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Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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Question by Mohammad on May 23, 2024Hindi

Dear Anu..I am 46 yr old, MS (Mech. Engg.) and been working in a stable job for 15 years now. However, am facing lots of hurdles currently in getting my employment contract renewed or so. I have been doing this current job of mine for the past 15 years now. I have become a bit insensitive to the things happening around me and it's difficult to imagine myself in jobless position in a months' time or so. That way, I find myself in rather precarious situation in prioritizing my future plans as of now, as I have been in a comfort zone for years. Either to opt for Foreign Immigration to AUS/CAN or UK, or hit the right professional job in India. I am married with three kids, grades 10, 6 and 1 respectively and any misstep of mine can jeopardize their well being and this very thought is dragging me into the "indecisiveness" mode.. Kindly advise, Thanks..Faheem

Ans: Dear Mohammad,
Sometimes you need to take a step back and observe what is happening to you, around you and for you.
Do these things fill in what you want from life? If NO, then it's about time you reevaluate what you have been doing so far as the results are not what you want.

Prioritize work goals and ways of achieving them - this will give you an idea whether a relocation makes sense at this time or later or whenever. And oh well, comfort zone keeps you safe BUT does it fuel your goals or help you achieve them...NO...so, time to get comfortable being outside the comfort zone which will enable to think different and do something different and hence change the outcome of your life...makes sense here?

Step back and drop down what you want out of life...see if all that you are doing aligns with it...If not, be prepared to change...decide and make that decision work for you...Comfort Zone keeps you comfortable but nothing great happens sitting there.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Question by BT - Dec 20, 2022Hindi

Hello Anu, I need your advice related to my career.I am at the age of 52 and have been working from the age of 24. Till date haven't been a successful employee.I have been changing jobs on and off just for the betterment of my career and moreover my family.Recently I had been to Africa for job and was not satisfied with the company working and culture.At the start of the job and after landing at Africa the scene was good and later on everything changed and I had to forcefully leave the country. Currently I have moved to Rajkot and also have purchased a flat of own with EMI options. My son and my daughter are very helpful and have assured me not to be tensed and they are always there to take care and will clear off the EMI liability.Please advise me as to what should I do to have a stable career.

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Dear BT,

It’s nice that your children have assured you, but this may not allow them to go ahead with their lives.

Maybe it’s time for you to take a step back and evaluate what exactly happens at each job or assignment.

You may never be able to change your external environment, but certainly you can change the way you think or act on it.

Are you being hasty and changing jobs because of high expectations from the job or an ideal work environment?

At times, it takes a lot of resilience to stick with challenges and pressures from the top management to thrive in a work scenario.

Now that you are back in India and have begun to reflect on what is going on, maybe it’s time to look at other working options.

After the pandemic, hybrid and work from home models are becoming widely accepted ways of delivering job responsibilities.

Also, you may want to look at Freelancing if your field of expertise can make this option lucrative for you.

You can also look at consulting which given your span of career may also be a good career option.

Whatever you choose, challenges are going to a part of it.

I can only suggest that you work on a mindset change and treat these challenges as growth paths else you will continue to feel sorry for yourself and forget that: Change from within for a better outcome is the only thing that lets you sail through challenges and makes you a well-rounded person.

All the best!

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