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Dear mam, I lost my husband 8 years ago and have 2 sons. It was an arranged marriage.
We had difference of opinion in almost all areas of life. He was loving and caring in a way that he will not give up on me with the outside world.
We lived and enjoyed our family although we had sex on only a handful of occasions after having children.
I realised that I've chosen a person who is not right for me as I am a systematic kind of person.
I was pampered a lot and my parents brought me up in a certain way. All my efforts to make him quit his habits went in vain. He was very adamant in sacrificing his vices (regular smoking and drinking on occasions).
Now I have the responsibility shared by my mother and brother in bringing up my sons.
I have a desire to get remarried but I don't want to end up with the wrong person. What criteria should I adhere to when selecting a partner?

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Dear PV,

Right or wrong is simply a perception.

What you should be instead looking for is compatibility in terms of emotions, values and physical wants.

It’s a miracle to find a person who can match to every need of ours and even if we do, there is no guarantee that we will like them the same way for the rest of our lives.

Matrimony sites seem to have some reasonable success in this area, also you could join groups with common interests, and you might meet someone that you like.

Whatever path that you take, changing the other person may never be a good plan. But of course, this time, you can make it amply clear that ‘vices’ are off limits for you and DO NOT compromise on it.

Being assertive right at the start can filter out many and you may end up with someone that is ‘right’ for you.

My best wishes to you!

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hello, I am 36 years old divorcee. I was in a relationship for 3 years with one person after 2 years of my divorce and he ditched me by saying that he is not ready for any commitment (as he is going through his divorce too). Now, I am completely devastated because I invested way more than I should on him. I tried different matrimonial sites for searching good mate/partner but eventually everyone I met turned out to be sex oriented. It's been year of my breakup with my ex, but I still crave for him. why? And day by day I am loosing hope to get settle down in my family bcz of finding such non-serious and one tracked minded males. what to do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Yes, you have invested more than what you could have...but don't we all do that when we want something to succeed.
After your divorce, maybe you wanted the next relationship to succeed and you gave it your all. But the man was not yet ready for his own reasons. What can you do about it? You were true in your intent...leave it at that without dissecting every element and turning its shadow onto future opportunities.

Move on; it's tough but understand that if you keep pining and obsessing over someone who is not available, you are only going to feel the pain again. For now, make that a closed chapter.
And once you close that chapter, only then you will be willing to explore newer opportunities with a full heart and an open mind. Yes, I do agree that you will find many wanting physical connections and not a relationship. But not all are inclined that way.
Once you direct your energies into a new avenue, it will yield results...and yes, I do believe in what I am saying here! Not all apples are rotten though a few might be and yet you don't dismiss eating apples, do you?
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 21, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu! So, I'm in dilemma of choosing a partner for me second time. I'm 36 yo divorcee, and met with a person 4yrs back with whom I shared great bonding and chemistry, but he never showed his love and care to me in past these years (as he was going through his divorce process too), but we both know that we both share some exceptional kind of bonding. Now, the twist comes, as we always have this on and off kind of relationship, so I started dating to a man from a matrimonial site. This matrimonial person seems in love with me and show the concern and love to me, the kind I wanted. Now, I am confused, because my previous bf is also thinking our future together as well as the matrimonial one. can you please help me in choosing the right partner for me. I can provide more information about both men in detail.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Aren't we always seeking for something that we lack within us?
Why the yearning for a particular expression of love? And how are you so sure that this person that you met on the matrimonial site already is in love with you?
Having said this, the off and on relationship is a person who will express love in a way that he is comfortable with but that is setting you off...so the matrimonial person seems exciting in a way as it aligns with your way of expressing love.
When in a dilemma, put all the cards on the table...there are other things besides expressing love that goes into making a relationship and/or a marriage. Have you factored all of that?
- List down things that are important to you in a marriage and a spouse
- How compatible are the two of you in terms of emotional bonding?
- Do your respective family values match?
- What are your thoughts on money, children, travel, passion etc?
These questions are a good start point exercise with both the men...it will give you a fair idea as to who is more aligned to your way of life. Then you can go ahead and make your decision.

All the best!

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I'm having 35L lumpsum. Please suggest investment strategies to make it to 1CR in roughly 5 YEARS or before. Experienced & Professionals please suggest. I need help. Please.???? Your valuable insights & suggestions are MOST WELCOME. THANKS IN ADVANCE. KINDLY HELP ????????????
Ans: let's approach this with a realistic perspective. Achieving a 1 crore target in just 5 years from a 35 lakh lump sum is quite ambitious and may involve high-risk strategies. It's essential to understand that aiming for quick riches often leads to disappointment and potential loss of principal.

