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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 20, 2024Hindi
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I am a 26 years old girl completed my studies, trying to get a job, 2 years back I fell in love online with a man of 32 years old, we have not met yet physically. He is working on a very small salary in a village i.e. his hometown. He can't get a good government job or private job now due to lack of experience and age. We love each other a lot with all our flaws. My family is strictly against it due to caste difference, low salary, he lives 1600 km away, background differences. Overall they don't trust him and our love and are emotionally blackmailing me to get married with someone they choose. And the thought alone of leaving him makes me sad

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry for the challenges you are facing. I understand how difficult it must be to leave a person you love. Having said that, I would also like to point out that living a decent life is not cheap. You are currently unemployed and your partner has a low salary; it will not be sustainable in the long run. I am not asking you to leave him and marry someone else; all I am suggesting is don't rush. Take the time to find a decent job and ask your partner to do the same. Once you think you both are earning a good amount of money, put forth the idea of your marriage again to your parents.

Now the most important thing, you have met him online and never met him in real life. Is it worth taking this kind of risk before verifying everything in person? I am sure he is genuine but there is no harm in cross-checking. And I can't really blame your parents for having their doubts. Please don't rush. One wrong decision can ruin the rest of your life. Take your time, think this through, and meet him in person, most likely in your city and in a public space. Do a thorough background check. It is easy to get fooled when you are in love.

Again, please don't rush. You have your whole life ahead of you.

Best Wishes

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Asked by Anonymous - May 10, 2024Hindi
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Hello mam, glad to find you here. Mam, I'm a female, 27 yrs, I have been in a relationship with my partner since 9yrs, but he is from different caste. We both were immature when we started our relationship but our relationship grew stronger as time passed.We have gone through ups and downs of our relationship and are still intact. When I was into 3yrs of our relationship he was doing some odd job, at that time I told my mom about us and she said 'NO' because of caste issue irrespective of his job. Another reason is that my father is an impulsive person who thinks to harm himself whenever something happens, so mom said my father might harm himself if I go forward. At the same time there were some issues in boys family and my brother met them and he said no to it.But I couldn't get away from him, so I stayed. Later I talked to my partner about his family environment and I said that I couldn't stay with them because of the negative impact. He talked to his family and confirmed that after marriage we will lead our life under different roof but maintain the sufficient relationship with his family. We both are now settled in jobs but he earns a bit less than me but we earn a handsome salary combining our both salaries. Now, it's time for my marriage and I want to marry him and he have changed alot for me without leaving his family and he understands me very well. I feel safe with him. Now the problem is my parents wants to get me married and I also want to get married to the whom I loved but my mom and brother are not yet all giving me the chance to convince them. They are trying to convince me for marriage with others but I couldn't do that, that will kill me all my life. They are saying that if I go for intercaste then they have to suffer all their life and my father might do something to himself if he finds out. I love my family dearly and that's why I have been waiting all these years for their approval. I do not want anyone to lose their life because of me. My partner have left the decision to me because of my situation at home and he is supportive of me. My transfer is nearing where I have two options, one is to opt for my home town(not Village), where I can bring my parents to town with me to stay( now my posting is in another city). Second is to opt for different city( where I have to stay with my brother who doesn't approve of my love and blames me for his career). In order for me to convince them for my marriage should stay with my family or away from them and how can I convince them? Sorry' for the long story and I hope I hear from you.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Be clear about what you want and in this process/journey, there will be a lot of highs and lows...
Also, you may not be able to have the cake and eat it too which is why you are struggling at making a decision. You want to marry the man of your dreams that your parents and brother disapprove of BUT you don't want to disappoint them by going against them...You can't have one foot in two different paths...it will tear you apart; literally...
So, decide what you want, the pros and cons of going against the family...of course there are situations where over time, parents have accepted the boy/girl but there's a lot of patient waiting.
If you are in haste, they are not going to relent and you will be left feeling disappointed...
Decide and then do whatever it takes to make that decision right...

