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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 02, 2024Hindi
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Hi i am 36 year's and my partner is 37 we have 2 young kids together. We have been together since almost 9 years. I am hindu and he is muslim we both are not much religious but our families are. We have been having issues continuously from last 4 years as he has been commiting adultery behind my back. He has issues with drinking, gambling girl issues and all this drama has been creating so much anger issues in me. He doesn't care anymore says sorry but again after a while i m faced with the same situation. I hv stopped talking to my inlaws as well coz they blamed me for all his short comings. I just staying in this for my kids, and also as i am not married to him legally i am scared about my kids future. What should i do pls help n guide me?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It looks like a very unstable environment to be in whether it's for your kids or you.
- Do you want to be in this relationship or not?
- If you continue, what are the compromises that you are willing to endure? How will this impact the children?
- If you step out, how will you care for your children and their future?
- Are you financially independent OR do you depend on your partner's income?

These questions will have clarity when you consult with a lawyer who specializes in separation related cases. He/she will be able to guide you with your financial security, what is possible and what is not and this will help you make any decision; especially given the case that the marriage has not been legalized as yet.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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I am from Hyderabad. Age 40 years old . My name is XY and I’ve been married for 17 years. I have two boys. Ours is a love marriage.I felt like everything will be good and smooth but right after our elder kid was born my life changed. I am an MBA and several times I told my husband that I’d like to work. He said he’d help when the right time and opportunity comes. Until then I should nurture my kids as it's my responsibility and I should support him. But in the 2015, my kid noticed his chats with another lady. I was shocked because many times he’d refused sex with me. We’d get intimate maybe twice or thrice a year. I thought he was busy or maybe he doesn’t like my body. But when I caught him he said, what is over is over. Don't raise the topic. Leave me. I just kept quiet. He said what ever happened, I will be the same for my kids’ future sake. Many quarrels happened. But in 2020 his behaviour came to light. For example if I said anything, he'd punish me by not speaking to me for months. But he'd want me to wash his clothes and fulfil other necessities at home.Once I opened up and said I want to go for counselling. There he told the doctor, ‘She wants my property but she never allows me to care of my mom. She won't allow me to talk to my friends.’ I was shocked. I told him 'I never asked for money or property. I just want to quit.' I went home and told myself if he repeats this another time I won't take it for granted. But again in the month of February, he continued his behaviour. He shifted to another bedroom for a few months where he’d watch TV and have food. He'd even sleep in the kids’ bedroom. I stopped bothering. At some point, I felt like I deserved someone who trusts me.I want to quit because he thinks I am a loyal maid who will take care of kids and the household. He communicates with like ‘What I should get? Milk veggies etc?’ He never treats me with love and affection. Now everything is spoiled. I want to have a new life. I want to be set free from him. Please suggest what to do.
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Dear XY,

And may I ask what exactly are you waiting for?

Why did you think that by you going for counselling, your husband will change his behaviour towards you?

How is that he cheats on you and still you allow him to treat you this way?

This only shows that you have lost your strength which you need most right now.

What if you were a strong independent woman who has been working?

Would you still subject yourself to this? You know the answer!

Bring back that woman who had dreams, who knew how to walk the path, who knew how a man should treat her, who knew what a marriage really is.

Can you do this?

Your kids need their mother to stand up for herself and do the right thing.

Be the woman who will not settle for anything that disrespects a woman or another human.

Seeing this, they will also know how to treat a woman and what a woman can bring into their lives.

Do the right thing, for yourself and them. Bring back that strong, independent woman who knew this and more.

Best wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 15, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir/Madam I'm going through a rough time of my life and want some help from you I am a professional and 48 years old and I have 2 grown up children My problem is that I had a love marriage with my husband22 years back and his family didn't accept me whole heartidly since we belong to different castes and culture .they wanted to take advantage of me financially My husband has strained his relationship with my mom n only sister after my father's death in 2008 over money matters Me, my husband and children live in a house provided by my parents in a different city from my inlaws They always create differences between us still Now another problem has cropped up in our relationship I spied on my my husband's mobile n discovered tha that he has sex chats with other women and is involved in mastrubating sessions with them over phone I am completely broken from inside n not able to decide what to do coz when i confronted him , he flatly refused n fought with me and started putting false allegations on me .I am quite disturbed as i dont want to end my marriage eventhough he behaves very bad with me at times Kindly advice me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Since you know that you want this marriage still, then the best way to not be hurt and strained around him, is to:
Either:
- Ignore what's happening and what he's doing and he leads his life and you lead yours (This is not easy, let me warn you!)
OR
- Live separately; you are financially independent and have your home to live in; he can go live with his parents and see if this works