Instead of chasing unrealistic targets, focus on sustainable wealth-building strategies. Consider allocating your lump sum across a diversified portfolio of assets such as equity mutual funds, debt instruments, and possibly some exposure to real estate investment trusts (REITs) or gold ETFs for stability.

Aiming for a reasonable annualized return of around 12-15% is more realistic over the long term. Remember, slow and steady wins the race in wealth accumulation. Avoid falling for get-rich-quick schemes or high-risk investments promising unrealistically high returns.

Prioritize your financial goals, whether it's wealth creation, retirement planning, or other objectives, and tailor your investment strategy accordingly. Consult with a certified financial planner to create a personalized investment plan aligned with your risk tolerance and financial objectives.

In conclusion, while it may not be feasible to achieve a 1 crore target in just 5 years with a 35 lakh investment, adopting a disciplined and diversified approach to investing can help you steadily build wealth over time.

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Hello Jinal, greetings, I have been investigating in the below funds. Please let me know whether I should continue my SIP of 40K in these below funds for next 10,15,20 years. Investing since Apr 2023. Age 33, goals: retirement, children education and marriage. Funds: 1. Axis growth opportunities direct fund. 2. DSP Value fund direct. 3. SBI multi cap direct fund. 4. PPFAS flexi cap direct fund. 5. Quant tax saver fund direct. Reason to choose these funds to get diversified categories as well as international exposure. Adding more, like each funds strategies are different from each other.
Ans: It's great to see your commitment to long-term financial planning! Your chosen funds indeed offer a well-rounded portfolio catering to various investment objectives. Each fund's distinct strategy enhances diversification, mitigating risk and maximizing returns over time.

Axis Growth Opportunities fund provides exposure to high-growth potential companies, aligning with long-term wealth accumulation goals. DSP Value fund, focusing on undervalued stocks, adds stability to your portfolio, crucial for achieving financial milestones like children's education and marriage.

SBI Multi Cap fund's flexibility in investing across market caps ensures adaptability to market dynamics, essential for sustained growth. PPFAS Flexi Cap fund's international exposure offers a hedge against domestic market volatility, fostering global wealth creation opportunities.

Quant Tax Saver fund not only aids in tax efficiency but also provides a unique investment approach, complementing the other funds' strategies. However, it's vital to monitor fund performance periodically and rebalance if necessary to stay aligned with your goals.

There are some advantages to consider direct funds, and the cost savings can be significant in the long run. However, there are some potential benefits to using a regular MFD:
Advantages of Investing Through a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD):
• Personalized Advice: MFDs can be helpful for beginners or those who lack investment knowledge. They can assess your risk tolerance, financial goals, and investment horizon to recommend suitable mutual funds. This personalized guidance can be valuable, especially if you're new to investing.
• Convenience: MFDs handle all the paperwork and transactions on your behalf, saving you time and effort. They can help with account setup, SIP registrations, and managing your portfolio across different funds.
• Investor Support: MFDs can be a point of contact for any questions or concerns you may have about your investments. They can provide ongoing support and guidance throughout your investment journey.


Remember, investing is a marathon, not a sprint. Stay disciplined, and trust the process. Your dedication to systematic investment will yield significant results over the years, securing a comfortable future for you and your family.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Hello Sir, greetings, I have been investigating in the below funds. Please let me know whether I should continue my SIP of 40K in these below funds for next 10,15,20 years. Investing since Apr 2023. Age 33, goals: retirement, children education and marriage. Funds: 1. Axis growth opportunities direct fund. 2. DSP Value fund direct. 3. SBI multi cap direct fund. 4. PPFAS flexi cap direct fund. 5. Quant tax saver fund direct. Reason to choose these funds to get diversified categories as well as international exposure. Adding more, like each funds strategies are different from each other.
Ans: It's great to see your commitment to long-term financial planning! Your chosen funds indeed offer a well-rounded portfolio catering to various investment objectives. Each fund's distinct strategy enhances diversification, mitigating risk and maximizing returns over time.

Axis Growth Opportunities fund provides exposure to high-growth potential companies, aligning with long-term wealth accumulation goals. DSP Value fund, focusing on undervalued stocks, adds stability to your portfolio, crucial for achieving financial milestones like children's education and marriage.

