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 I'm a 31 year old male who has been looking for a matrimonial match since start of mid 2019. Have talked to many girls and nothing has materialised till now. However, I was still hopeful to find someone until this December 2021. I was talking to a girl since October and met her in December. I really liked her and was starting to get some feelings for her. She seemed like the perfect match to me from every aspect. But after couple of meeting, she decided not to proceed further. I have been trying really hard to move over but unable to since it seems like I won't be able to find anyone as perfect as her.
What is further adding to the hopelessness is that I am not able to forgive my mom and sister for not giving me the right amount of space before meeting her. Just one week before meeting her, we had shifted to our own house and lot of my energy was spent in the interior work. I wanted to relax and rejuvenate for one week before I meet her but was laden with avoidable housework. I feel like I would have still been fine with the rejection if I had felt my 100% while meeting her but now I'm filled with regret of how things might have been different if I would have got that one week of relaxation. I feel like I'm stuck in a prison at home where I just don't feel like talking to them but their face is a constant reminder of that instance.

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Dear PC, oh, so the girl rejecting you is because you weren’t relaxed and rejuvenated and that your mother and sister are responsible for that?

Obviously, I am sure you had a choice even on the day of meeting her in order to postpone the meeting with a polite reason conveyed.

How do you know that you were not your 100%? Just because you were rejected? Could it not be that she had a genuine reason to not want to proceed?

Externalising your disappointment and blaming others for it, isn’t a sign of healthy emotional maturity.

You do know that your mother and sister are not your enemies and surely have your best interests in mind. Rather than focusing on what they should have done, can you focus on what you can do next?

Crying over the past, isn’t going to change it but looking at what you can do at this very moment may help you be in a better mind space to meet your life partner.

Best wishes to you!

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Hello Sir or Madam. Please keep me as anonymous only. Let me tell my story. I am 29 now. Work for an MNC for the past six years. From middle class family with big circle. Before going to speak out on my problem, let me tell my nature, how I was brought up, studies and attitude. Since we are middle class family with no financial crisis, I never seen ups and downs in Life accordingly. In the case of studies, I was topper at all levels of education till MBA from reputed institute. I was like love is trash n waste of time. When I used to hear all love stories, I used to feel pity on them. But I did maintain very good relationship with many, many girls (not GF type). But now I am going through the hell just because of one girl whom I was forcibly loved her and later I addicted to her with true love. During COVID I had to go WFH for two years. She visited her granny’s house and stayed back for few weeks. They live in Bangalore. I have never seen her face or noticed her during the time when she stayed. But she noticed, observed and enquired about me. So once she left to Bangalore, she sent FB request and I accepted. Immediately we have exchanged numbers and started texting ‘n’ talking. Initially I rejected her since she is eight years junior to me. Later she emotionally told once as she lost her father very recently and she just don’t want to go into depression again if I reject her. I got convinced and started loving truly. I replaced her father in her life which she used to tell. One day, she got caught by her brother while she was on call with me. Since we belong to different castes, they rejected me. She got house arrested. There was no connection between us. First time in life I fell into depression. I lost my job after just three weeks when she got separated from me. I was unable to speak anyone in the world. My family ‘n’ circle was afraid as I may do harm to myself for her. On December 16, 2021, I tried to commit suicide by writing a letter in laptop to her telling how I was missing her ‘n’ needed her. Took print and left to railway track to die. I took alcohol and was on the track. Someone rescued me and took me to hometown from Bangalore with PAN card address which was in my purse. Every day I was losing hope on my life. Finally I got call from her number in the first week of Jan. I was happy and cried like anything with her on call. She told that she would never leave me alone whatever happens ‘n’ who ever tries to separate us. Again, I took my energy ‘n’ hopes back and started job searching. There was 1 month gap again until Feb 8, 2022. After that she used to call me whenever it is possible. From March 15 to March 31, she kept fighting with me over call and spoken mercilessly. There was no kindness or love or concern on me. Again, I lost hope on my life. She kept asking me to stay away from her. She knew that I cannot initiate contact from my end, since she only should do whenever she able to do. Day by day, I am losing interest on my Life. I left the job. Now I’m alone with her thoughts and words spoken by her. My family n circle knew all this drama what’s going on. They hate me for losing self-respect for a girl. But I have never seen that girl as a girl. I am addicted to alcohol, day ‘n’ night drinking and surviving. I knew she won’t come back if I ruin my life like this by drinking ‘n’ all. But I just can’t control myself over her. The promises which she made me were gone... But still I stand for her, for what I promised. I begged the girl like anything not to leave me alone. I just can’t digest that she won’t be no more for me. N number of the times I used to tell her that You are my first priority over all in my life, like family, siblings, money, career and what not. Most of the times I told her that I’ll commit suicide for you if I come to know that you are not there for me. It doesn’t mean that I am an emotional fool who does not know how to live or unable to get another girl. But you have such significance in my life. I elaborated as much as I can. But she never listened me. I am just wonder where was her sweet words ‘n’ promises, what’s the reality now? I am upset with me -- where was original me and who I am now without self-respect. My parents ‘n’ siblings are forcing me to give up on her. As per them, she is just a golddigger and cheater without love and trust... My mind n heart never ever forgets her. Don’t know the future. But many times I pray God to kill me in sleep itself without pain so I can reach Venkateshwara... Entire world is against that girl, but I am defending her at every passing moment. Human beings invented many amazing things. My wish is we should be available with tablets or injection which can erase memories which belongs to particular person or for particular time in life... The real enemy to the human beings is LOVE.... Finally I am just waiting for my death... I knew that she won’t realise even if I die also. But I should sleep forever and ever just because for the crime I did love her.... Dear Bujji, it’s for you. I am also a human being as like U. As like your mother, even my mother has given birth to me. Finally, no words.... I am alone... Memories are hunting me.... chasing me... Love Guru, please publish this story as it is. Because someone may going through hell with similar story at least they will read the Q&A as well. Love Guru... I hate me... I do have all with me -- good health, 21 LPA job now, stabilised family and friends ‘n’ family circle... But this bloody struggling to get her love amongst the 7 billion people on this Earth... Love Guru, I feel that I lost. I am feeling low... I got cheated by her... Finally I am nothing to her. Dear readers, don’t think that why this fool is suffering for a girl like this.... I have seen her my GODDESS... Thank you... Have a nice day…
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You’ve needlessly wound yourself up over a silly girl.

