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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 27, 2023

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Question by Vijay on Feb 18, 2023Hindi

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I am 63+ and will 64 in April-23. My wife expired in Sept-22. I have two daughters and both married and settled in their homes. I feel very lonely these days. Is it right for me to have any live-in-relationship or second marriage. I am still good in health. Please advise.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. It's understandable that you're feeling lonely right now. It's important to take some time to grieve and process your emotions before making any major decisions.

If you're considering a live-in relationship or second marriage, it's important to take things slow and approach the situation with an open mind. Make sure that you communicate your intentions clearly with any potential partners and be honest about your feelings and expectations. You don't want to rush into anything and risk getting hurt.

It's also important to consider the impact that this decision may have on your relationships with your daughters. You may want to have an open and honest conversation with them about your plans and how they feel about it.

Remember, the decision to enter into a live-in relationship or second marriage is a personal one, and you should do what feels right for you. Take the time to explore your options and make sure that you're making a decision that will bring you happiness and fulfillment.

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Hi, I am a 53 years old male, lost my loving wife last year who was 46, I do have 2 kids who are into higher studies now aged 22 and 18, off late have been feeling very lonely and upset and have not been able to forget my late wife, life seems to be too useless now. Many a times i think of having a new partner for the rest of my life then these feelings also die down. Am quiet worried as to how I will be able to live second half of my life as sooner or later the children will be busy in their own lives, what to do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am truly sorry for your loss...
The journey of grief is so different for each person and you can feel alright on one day and devastated on another day...Give your self ample time to grieve and speak about her; it will be painful but the more you allow yourself to speak about her, you will notice that you are closer to accepting the fact of your loss...it is a journey, so do take your time...
But in the meantime, do make sure that you do take help in the form of a support system of your family and friends. Yes, they do have their own lives but I am sure that they will step in kindly when it is required.
Also, you might find that you socially isolate yourself and move away from everything that used to give you joy. You must find a way of getting back to all of those things reminding yourself that you must live your life too...this is initially a way of filling the vacuum, but soon you will find that it does more that just distract you.

Finding another life partner is a decision that is yours to make; but I will suggest that you heal from the loss and then if and when you feel the time is right, you may seek a life partner. But right now, all you will do is find a huge respite to fill in your loneliness and not be able to form a connection with that person. So, take care of yourself first, heal well and then slowly make life-altering decisions.

All the best...I am sure you can do this!

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 12, 2024Hindi

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i am 56 years old male having lost my dear wife 7 years ago. i live with 2 children aged 24 and 16. i do most of the household chores like cooking etc. i feel exhausted living a solitary life and in constant grief crying silently and thinking of how it would have been if my wife was around. I get irritated easily with my children who don't act responsibly. Feel like having a new partner but worried how things would pan out especially with grown up children. Please suggest.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am truly sorry for your loss...
It isn't easy to live alone and the fear of doing that all your life can be very intimidating indeed. Both your children and grown up enough to understand what this loneliness is doing to you. Sit with them and express exactly how you are feeling...initially, they may find it difficult and may even resist the idea, blame you, be fearful that you may forget their mother...
Use this conversation not to convince them of anything but hearing from them, expressing yourself and reassuring them that it is not to replace their mother...do not expect them to warm up to the idea of you having a new partner immediately...change of mind and heart takes time; go slowly and steadily...

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 01, 2024Hindi

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's a wonder as to why she would suddenly be different from what you have been used to. It's also natural to pinpoint it to her reconnecting with her school friend if there is no other recent changes or events that might have caused her to act very different. The best is to ASK...she may not even be aware of her behavior change or the impact certain things are having on you.
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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 07, 2024

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Hi, I am a 48 year old unmarried woman. I stay with my parents and we 3 enjoy our life in our own way. I have 2 married elder sisters and share a loving relation with them. In short I am blessed with a loving and supportive family. But at times I miss having a man in my life. We have tried so hard but nothing materialised on the marriage front.All men in my age group either married or divorced with kids. Do u think its ok to get married if I find someone whom I like. Sometimes I feel i should atleast date someone and if marriage is to happen it will. I am single for a very long time. I am grateful to God for all the good things I have in my life. How to find someone no clue. Have tried thru matrimony no success. Not interested in any dating app. Nor interested in casual dating with a younger guy. I need someone of my age or elder. Pls advise. Thanks..

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Of course, you must date someone if that's what you want and it's possible by entering the right social circles. Something that interests you can be a point of meeting; gym, sports, music groups, dance groups, theater groups...the list is long...
It just takes that little effort to join one of these and meet a few like-minded people who are not just into casual dating but are interested in pursuing a connection with you...So, give it a shot!

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I had lost my virginity before marriage, at the age of 18 and now I'm 26 years old but now I Going to marry someone else.did my future husband know that I have lost my virginity when I have intercourse with my ex, we had 7 to 9 years of relationship till now but that relationship did not worked so we broke up recently. Now I'm going to marry next year ending. What should I do? Its a arrange marriage if he knows all that shits then my family reputation is also harm. What should I do to this situation. I can't tell anyone about this and what is the solution that he never know about my past life..i want to hide from him that I'm not virgin.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You have lost your virginity, so be it!
And what are you making a big noise about it, family reputation etc...are you serious that the boy's side is going to do a medical examination or send some elderly aunt to inspect you? Which age are you living in?
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