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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2024Hindi
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I'm came into a relationship after 2-3 months of having a breakup. It's been 1.5-2 years we are in a relationship I'm his first love. So he's very serious about me. But now as my ex called me a few time all these years & I didn't blocked him until last time my bf thinks I used him to overcome my past relationship & I never loved him. He's soo much hurt from me & he has given me one last chance to move on & not to hurt him again otherwise I'll lose him forever.. other than my relationship I have also hurted him way too much I didn't understood his needs of affection & love he never asks me for anything nothing at all for sharing emotions or anything... He's himself struggling with a lot of things in his life... & I have made many mistakes I have hurted him soo much... I'm in a lot of guilt now... That bcoz of me he's hurt & now I can't do anything I just want him to be alright but idk how... I have this last chance to keep my relationship alive, I just want him to be okay... It's hurting me remembering my past & it's hurting me more that I have hurted someone who truly unconditionally loved me...????????

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am truly sorry to see you so conflicted. I am not completely certain what went down between you two but in general, a good and honest conversation can help in such situations. Since you mentioned hurting him by not understanding his needs, I recommend you to focus more on communication. Ask him about his love language- what would make him happy, what he expects from you, what you could expect from him, and more. This way, there will be clarity. I am sure you did nothing to hurt him intentionally. Please be strong; this is just a fleeting issue.

Best Wishes.

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Hi I am 23 years old and had a first relationship with 4 years younger boy. Everything between us was picture perfect. He was everything I ever dreamt of, but after 1 year our relationship turned toxic.He's acting like he wasn’t aware that ups and downs come but we should stick to each other. He asked to break up twice and we again came together but now it’s been months we aren’t together anymore. I’m emotionally attached to him but tired of bearing this pain and constantly fearing he will leave me when conditions aren’t favourable. But after break up he still wants to be friends. I even agreed that. Even in friendship he's talking and roaming as per only his convenience. Guide me how to come out of pain as I’m pursuing one of the renowned career course and also this also is affecting my mental health.
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Dear D,

Emotional maturity is what is in question here. He still is at an age where commitment is not something he is aware of.

It’s like try this relationship, if it doesn’t work, try another one and so on….

Give him time to settle his emotions till he is ready for a committed relationship; which does not mean, you wait around for ever.

Now that you are ‘friends’ or not, please surround yourself with people your age and if an interesting person comes along, see where that goes.

As far as being attached to him goes, do you really want to continue to inflict pain on yourself by basing your entire emotional world with him?

The world is huge and so are your sights…. Focus on yourself and what you love and be in that space to find yourself again.

Be kind to yourself, all the best! 

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Dear Mam I am 22 years old and today I want to share my story of heart break and I really want to know what I can I do better to make myself happy. I started dating this a guy in 2017 and I was madly in love with him. Everything for me was about him. Since I was living in a hostel I used to feel alone sometimes. Initially our relationship was normal. Then one day I went for a trip with him and we got physical for the first time. Somehow, I got attached to him more after that. I started calling him to my hostel to spend time with me. Meanwhile I faced some personal problems in my life. Those days were really bad and I used to suffer a lot. He was there for me always. He never made me feel alone in the city. I used to go to my family every year and then lockdown happened. I was stuck in my hometown. I had a fight with him and I just cut the call. From that day onwards his behaviour towards me changed.The very next day he went out with another girl and posted pictures. I was hurt. I didn't know what to say, I was in self-doubt mode but his behaviour started changing towards me.In the beginning, he said when you will come back I cannot come and stay with you. I agreed to it. Then he said I cannot meet you every weekend cause I want to make other plans as well. Slowly I understood that he wants me to stay away from his life. He went for a party with the girl late in the night and that triggered me very badly. I fought with him. I guess that was the moment he was waiting for. He said that he doesn't want me anymore and broke up. I kept begging him not to leave me but it seemed like he was dying to leave me. I was completely shattered. On 15th January he left me. Even after leaving he continued texting me. I was trying my best to control my feelings and I tried giving him the space he deserved. Still he kept texting me. He was not able to stay away from me. My vacation got over and it was my time to go back. This was the most difficult part coz this time I knew that he won't be there for me, and I have to survive alone. Once while coming back from my home town to my work town I texted him. He said that he is with the girl and he is drunk. I couldn’t sleep that night. I was shivering. I was broken. When I entered the city I was shivering cause I was not ready for the consequences. I didn't meet him because he went for a trip with that girl and got physical with her. He always maintained that it’s only after he left me that he got involved with someone else. He wanted me to be a part of his life somehow so he kept calling and texting me. Even when he was with the girl he used to come to my house every Saturday and go on dates with that girl on Sundays. I really didn't understand what was he up to. Meanwhile I went through her profile and came to know that she’s a little suspicious. One day I got the opportunity to tell him about it. He said come and meet me. He was drunk and we got physical. That time I checked his phone and saw the messages he’d shared with her. I was broken again but this time I texted her through his phone to please take care of him. That girl got angry and made things worse. Instead of making sure that he is alright she locked horns with him. He blamed me for losing her. I told him that my existence in your life is not good. Let's just not talk to each other. Next day he again texted me requesting to meet. In the evening when I went to meet him he was a completely changed person. He treated me very well, gave me his phone and made me feel special. Somehow he came back to me and started giving me the importance I was craving for. Today he is with me and pampers me. He has stopped doing certain things which he used to do but I get the importance.Despite all this, I am a bit insecure and scared because of what I have gone through in the past. Can you please tell me what to do?
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Dear SR,