You don’t even sound like you’ve had a physical relationship, it was only long distance, so what are you getting so out of joint for? A few intimate conversations with someone who said one thing but meant another?

If things in your life are spiralling so much out of control, I’d suggest therapy.

Stop drinking before it becomes a real problem. It sounds like you’re doing this to yourself deliberately, so that you receive some attention from her.

But the more you do this, the worse the situation will get. And no woman wants an out-of-control, desperate, alcoholic lover!

For heavens’ sake, man, get a hold of yourself and, if you can’t, then get the professional help you need. 

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My name is 'X' and I belong to a middle class family. Right now, I am 46 and my marriage was solemnised about 10 yrs back. It was a totally arranged marriage would like to state here that I didn't like the girl or her appearance right from the start. I am a teacher by profession and my mother wanted her would be daughter- in law to have a similar background that is like that of a teacher. Initially, I was hesitant to marry this girl selected by my parents, but then I consented to the marriage thinking that whatever my elders and my parents had thought about my future would be the correct decision related to my life. Moreover, everybody had started to say that the girl would suit me. But right from the 1st day of marriage, I started resenting the relationship. Nothing happened between us on the 1st night of marriage. The girl didn't have any specific faults, but somehow she didn't appear to be attractive at all for me. The colour of her skin was dark, maybe I wanted a fair skinned girl. Finally, the situation came to such an extent that she, in collusion with her family, lodged a false case of domestic violence against us because they felt that the girl was unfairly neglected by me. They also wanted to derive unfair financial gain at my parents and my cost. The case continued for 7 years and ultimately we won it. And now, after many years, I have once again started to feel that I should marry even though I am of advanced age. I want a partner who is attractive, beautiful and above all, who is so matured in her outlook that after marriage, we will not even care for any petty issues and not fight over silly matters. I am also taking the help of Shaadi.com in this matter through all the attractive membership schemes launched by them. Now, at this juncture, I really need your advice as to whether I should proceed forward and take this step at my age. This is moreso because as a life partner, I want an elite kind of girl who is far above the kind of girl which we see in most common middle-class societies. I do not want to disclose my name.
Ans: Dear KS, before you proceed on this journey of finding a life partner for yourself, it is time to rework your strong beliefs on appearance, skin colour etc.

What went wrong with your first marriage maybe anybody’s guess, but there’s no judging here!

Not that, you were coerced into it; you fully know you always had the option of saying you didn’t want to marry the girl.

Yet, you went ahead convincing yourself that your family knew what they were doing for you.

The unfair financial gain that they wanted might have been a direct result of the unfair treatment from you towards their daughter.

Did that occur to you?

You say you want a life partner who will not rake up petty issues and be matured as well, don’t you feel that is what she will expect from you as well?

Since I don’t have the details, it would be unfair of me to presume anymore on this.

It was to simply turn your head towards how your old-fashioned thinking might step into your next marriage as well?

How would you feel if on the first night in your next marriage, your wife comments on your physical appearance or your performance in bed?

Are you going to walk around with a high self-esteem even after that?

Let’s now lead you to a place that can make it a beautiful experience for you…

So much has changed and I truly wish that you look at your spouse for what she can add into your life instead of harping on what she doesn’t possess?

I mean, as humans the flaws that we walk around, if it were pointed to us on a daily basis, it would depress us to a point that we may end up feeling that we are not good enough.

What I would suggest after having worked with couples over years helping them rebuild their marriages is to change your way of thinking and embrace the next person for who she is once you know your initial check boxes have been ticked that might involve matching value systems.

This helps in rooting your marriage on a strong foundation; rain or storm, the two of you will be smiling and holding hands to walk the journey together.

Wishing you a beautiful life!

