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Financial Planner, MF, Insurance Expert - Answered on Nov 12, 2025

Naveenn Kummar has over 16 years of experience in banking and financial services.
He is an Association of Mutual Funds in India (AMFI)-registered mutual fund distributor, an Insurance Regulatory and Development Authority of India (IRDAI)-licensed insurance advisor and a qualified personal finance professional (QPFP) certified by Network FP.
An engineering graduate with an MBA in management, he leads Alenova Financial Services under Vadula Consultancy Services, offering solutions in mutual funds, insurance, retirement planning and wealth management.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Nov 10, 2025Hindi
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I’m a 27-year-old working professional. Around 10 months ago, due to an urgent medical emergency, I had to take a payday loan. Since then, things have gone downhill — I ended up borrowing from multiple lenders to manage repayments, and now the total outstanding amount has grown to around ₹8 lakhs. My monthly salary is ₹55,000. I’ve already exhausted all my savings, have no assets to sell, and borrowing from friends or family isn’t an option. I even tried applying for a debt consolidation loan, but that didn’t work out either. The lenders are now calling me constantly — even reaching out to my references — and they aren’t willing to negotiate or offer any settlement plan. I’ve already cut down my living expenses to the bare minimum, but I still can’t keep up with the EMIs. I know I made a mistake and have learned my lesson the hard way, but right now, I feel completely stuck. Can someone please guide me on how to get out of this payday loan debt trap? What practical steps can I take to manage or resolve this situation? Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

Ans: You are in a tough situation — but please know that you can recover from this. Many people who fall into payday or app-loan debt traps eventually manage to come out, provided they take disciplined, structured steps. The key now is to stop the bleeding, regain control, and rebuild systematically.

Let’s go step-by-step, calmly and practically.

1. Stop borrowing further

This is the most important step.
Every new short-term loan or “quick fix” will only deepen the hole.
Even if you miss payments now, do not take another app loan or credit advance to repay existing ones. You must stop the debt spiral.

2. List all your debts clearly

Write down every lender, outstanding balance, interest rate, and due date.
Prioritize them in three categories:

High-interest / payday apps (these can have 24–100% annual rates or hidden fees)

Personal loans / credit cards (moderate interest, regulated lenders)

Friends / informal borrowings (zero or low interest, but moral pressure)

Knowing exactly what you owe helps you plan repayment logically, not emotionally.

3. Prioritize survival, not perfection

Right now, your focus should be on keeping your job, maintaining mental stability, and avoiding harassment.
You are earning ?55,000/month — protect that income. Keep aside your essential expenses (rent, food, commute) first.
Whatever remains after necessities will form your debt repayment pool.

If, say, ?15,000–?20,000/month is what you can afford to repay, that’s your realistic capacity — not what lenders demand.

4. Communicate only in writing

Many payday lenders and app-based collectors use illegal intimidation — calling references, shaming borrowers, or using fake legal threats.
These tactics violate RBI guidelines. You have rights.

Do not argue over phone calls.

Ask for all communication in writing or email.

If they harass your references, you can file a written complaint with the local Cyber Crime Cell or email RBI Ombudsman (if it’s a registered NBFC).

Save all screenshots and call logs.

If a lender isn’t RBI-registered, it is an illegal app lender — and you owe them only what was actually disbursed, not inflated fees or harassment penalties.

5. Seek formal credit counselling

You can get free or low-cost help through registered credit counselling agencies:

DebtDoctor, DEBT CLINIK, ICICI Foundation’s Disha Financial Counselling, Abhay Credit Counselling (by RBI).

You can also contact CreditMantri, Paytm CreditMate, or your local bank’s grievance desk.

A counsellor will assess your situation and may help you design a repayment plan or even negotiate with legitimate lenders for rescheduling.

6. Try structured negotiation

Once you know your true monthly repayment ability, contact each legitimate lender (banks/NBFCs) with a written request like this:

“I’m facing temporary financial hardship due to medical expenses and job-related constraints. I intend to repay fully, but request a repayment restructuring or a reduced EMI plan for the next 6–12 months. Kindly treat this as a genuine request and allow time to regularize payments.”

Banks and registered NBFCs sometimes allow restructuring or moratoriums for genuine hardship.
App-based payday lenders often don’t — but even then, if they are illegal, you can stop engaging and report them.

7. Repair credit over time

Your credit score will dip temporarily, but it’s recoverable.
Once you stabilize your cash flow, start with a secured credit product (like a credit card against FD) to rebuild your record.
It may take 1–2 years, but it’s achievable.

8. Emotional and mental health check

Constant calls and pressure can cause anxiety and burnout.
Take this seriously. Talk to someone you trust, or seek online counselling support (e.g., MindPeers, YourDOST, Manas helpline).
Staying mentally steady is essential to executing your recovery plan.

9. Concrete monthly action plan

Here’s how to proceed starting this month:

Month 1–2:

Stop all new borrowing.

Prepare full debt list.

Inform each lender of your financial hardship.

File complaints if harassed.

Open a new clean salary account (avoid auto-debits).

