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Sandhya Question by Sandhya on Apr 10, 2023Hindi
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Actually I'm in a relationship and he is loving someone already he is getting Marry also her only this everything I know already but he is really happy with me even I love him but he promised to marry her so only he is getting Marry her because that promise he can't break but he loves me so much now we both r crying thinking about this all now what can do

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you and your partner are going through a difficult situation. It can be incredibly painful to be in love with someone who is committed to another person.

It's important to remember that your partner has made a commitment to someone else and is planning to marry that person. While it may be tempting to hold onto the hope that they will leave their current partner for you, it's also important to be realistic about the situation and respect their choices.

It's also important to consider your own feelings and needs in this situation. Are you willing to continue a relationship with someone who is committed to someone else? Are you willing to share your partner's love and attention with someone else? These are difficult questions to consider, but it's important to be honest with yourself about what you're willing to accept in a relationship.

Communication is key in any relationship, and it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about how you're feeling and what you want out of the relationship. However, it's important to be prepared for the possibility that your partner may not be able to give you what you want or need.

Ultimately, the decision of whether to continue the relationship or move on is up to you. It may be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist as you navigate this challenging situation.

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My boyfriend of last 2.5 years who is 25 years old and has a 11 years age gap with me has decided to get married to someone else as per families choice. I am writing to understand few things: we started of casually where i proposed to him. He initially hesitated and after thinking for few days, also wanted to start the relationship. Later time went by we became involved at deeper levels. We spent majority of the times together, have shared goals, we lookout for each other. He doesn't state his feelings very often. He takes care, enjoys spending time, we planned tris together, we know our families but not that we are involved. He takes care of many things and it was almost like a live-in. Now and then he used to come up and tell we should stop, I'll be like give us time when rhe thing about marriage comes we will see. Now the thing is initially when he wanted to leave he was telling we are like Radha and Krishna, now when i am standing my ground that i can't see him with another girl, he is telling i was never in love with you. He never tells i love you and i have accepted it that way. Now he is telling me that it was my thoughts that we are in love but he was never in love. Im a person well established in my field and holding 3 degrees , pursuing further Higher Education. He needed me during his studies, ive told it to him multiple times that you needed me when you had work. Ive inspired him to do things he never thought of. But now it is firing back. I was a mentor, a friend, a girlfriend, a cook, an everything. Where did i go wrong to think that it is love? What do i do? I feel jealous to see him with anyone. Please guide
Ans: His sudden change in behavior—claiming he was never in love—seems like a way to distance himself emotionally because of family pressure. It doesn’t mean you were wrong in your feelings; it shows he might have been conflicted all along.

Seeing him with someone else hurts, and that’s natural. You’ve given so much of yourself, and it’s hard to accept that it wasn’t reciprocated in the way you hoped. Right now, focus on healing and remember that you deserve someone who values you fully. Take the time you need to process this, and know that you didn’t do anything wrong. This is more about his struggles than anything you did.

Moving forward, it's essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being. This situation may require some time to process and heal from, and it's okay to feel sad, angry, or confused during this time. Consider reaching out to a trusted friend, therapist, or counselor who can help you navigate these emotions and start focusing on your own needs and future.

In time, you might come to realize that this relationship, while significant, wasn’t the only path to happiness and fulfillment. You deserve a partner who reciprocates your love, acknowledges your worth, and is willing to build a future with you. For now, give yourself permission to grieve, but also start thinking about how you can rebuild your sense of self and eventually open up to new possibilities in your life.

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Hello sir, I am 50 age and investing in the below funds by sip mode: Nippon india large cap - 2000 pm Nippon india multi cap - 2000 pm Nippon india small cap - 2000 pm ICICI prudential flexi cap - 2000 pm MO midcap fund - 2000 pm Mahindra ML large & midcap - 2000 pm Uti nifty 50 index - 1500 pm ICICI Pru nifty next 50 index - 1500 pm Nippon IT index - 1500 pm ICICI bse sensex index - 1500 pm ICICI Pru multi asset allocation - 5000 pm DSP multi asset allocation - 1000 pm SBI retirement aggressive - 1000 pm HDFC balanced advantage - 2500 pm Can I continue the above for the next 10 years OR is there a need for any changes to be made. My current MF investment stands at 20 L Looking forward to you advise please.
Ans: You are investing in a diverse set of funds across multiple categories. It is important to check if your portfolio is well-balanced, tax-efficient, and aligned with your risk appetite.