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Hello Anu, Hope you are doing well. PLEASE HELP ME. I have never had a girlfriend.I am a 31 yr old guy with so many things that changed me so badly and I am just aggressive than before. Today I am writing you this as I am in a complete anxiety situation that I don't know where to start from. I don't know how safe it is to share here but I wish to still share with you.So this scamdemic ruined it all.A girl entered my life and now acts like female Devdas.Sometimes she says I'm just a friend. Sometimes she craves to meet me.First let me tell you my personal life issue.I got married in 2016 but it didn't last more than year. I got married in January and in April 2017 my life changed. It was an arranged marriage. The girl was new and I was happy. In April, she left me with her parents and in October she got married. Later, I found out that she married her past love. But they blamed me and I went into depression for almost 6 months. Today after almost after 5 years I am in the same scenario. The girl I am getting married to is arranged through relatives. She is nice, simple and down to earth but still there is this anxiety.My first marriage was also arranged through relatives so I am having the same anxiety. I faced several rejections for no reason. I don’t drink or smoke and wanted to go for love marriage but in my case it never worked.Before meeting this girl whom I am about to marry I was in touch with another girl who was not ready for marriage. Now suddenly she is acting like a female Devdas. When I asked her out, she took me for granted and now suddenly she is feeling broken so I am in a fix. I don't know if this second arranged marriage attempt will go down well. My engagement will be on the same date as of marriage so I don't know what to do.Please help me come out of this dilemma as I am having so much guilt and pain deep inside.
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Dear AB,

Any obsession to make it something happen is going to only make you run around in circles.

Is it possible for you take a step back and take a breather?

When we don’t chase things or people, they come to us.

Focus on your second marriage that’s about to happen instead of focusing on the girl who seems to be acting like a ‘devdas’.

But are you in a position to mentally and emotionally to get into a commitment like marriage?

The new girl will come into your life with a whole new set of expectations.

What I understand from what you have shared is that you want the second marriage to happen differently from the first one.

Then why are you making a reference of the girl who is acting like she has been wronged by you?

Are you ready for the marriage?

Please get into it only when you are sure that you can move past your experiences with the earlier partner/s. Else you will be projecting your emotions onto the new partner and get into a loop of doubts all over again.

Be wise; all the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 18, 2023Hindi
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Hello Anu, I hope you are doing well. I am going through a very strange problem in my life. Anu, I am 39 years old male and unmarried. I lost my father in Jan 2021 and currently live with my mother. Since I was always skeptical about marriage, I never married till this age and this got my parents worried. However, after my dad passed away and upon a constant pressure from my mother as well, I realized I should give up my stubbornness and should get married and settle down in life. I am a proud straight guy but surprisingly I never had the courage to talk to girl and make a girlfriend as well. Infact, I never ever had a physical relation as well with any female so far in my life. Because of these things, I refrained from getting married. In April 2022, a girl from jeevansathi (Miss J) approached me and we had a family meeting. In those days, I was in discussion with one more girl(Miss H). But this girl from jeevansathi really caught my eye. When I had a discussion with my mother as to which one to finally go for, Miss J or Miss H, she insisted on Miss H as she was working and wanted to work after marriage as well. Miss H, who I met earlier was more career-oriented, practical towards life and wanted to work after marriage as well. Miss J, on the other hand was pursuing a course in astrology, was more conservative, and was in fact physically also more appealing than Miss H. Miss J only had 2 conditions, she wanted no pressure in terms of asking her to work after marriage and wanted to have a low-budget marriage in a temple. I agreed to these. My Mom said that since Miss H is working and will bring in money, you should keep her as your first preference. We met Miss H in March 2022. However, we were yet to hear from them in terms of proceeding further with the matrimony. This is where it all went wrong. Miss J's parents approached us very soon after the family meeting and wanted to come to our home. But since we had Miss H as our first preference, we made an excuse that we need some time to think and decide. But believe me Anu, I gradually developed a special liking for Miss J as our tastes and habits matched quite a lot and her physical appearance also appealed to me. Since we were not hearing from Miss H, my mother called her family and asked when they would like to visit us, but they told that Miss H thinks that your boy needs a homemaker which will not suite her. We then discussed to finally approach Miss J, inspite of her asking for becoming a homemaker, as I got interested in her. On 24 April 2022, my mother called Miss J and asked her family to visit our home. She told that she would convey this message to her mother. But till evening, we did not received any call back. We tried back her number but it was not connecting. I suspected she blocked us. Curiously, I also checked her jeevansathi ID, and shockingly, she blocked my ID as well. Since I was deeply interested in marrying her, I went to meet her brother in his office but I didn't told him that his sister has blocked my Jeevansathi ID and phone number. He talked very humbly to me and told him that I agree to all the conditions and would like to go ahead. He said that he will discuss the same when he will go home today. In evening, I got the message that they will connect with us after June 2022 once her exams get over. It sounded strange to me as a family meeting can still happen as exams are still good 2 months away. But I acknowledged his response positively, wished Miss J all the best in preparation and started waiting patiently for the 2 months to get over. These developments happened on 27th april 2022. 28th april 2022 passed nicely. Now, the bomb explodes. On 29th April 2022, Miss J called my mom and started talking very furiously and rudely, complaining about my visit to his brother despite of her blocking us and also told my mom that we are liars and we are actually looking for a working girl. The whole episode came to a very bitter and abrupt end and I was really shocked with her behavior. I then tried contacting her brother too but he didn't replied. But I did send a whatsapp message making him aware about his sister's unruly behaviour towards my mom. But no response was received. But Anu, It's been 9 months and I can't really forget her. I checked her jeevansathi account but it is now coming as deleted from the site, which most probably means that she must have got married by now. Anu, you will not believe, I surrendered myself completely to her both mentally and physically (it is hard for a male to surrender physically to one women Anu) and vowed that she will be the first and the last women of my life. I believe I loved her soul more than her body and she could have been the perfect life partner for me. This was the first time Anu, you will not believe, I developed a very positive attitude towards the institution of marriage and wanted to really give everything into the relationship for a prosperous life ahead. Anu, I feel pretty depressed with this foolish act of mine and my mother of not inviting her parents else the story could have been very different. I am just finding it hard to live with this lifelong regret of not marrying her. Also, since I am 39 now, I am hardly getting any offers for marriage and whatever girls I have met after Miss J, are genuinely no where near her. My mom loves me a lot and can't see me in this situation. Although I am trying hard to live with this regret, somewhere I still feel very much attached with Miss J. Anu, sometimes, I cry silently and pray to Krishna and Radhey maa to help me live atleast till my mother is alive. Anu, this regret is gradually deteriorating me and I am now deciding to remain single through out my life. I feel even if I marry someone, It will be my body which will marry but my soul will not. That's why I don't want to destroy someone's else life as I have no right to do so. Awaiting your valuable thoughts. Hare Krishna !!
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Let's split the issue at hand here distinctively into two areas.
1. Confusion as to what you want in a partner in marriage
2. Misplaced emotions stemming from a decision not made by you

