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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 10, 2024
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I am a girl who met a muy in a friendly chat app and been talking to him through text and calls since the past 6 months...he told me about his past 3 breakups which were online too and he didnt meet those girls.He told he loved my nature and loves me madly n cannot live without me..i was moving with him as a friend initially,but feeling turned into love gradually..he lied to me about his name too n i found many a times flirting and chatting with other girls.Still i have forgiven as he is my first love. Recently,I met with an accident and was in a serious condition ..my phone was with my relative and she told him about my condition when he put a message to me.He even asked my relatives about the hospital address n my relative has given it. He didn't turn up and was chatting online with other girls till early morning n continued later too by chatting n cracking jokes when i was in such a serious condition.A friend of mine told me about this. When i confronted him after my discharge,he told my relative didnt give the response which is a lie ..as the proof chatting with other girls is there..n later he didnt even text to know how am i for 2days.. I am an emotional girl ,attaching n detaching is a bit difficult thing...i am broken ..when he didnt love me ..what made him use the words like he cannot live without me n will marry me. He asked for a chance,i am fed up of his lies..i made him introduce to my parents also..When i am so true to him..why does he need to chat n flirt with other girls?..even after knowing my condition instead of meeting me..he was chatting.. We still didnt meet,thought of meeting n met with an accident Does he deserve an other chance or should i leave him,please suggest mam.Why is he doing so?.I even helped him small amounts financially too when he asked for.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am very concerned about the last part of your question where you mentioned helping him financially. We ask all our dating app users not to discuss money let alone involve in a financial transaction with an online match. It gives me the impression that he might have been pursuing the relationship with you for monetary benefits; I am not saying that with surety but there is always a chance of that happening.

And now let's address your main concern- if you should give him another chance. I cannot decide that for you but let me ask you one thing- do you think you deserve to be with a person who did not care that you were in a critical condition and continued flirting with others? Even if we keep your accident aside, do you think it is a healthy relationship where one partner keeps flirting with people outside the relationship? I don't think so.

Please make the right choice and don't focus on momentary happiness, think about how this relationship will affect your future.

Best Wishes.

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Hello ma'am.Iam a 25 years woman.Through my friend i came to know about a friendly chat app and started chatting with a guy.He told about his past broken relationships with few girls and later he expressed his love for me saying that I am the one whom he dreamt of.I clearly told him that i have no interest in love and we are just friends.I continued to move with him like a friend and he was feeling like i am his lover.Later,as days passed by he asked me to adjust some money which he would return later.I asked him to send his bank details,but he sent his cousin details saying his phonepe is linked to his cousin account number.It's pretty clear that he is lying and those are not his cousin details,but his own details. He is calling me n texting me,but after knowing that he lied about his name,i am not able to talk to him freely n dont want to confront him too because he will never agree. Please,kindly suggest me whether should i talk about this issue to him and say that i am hurt and give him one more chance or shall i leave him alone and follow my way. Why do you think he has done so,when i am so true to him?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Just because you are true to him, that does not mean he will do the same...
Also, if you are sure that he is hiding or lying, why are you afraid to confront him? Confrontation does not mean fights...you can calmly tell him that you feel that he is hiding...watch his reaction; if he is angry and throws a tantrum, you can tell him to back off...if he is a gentleman, he will have a reason for hiding facts...maybe it's a man's pride or a feeling of inadequacy that made him hide facts.
Having said this, should you not be worried more about how a person who you haven't met asks you for money? It is concerning...please watch out...

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 08, 2025
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Hello sir/ma'am, i am 24 yrs old and my boy friend 25 yrs old.I met him in a friendly chat app .We were talking on calls,texting and video calls and met each other in real after a 1 yr of relationship.He is the first guy and love in my life and want to marry him.I even made my family to agree for our marriage.He too says he loves me so much and has imagined his life with me and want to marry me.He even told his parents will stick on to whatever he says.He hasn't yet conveyed to his parents yet and told he will introduce to them after his younger sister marriage.We both are students still. I recently found that,he goes to the chat apps again and chats to other girls.When i asked ..he told just friends and even questioned me saying don't u have guy friends? and don't u meet them?....i told him u r the first guy n i dont have any. When our relationship has gone till marriage...why is that he wants to chat to multiple girls?...Now,i started feeling like he doesn't love me as he expressed. He even had past 3 online relationships n all 3 breakups,he told all these before..he told i am the first girl in real life.. I am worried now.Why do guys chat with multiple girls though they are in a serious relation?..does he really love or is it a game? No physical between us.We just met once in a temple and he just kissed my hands while we are going back and got very emotional while he was about to leave. I am worried..what should i do?.please,suggest.
Ans: Could be many reasons. Maybe his physical needs aren't being met. Maybe he is not attaracted to you anymore . Love is not permanent in all scenarios. Enjoy it while it lasts. Don't have expectations

