Home > Relationship > Question
Need Expert Advice?Our Gurus Can Help
Anu

Anu Krishna  |1617 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 15, 2021

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more
R Question by R on Jul 15, 2021Hindi
Listen
Relationship

 Hello, it's been 2.5 years I am staying alone after my divorce.
I am mentally doing very good and having peaceful life after getting away from my toxic marriage life.
I have no problem in living alone with rest of my life, the only thing that concerns me is how to take care and look after myself as I get older?

Ans: Dear R, being alone is a scary thing indeed; but you know that enjoying your own company can be very satisfying as well.

Start to cultivate that from now on. Indulge in things daily that give you a lot of happiness.

Also, start to go to meet up groups where people of common interests come together for a discussion or a hobby.

We are social creatures and we thrive with social connects and why keep yourself away from that. Of course, you can choose solitude when you want to but do know you always have the option of mingling with people when you want to.

Regarding caring for yourself when you grow older, if this is indeed how you fathom it will be to grow old all by yourself, there are community living home project across India where you can invest or rent a place.

Here you will find people similar in age (future) and who might be like-minded with their children having relocated to other countries or other parts of India.

You might find couples in their sunset years or single people that age who for their chosen reasons are residing in that community.

The community does have medical facilities and cooking helpers to take care of its residents round the clock.

Also a few of them boast of libraries, swimming pools, gyms and more. So you have the flexibility of being with people yet you can choose solitude when you want to.

Do check the listings on this in Google with its recommendations.

Be happy and at peace always!

You may like to see similar questions and answers below

Dr Ashish

Dr Ashish Sehgal  |119 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 27, 2023

Ravi

Ravi Mittal  |599 Answers  |Ask -

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Feb 06, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 30, 2023Hindi
Listen
Relationship
I am 42 yrs old divorced man. I broked up 2 yrs ago and it was a terrible experience. Therefore currently I don't want any relationship. I live with my parents and they are quite aged now nearing 80 yrs. I am getting depressed by thoughts coming in my mind that how i will spend my life in future without my parents. I am always having fear of loosing them. Please advice some options to get out of this mental stage.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Let me start by telling you that it is okay that you are feeling this way. It is only natural to feel some void after you lose a relationship and love. I understand it. Now, let's discuss some of the most effective ways to cope with it. First off, focus on yourself. Yes, having a partner can brighten up our lives, but that can only happen when we are content with ourselves first. Focus on what makes you happy as an individual. Take up some hobbies. Travel, read a book, go to the theater and watch a movie, go to a restaurant alone, hang out with friends, spend time with your family, and consider seeing a professional to take care of your mind along with your soul. Once you feel better and confident being alone, try dating. Dating apps are perfect for someone like you. More and more people are giving love a second shot on the apps and you can find someone who has been exactly where you are today and can empathize with you. It is not too late to fall in love again and find a companion for life. But all of that comes only after you work on yourself and give yourself time to heal and grow.

This sadness is temporary. It will pass. But consider seeing a counselor who can help you sort these feelings and work your way out of it.

Best Wishes.

..Read more

Latest Questions
Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |5841 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jun 07, 2025