First, make sure you know what you are looking for in a partner. Your post/email suggests to me that you haven't been able to figure out Miss J and Miss H, working or not-working...Both the ladies has mentioned this to you separately which means they have spotted the confusion as well.

This is bound to push a woman away as she would want her life partner to be sure of what he wants in a marriage. Being on a marriage portal, make sure your profile reflects what you want and that is indeed what you want. You cannot go back and confuse yourself and the person who shows interest in you.
So, first take time off to go back to the drawing board and list down what you want in your life partner.
Next, in arranged marriages, the families involvement is going to be heavier right from the first go. So make sure that the core value systems of both families are similar before choosing to proceed with an alliance. Social media matches are not the truth; there is no fairy tale stories of 'happily ever after'. So clarity first and if you need to rework the profile on the matrimonial site, then please do so.

Now, how on earth did you place so much on time and emotion on a woman that you possibly met once? Did she promise to marry you? Isn't it your own doing of actually letting your heart loose and having feelings for someone who under no circumstances made any commitment to you? So, now letting yourself believe that it's not possible to find anyone else, is something that you are fooling yourself with. Pick yourself up NOW. There's a world out there and am sure there's someone out there for you as well.

Pursue this time with clarity and with that you will understand when the matters of the heart can come to knock. So, you are not destroying anyone else's life but you are certainly destroying your peace of mind over this. Time to dust it off...

All the best!

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Hello sir, I want to invest some amount of money from my salary about 7000-8000 per month to meet my short term goals like marriage and buying a car in a horizon of 4-5 years , I am already invested in Mutual funds and Stocks for meeting my long term goal .My current age is 25 ,kindly suggest me some strategies for short term invest of 5 years.
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Assessing Your Short-Term Goals
With a horizon of 4-5 years, your objectives of funding a marriage and buying a car require a conservative investment approach to minimize risk while aiming for reasonable returns. Let's explore suitable strategies to meet these goals effectively.

1. Debt Mutual Funds
Consider allocating a portion of your monthly investment towards debt mutual funds, which offer stability and relatively lower risk compared to equity investments. Opt for short to medium duration debt funds or dynamic bond funds that provide potential for higher returns than traditional fixed deposits.

2. Recurring Deposits (RDs)
Investing in Recurring Deposits (RDs) can be a simple and convenient option to accumulate funds for short-term goals. RDs offer fixed returns with the flexibility of monthly contributions, allowing you to build a corpus gradually over time.

3. Liquid or Ultra Short-Term Funds
Liquid funds or ultra-short-term funds are suitable for parking your short-term savings, offering liquidity and stability. These funds invest in short-term debt securities, providing potential for higher returns than traditional savings accounts while maintaining capital preservation.

4. Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) in Balanced Funds
Consider investing in SIPs in balanced funds, which offer a mix of equity and debt exposure, balancing growth potential with downside protection. Balanced funds can provide stability during market fluctuations while aiming for reasonable returns over the medium term.

5. Goal-Based Investing
Segment your short-term goals, such as marriage and car purchase, and allocate investments accordingly. Determine the required amount for each goal and set up separate investment accounts or portfolios to track progress towards achieving them.

6. Regular Review and Adjustment
Periodically review your investment strategy and make adjustments based on changing market conditions, goal timelines, and personal circumstances. Consider reallocating funds between investment options to optimize returns and manage risk effectively.

Conclusion
By diversifying your investments across debt mutual funds, RDs, liquid or ultra-short-term funds, and SIPs in balanced funds, you can create a robust short-term investment strategy to achieve your goals within the 4-5 year horizon. Stay disciplined in your savings approach and monitor your progress regularly to ensure you're on track to meet your objectives.