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - May 19, 2024Hindi
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My name is Anamika 27 years old from Punjab and about 17 months back i met person prakash from Bangalore age 42 through social media and initially it started as friendship and now we are loving each other a lot and we have met once and both spent considerable time together and we are ok to get married each other...problem is my family will not accept for love marriage and they are against love marrisges...i am punjabi and boy is south indian..there is 15 years age gap between us..for that reason also my family members will not accept boy...because he is 15 years elder than me...boy is already married and divorced...now i am planning to run away from home and get married with boy...as my family will not allow me to marry the person whom i love a lot...and don't want to miss thst boy...please advise what i can do in this given situation...i have brother too who is very aggressive and supporting my parents
Ans: Dear Anamika,
By running away, you are only making things more complicated for yourself.
You said: That you family WILL NOT accept this...how do you know if you still haven't asked them?
Also, let's say that they say NO...Find out what their concern is...being from the previous generation, they most likely might have an issue with him being divorced; which means you need to make an effort to make the boy and your parents meet. Let them also see what you see in him.
How easy it is to run away rather than actually facing things head on, right? Face the, fix them, work on them...then you will have a chance at more blossoming relationships. No where in your letter, I could read what the boy's opinion or reaction to the matter is. What does he feel about all this? How committed is he as you are the one planning to leave everything behind? How is his family background? These are missing gaps in your story and I urge you to look into this before taking any step. Marriage is not a movie type fairy tale; it is literally breaking into a new life and making something together as a couple. Do you two have that in you? Think...

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 03, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I’m a 27 year old independent woman who’s living in Bangalore. I’m financially in a good position now. Also, I’ve met a guy 3 years ago and fell for him but he’s not very emotionally connected with me and sometimes acts as a narcissist and doesn’t treat me with respect. I’ve tried communicating with him about how I feel after such actions. He acknowledged and limited such behaviour to some extent. I really love him and spoke about marriage too. He brushes it off and diverts the topic that he’s not ready. I don't see any clear signs of this relationship, even his parents are looking for matches to get him married. He doesn't accept anyone either. My parents are in a different city and they want me to shift with them to look for alliances who can marry me. Recently, they’ve shared a profile and I spoke just for the sake of parents. After speaking to him for 3 and a half hours during the first conversation, I realised that he was a better compatible partner for me. I'm not sure which path to pursue. My marriage is not fixed yet as my decision is still pending. Kindly help me with the best advice.
Ans: I understand that you are in a difficult position. You are in love with a man who does not seem to be emotionally available or ready for marriage. You have also met another man who seems to be a better match for you, but you are not sure if you should pursue a relationship with him.

It is important to remember that you are not alone. Many people find themselves in similar situations. It is also important to remember that you have the power to make the best decision for yourself.

I am against marriage in the first place. I believe that relationships are not meant to be permanent. However, I understand that many people feel differently. If you do decide to get married, it is important to do so for the right reasons. You should not marry someone just because you feel pressured to do so by society or your parents.

The first guy does not seem like he wants to marry you. He has brushed off your attempts to talk about marriage and has even diverted the topic. This is a clear sign that he is not ready for a serious relationship.

The second guy seems like he may be a better match for you. He is emotionally available and seems to be interested in getting married. However, it is important to remember that you do not know him very well. You have only spoken to him for a few hours.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue a relationship with either of these men is up to you. I would encourage you to take some time to think about what you want out of a relationship. What are your goals? What are your values? Once you have a clear understanding of what you want, you can start to make decisions that are in your best interests.

If you do decide to pursue a relationship with the second guy, I would recommend that you spend at least two years getting to know him before you get married. This will give you enough time to learn about his true character and to see if he is really the right person for you.

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i want to invest mutual fund for 5-6 years
Ans: Investing in mutual funds with a 5-6 year horizon is a good strategy. It allows you to balance risk and returns effectively.