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Hello sir/ma'am, i am 24 yrs old and my boy friend 25 yrs old.I met him in a friendly chat app .We were talking on calls,texting and video calls and met each other in real after a 1 yr of relationship.He is the first guy and love in my life and want to marry him.I even made my family to agree for our marriage.He too says he loves me so much and has imagined his life with me and want to marry me.He even told his parents will stick on to whatever he says.He hasn't yet conveyed to his parents yet and told he will introduce to them after his younger sister marriage.We both are students still. I recently found that,he goes to the chat apps again and chats to other girls.When i asked ..he told just friends and even questioned me saying don't u have guy friends? and don't u meet them?....i told him u r the first guy n i dont have any. When our relationship has gone till marriage...why is that he wants to chat to multiple girls?...Now,i started feeling like he doesn't love me as he expressed. He even had past 3 online relationships n all 3 breakups,he told all these before..he told i am the first girl in real life.. I am worried now.Why do guys chat with multiple girls though they are in a serious relation?..does he really love or is it a game? No physical between us.We just met once in a temple and he just kissed my hands while we are going back and got very emotional while he was about to leave. I am worried..what should i do?.please,suggest.
Ans: Dear Ammarao,
Not all men chat with multiple women when they are serious about their relationship. Some might, but most men in exclusive relationships don't continue chatting. If his chats are truly friendly, there isn't much to worry about. But if you think there is more to it, I would suggest you reconsider the relationship.

Please talk to him directly and ask him if these women are only friends and if they know he is in a committed relationship. If he is being too defensive, you can tell him that in a relationship, it is also important to focus on what your partner is comfortable with. If you do not like these online friendships, communicate it to him.

I hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 15, 2025Hindi
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I am 29,unmarried with 80k salary. I hv 8 lakhs in real estate,4 lakhs in stocks,planning to invest 40-50k per month. No liability. One term life insurance of 1 cr. May you kindly suggest best possible how to invest for the next 10 years.
Ans: Your situation at age 29 is both strong and promising. With a stable job, no liabilities, and a willingness to invest ?40–50?k monthly, you have a solid base.

Below is an in-depth, structured plan covering all critical angles for the next 10 years.

? Current Financial Position
– Monthly salary is Rs?80,000 take home.
– No loans or liabilities.
– Real estate investment worth Rs?8 lakh.
– Stock holdings total Rs?4 lakh.
– Term insurance of Rs?1 crore.

You have protection and growth—already a strong starting point.

? Wealth Sources
Income
– Your monthly salary is consistent.
– You can direct 50–60% of it to investments.

Assets
– Real estate gives latent value, not monthly yield.
– Stocks bring growth, though fluctuating.
– No dependents now, but goals may change.

Protection
– Term cover ensures family security in emergencies.

? Savings Capacity & Planning
– You plan to invest Rs?40–50?k monthly.
– This is nearly 50–60% of your salary—ideal at this stage.
– But ensure you have liquidity for emergencies.
– Save Rs?3–4 lakh as a buffer in a liquid fund.
– Don’t allocate all savings only to long-term investments.

? Goal Definition
Begin by identifying your goals:

Short term (1–3 years)
– Emergency fund, skill development, travel or lifestyle.

Medium term (4–8 years)
– Marriage, major purchase (car), child planning.

Long term (9–15 years)
– Retirement corpus, child education, wealth growth.

Clear goals help you allocate wisely across timeframes.

? Building an Emergency Fund
– Target Rs?4 lakh as initial emergency corpus.
– Use liquid or ultra-short duration funds.
– This ensures you don’t break long-term investments.

Once achieved, you can increase SIP allocation.

? Asset Allocation Strategy
Divide savings into:

Pure equity

Equity–debt hybrid

Debt funds

Equity
– Choose flexi-cap and large-cap funds.
– Avoid index funds—they don’t offer downside protection.
– Actively managed funds adapt exposures during downturns.

Hybrid
– Multi-asset or balanced advantage funds cushion volatility.
– Good for medium-term goals and withdrawal access.

Debt
– Use short duration or ultra-short funds for predictable returns.
– Suitable for emergency fund and short-term goals.

? Monthly Investment Plan
Assume Rs?45,000 per month to invest.

Suggested split:

– Rs?25,000 into equities via SIP
– Rs?10,000 into hybrid funds
– Rs?10,000 into debt or liquid funds until corpus builds

Step up SIP by 10–15% annually. This combats inflation and builds corpus faster.

? Stocks vs Mutual Funds
You currently have Rs?4 lakh in stocks.

– Direct stocks require active monitoring and carry higher risk.
– Rebalance stocks periodically; consider reallocating part to funds.

Mutual funds offer diversification and professional management.
If you hold direct funds, prefer regular plans via a CFP?backed MFD.
They offer guidance and avoid panic-based exits.