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Hi, My age is 37 years and need suggestion if my investment strategy is correct .I dont have specific plans for withdrawal,However looking to save for my kids higher education and comfortable retirement. Currently my monthly investment is distributed as below: i) 130000 SIP in Mutual Fund ( Large Cap 50% : a)DSP equal weight Index fund b)Canara Rob Bluechip C) SBI Contra Midcap 25%: a) Motilal mid b) Quant Mid Smallcap 15%: a) Quant Small b) Canara Rob small Misc. fund 10%: a) ICICI Nasdaq b) Edelweiss Gold+Silver I do step up in SIP based = salary increment I get. ii) 12700 in NPS iii) 40000 in FD instead of debt fund iv) 12000 to PPF 50000 every year in NPS for additional tax saving. Additionally I am already have mutual fund accumulation value of 60 Lakhs (XIRR 21%) and 12lakhs in direct stocks. Term life insurance of 50lakhs. Together with me ,I have one 9year old son and wife living together with my parents. I have no investment in real estate as had very bad experience in past . Staying in parental home. Everyone says one should have real estate investment which currently i dont hav. Please advice about my investment strategy for next 13 years till I reach 50 years of age.
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Comprehensive Portfolio Review
Your diversified investment portfolio reflects a prudent approach towards achieving your financial objectives of funding your children's education and securing a comfortable retirement. Let's assess each component to ensure alignment with your goals and risk tolerance.

Mutual Fund SIPs Allocation
Your allocation to mutual fund SIPs across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap categories is well-diversified, aiming for growth potential while managing risk. Consider periodically reviewing fund performance and rebalancing your portfolio to maintain optimal asset allocation.

National Pension System (NPS) Contributions
Continuing NPS contributions provide tax benefits and long-term retirement savings. Evaluate the suitability of your NPS investment strategy based on your risk profile and retirement goals. Consider adjusting your asset allocation within the NPS to align with your overall portfolio.

Fixed Deposits vs. Debt Funds
Reassess the rationale for allocating funds to Fixed Deposits instead of debt mutual funds. Debt funds offer potentially higher returns and tax efficiency compared to FDs. Evaluate your risk appetite and liquidity needs to determine the optimal allocation between fixed income instruments.

Public Provident Fund (PPF) Contributions
PPF contributions provide tax benefits and long-term wealth accumulation. Evaluate whether the current allocation aligns with your overall asset allocation strategy and consider maximizing contributions to leverage the tax advantages and potential compounding benefits.

Additional NPS Contributions for Tax Saving
Contributing 50,000 annually to NPS for tax savings is beneficial, but ensure it aligns with your retirement goals and risk profile. Evaluate the impact of additional NPS contributions on your overall portfolio diversification and consider alternative tax-saving options if necessary.

Risk Management and Insurance
Your term life insurance coverage provides financial protection for your family. Consider reviewing your insurance needs periodically to ensure adequate coverage based on your evolving financial situation and responsibilities.

Real Estate Investment Consideration
While real estate can be a valuable asset class, your past negative experience warrants caution. Evaluate alternative investment avenues that offer diversification, liquidity, and potential returns aligned with your risk tolerance and long-term goals.

Seeking Professional Guidance
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to conduct a comprehensive review of your investment strategy. A CFP can provide personalized recommendations, optimize your portfolio, and align your investments with your financial objectives and risk tolerance.

Conclusion
By regularly reviewing and optimizing your investment strategy, you can enhance the probability of achieving your financial goals over the next 13 years. Stay disciplined in your savings and investment approach, and seek professional guidance to navigate market dynamics and optimize portfolio performance.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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I am 34 years old living with my Parents, my wife and 3 yr old Son, I have invested around 75L through various FDs and Post office schemes, currently having a house loan of 45L for which I am paying EMI 35000 and extra amount each month around 25000 for past two years, planning to start to invest in SIP by this year to plan my retirement when I reach 50 years of age Could anyone please guide me for this. Currently having monthly salary 70,000 in hand.
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Assessing Your Current Financial Situation
At 34, you've demonstrated prudent financial habits by investing in FDs and Post Office schemes, along with diligently repaying your housing loan through regular EMIs and additional payments. With a stable monthly salary of 70,000 and a family to support, it's wise to plan for your long-term financial security.

Prioritizing Retirement Planning
Starting SIPs for retirement planning is a commendable step towards securing your financial future. Aim to allocate a portion of your monthly income towards equity-oriented mutual funds through SIPs to harness the power of compounding over the long term.

Determining Retirement Corpus
Calculate your desired retirement corpus based on your lifestyle expenses, inflation, and retirement age target of 50. Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to determine the appropriate corpus required to maintain your desired standard of living post-retirement.

Choosing Suitable Mutual Funds
Select a mix of equity mutual funds that align with your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial goals. Diversify your portfolio across large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-cap funds to balance risk and potential returns. Monitor fund performance regularly and make adjustments as needed.

Optimizing Debt Repayment
Continue making additional payments towards your housing loan to accelerate debt reduction and save on interest costs. Consider evaluating refinancing options or negotiating with your lender to lower your interest rate and shorten the loan tenure, if feasible.

Emergency Fund and Contingency Planning
Ensure you have an adequate emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months' worth of living expenses to cover unforeseen circumstances or financial emergencies. Review your insurance coverage, including health, life, and property insurance, to protect your family's financial well-being.

Seeking Professional Advice
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to develop a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your specific needs and goals. A CFP can provide personalized advice, recommend suitable investment strategies, and help you navigate complex financial decisions.