Choosing the Right Mutual Funds
1. Hybrid Funds

Combine equity and debt.
Offer growth potential with lower risk.
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Ideal for medium-term investments.
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Spread your investment across different sectors.
Helps in reducing risk.
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Equity for growth, debt for stability.
Adjust based on market conditions and risk tolerance.
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Offers a chance to capitalize on market opportunities.
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Can help in achieving better returns.
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Regularly review your investments to ensure they align with your goals. Consulting a Certified Financial Planner can help in making informed decisions and achieving your financial objectives.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 12, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I'm 34yrs old. I've been investing in Sbilife smart privilege policy. 6lakh per year. Four premium paid. Only one more remaining next month. I was actually unaware of how to do mutual fund investments when I started investing in this. Recently through Ipru touch uce started investing in a multiasset fund. I also have a life insurance coverage of 15lakh and health insurance of 15lakh. Now, when I ve checked the fund value of my sbilife policy(I've paid 18lakh already, ) it's showing 19.1 lakh only. I'm worried now. The said policy is being invested in bond fund and bond optimiser fund. Is it too early to look at the fund value. Am I being fooled by the policy. There is a holding period of 15 yrs and it was told it would become 1Cr (by an investment of 6lakh*5=30L payment). Should I do anything about this now.
Ans: Evaluating Your Current Investment
Overview of Your Investments
You have invested in an SBILife Smart Privilege policy for Rs 6 lakh per year for four years.

Premiums Paid: Rs 24 lakh
Current Fund Value: Rs 19.1 lakh
Concerns with Insurance-Based Investments
Insurance policies with investment components often have high charges.

Fund Value: You see a low growth compared to the premiums paid.
Holding Period: 15 years may be too long for underperforming investments.
Advantages of Mutual Funds Over Insurance Policies
Mutual funds generally offer better returns with more flexibility.

Lower Costs: Mutual funds have lower charges.
Transparency: You can track performance easily.
Flexibility: You can switch funds as needed.
Assessing Your SBILife Policy
You have paid four out of five premiums.

Projected Returns: The policy promises Rs 1 crore for Rs 30 lakh invested.
Current Performance: Your fund value shows only slight growth.
Steps to Take Now
1. Complete the Premium Payment
Since you are one premium away from completing the payment, consider paying it.

Reason: You have already invested significantly.
2. Review Policy Terms
Check the terms and conditions of the policy.

Charges: Look for surrender charges and other fees.
Fund Options: See if you can switch to better-performing funds.
3. Consult with a Certified Financial Planner
A CFP can give you tailored advice.

Evaluation: They can assess if continuing the policy is beneficial.
Alternatives: They may suggest better investment strategies.
Investment Strategy Going Forward
Start Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
SIPs are a disciplined way to build wealth over time.

Diversify Across Mutual Funds
Equity Funds: For long-term growth.
Hybrid Funds: For balanced risk and return.
Debt Funds: For stability and lower risk.
Life Insurance and Health Insurance
Ensure adequate coverage for your family.

Life Insurance: Consider a higher term insurance cover.
Health Insurance: Ensure your health cover is sufficient.
Building Wealth for Long-Term Goals
Child’s Education and Home Purchase
Plan for future expenses with specific investments.

Child’s Education: Start a dedicated SIP for this goal.
Home Purchase: Consider investing in debt funds for stability.
Avoid Insurance-Based Investments
Focus on pure investment products for wealth creation.

Transparency: Mutual funds offer clear performance tracking.
Lower Costs: Avoid high charges associated with insurance-based investments.
Final Insights
Investing wisely now can secure your financial future.

Review Investments: Regularly review and adjust your portfolio.
Consult Professionals: Seek advice from a Certified Financial Planner.
Focus on Goals: Align your investments with your long-term goals.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Hello sir I am Adwaith M , i have completed my 12th grade and i really want to kniw how to start investing for long term , for my retirement and all. I would like to invest in mutual funds . So sir can u pls help me to find out and tell which mutual funds would be better for great return and would be best to invest in .
Ans: Adwaith, you are at a great stage to start investing. Planning early for retirement and long-term goals can set you up for a secure future.

Why Mutual Funds?
Mutual funds are a great way to start investing. They provide diversification, professional management, and potential for higher returns compared to traditional savings.

