real issues rather than reacting to the surface level.

When emotions run high, it’s easy to say or do things in the heat of the moment that you later regret. To prevent this, both of you can practice pausing during disagreements. Agree on a signal or phrase to use when things start to escalate, giving each other space to cool down before continuing the conversation. This approach allows you to respond calmly rather than reacting impulsively.

Another important step is to focus on improving how you communicate. Instead of placing blame or using accusatory language, express your feelings using "I" statements. For example, say, "I feel hurt when this happens" instead of "You always do this." This small shift can reduce defensiveness and encourage understanding.

It’s also crucial to nurture the positive aspects of your relationship. Make time for activities that you both enjoy and that bring you closer, whether it’s a shared hobby, a walk, or simply having an uninterrupted conversation. These moments of connection can help balance out the tension from disagreements.

Finally, remember that resolving conflicts takes patience and teamwork. It’s not about determining who’s right or wrong but about finding solutions that work for both of you. If you feel stuck or find that the fights are becoming overwhelming, consider seeking guidance from a counselor or therapist. A neutral third party can help you both understand your patterns and develop healthier ways to handle conflicts, ensuring the relationship grows stronger.

Ans: Dear Anshu,
I am really sorry that you are in such a situation. Please tell him how sad it makes you feel. Sometimes our partners don’t realise that their actions are hurting us, and hence, communicating our feelings is very important in a relationship. Tell him that you feel hurt that he only speaks to you when he is in some problem. See if he changes his ways or continues to do the same. This way, you are giving him a chance before judging him or reconsidering the relationship.

If he changes, then great. If not, I would suggest you rethink the relationship or have another direct conversation, because you don’t deserve to be treated like this.

Hope this helps.