Conclusion
By prioritizing retirement planning, optimizing debt repayment, and building a robust financial safety net, you can achieve your long-term financial goals and secure a comfortable retirement for yourself and your family. Stay disciplined in your savings and investment approach, and seek professional guidance to maximize your wealth accumulation potential.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 06, 2024Hindi
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I am 74 yrs old. I hv about 50 lakhs in bandhan bank FD Which are going to mature in june 2024. Should I invest the amount in Mutual funds like Axis focus/ blue chip fund etc for funds to grow as well as reduce the burden of I.TAX? What is ur advice for funds to grow and manage keeping in view of my age. Also I am single and how to manage such fund so that I can tranfer to nominees in my absense? Kindly advise
Ans: Investment and Estate Planning for Senior Citizens
Evaluating Investment Options
Considering your age and the upcoming maturity of your FDs, investing in mutual funds can offer potential growth opportunities and tax efficiency. Opt for schemes like Axis Bluechip Fund, which focus on large-cap stocks, offering stability and growth potential suitable for senior citizens.

Managing Risk
Given your age and need for stability, prioritize low to moderate-risk investments that provide steady returns. Balanced funds or hybrid funds can offer a blend of equity and debt exposure, balancing growth potential with capital preservation.

Tax Planning
Mutual funds offer tax benefits such as indexation for debt funds and preferential tax treatment for equity funds held for the long term. Consult a tax advisor to optimize tax efficiency and minimize the impact of taxes on your investment returns.

Estate Planning
To ensure smooth transfer of assets to your nominees in the event of your absence, consider creating a will outlining your wishes regarding asset distribution. Designate nominees for your mutual fund investments and ensure they are aware of their roles and responsibilities.

Seeking Professional Advice
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to create a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your needs and goals. A CFP can provide personalized advice on investment strategies, tax planning, and estate planning, ensuring your financial well-being and legacy are secure.

Regular Review
Periodically review your investment portfolio and financial plan to adapt to changing market conditions and life circumstances. Stay informed about investment trends and seek professional guidance to make informed decisions.

Conclusion
By investing in suitable mutual funds, prioritizing tax efficiency, and implementing effective estate planning measures, you can achieve your financial goals and secure your legacy for your beneficiaries. Consult with a financial advisor to create a customized plan that meets your unique needs and preferences.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 05, 2024Hindi
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Hi I'm 27 will be finally starting my government job from next month initial pay will be 30k/month . I wanted to know that looking at future perspective i want to set aside an emergency fund, invest in SIPs and possibly save as much as i can for my marriage too to relieve some burden off my parents. So with SIPs i obviously have 2 goals in mind my retirement corpus between 8-10 crores at the age of 58 and some short term fund i would like to take about of about 1 crores max within 5 years I'd say or possibly some SWP. I am open to suggestions thankyou.
Ans: Crafting a Financial Plan for Your Future Goals
Building Your Emergency Fund
Starting with a government job offers stability, but it's prudent to set aside an emergency fund to cover unexpected expenses. Aim for at least 6-12 months' worth of living expenses in a liquid savings account to provide a financial safety net.

Investing in SIPs for Long-Term Goals
Allocate a portion of your monthly income towards systematic investment plans (SIPs) to achieve your long-term goals. For your retirement corpus target of 8-10 crores by age 58, consider investing in a diversified portfolio of equity mutual funds with a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-cap funds to harness the power of compounding over time.

Saving for Short-Term Goals
To save for your marriage and relieve the financial burden on your parents, consider setting up a separate investment account or recurring deposit to accumulate funds gradually. Depending on your timeline of 5 years, opt for relatively safer investment avenues such as debt mutual funds or balanced funds to balance risk and return potential.

Exploring SWP for Short-Term Fund
If you prefer to have access to regular income from your short-term fund, consider setting up a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) from your mutual fund investments. This allows you to withdraw a predetermined amount at regular intervals while keeping the remaining corpus invested for potential growth.

Monitoring and Adjusting Your Plan
Regularly review your financial plan and investment portfolio to track progress towards your goals. Adjust your savings and investment strategy as needed based on changes in your income, expenses, and financial objectives.

Seeking Professional Guidance
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to create a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your specific needs and goals. A CFP can provide personalized advice, recommend suitable investment options, and help you navigate complex financial decisions.

Conclusion
By prioritizing your financial goals, setting up SIPs for long-term wealth creation, saving for short-term needs, and seeking professional guidance, you can embark on a journey towards financial security and achieve your aspirations of a comfortable retirement and a burden-free marriage.

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Hii, I am 28 years old. I am doing monthly SIP of 30000 in these funds : Mirae Asset Large and Midcap - 4000 Quant flexi cap - 4000 HDFC balanced advantage - 3000 ICICI multi asset - 2000 Parag Parikh flexi cap - 6000 Nippon India Index BSE Sensex - 3000 HDFC Mid Cap - 3000 Quant Small Cap - 5000 I also contribute 1.5 Lakh each year to PPF. Currently I have no loans. Is there any need to reshuffle my portfolio?
Ans: Reviewing and Optimizing Your Investment Portfolio
Assessing Your Current Portfolio
At 28, you're proactively investing in a diversified portfolio through monthly SIPs and annual contributions to PPF. Your investment strategy reflects a blend of large-cap, mid-cap, flexi-cap, index, and small-cap funds, along with a multi-asset fund, indicating a well-diversified approach.

Evaluating Fund Performance
Review the performance of each fund in your portfolio relative to its benchmark index and peer group. Assess factors such as consistency, risk-adjusted returns, and fund manager track record to identify any underperforming funds that may warrant reconsideration.

Considering Fund Overlaps
Evaluate the overlap in holdings across your funds to avoid concentration risk and redundancy. Ensure adequate diversification across sectors, market caps, and investment styles to minimize portfolio overlap and optimize risk-return potential.