SBI Multi Cap fund's flexibility in investing across market caps ensures adaptability to market dynamics, essential for sustained growth. PPFAS Flexi Cap fund's international exposure offers a hedge against domestic market volatility, fostering global wealth creation opportunities.

Quant Tax Saver fund not only aids in tax efficiency but also provides a unique investment approach, complementing the other funds' strategies. However, it's vital to monitor fund performance periodically and rebalance if necessary to stay aligned with your goals.

There are some advantages to consider direct funds, and the cost savings can be significant in the long run. However, there are some potential benefits to using a regular MFD:
Advantages of Investing Through a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD):
• Personalized Advice: MFDs can be helpful for beginners or those who lack investment knowledge. They can assess your risk tolerance, financial goals, and investment horizon to recommend suitable mutual funds. This personalized guidance can be valuable, especially if you're new to investing.
• Convenience: MFDs handle all the paperwork and transactions on your behalf, saving you time and effort. They can help with account setup, SIP registrations, and managing your portfolio across different funds.
• Investor Support: MFDs can be a point of contact for any questions or concerns you may have about your investments. They can provide ongoing support and guidance throughout your investment journey.


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Hi I'm Atish, I want to invest a lumpsum of 3lakhs in which fund I should invest please guide.
Ans: Hello Atish,

Investing a lump sum of 3 lakhs requires careful consideration of your financial goals, risk tolerance, and investment horizon. Here's a suggestion on where you could invest:

Given the current market conditions and your investment horizon, consider allocating your lump sum across a diversified portfolio of mutual funds. Since you're investing a significant amount at once, it's crucial to mitigate risk by spreading your investments across different asset classes.

You can consider investing in a combination of large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-cap equity funds to capture growth opportunities across market segments. Additionally, allocating a portion to debt funds can provide stability to your portfolio and reduce overall volatility.

Look for mutual funds with a proven track record of consistent performance, low expense ratios, and experienced fund managers. Consider funds that align with your investment goals and risk appetite.

Before making any investment decisions, it's advisable to consult with a Certified Financial Planner who can assess your financial situation, goals, and risk tolerance. They can help you design a personalized investment strategy and select suitable mutual funds to achieve your objectives.

Remember to review your investments periodically and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards your financial goals.

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Hi sir I started my investment in dsp mutual fund with 11,000 from July 2023 and in Bank of India mutual fund in small flexi and multi cap 4000 each every month from December what could be me return after 15 years
Ans: Predicting the exact returns of mutual fund investments over 15 years is challenging due to market uncertainties. However, we can estimate potential returns based on historical performance and certain assumptions.

DSP Mutual Fund and Bank of India Mutual Fund offer a range of equity-oriented funds, which historically have provided higher returns over the long term compared to fixed-income investments.

Assuming an average annual return of 12% for DSP Mutual Fund and 10% for Bank of India Mutual Fund, which are reasonable estimates based on historical market performance, we can project the future value of your investments.

Considering your monthly investments of 11,000 in DSP Mutual Fund and 8,000 (4,000 each) in Bank of India Mutual Fund, let's calculate the future value using a mutual fund calculator.

After 15 years, your investments could potentially grow substantially, providing a significant corpus for your financial goals. However, it's essential to review and adjust your investments periodically based on market conditions and your financial objectives.

Keep in mind that these are projections based on historical data and assumptions. Actual returns may vary depending on market performance and other factors. It's advisable to consult with a Certified Financial Planner for personalized investment advice tailored to your specific needs and goals.

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Hi sir I am 58 years old. I never invested any stock market or shares or any such market funds I was working in gulf country. Earned around 8cr . Now all in fixed deposits. I was busy during my job time. I was only concentrate my jobs .now I want advice how to invest on My atleast half amount MF smilar funds. I also invested realestate around 25 years back. Now all got good appreciation. I have 2daughter and one son.daughters are earning good salary. Son studying.no loan or no commitment . Please advice how I can invest on MF stock linked market so I can make enough better growth than fixed deposits
Ans: It's commendable that you're considering diversifying your investments beyond fixed deposits, especially given the potential for higher returns in the stock market. Let's explore how you can begin investing in mutual funds (MF) and similar funds with a portion of your wealth.

Since you're new to the stock market and MFs, it's wise to start with a conservative approach. Consider investing a portion of your fixed deposits into balanced funds or equity-oriented hybrid funds. These funds offer a mix of equity and debt instruments, providing growth potential while mitigating risk.

