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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 29, 2024
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Dear Madam, I am 45 yrs, married person with a son. My relations with wife is zero due to her health problem. In my office one lady faculty of 32 yrs with daughter, speaks and behave very sweetly with me. I feel she likes me and i also like her. So i invited her for coffee on one day. She came and we spent more than one hour about speaking on each other's personal things. After few days i again invited her for coffee. She also accepted it. But this time, i mistakenly told about this one of office friend, who is very jealous to us. It goes viral in office. Now that lady stopped talking to me and blocked me from her contacts. May i lost the chance of love with her due to this mistake?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When there is no connection at home, it does not mean you go around looking for it outside. Work hard if you haven't done that already to fix things between you and your wife.
People outside come with their own set of challenges etc and then of course, people at office are going to talk about it...This is not good either for your reputation or the lady's...please focus on yourself and your marriage for things to improve.

All the best!
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Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile | Convert the Percentile to AIR, based on the Formula available in Google.
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
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You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
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Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
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Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
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Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
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If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
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Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

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