Rebalancing Asset Allocation
Assess your overall asset allocation and risk tolerance to ensure alignment with your financial goals and investment horizon. Consider rebalancing your portfolio periodically to maintain the desired asset allocation and mitigate portfolio drift.

Streamlining Fund Selection
Consider consolidating your portfolio by reducing the number of funds to streamline management and enhance efficiency. Focus on high-quality funds with strong track records, consistent performance, and alignment with your investment objectives.

Addressing Tax Efficiency
Evaluate the tax implications of your investment portfolio, including capital gains taxes on equity funds and tax benefits of PPF contributions. Explore tax-efficient investment options such as ELSS funds for equity exposure within the Section 80C limit.

Seeking Professional Advice
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to conduct a comprehensive portfolio review and optimization. A CFP can provide personalized recommendations tailored to your financial goals, risk profile, and market outlook, helping you make informed investment decisions.

Conclusion
While your current investment portfolio demonstrates a diversified and disciplined approach, periodic review and optimization are essential to ensure alignment with your financial objectives and market dynamics. By evaluating fund performance, rebalancing asset allocation, and seeking professional guidance, you can optimize your portfolio for long-term wealth creation and financial success.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 04, 2024Hindi
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I have taken home loan of 42L in the year 2017 (EMI 33000/Month) for 25Years (300 Months). Due to the continuous increase in the Interest rate, the remaining tenure is keep on increasing and maintaining in 300+ months even after paying the EMI for more than 7 years and Home Loan Principal only 4.5 Lakh is reduced. I am a private company employee of 35 years earning nearly 1Lakh per month and able to save around 15,000 rupees monthly. And with the 15000 monthly savings, i started the following investment/plans from this month 1. I am investing 5000 for Suganya Samriddhi Scheme for my daughter (5years Old). 2. I am contributing 5000 to VPF (My age 35). My existing EPF balance is 5.5Lakh and monthly PF is 4900 deducted. 3. I am making prepayment of 5000 to Home loan principal in addition to monthly EMI. Also i have a Fixed Deposit of 5Lakhs maturing in this year end. I am looking for a expert advise whether the above investment plan is good enough to get benefit in the longer run or any other better safe investment option is available. Please note my year on year annual increment is very less approximately 5000 only.
Ans: Optimizing Your Financial Strategy for Long-Term Benefits
Understanding Your Current Financial Situation
As a 35-year-old private company employee, you're navigating the challenges of a home loan and striving to secure your family's financial future. Despite constraints like rising interest rates and limited annual increments, your prudent savings habits and investment efforts reflect a commitment to financial stability.

Evaluating Your Investment Portfolio
Your current investment strategy, including contributions to the Sukanya Samriddhi Scheme for your daughter, VPF for retirement, and prepayments towards your home loan, demonstrates a balanced approach to wealth accumulation and debt reduction. However, let's assess if there are opportunities for optimization.

Analyzing the Sukanya Samriddhi Scheme
Investing in the Sukanya Samriddhi Scheme for your daughter's future education and marriage expenses is a commendable decision. The scheme offers tax benefits and competitive interest rates, providing a secure investment avenue for her long-term financial needs.

Assessing VPF Contributions for Retirement
Contributing to the Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF) alongside your EPF is a wise move to bolster your retirement savings. Given your limited annual increments, VPF offers a disciplined way to accumulate a substantial corpus for your retirement years, leveraging the power of compounding.

Reviewing Home Loan Prepayments
Making additional prepayments towards your home loan principal accelerates debt reduction and can lead to substantial interest savings over the loan tenure. However, given the low interest rates on home loans compared to potential investment returns, it's essential to strike a balance between debt repayment and wealth creation.

Leveraging Fixed Deposit Maturity
Upon maturity of your Fixed Deposit of 5 lakhs, consider reinvesting the proceeds strategically. Evaluate investment options that offer a balance of safety, liquidity, and growth potential to optimize returns and diversify your portfolio.

Exploring Investment Opportunities
Given your risk appetite and financial goals, explore avenues such as mutual funds, systematic investment plans (SIPs), or diversified equity portfolios for long-term wealth creation. Consult with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to devise a customized investment strategy aligned with your objectives and risk tolerance.

Conclusion
Your proactive approach to savings and investments demonstrates a sound financial mindset. By optimizing your investment portfolio, exploring growth-oriented opportunities, and seeking professional guidance, you can enhance your financial well-being and secure a brighter future for yourself and your family.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024Hindi
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I am 27 years old and recently married and have around 40lakhs savings please let me know very effective ways to invest them with relatively less risk and good yields for myself,my future kids and aging parents.
Ans: Strategizing Your Investment Approach for Multiple Goals
Understanding Your Financial Landscape
At 27, with 40 lakhs in savings and new familial responsibilities, it's crucial to adopt a prudent investment strategy that balances risk, returns, and long-term financial goals.

Step 1: Emergency Fund
Allocate a portion of your savings towards building an emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months of living expenses. This fund acts as a safety net for unexpected expenses or income disruptions.

Step 2: Goal-Based Investing
Identify and prioritize your financial goals, including retirement, children's education, and supporting aging parents. Allocate your savings accordingly, considering the time horizon and risk tolerance for each goal.

Step 3: Diversified Portfolio
Construct a diversified investment portfolio comprising a mix of asset classes such as equities, debt, and alternative investments. Diversification helps mitigate risk and enhance long-term returns.