Read this sentence that you have written:

“Even when he was with the girl he used to come to my house every Saturday and go on dates with that girl on Sundays.”

Do you not feel used and powerless?

How are you able to allow someone to treat you in such a disrespectful manner?

Did the two of decide to become friends and support one another in your respective relationships, like the way you stood by and watched him date this other girl while he walked into your life seeking approval?

Open your eyes please. The other girl is no longer in his life and he wails and comes back to you and now you are wondering what you should be doing?

If this was your sister or a best friend going through the same thing, will you tell them to put up with this toxic behaviour or will you ask them to take charge of their lives?

Will you tell them to love themselves more and reclaim their power or wait meekly to pick up scraps as and when the guy threw them around?

Stand up for yourself girl; at least he will think before trying this game with another girl.

Do the right thing by just being YOU and loving yourself more.

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Dear Anu, I am in relationship for 6 months and now we are in long distance relationship, I have struggled a lot in family love issues, so I always craved for love, but my boyfriend is a bit distant, although he tries his best, but I just can't get over, I feel like i deserve to be loved more and deserve good care and attention, there are always the things which he hurts me almost everyday now, I feel like shutting down my emotions again, I feel very low after his actions, although he has his reasons which are correct too, but little bit wrong too, he does not think deeply about me, because he is immature himself, we are just 19, I don't know and unable to understand what should I do, should I shut myself down and try to study and not talk to him by giving him excuses that I am busy, I really am losing more and more trust from him, and slowly my will to share things is getting lost, although I scream from inside that I want to share but after his actions hurt me, I feel puzzled from inside, he is good, but I don't think he is much into these love and stuffs, he is just chill with his life, as he shows off, so much that I misunderstand him a lot, how can we understand each other better, we just keep hurting each other, because of our different thoughts and perspective, I love him so much, I want to be with him, but his actions make me further distant from him, and he also says he has his own privacy, I don't understand, if relationship is built on trust then what kind of privacy, I don't mean , I don't understand him, i respect his opinion, but because of his perspective, he hurts me too, and doesn't respect my perspective, I feel like relying on him emotionally and always have been, but he thinks I speak too much and he doesn't value it much, and doesn't understand how much hard it is for me to share....I really feel very much overwhelmed and it's not getting any better, every night I feel pain and keeps on crying, it's not stoping, it's becoming a loop, please guide me, what should I do.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
All I can see and hear from you is: that you are dependent on him for you happiness!
Okay, 'I have struggled a lot in family love issues' (as you mentioned) BUT looking for that to be filled from someone externally is only going to disappoint you.
How can you replace family and sibling love and attention from outside?
Also, being 19, both of you are still not mature to put things in perspective. Do understand that every time you complain to your boyfriend and call that a 'perspective', you are just pushing him away...he's just being a boy of 19 trying to have a carefree life and a girlfriend with who he can share and of course, feel 'cool' in his guy gang.
Why are you expecting him to fill in for the missing love? He cannot as whatever he does, he will always fall short as in your mind you will compare with what you ideally would want and he will fall short. Then, the drama will begin where you will complain, he will defend and he will slowly call that his carefree ways and he will say: I am like this only!
And then you will feel hurt and the drama will continue.