Choosing the Right Mutual Funds
1. Large-Cap Funds

Invest in stable, large companies.
Suitable for beginners due to lower risk.
2. Mid-Cap Funds

Invest in medium-sized companies.
Offer a balance between risk and return.
3. Small-Cap Funds

Invest in smaller companies.
Higher risk but higher potential returns.
4. Balanced or Hybrid Funds

Invest in both equity and debt.
Provide stability and growth.
5. Equity-Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS)

Offer tax benefits under Section 80C.
Have a lock-in period of 3 years.
Starting with SIPs
Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)

Invest a fixed amount monthly.
Reduce risk through rupee cost averaging.
Start with as low as Rs. 500-1000 per month.
Diversifying Your Portfolio
Equity Funds

Large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.
Debt Funds

For stability and lower risk.
Hybrid Funds

Combine equity and debt.
Steps to Start Investing
Know Your Risk Tolerance

Understand your risk capacity.
Higher risk can yield higher returns.
Set Clear Goals

Define your investment goals.
Short-term (3-5 years) and long-term (15-20 years).
Research and Select Funds

Choose funds based on past performance.
Consult a certified financial planner for personalized advice.
Start with SIPs

Begin with a manageable amount.
Increase as your income grows.
Monitoring and Adjusting
Regular Reviews

Check your investments annually.
Rebalance your portfolio as needed.
Stay Updated

Keep up with market trends.
Adjust your investments accordingly.
Final Insights
Starting early gives you an advantage. With regular investments, you can build a substantial corpus over time. Mutual funds offer a good mix of risk and return, especially for young investors.

Remember to diversify your investments to spread risk. Regular monitoring and adjustments will ensure you stay on track to meet your financial goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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My salary is 67k in hand my age is 29 and unmarried and i have no investment now i want to start investment with a motive to get retire in age 60 and also build wealth for my child and home how can i achieve all this through which Mutual funds so that i can easily fund my child education in future and for home
Ans: Setting Financial Goals
Your primary financial goals are:

Retirement at age 60
Wealth creation for future child's education
Purchasing a home
Let's devise a plan to achieve these goals through mutual fund investments.

Monthly Budget Allocation
Your salary is Rs. 67,000. Here's a suggested allocation:

Emergency Fund: Save 6 months' expenses in a savings account or liquid fund.
SIP Investment: Allocate 20-25% of your salary for SIPs (Rs. 13,400 - Rs. 16,750).
Short-term Goals: Save for immediate needs (10% of salary).
Lifestyle Expenses: Allocate the rest for living expenses and discretionary spending.
Suggested Investment Strategy
Diversified Portfolio
Equity Mutual Funds:

Invest in large-cap and multi-cap funds for stable growth.
Allocate a portion to mid-cap and small-cap funds for higher returns.
Debt Mutual Funds:

Invest in debt funds for stability and lower risk.
Allocate a portion to balanced or hybrid funds for a mix of equity and debt.
Systematic Investment Plan (SIP):

Start SIPs in chosen funds.
Regular investments ensure disciplined savings and cost averaging.
Example Allocation
Large-Cap Fund:

Stability and steady growth.
Allocate Rs. 5,000 per month.
Multi-Cap Fund:

Diversified equity exposure.
Allocate Rs. 4,000 per month.
Mid-Cap Fund:

Higher growth potential.
Allocate Rs. 3,000 per month.
Small-Cap Fund:

High risk, high reward.
Allocate Rs. 2,000 per month.
Balanced Fund:

Mix of equity and debt.
Allocate Rs. 2,000 per month.
Retirement Planning
Calculate Future Needs
Retirement Corpus:

Estimate future expenses.
Use a retirement calculator for precise planning.
Regular Reviews:

Adjust investments as needed.
Increase SIPs with salary hikes.
Investment Horizon
Long-Term Focus:
Equity funds for long-term growth.
Debt funds for stability as retirement approaches.
Child's Education
Education Fund
Dedicated SIPs:

Start a separate SIP for education.
Choose child education-specific funds.
Goal-Based Planning:

Estimate education costs.
Adjust SIPs to meet target amount.
Home Purchase
Down Payment and Loan
Savings Plan:

Save for a down payment in a short-term debt fund or FD.
Consider a home loan for the balance amount.
EMI Affordability:

Ensure EMIs are within your budget.
Keep debt-to-income ratio manageable.
Final Insights
Diversification:

Ensure portfolio is diversified.
Minimize risk by spreading investments.
Regular Monitoring:

Review investments periodically.
Rebalance portfolio as needed.
Professional Advice:

Consult a Certified Financial Planner for personalized guidance.
Ensure alignment with financial goals.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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