Step 4: Retirement Planning
Start investing in retirement-focused instruments such as Employee Provident Fund (EPF), Public Provident Fund (PPF), and Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF) to build a robust retirement corpus. Consider equity-oriented mutual funds for long-term growth potential.

Step 5: Children's Education
Open a dedicated investment account for your children's education and invest in equity-oriented mutual funds or education-specific investment options like Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY) or Children's Mutual Funds.

Step 6: Supporting Aging Parents
Ensure adequate provisions for your aging parents' financial well-being by investing in low-risk, income-generating assets such as fixed deposits, senior citizen savings scheme, or debt mutual funds.

Step 7: Regular Review and Adjustment
Periodically review your investment portfolio to track progress towards your goals and make necessary adjustments based on changing life circumstances, market conditions, and financial goals.

Step 8: Seeking Professional Guidance
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to create a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your specific needs and goals. A CFP can provide personalized advice, recommend suitable investment options, and help you navigate complex financial decisions.

Conclusion
By adopting a holistic approach to investment planning, you can effectively deploy your 40 lakhs savings towards achieving multiple financial goals while minimizing risk and maximizing returns. With careful planning, regular review, and professional guidance, you can secure a financially sound future for yourself, your family, and your aging parents.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 17, 2024Hindi
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Hi I have ab EMI of 28k per month, i also have SIP of 16k form last 4 years (started with 10k). Will it be a good decision to use fund valuation amount to settle loan and start SIP for around 45k-50k?
Ans: Assessing the Decision to Settle Loan with SIP Funds
Understanding Your Financial Situation
With an EMI of 28k per month and a SIP of 16k initiated four years ago (originally 10k), you're managing your finances responsibly. Considering using your SIP funds to settle the loan and increase SIP contributions requires careful evaluation.

Evaluating the Loan Settlement Option
Using the valuation amount from your SIP funds to settle the loan can offer benefits such as reducing debt burden, eliminating interest payments, and potentially improving cash flow. However, consider the impact on your investment portfolio and long-term financial goals.

Assessing the SIP Increase Option
Increasing SIP contributions to 45k-50k per month can accelerate wealth accumulation and help achieve your financial objectives faster. It demonstrates a commitment to disciplined investing and capitalizing on growth opportunities in the market.

Considering Opportunity Cost
Evaluate the opportunity cost of using SIP funds to settle the loan versus continuing investments. Compare the potential returns from your SIP portfolio against the interest savings from loan settlement to determine the most financially advantageous option.

Analyzing Risk and Return
Assess the risk-return profile of your investment portfolio and the interest rate on your loan. Consider factors such as investment performance, market volatility, and your risk tolerance to make an informed decision that aligns with your financial goals.

Seeking Professional Advice
Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can provide valuable insights and personalized recommendations tailored to your financial situation. A CFP can assess the impact of loan settlement on your investment portfolio and help you devise a strategic plan.

Conclusion
Deciding whether to settle the loan with SIP funds or increase SIP contributions requires careful consideration of your financial objectives, risk tolerance, and investment horizon. By evaluating the pros and cons of each option and seeking professional guidance, you can make a sound decision that aligns with your long-term financial goals.

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I am a 20 year old college going student and I want to invest 1000 rupees every month and I would increase it by 10% every year where should I invest this 1000 is it gonna be in mid cap or an index funds please guide me step by step how should I do this using which platform Please help
Ans: Starting Your Investment Journey with Rs. 1000 Monthly
Understanding Your Investment Goals
As a 20-year-old college student, your commitment to investing Rs. 1000 monthly, increasing by 10% annually, reflects a commendable desire to build wealth over time. Before deciding where to invest, clarify your investment objectives, risk tolerance, and time horizon.

Step 1: Choosing an Investment Platform
Selecting a reliable investment platform is crucial for executing your investment plan efficiently. Look for platforms that offer low fees, user-friendly interfaces, and a diverse range of investment options suitable for your needs.

Step 2: Evaluating Investment Options
Consider the benefits and drawbacks of mid-cap funds and index funds to determine which aligns better with your investment strategy.

Mid-Cap Funds: These funds invest in stocks of mid-sized companies with high growth potential. While they offer the possibility of higher returns, they also come with increased volatility and risk.

Index Funds: Index funds track a specific market index, such as the Nifty 50 or Sensex, aiming to replicate its performance. They offer diversification and lower expense ratios but may limit potential returns compared to actively managed funds.

Step 3: Assessing Risk and Return Potential
Evaluate your risk tolerance and investment horizon to determine which option suits you best. Mid-cap funds may be more suitable if you can tolerate higher volatility and have a long-term investment horizon. Conversely, index funds provide stability and are ideal for conservative investors.

Step 4: Opening an Account and Investing
Once you've chosen the appropriate investment platform and decided on the type of fund, open an account and initiate your monthly investment. Ensure you understand the platform's fees, transaction process, and investment policies before proceeding.

Step 5: Monitoring and Adjusting
Regularly monitor your investments to track their performance and make necessary adjustments over time. Reassess your investment strategy annually, considering factors such as market conditions, fund performance, and personal financial goals.

Conclusion
Starting your investment journey with Rs. 1000 monthly is a wise decision that can pave the way for long-term wealth creation. By selecting the right investment platform, choosing suitable funds, and staying disciplined in your approach, you can achieve your financial goals and build a secure financial future.

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