First things first; you cannot fulfill what love you lack from outside. Learn to love yourself first. the concept of self-love is rage these days BUT it has always been around in simpler ways from the very beginning. Love what you do everyday, surround yourself with friends that you feel good with, focus on your academic goals...
Loving oneself is the way to go; it might seem a bit difficult at you age to fathom as everything external excites you...So, focus on your self and put less attention in what your boyfriend does or doesn't. Slowly, you will appreciate the things that he does for you...And you will start to feel better from within!
Your self-worth is something only you can grow from within and this cannot be dependent on anything or anyone external. Grow your strength from within!

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Me and my boyfriend are in long distance relationship from past 6 months, I told him about my past in almost starting of it that I had 2 friends with benefits in past and one of that person was my classmate as well as friend, and he used to still contact me, and when I came in relationship also, he called me during that time and I told regarding my relationship status, and I also informed my boyfriend that I talked with him but this thing happened before he knows that I had physical intimacy with him, then when he asked me to block, I suddenly question "what is the point of blocking him" which I regret the most, but I blocked him later by myself, now my boyfriend is sayine me that I have cheated him and he won't trust me till his death, but I told everything in past happened to him. I love him a lot but he is not giving to work together in this relationship and saying that he won't stay loyal to me anymore, he won't trust be ever, as per him I have cheated him, but my intentions were not wrong at all, tho that guy was in contact but I never initiate any conversation with him while I came into relationship, is it really a cheat, is it that he should not trust me anymore? Please guide
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It sounds like you are going through a rough time and I am sorry for it. Here's a thought and I am sure you have thought of it too, try to see things from his perspective. While you know that you never cheated nor meant to, it is important to acknowledge that your boyfriend's feelings are valid. He is feeling betrayed and that's a fact. Now, our goal should be to fix this issue. How do we do it? Communication is the only way. Tell him that you understand his perspective but it is important that he sees yours too. If he wants to vent, listen to him. Do not interrupt or become defensive. Understand whatever he says is coming from his insecurity. I know it's difficult not to take it personally, but his statements will be a reflection of his feelings and not your character. Remember this during the conversation. Once he is done speaking, reassure him that you had no intention of cheating. You can also reassure him of your commitment. Promise to be more transparent and point out that you were honest with him from the beginning. If you had any intention to cheat, you could have easily not shared with him your past. But you did and that shows that you are committed to this relationship. Tell him that you understand the need for boundaries and it is not okay to be in touch with people who make your partner uncomfortable.

Look, rebuilding trust needs work and it also takes time. Both of you need to work on it. You will have to work on making him trust you and he will have to work on letting go of his misconception (which might be his reality) and trust you wholly again. Relationships don't work till two people trust each other completely. If he continues to say that he can't trust you again, it might be best to reconsider this relationship. Even though your words hurt him, you did not cheat on him in reality. Why should you have to live in fear that he will cheat on you merely to take revenge?

After you put in all the effort, see where it goes. If things do not get better, rethinking the relationship would be best. Everyone deserves someone who can trust and be trusted.

Best Wishes.

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Assessing Retirement Readiness
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Ensure health insurance coverage for yourself, your spouse, and your future child.

Review policies annually to match your needs and rising healthcare costs.

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Rs. 1 lakh for living expenses is reasonable, especially in Bangalore.

Your FD of Rs. 20 lakhs and PPF corpus of Rs. 25 lakhs add to financial security.

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Retirement in 14 Years
Retiring by 50 requires a significant corpus for 30+ years of post-retirement.

Accounting for inflation and rising expenses, you need aggressive savings and investments.

Kids’ Education and Settlement
Both children will need education funding in approximately 15 and 18 years.

Planning early ensures inflation does not disrupt their education goals.

Optimising Debt Management
Focus on prepaying your home loan within the next three to four years.

Use any annual bonuses, FD interest, or surplus funds for prepayments.

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Strengthening Emergency Fund
Allocate six months’ expenses, including EMIs, in liquid funds or savings accounts.

Keep this fund separate from your investments for financial emergencies.

Investment Strategy for Retirement
1. Equity-Focused Growth
Allocate 60% of your investments towards equity mutual funds for high growth potential.

