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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 20, 2022

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Hello Anu, I need your advice related to my career.
I am at the age of 52 and have been working from the age of 24. Till date haven't been a successful employee.
I have been changing jobs on and off just for the betterment of my career and moreover my family.
Recently I had been to Africa for job and was not satisfied with the company working and culture.
At the start of the job and after landing at Africa the scene was good and later on everything changed and I had to forcefully leave the country.
Currently I have moved to Rajkot and also have purchased a flat of own with EMI options.
My son and my daughter are very helpful and have assured me not to be tensed and they are always there to take care and will clear off the EMI liability.
Please advise me as to what should I do to have a stable career.

Ans:

Dear BT,

It’s nice that your children have assured you, but this may not allow them to go ahead with their lives.

Maybe it’s time for you to take a step back and evaluate what exactly happens at each job or assignment.

You may never be able to change your external environment, but certainly you can change the way you think or act on it.

Are you being hasty and changing jobs because of high expectations from the job or an ideal work environment?

At times, it takes a lot of resilience to stick with challenges and pressures from the top management to thrive in a work scenario.

Now that you are back in India and have begun to reflect on what is going on, maybe it’s time to look at other working options.

After the pandemic, hybrid and work from home models are becoming widely accepted ways of delivering job responsibilities.

Also, you may want to look at Freelancing if your field of expertise can make this option lucrative for you.

You can also look at consulting which given your span of career may also be a good career option.

Whatever you choose, challenges are going to a part of it.

I can only suggest that you work on a mindset change and treat these challenges as growth paths else you will continue to feel sorry for yourself and forget that: Change from within for a better outcome is the only thing that lets you sail through challenges and makes you a well-rounded person.

All the best!

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Dear sir /Madam My name is Bisal from West Bengal.I m35 years old.I did normaly Plain graduate honours degree.I had experience with automobile sector and others field. I have keen interest on automobile sector.but currently last 5 years i engaged my profession with government sponser low income duty as a civic volunteer in west bengal that jobs neither increase salary nor promotion and we also used for leading party duty under police department and also pressurized filthy language by senior officer. I have decided many times to quit this job but friends family told me that is government job little bit pressure but still secure job for 60 years of age..but now i m feeling very depressed about my career sometimes i think can switch the job and learning automobile engineering and started new career or others locals job.. therefore i requested you to guide me as soon as possible.. because i marrying soon and therefore no cance to move .
Ans: Career transitions at age 35 are increasingly common and successful in India, particularly when transitioning from stressful government positions to passion-aligned sectors. The automobile industry in India is experiencing significant growth, with the EV sector projected to expand at 20% CAGR (compound annual growth rate) through 2030, creating substantial employment opportunities for mid-career professionals with technical qualifications.?
Option 1: Short-Term Diploma/Certificate in Automobile Technology (Recommended). Timeline: 6-12 months | Investment: INR 50,000–1.5 lakh | Salary Trajectory: INR 2–4.5 LPA immediately; INR 5–8 LPA within 3 years. This route is your fastest, most practical path given marriage timelines. Rather than pursuing a full 4-year B.Tech, enroll in a Polytechnic Diploma in Automobile Engineering or Certificate courses in EV Technology or Automotive Repair & Maintenance (available as 6-month accelerated programs across West Bengal institutions). Your existing work experience and administrative background provide maturity that employers value—essential for employment at 35+.? WBengal's automobile industry actively recruits EV technicians, automotive service advisors, and mechanics. CCurrent job postings in Kolkata and Hooghly offer monthly positions for diploma-qualified technicians with salaries ranging from INR 9,000 to 25,000. Major employers include Cummins Inc., Bhandari Automotive, and emerging EV manufacturers in Chunchura. Government initiatives like PM-KAUSHAL VIKAS YOJANA and NASSCOM's skill development programs offer mentorship and potential startup funding (up to INR 2–5 lakhs) for establishing small service-based businesses post-employment.? Option 2: Lateral Entry into Automotive Service Management. Timeline: Immediate (3–6 months) | Investment: Minimal (INR 10,000 for certification) | Salary: INR 4–6 LPA; management roles: INR 8–12 LPA within 3 years. Your five years of government administration, stakeholder management, and civic volunteer experience represent directly transferable skills for managing automotive dealerships and service centers. Companies like Maruti Suzuki, Hyundai, and Toyota actively recruit managers with administrative discipline and operational expertise.?
Complete an online ISO automotive certification or 6-8 week basic automotive management course (INR 5,000–15,000). West Bengal dealerships currently recruit for Service Managers and Automotive Service Advisors positions. This pathway allows faster salary growth while you simultaneously explore entrepreneurship—dealership partnerships or authorized service centers become feasible within 3–5 years of management experience.?
Option 3: Hybrid Approach—Immediate Income + Skill Development. Timeline: Immediate | Investment: INR 30,000–50,000 | Income: INR 2–4 LPA while studying; scaling to 5–8 LPA post-diploma. Begin freelance automotive consulting or digital marketing for automobile dealers (2–3 hours daily) via platforms like Upwork, Fiverr, and LinkedIn while enrolling in part-time or weekend diploma programs. This generates supplementary income before marriage while building your professional portfolio and funding your education.?
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Addressing Mental Health—Essential Priority: YOur depression and workplace stress require immediate professional attention rather than postponement. PPlatforms like Click2Pro, TalkToAngel, and Manochikitsa offer online career therapy combined with mental health counseling for INR 500–1,500 per session, with many providing structured 4–6 week packages specifically designed to address career-transition anxiety. Professional guidance clarifies decision confidence before marriage discussions and ensures psychological resilience during transition.? Recommendation: Pursue Option 1 (Diploma) + Option 3 (hybrid income) simultaneously. Please consider enrolling in a short-term diploma starting next month, generating supplementary freelance income immediately, and exploring government startup schemes. This integrated strategy: maintains financial stability during marriage preparation, positions you for INR 5–8 LPA roles within 18–24 months, and establishes a practical pathway toward entrepreneurial goals within 3–5 years post-marriage. Simultaneously, seek professional mental health counseling to address depression and enhance psychological clarity for the significant life decisions that lie ahead. Accordingly, it would be prudent to maintain your current employment until you have thoroughly evaluated and committed to one of the three pathways outlined and are confident of achieving sustainable career satisfaction and financial stability. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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