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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 12, 2023

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
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CYRIL Question by CYRIL on Jun 09, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu, I am 50 years, Divorced, No Kids, I live with my Mom, I am afraid to enter in to any relationships because of my past experience and now i am lonely and lost. Please suggest what to do ?

Ans: Dear Cyril,
Do past experiences define your present? If that's the way that you have accepted it, that is what has caused you to be where you are now.

If I were to assume that you your divorce has what has made you not explore it ever again after that, haven't you done great dis-service to yourself?
Why generalize that it will repeat or that all relationships might be the same as before?
For anything new to take place, the old thoughts might be replaced...give yourself that chance at exploring a new relationship. I am sure that your Mom will support you on your newer ways of thinking about relationships. Put your best foot forward and look forward to inviting something new and different. It takes that one small step...
PONDER:
One relationship gone sour DOES NOT mean that all future ones will end the same way
INSTEAD
One relationship gone sour CAN mean that you now know better what relationships can be like

A small tweak can create wonders...

All the best!

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