Fund Overlap and Diversification
You have too many funds in the same category.

Multiple large-cap, multi-cap, and index funds create unnecessary duplication.

A smaller, well-chosen portfolio will improve returns and reduce complexity.

Index Funds in Your Portfolio
You are investing in four index funds.

Index funds lack downside protection in market crashes.

Actively managed funds have better potential to beat the market.

Consider reducing index fund exposure to improve returns.

Sector and Thematic Funds
You have a technology sector fund.

Sector funds can be high-risk, as they depend on one industry’s performance.

A diversified portfolio is better than relying on a single sector.

If held, sector funds should be less than 10% of the total portfolio.

Multi-Asset and Hybrid Funds
Multi-asset funds help in balancing risk with exposure to equity, debt, and gold.

You have three multi-asset funds, which may be too many.

It is better to consolidate and hold only one or two of the best-performing funds.

Retirement Fund and Balanced Advantage Fund
SBI Retirement Aggressive Fund is designed for long-term wealth creation.

HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund helps in managing market volatility.

These funds are suitable for investors above 50, as they lower risk.

Recommended Changes
Reduce fund duplication by keeping only one multi-asset fund.

Exit some index funds and switch to actively managed funds.

Limit sector funds to a small portion of your portfolio.

Continue investing in flexi-cap and balanced advantage funds for long-term stability.

Final Insights
Your portfolio has good diversification but can be simplified.

Reducing overlapping funds will improve returns and ease tracking.

Shifting from index funds to actively managed funds may provide better growth.

Holding for 10 years is a good strategy, but regular rebalancing is needed.

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What are possibilities of getting maintenance for a working woman (with a kid) from husband . My husband has abandoned us since birth of my daughter 4years. Not taking the child's responsibility. Husband says as I am earning I should take care of financial requirement of the child too. I am doing extra duties/ work just to take care of my daughter's education and future. As I am a healthcare professional my work consists of night duties. These duties are taking toll on my health and also my daughter's . People are saying as I am a working woman I can't claim maintenance from husband. But taking care of young child is more difficult with working. I just can't leave my job , just to show nil income to claim maintenance as no one is there to support me and my daughter. Hiring a nanny , maid etc along with rent comes around 85k per month apart from school expenses. As I live in metropolitan city. Husband earns more than me but transfers money to his mother's account.He has taken me granted financially since marriage.Not able to save anything for the future. Don't have any property on my name .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This is a question for a legal expert; so go ahead and seek the guidance of someone who can handle your case. Along with this, you will have to think of a good balance that will allow for you to manage work and home plus your health.

All the best!
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Hello sir, I am planning to buy a flat, with some stock sale proceeds and bank loan. Can I claim section 54F, for the entire registration amount for a flat, along with registration fee ? Or bank loan part is not considered
Ans: Eligibility for Section 54F
Section 54F provides capital gains exemption when selling assets like stocks.
You must invest the full net sale proceeds in a residential property.
The new flat must be purchased within two years or constructed within three years.
You should not own more than one residential house at the time of sale.
Treatment of Bank Loan Under Section 54F
Exemption applies only to the portion funded by stock sale proceeds.
The bank loan portion is not considered for exemption.
You need to invest the entire net sale proceeds to claim full exemption.
Registration Charges and Stamp Duty
Registration charges and stamp duty qualify as part of the property cost.
These expenses can be included for exemption under Section 54F.
However, only the part paid from capital gains is eligible.
Ensuring Full Exemption
If you reinvest only part of the net sale proceeds, the exemption is partial.
Any remaining capital gain will be taxed.
To avoid tax, the full capital gain amount must be reinvested.
Tax Implications If Conditions Are Not Met
If you sell the new property within three years, the exemption is reversed.
The capital gain becomes taxable in the year of sale.
Ensure compliance with all conditions to retain tax benefits.
Alternative Planning Strategies
If full reinvestment is not possible, consider capital gains bonds.
These bonds provide an alternative exemption under Section 54EC.
This helps in tax-efficient planning while keeping liquidity options open.
Final Insights
Section 54F helps save tax if proceeds are fully reinvested.
The bank loan portion does not qualify for exemption.
Registration costs can be included but only if paid from capital gains.
Ensure compliance to avoid future tax liabilities.
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