Actively managed funds provide better returns than index funds due to active oversight.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner for consistent reviews and fund optimisation.

2. Balanced Allocation
Use 30% of your surplus for balanced or hybrid funds for stability and moderate growth.

These funds balance risk and returns and suit medium-term goals like pre-retirement.

3. Debt Instruments for Security
Retain PPF contributions as it offers risk-free, tax-free returns for retirement.

Diversify into short-term debt funds for liquidity and better returns than FDs.

Planning for Kids’ Education
Start separate investments for your children’s education goals.

Allocate 50% of your SIPs to child-specific goals with a 15-18 year horizon.

Use equity funds for long-term growth to beat education cost inflation.

Maintain a small portion in debt funds for liquidity near the education milestone.

Tax Optimisation
Use Section 80C benefits with your PPF and insurance premium contributions.

Minimise tax on equity fund withdrawals by staying below Rs. 1.25 lakh LTCG annually.

Debt fund gains should align with your income tax slab to optimise taxes.

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Ensure adequate term life insurance for both you and your wife.

This safeguards your children’s future in case of unexpected events.

Review health insurance coverage for your family and parents regularly.

2. Automate Investments
Automate your SIPs and PPF contributions to maintain consistency.

Use step-up SIPs to increase contributions as your income grows.

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Focus on clearing your home loan early to increase investable surplus.

Prioritise separate investments for kids’ education using equity-based strategies.

Strengthen your retirement portfolio by allocating towards equity and balanced funds.

Maintain liquidity through a robust emergency fund and short-term debt instruments.

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I'm 26. 2.5L in hand monthly income. I have 15L in equity+mf, 2L in FD, 50k NPS, 4.5L PPF, 80k Gold. Home loan emi 30k, car loan 20k. Rent 33k. Other expenses roughly 50k. What lind of savings and investments can you suggest so I can retire by the age of 35. Thank you!
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Your Rs. 15 lakh in equity and mutual funds is a great start.

You also have Rs. 2 lakh in FD, Rs. 50,000 in NPS, Rs. 4.5 lakh in PPF, and Rs. 80,000 in gold.

Your total monthly expenses, including EMIs and rent, are Rs. 1.33 lakh, leaving Rs. 1.17 lakh surplus.

Your home loan EMI of Rs. 30,000 and car loan EMI of Rs. 20,000 are manageable for now.

Assessing Retirement at 35
Retiring at 35 means a shorter investment window and longer retirement period.

You need a significant corpus to sustain your post-retirement lifestyle for 50+ years.

Maximising savings and investing aggressively is crucial to achieving this goal.

Focus on Clearing Debt Early
Home and car loans reduce your cash flow and increase financial stress.

Pay off the car loan early as it has a shorter tenure and higher interest rates.

For the home loan, prepay 10-20% annually to reduce your overall tenure and interest burden.

Use bonuses or savings to make these prepayments while maintaining investments.

Building a Comprehensive Savings and Investment Plan
1. Increase Investments Aggressively
Direct a major portion of your surplus Rs. 1.17 lakh towards investments.

Allocate 70% of your surplus to equity mutual funds for high growth potential.

Use actively managed funds for better returns compared to index funds.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner to optimise fund selection and portfolio reviews.

2. Diversify for Stability
Allocate 20% of your surplus to debt funds or short-term corporate bond funds.

These funds provide stability and liquidity for medium-term goals.

Continue contributing Rs. 50,000 annually to your NPS for long-term benefits.

Increase your PPF contributions if possible, as it offers tax-free, risk-free returns.

3. Gold as a Small Portion
Retain gold as a hedge against inflation but avoid increasing its allocation.

Focus on financial assets that offer better growth for your retirement goal.

4. Build an Emergency Fund
Set aside at least six months of expenses in a liquid fund or savings account.

This ensures you don’t disrupt investments during emergencies.

Tax Optimisation Strategies
Use tax-saving options under Sections 80C and 80CCD for efficient planning.

Equity mutual fund LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

Debt mutual fund gains are taxed as per your income tax slab.

Plan withdrawals and switches strategically to reduce tax liabilities.

Monitoring and Rebalancing
Review your investments annually to align them with your retirement target.

Rebalance your portfolio based on market conditions and life changes.

Use the guidance of a Certified Financial Planner for optimising your asset allocation.

Reducing Lifestyle Expenses
Monitor discretionary spending to increase your investable surplus.

