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Mohammad Question by Mohammad on May 23, 2024Hindi
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Dear Anu..I am 46 yr old, MS (Mech. Engg.) and been working in a stable job for 15 years now. However, am facing lots of hurdles currently in getting my employment contract renewed or so. I have been doing this current job of mine for the past 15 years now. I have become a bit insensitive to the things happening around me and it's difficult to imagine myself in jobless position in a months' time or so. That way, I find myself in rather precarious situation in prioritizing my future plans as of now, as I have been in a comfort zone for years. Either to opt for Foreign Immigration to AUS/CAN or UK, or hit the right professional job in India. I am married with three kids, grades 10, 6 and 1 respectively and any misstep of mine can jeopardize their well being and this very thought is dragging me into the "indecisiveness" mode.. Kindly advise, Thanks..Faheem

Ans: Dear Mohammad,
Sometimes you need to take a step back and observe what is happening to you, around you and for you.
Do these things fill in what you want from life? If NO, then it's about time you reevaluate what you have been doing so far as the results are not what you want.

Prioritize work goals and ways of achieving them - this will give you an idea whether a relocation makes sense at this time or later or whenever. And oh well, comfort zone keeps you safe BUT does it fuel your goals or help you achieve them...NO...so, time to get comfortable being outside the comfort zone which will enable to think different and do something different and hence change the outcome of your life...makes sense here?

Step back and drop down what you want out of life...see if all that you are doing aligns with it...If not, be prepared to change...decide and make that decision work for you...Comfort Zone keeps you comfortable but nothing great happens sitting there.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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It’s nice that your children have assured you, but this may not allow them to go ahead with their lives.

Maybe it’s time for you to take a step back and evaluate what exactly happens at each job or assignment.

You may never be able to change your external environment, but certainly you can change the way you think or act on it.

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Now that you are back in India and have begun to reflect on what is going on, maybe it’s time to look at other working options.

After the pandemic, hybrid and work from home models are becoming widely accepted ways of delivering job responsibilities.

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You can also look at consulting which given your span of career may also be a good career option.

Whatever you choose, challenges are going to a part of it.

I can only suggest that you work on a mindset change and treat these challenges as growth paths else you will continue to feel sorry for yourself and forget that: Change from within for a better outcome is the only thing that lets you sail through challenges and makes you a well-rounded person.

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