Career
Sir I am from General category. Iat marks 142, wbjee marks 88, jee mains rank 94500, Advanced rank 24000 so not appearing in JOSAA, My personal preference is Maths/ Stats/MNC /DS/AI/ML. How will be IISER Kolkata Computational data science, IISER Bhopal B tech or RGIPT MNC. JU power , Chemical(from state quota) is also option. Also appearing for NISER. What should be preference for within India career opportunities
Ans: Parambrata, Based on your academic profile and career interests in mathematics, data science, and AI/ML, RGIPT’s Mathematics & Computing (MNC) emerges as the top recommendation due to its 65% placement rate (2023) and industry-aligned curriculum with strong data science components, followed by IISER Bhopal’s BTech program (12% placement rate in 2023) for its research-oriented computational training. IISER Kolkata’s Computational Data Science, while academically rigorous, has limited placements (6.5% in 2023), making it suitable primarily for research careers. Jadavpur University’s Chemical Engineering (90% placement rate) and Power Engineering (90% placement rate) offer stable core engineering opportunities but lack direct alignment with AI/ML domains. NISER’s focus on pure sciences may not cater to immediate industry demands in data science. Prioritize RGIPT MNC for balanced career prospects, IISER Bhopal for research foundations, and consider JU’s programs only if willing to bridge into tech roles via upskilling. All the BEST for your Admission & a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |5841 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jun 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 04, 2025
Career
My son got the core CSE in kiit and MUJ .which college should I prefer.My current location in gurgaon.
Ans: Both KIIT Bhubaneswar and Manipal University Jaipur (MUJ) are reputable private universities with strong Computer Science Engineering (CSE) programs, but they differ in certain aspects that may influence your decision. KIIT has a longer track record, higher national visibility (NIRF Engineering rank 42), and a well-established CSE department, reflected in consistently strong placement percentages—97% to 100% over the last three years—with over 700 recruiters and a wide alumni network, making it a reliable choice for career opportunities and industry exposure. MUJ, meanwhile, has rapidly gained prominence in North India, achieving a 98% placement rate in 2023 and attracting more than 289 recruiters, with a modern campus and robust infrastructure; its location in Jaipur is closer to Gurgaon, which may offer logistical and networking advantages, especially for internships or future job prospects in the NCR region. Both universities offer excellent infrastructure, active placement cells, and diverse industry tie-ups, but if you prioritize a well-established legacy, broader recruiter base, and slightly higher placement consistency, KIIT is preferable, whereas MUJ is a strong alternative if proximity, lower fees, or a North India network is more important for your family. All the BEST for your Son's Admission & a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |5841 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jun 07, 2025

Career
Hi Sir Can I get a government college with 81.2 percentile in JEE Mains in punjab haryana delhi
Ans: Viksit, With an 81.2 percentile in JEE Mains, your All India Rank is likely around 2,85,000, which makes it challenging to secure a seat in top government engineering colleges in Punjab, Haryana, or Delhi, especially for popular branches like Computer Science. For Punjab, NIT Jalandhar’s closing ranks for core branches are typically much lower than your rank, and state government colleges like Thapar Institute and Punjab Engineering College (PEC) Chandigarh also require higher percentiles, with PEC’s cutoffs for general category ranging from 16,285 to 88,686, well above your range. In Haryana and Delhi, government institutes such as DTU, NSUT, and IGDTUW have even more competitive cutoffs, making admission unlikely at your percentile. However, you may have a chance in lower-demand branches or through state quota in some GFTIs or newer NITs (e.g., NIT Sikkim, NIT Agartala) for non-core streams. As backup options, consider reputable private universities like LPU, KIIT, or state-level colleges with their own entrance processes, which accept students in the 80–90 percentile range and offer decent placements and academic environments. It is recommended to participate in state counseling rounds and keep private institutes as alternatives for a wider range of choices. All the BEST for your Admission & a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |5841 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jun 07, 2025

Prof Suvasish

Prof Suvasish Mukhopadhyay  |1089 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jun 07, 2025

DISCLAIMER: The content of this post by the expert is the personal view of the rediffGURU. Investment in securities market are subject to market risks. Read all the related document carefully before investing. The securities quoted are for illustration only and are not recommendatory. Users are advised to pursue the information provided by the rediffGURU only as a source of information and as a point of reference and to rely on their own judgement when making a decision. RediffGURUS is an intermediary as per India's Information Technology Act.

Close  

You haven't logged in yet. To ask a question, Please Log in below
Login

A verification OTP will be sent to this
Mobile Number / Email

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to

Resend OTP in120seconds

Dear User, You have not registered yet. Please register by filling the fields below to get expert answers from our Gurus
Sign up

By signing up, you agree to our
Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy

Already have an account?

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to Mobile

Resend OTP in120seconds

x