Sadly, you married someone who has not learned to appreciate his partner and is perhaps playing to his own insecurities. It's totally on him and why I say that you are not to blame is: the fact that you still want to continue in this marriage, you may have to face more of this humiliation and hurt. If this is your decision, you really need a very steely interior and a facade that can face it all.
Yes, counseling is an option for him and the two of you as couple, BUT I don't see that in him as yet...Instead of addressing his wife's hurt and pain, he has refused to acknowledge what he's been up to. It doesn't say a lot about him to me.
So, strengthen yourself into your decision and check the two choices above and see what works best for you...

All the best!
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Mr Advait Arora, I am 36 Years Old and just got introduced to MF. I have started RD 80K/Month , FD 7.5Lcs, 32.5K/Month MF (SBI Magnum Mid Cap Direct Plan Growth 5k, Tata Small Cap Fund Direct growth 10 K, SBI PSU Direct Plan Growth 5K,Aditya Birla Sun Life PSU Equity Fund Direct growth 5 K,Quant Small cap Fund Direct Plan Growth 5k & Quant Mid Cap Fund Direct growth 2.5k. Additionaly have started LIC INdex Plan 30K/Month for 20 years, 2.5 Lcs / year HDFC ULIP Click to invest 10 years plan and 10 K/Month on Max life Saving an Ulip Plan Again for 5 years invest and 20 years plan . I wanted to target 10 Crores in 15 Years. Please let me know if am on the right track or is there some changes to be made .All this are started in year 2024. I am an NRE working in Middile east Thanks in advance Deepu
Ans: Your commitment to financial discipline and long-term goals is praiseworthy. However, your portfolio requires optimisation to ensure you reach your Rs 10 crore target in 15 years. Here's a detailed assessment and strategic recommendations.

Evaluating Your Current Portfolio
Recurring Deposit (RD): Rs 80,000/Month
Recurring deposits are low-risk but offer limited returns.
The post-tax return is unlikely to match inflation.
Fixed Deposit (FD): Rs 7.5 Lakh
Fixed deposits are safe but have similar challenges as RDs.
Long-term wealth creation is difficult with these instruments.
Mutual Funds (MF): Rs 32,500/Month
Investments in small-cap and mid-cap funds indicate a high-risk appetite.
However, all your investments are in direct funds.
Disadvantages of Direct Funds:

Direct funds require active monitoring and market knowledge.
Any wrong decision can lead to lower returns.
Benefits of Regular Funds via CFP:

Professional guidance ensures better fund selection.
Regular reviews and rebalancing optimise performance.
LIC Index Plan: Rs 30,000/Month for 20 Years
Index-based plans offer limited growth due to market-cap weighting.
Returns may not beat inflation consistently.
HDFC ULIP Click to Invest: Rs 2.5 Lakh/Year for 10 Years
ULIPs combine insurance and investment, leading to suboptimal growth.
High charges during the initial years impact returns.
Max Life Saving ULIP: Rs 10,000/Month for 5 Years, 20-Year Plan
Long lock-in and high charges are similar drawbacks as the above ULIP.
Insurance cover may not suffice for your financial needs.
Optimising Your Portfolio for Growth
1. Mutual Fund Investments
Shift from direct plans to regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner.
Diversify across equity, hybrid, and debt categories for better stability.
2. Recurring Deposit and Fixed Deposit
Gradually move RD and FD funds into debt and equity mutual funds.
Debt funds offer tax efficiency and better post-tax returns.
3. LIC Index Plan and ULIPs
Surrender these policies after consulting with your Certified Financial Planner.
Reinvest proceeds into mutual funds for higher long-term returns.
4. Adequate Term Insurance
Buy a pure term insurance plan for financial protection.
Ensure the sum assured is at least 10-15 times your annual income.
Building a Rs 10 Crore Corpus in 15 Years
Step 1: Monthly SIP Investments
Increase monthly SIPs gradually to match your cash flow.
Allocate more funds to equity-oriented mutual funds for growth.
Step 2: Balanced Portfolio Allocation
Maintain 60% in equity, 30% in debt, and 10% in other instruments.
Equity funds drive growth, while debt funds provide stability.
Step 3: Monitor and Rebalance
Regularly review your portfolio with a Certified Financial Planner.
Rebalance yearly to maintain the desired asset allocation.
Tax Efficiency
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With disciplined investing, proper diversification, and consistent reviews, achieving Rs 10 crore in 15 years is possible. Stay focused and work closely with a Certified Financial Planner.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 24, 2024Hindi
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I have retired at 55, funds available 1.7 cross, monthly expenses 1.5 lacs per month. 1.00 dr required after 5 years for daughters marriage. PLease advise additional corpus required.
Ans: You have retired at 55 with Rs. 1.7 crores corpus. Your monthly expenses are Rs. 1.5 lakhs. Additionally, Rs. 1 crore is needed in five years for your daughter's marriage. Let us determine the adequacy of your current corpus and the additional amount required for long-term financial stability.