? Mutual Fund Selection
Over 10 years, structure with 5–6 well-chosen funds:

– Flexi-cap equity (growth potential)
– Large-cap equity (stability)
– Multi-asset/hybrid (risk cushion)
– Thematic/sector funds? Avoid for core portfolio.

Key points:

– Choose active funds managed by credible teams.
– Regular plans via MFD help with tracking and rebalancing.
– Direct funds may appeal due to lower cost, but lack advice.
– Periodically re-evaluate fund performance.

If fund underperforms for 2 years, switch via systematic transfer.

? Reviewing Insurance and Protection
You already hold a Rs?1 crore term cover.
Consider the following:

– Does it align with future responsibilities?
– As life changes (marriage, children), cover must increase to Rs?2–3 crore.
– Add health insurance with floater sum of Rs?5 lakh or more.
– Top?ups are cost-effective and increase cover in later years.

Insurance acts as a foundation for wealth-building, not an investment.

? Tax Efficiency & Growth
In investments:

– Use growth option in equity funds, not IDCW.
– Growth option is tax-efficient; payouts trigger LTCG tax only on withdrawal.

Tax implications:

– LTCG above Rs?1.25 lakh in a year taxed at 12.5%.
– STCG taxed at 20%.
– Debt fund gains treated as regular income.

Smart withdrawals and long-term investments lower your tax.

? Liquidity Management
Maintain 6 months of living expenses as liquid buffer.
This protects you from job interruption or sudden emergencies.

Avoid locking all money into illiquid assets like real estate or ULIPs.

? Real Estate Role
Your Rs?8 lakh real estate investment can appreciate gradually.
But it does not contribute to income.
View it as long-term safety net, not core investment.

Focus income goal building via financial assets instead.

? Planning Life Changes
Your marital status may change within the next decade.

Post?marriage financial changes you should plan:

– Joint investment goals
– Bigger insurance cover
– Child planning budgets
– Potential change in income and liabilities

Start preparing financial clarity now. This smooths the transition.

? Review and Tracking
Set periodic review cycles:

– Every six months evaluate your portfolio
– Check if asset allocation stays balanced
– Review SIP performance, risk philosophy, and asset mix
– Make small tweaks rather than big shifts

Regular review prevents drift and improves alignment.

? Why Not Index Funds
You should avoid index funds until retirement phase.

Reasons:

– They don't adjust allocation during market declines
– They just mirror the market—no active risk management
– In a 10-year horizon, equities will fluctuate
– Active funds can reduce downside via fund manager actions

Let actively managed funds guide your journey.

? Avoid Annuities and Insurance Savings
Many new investors consider annuities for safety.
But:

– They offer lower returns
– They lock up funds and reduce flexibility
– You have no income need yet, so better to stay liquid
– Income can be managed via SWP later in life

Focus on growing your corpus now, not locking into annuities.

? Risk Management Over 10 Years
You have high early saving potential. Smart risk control is key.

– Keep emergency fund liquid
– Avoid overexposure to single stocks or sectors
– Stay diversified across asset classes
– Use hybrid funds to balance volatility
– Regularly rebalance asset mix every year

This way you catch up to goals without excessive risk.

? Building Financial Freedom in 10 Years
Goal: Comfortable corpus or monthly income in 10 years.

For example:

– Monthly SIP plus step-ups
– Rental income continues
– Savings in debt/hybrid grow
– Corpus may reach Rs?2.5–3 crore
– This can generate inflation-adjusted income via SWP

With discipline, you set a path for either financial freedom or goal achievement.

? Child Planning and Long-Term Wealth
Even though unmarried now, planning marriage and children will come.

– Start a small separate SIP for future child.
– Choose conservative hybrid funds.
– Don’t treat this as emergency or retirement fund.

Separate tracking gives clarity and prevents misuse.

? Occasional Lifestyle Spending
You deserve leisure and social time at home.

– Dedicate Rs?5,000 to Rs?10,000 per month for social/leisure spending.
– This ensures enjoyment without derailing savings.
– Keep this as a mini “fun” fund.

Balancing lifestyle and savings is key to sustainable discipline.

? Considering Extra Income Streams
Freelancers like you can add passive income layers.

– Upskill in high-demand areas.
– Offer online coaching or consulting.
– Create digital products like e?books, courses.
– Rent part of your real estate space if unused.

Extra income can accelerate your investment goals.

? Final Insights
– Your foundational planning is excellent.
– Now, expand into diversified mutual funds.
– Build emergency and life event funds.
– Reallocate insurance savings from old policies into growth assets.
– Use actively managed funds via CFP-backed regular plans.
– Avoid index funds till later stage.
– Increment SIPs yearly.
– Plan step-wise for marriage, kids, retirement.
– Monitor, track, rebalance semi-annually.

With these steps, you can craft a financially secure life over the next decade and beyond.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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