Avoid lifestyle inflation as your income grows over time.

Direct all savings from reduced expenses towards investments for your goal.

Protecting Your Financial Plan
Ensure you have adequate life insurance to protect your family’s future.

Health insurance is also crucial to avoid dipping into your retirement corpus.

Keep reviewing your coverage periodically to match rising costs.

Final Insights
Retiring by 35 requires disciplined savings, aggressive investing, and debt reduction.

Direct your Rs. 1.17 lakh surplus towards equity and debt investments with a focused approach.

Pay off your car loan early and prepay your home loan regularly to improve cash flow.

Diversify your portfolio and continue contributing to NPS and PPF for balanced growth.

Regular monitoring and professional guidance will help you stay on track.

Build a sustainable plan for post-retirement withdrawals to protect your corpus.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am 25 old I want to start a swp Lumsum 25l investment and 0.5% withdraw per month suggest me fund
Ans: At 25, starting a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) is a proactive decision.

Your Rs. 25 lakh lump sum investment shows readiness for disciplined financial planning.

A withdrawal of 0.5% per month (Rs. 12,500) is sustainable for the long term.

You need funds that generate steady returns while protecting the corpus.

Benefits of SWP for Your Financial Plan
SWPs provide monthly income without liquidating your entire investment.

They are tax-efficient compared to traditional income options like fixed deposits.

Withdrawals from mutual funds offer flexibility and inflation-adjusted returns.

Your unused balance continues to grow, supporting long-term wealth creation.

Key Considerations Before Choosing Funds
1. Focus on Balance Between Growth and Stability
As your corpus will last for years, balance growth and stability.

A mix of equity and debt-oriented funds can help achieve this balance.

2. Choose Actively Managed Funds
Actively managed funds can outperform benchmarks and deliver better returns.

Professional fund managers monitor markets and optimise asset allocation.

Avoid index funds as they lack active management and flexibility during downturns.

3. Prioritise Regular Plans Over Direct Funds
Direct funds require constant tracking and expertise.

Regular funds offer guidance from mutual fund distributors and Certified Financial Planners.

Their advice ensures better fund selection, portfolio review, and risk management.

4. Tax Implications of SWP
For equity mutual funds, LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

STCG is taxed at 20% for redemptions within one year.

For debt funds, gains are taxed as per your income tax slab.

Use tax-efficient withdrawals to reduce liabilities.

Suggested Fund Categories for Your SWP
1. Hybrid Funds for Balanced Returns
Hybrid funds combine equity and debt, balancing growth and stability.

They are suitable for consistent withdrawals and long-term sustainability.

2. Large-Cap Equity Funds for Moderate Risk
Large-cap equity funds invest in established companies.

They offer stable returns with relatively lower risk.

3. Aggressive Hybrid Funds for Higher Growth Potential
These funds offer a mix of 65% equity and 35% debt.

They are suitable if you can tolerate slightly higher risk.

4. Debt-Oriented Funds for Stability
Invest in short-term or corporate bond funds for stability and lower volatility.

These funds ensure a steady portion of your SWP comes from stable returns.

Strategic Allocation for Your Rs. 25 Lakh Corpus
Allocate 50% to hybrid funds for balanced growth and withdrawals.

Invest 30% in large-cap equity funds for stable growth.

Place 20% in debt funds to safeguard against market volatility.

This mix ensures your corpus grows while maintaining consistent withdrawals.

Protecting Your Corpus with Risk Management
Review your portfolio every year to ensure it aligns with your goals.

Switch between funds when necessary to maintain balance and risk levels.

Use a Certified Financial Planner’s guidance for regular portfolio optimisation.

Building a 360-Degree Financial Plan
Emergency Fund: Set aside six months’ expenses in liquid funds.

Insurance: Ensure adequate health and life insurance for unforeseen situations.

Long-Term Investments: Continue SIPs for retirement or other future goals.

Inflation Protection: Keep equity exposure for inflation-beating growth.

Final Insights
Your decision to start an SWP at 25 is progressive and thoughtful.

A carefully chosen fund mix can generate sustainable income and protect your corpus.

Actively managed funds through a Certified Financial Planner ensure professional oversight.

Regular reviews and rebalancing will ensure your plan remains effective.

Stay invested with a long-term perspective to benefit from market growth.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

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