Financial Observations
Monthly Expenses

Your current monthly expenses are Rs. 1.5 lakhs.
This translates to Rs. 18 lakhs annually.
Marriage Fund Requirement

Rs. 1 crore is required in five years.
Allocating a portion of the corpus now can ensure it grows to Rs. 1 crore.
Corpus Sustainability

The existing corpus of Rs. 1.7 crores is insufficient to sustain Rs. 1.5 lakhs monthly.
The gap between income and expenses will drain the corpus quickly.
Inflation Impact

Inflation will increase your expenses over the next 20–30 years.
Adequate planning is essential to preserve purchasing power.
Recommendations to Address the Corpus Gap
Marriage Fund Planning

Invest Rs. 70-75 lakhs in debt mutual funds or fixed-income instruments.
These options can grow steadily to Rs. 1 crore in five years.
Monthly Expense Management

Create a systematic withdrawal plan from the remaining corpus.
Focus on balanced or hybrid funds to sustain monthly cash flow.
Estimate Additional Corpus Required

Considering inflation and long-term expenses, an additional Rs. 4-5 crores is needed.
Start building this corpus through systematic investments.
Invest Additional Corpus for Growth

Invest new funds in equity-heavy portfolios for higher returns.
Diversify into large-cap, flexi-cap, and balanced funds.
Portfolio Allocation Strategy
Debt Allocation for Stability

Allocate 40–50% of the corpus to debt instruments.
Focus on short-term debt funds or fixed-income securities.
Equity Allocation for Growth

Invest 50–60% of the corpus in equity mutual funds.
Choose actively managed funds with consistent long-term performance.
Hybrid Funds for Balanced Growth

Allocate a portion to balanced advantage funds.
These provide stability and reduce volatility.
Emergency Fund

Maintain six months’ expenses in a liquid fund.
This ensures liquidity for emergencies.
ESOP or Stock Diversification

Avoid high concentration in single-company ESOPs.
Diversify into broader markets or mutual funds.
Tax Planning for Withdrawals
Minimise LTCG Tax on Mutual Funds

Long-term capital gains over Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Time withdrawals to reduce taxable gains.
STCG Tax Consideration

Short-term capital gains are taxed at 20%.
Avoid premature redemptions to save on taxes.
Debt Fund Taxation

Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income tax slab.
Plan redemptions strategically to reduce tax outgo.
Steps to Build the Additional Corpus
Increase Investment Allocation

Contribute Rs. 1.5–2 lakhs monthly to new investments.
Use systematic investment plans for disciplined investing.
Focus on Long-Term Equity Growth

Allocate a significant portion to equity for compounding growth.
Include international equity for diversification.
Review and Adjust Portfolio Regularly

Conduct half-yearly reviews to align with goals.
Rebalance the portfolio to manage risks.
Seek Professional Guidance

Work with a Certified Financial Planner to create a tailored plan.
Regular monitoring ensures you stay on track.
Final Insights
Your current corpus and monthly expenses require careful management. An additional Rs. 4-5 crores is necessary to ensure long-term financial stability. Focus on strategic investments and tax-efficient withdrawals. Plan proactively for the marriage fund and sustain your lifestyle comfortably.

