Hi Love Guru,
Something utterly weird happened to me recently.
While scrolling through a dating app, I came across the profile of my cousin's husband. 
I don't know whether I should take this to her or talk to him first.
Please help. 

That is a tricky situation.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I hear your worries, and let me tell you, lying is one of the most obvious red flags out there. If the woman you are chatting with has been misleading you, you should confront her about the same. But be polite in doing so. As for her being married, it is her personal choice to be dating even after being committed to someone else. But since it clearly bothers you, it is better you communicate the same to her.

Reporting an account comes into play when it's a fake or spam profile; it is not applicable when the person is faking their interest or lying to you. In your case, taking it up directly with her seems like the right way out. Let her know that you are on to her.

Though her being on another app also does not count as an offense, it, however, raises one more red flag. In my opinion, it is better you walk away with your dignity; there are many women out there who would be lucky to have you as their partner.

I know you will make the right choice.

Best wishes!

Ans: Cousins getting along well is normal; a wife feeling insecure as a result of that is not. Haven’t you got a brother or male relative you’ve bonded with since childhood? Still, giving the benefit of the doubt to your instinct as his wife, I would suggest you look out for subtle signs of anything more than familial ties. Does he look for any excuse to spend time with her? Do they meet alone very frequently? Do you pick up on any romantic vibes between them? Hugging between cousins is very normal, but are they overly tactile? Short of any of that, leave it alone and address your own insecurities.