Given your substantial corpus, you have the flexibility to invest in a diversified portfolio of mutual funds across different categories. Allocate funds based on your risk tolerance, financial goals, and investment horizon.

For long-term wealth creation, equity mutual funds, particularly large-cap and multi-cap funds, can be suitable. These funds invest in well-established companies with strong growth potential, offering the possibility of higher returns over time.

Consider investing systematically through Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs), which allow you to invest a fixed amount regularly. SIPs help in rupee-cost averaging and reduce the impact of market volatility on your investments.

Since you have no immediate financial commitments and your children are financially independent, you can afford to take a long-term view with your investments. Focus on staying invested for the long haul to benefit from the power of compounding.

However, it's crucial to consult with a Certified Financial Planner who can assess your financial situation, risk appetite, and investment objectives. They can help you devise a personalized investment strategy and guide you through the process of investing in mutual funds.

In conclusion, by diversifying a portion of your wealth into mutual funds, you can potentially achieve higher growth than fixed deposits over the long term. With careful planning and professional guidance, you can navigate the complexities of the stock market and work towards your financial goals.

Best Regards,

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Hello Sir/Ma'am, Myself Sachin. Basically I'm from Thrissur (Kerala) where I born. But in terms of education, I did my schooling & colleges from Pune (Maharashtra). My DOB is 30th October 1984. So right now I'm 39. Till now I'm single trying to get a life partner to have a good understanding since 7 years. However, no one I got yet. Even I tried dating through online dating app called quack quack where sometimes I get a positive responses. But later on, that relationship doesn't prolongs. In this situation, what shall I do to have a good life partner? Right now I reside in Coimbatore (Tamilnadu) with my parents in one of the senior citizen complex. In terms of education I did my BBA from Delhi University. Also have work experience into customer support voice process for about 9 years. Currently I run my business as a photostat in Coimbatore.
Ans: Hi Sachin,

I understand that dating can sometimes be very frustrating. You have every right to start wondering whether it will work or not. Since you have already tried dating apps and even had a positive experience, I would ask you to recognize that as a win first. Second, let me share some tips with you that might help you find the right kind of matches:

- Write a detailed and attractive Bio. What should it include? 40% about yourself- your education, your quirks and habits, likes and preferences, and everything that makes you you. 10% about what you can offer as a partner. 10% about the type of relationship you want. Do you want to date exclusively, or are you looking for casual? Are you looking to get married or long-term dating? Mention it clearly to attract the right matches. The remaining 40% should be about the kind of person you want to date. Your idea of a perfect partner. It would save you a lot of time and energy on the relationships that start strong but eventually fizzle out.

- The display picture can play an important role. Always pick a recent and clear image to never mislead anyone. Choose an image that shows you in your element, preferably smiling because that makes you seem warm and welcoming. Refrain from over-editing.

- Another important step is the first message. Write a detailed and personalized first message instead of a Hi.

Other than this, I would ask you to have patience. Regardless of the mode of dating, finding the right partner can take time in certain instances. Good things take time.

Best Wishes.

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Hi i am 42 yrs i am govt servent going to retire at 58 currently my salary 60pm from last one years i started investing in mutual fund 10k in nippon small cap 5k in sbi large and small cap and this years started 5k in nippon flexi cap fund currently i hav 24lac in ppf account also need to make small home for that i need 40 lac suggest me some should i take home lone or use my savings for that
Ans: Considering your retirement in 16 years and your current investment in mutual funds and PPF, let's analyze your options for purchasing a home.

You're off to a good start with your mutual fund investments, providing potential growth over the long term. However, investing in equity funds for a short-term goal like buying a house carries risk due to market fluctuations.

Given your timeline and the need for 40 lac for a home, it's prudent to explore multiple avenues. Utilizing your savings in PPF is an option, but it might not cover the entire cost.

Taking a home loan could be a viable solution. It allows you to preserve your savings and spread the cost of the house over a longer period. However, consider the loan's interest rate, tenure, and your ability to repay post-retirement.

Alternatively, you could partially fund the home with your savings and take a smaller home loan, reducing the burden of EMIs post-retirement. This approach offers a balance between utilizing savings and leveraging loans.

Consult with a Certified Financial Planner to assess your risk tolerance, evaluate loan options, and devise a suitable strategy aligned with your financial goals and retirement plans.

In summary, weigh the pros and cons of using savings versus taking a home loan, considering factors like interest rates, repayment capacity, and post-retirement income. With careful planning, you can achieve your goal of owning a home while safeguarding your financial future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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