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I am 66 years old and retired in 2019 with a retirement settlement corpus of 70 lakhs. I also inherited 50lakhs. I own a flat in MP valued at 1.4 cr. This is mortgaged as collateral for my daughter's international education to the tune of 32 lakhs. I also own a flat in mumbai worth 2.4 crores and another small real estate investment worth 25 lakhs. Due to improper investments and no income for last five years and also the fact that I have been living in MP while my wife with two adult kids was living in mumbai, we have consumed most of the corpus on living and managing two homes and now have only about 40 lacs in savings.. We dont have any other loans. My one child is 25 yrs and is abroad and other is 29 and earning good income.. My wife has to take care of her 85 yr old mother who has willed my wife her flat located in another city which is worth 1.2 crore and has about 50 lacs in FDs... Please advise on what is the best way ahead to secure our future and most important, generate a monthly income of 1 lac. I understand I have to consolidate my properties but unsure how to take the right decision.. Your advise will be valuable.
Ans: At 66 years of age, your primary focus should be to generate a steady income. Your current financial position, including properties and savings, offers opportunities for consolidation. Here is a detailed plan to secure your financial future and achieve a monthly income of Rs 1 lakh.

Understanding Your Current Position
Savings: Rs 40 lakh
Properties:
Flat in MP (Rs 1.4 crore, mortgaged for Rs 32 lakh)
Flat in Mumbai (Rs 2.4 crore)
Smaller real estate investment (Rs 25 lakh)
Family Dependency:
Wife with an 85-year-old mother requiring care
Two adult children (one earning, one studying abroad)
This diverse portfolio requires strategic consolidation for optimal returns.

Assessing Financial Needs
Target Monthly Income: Rs 1 lakh
Expenses: Consolidate family living to reduce redundant expenses.
Liquidity: Immediate access to funds for unforeseen needs.
Strategic Property Consolidation
1. Flat in MP
Sell the MP flat for Rs 1.4 crore.
Use Rs 32 lakh to close the loan taken for your daughter’s education.
The remaining Rs 1.08 crore becomes liquid for investments.
2. Flat in Mumbai
Retain this flat for family residence.
Consolidate living expenses by shifting your family from MP to Mumbai.
3. Small Real Estate Investment
Sell this property for Rs 25 lakh.
Add proceeds to your investment pool for income generation.
4. Future Inheritance
Your wife's future inheritance (Rs 1.2 crore flat and Rs 50 lakh FDs) adds security.
Avoid depending on this for immediate financial decisions.
Building a Monthly Income Stream
1. Immediate Investments
Allocate Rs 1.4 crore (from property sales) to a mix of instruments for income and growth:

Debt Mutual Funds: Invest Rs 1 crore in dynamic bond funds or monthly income plans.

These funds offer stable returns.
Withdraw systematically for monthly income.
Equity-Oriented Hybrid Funds: Invest Rs 40 lakh.

These funds balance growth with moderate risk.
Provide capital appreciation to beat inflation.
2. Emergency Fund
Keep Rs 10 lakh in liquid funds.
Ensure immediate access for unforeseen medical or family needs.
3. Insurance
Ensure adequate health insurance for yourself and your wife.
This reduces financial stress during medical emergencies.
Reducing Expenses
1. Family Consolidation
Move your wife and mother-in-law to Mumbai.
This reduces duplicate household expenses.
2. Simplify Lifestyle
Evaluate discretionary expenses and minimise unnecessary outflows.
Generating Rs 1 Lakh Monthly Income
Use the systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) from mutual funds.
Withdraw Rs 75,000 monthly from debt funds.
Use dividends or growth from equity hybrid funds for the remaining Rs 25,000.
This method ensures steady income without depleting the corpus.
Tax Efficiency
Mutual Fund Withdrawals
Debt Funds: Gains taxed as per your slab rate. Plan withdrawals carefully.
Equity Hybrid Funds: Gains above Rs 1.25 lakh annually taxed at 12.5%.
Strategies to Minimise Tax
Spread withdrawals across multiple financial years.
Utilise exemptions and deductions for senior citizens.
Role of a Certified Financial Planner
Regularly review the portfolio with a Certified Financial Planner.
Adjust investments based on market performance and financial needs.
Plan tax-efficient withdrawals and rebalancing.
Final Insights
Consolidating your properties and strategically investing the proceeds will ensure a secure retirement. A mix of debt and equity funds can generate Rs 1 lakh monthly. Simplify your living arrangement to save costs and reduce stress.

Consistent reviews and disciplined financial decisions will keep you on track. Focus on maintaining liquidity and protecting your wealth for a comfortable future.

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