Month 3–6:

Start paying small, regular amounts to the most aggressive or legal lenders.

Keep proof of each payment.

Negotiate settlements only with written confirmation.

Month 7–12:

Continue repayments systematically.

Begin rebuilding an emergency fund of even ?1,000–?2,000/month.

10. Long-term perspective

You are 27. You have decades ahead to rebuild your financial life.
Yes, this phase is painful — but it will pass. Once you clear these debts and recover stability, build these habits:

Never borrow for consumption or short-term gaps.

Maintain 6 months’ emergency savings.

Use credit only within your repayment capacity.

Track your net worth monthly.

hope atleast now taken health insurance

Disclaimer / Guidance:
The above analysis is generic in nature and based on limited data shared. For accurate projections — including inflation, tax implications, pension structure, and education cost escalation — it is strongly advised to consult a qualified QPFP/CFP or Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD). They can help prepare a comprehensive retirement and goal-based cash flow plan tailored to your unique situation.
Financial planning is not only about returns; it’s about ensuring peace of mind and aligning your money with life goals. A professional planner can help you design a safe, efficient, and realistic roadmap toward your ideal retirement.

Best regards,
Naveenn Kummar, BE, MBA, QPFP
Chief Financial Planner | AMFI Registered MFD
https://members.networkfp.com/member/naveenkumarreddy-vadula-chennai
Asked on - Nov 12, 2025 | Answered on Nov 13, 2025
Sir, I have the complete list of my debts. I’ve realized that all the money I owe is to payday loan lenders — 31 in total. I’ve reached out to an agency for help; they’re now handling the calls from these lenders. I’m not sure how effective it will be, but at least I’ve stopped receiving calls for now. However, I’m still very anxious about the possibility of home visits from lenders. I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m mentally exhausted, living in constant fear, and struggling even to cover my basic living expenses.
Ans: All possible steps i have shared , be firm in case you are not able to pay right now . cibil score must have been impacted
Honestly I don't have any.ready made solutions to suggest from debit trap

Having said that there is no other go treat as your bad time and good time will come
Change job or do part time jobs Express your situation to your parents and siblings

Wishing you all the best

Warm regards
Naveenn Kummar
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Ans: I totally understand how overwhelming this must be for you. Financial challenges can be tough, but with the right plan, you can overcome them. Let’s break this down step-by-step and get you on a path to financial stability.

Assessing Your Current Financial Situation
First, let’s assess where you stand. Your salary is Rs. 60,000 per month, but payday loans are eating up your income. Your repayment is 3X your salary, meaning you’re paying around Rs. 1,80,000 monthly. That’s a huge strain on your finances.

Understanding Payday Loans and Their Impact
Payday loans are short-term, high-interest loans. They can quickly spiral out of control if not managed properly. Because you’re taking new loans to repay old ones, you’re stuck in a debt cycle. It’s essential to break this cycle.

Immediate Steps to Take
1. Create a Budget

List all your income and expenses. Identify necessary expenses like rent, utilities, groceries, and transport. This helps you see where your money goes and where you can cut back.

2. Prioritize Your Debts

List all your debts with interest rates and due dates. Focus on high-interest debts first. This will save you more money in the long run.

3. Avoid New Loans

Stop taking new loans to repay old ones. This only deepens your debt. Focus on managing the existing ones.

Exploring Debt Relief Options
1. Contact Your Lenders

Explain your situation to your lenders. Sometimes, they can offer extended payment plans or reduced interest rates. They might be willing to help if they know you’re struggling.

2. Consider a Debt Management Plan

A debt management plan involves working with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP). They can negotiate with your creditors for better terms. This can help reduce your monthly payments and interest rates.

Increasing Your Income
1. Side Hustles

Consider taking up a side job or freelance work. Every extra rupee can help reduce your debt faster.

2. Sell Unnecessary Assets

If you have items you no longer need, sell them. This can provide a quick cash infusion to pay down debt.

Building a Financial Safety Net
1. Emergency Fund

Once your immediate debt crisis is under control, start building an emergency fund. This prevents future reliance on payday loans.

2. Savings Plan

Develop a habit of saving, even if it’s a small amount each month. This helps build financial security over time.

Seeking Professional Help
1. Certified Financial Planner (CFP)

A CFP can provide personalized advice and create a tailored plan to get you out of debt. They can also help you develop a long-term financial strategy.

2. Credit Counselling

Credit counselling services can provide support and advice on managing your debt. They can also negotiate with creditors on your behalf.

Emotional Well-being
1. Talk to Someone

Don’t bottle up your feelings. Talk to a trusted friend or family member. Sharing your burden can provide emotional relief.

2. Stay Positive

Remember, financial setbacks are temporary. With determination and the right approach, you can overcome this.

Educating Yourself on Financial Management
1. Financial Literacy

Learn about budgeting, saving, and investing. There are many resources online that can help improve your financial knowledge.

2. Avoid Future Debt Traps

Understand the pitfalls of payday loans and high-interest debts. Knowledge helps you make better financial decisions in the future.

Strategic Debt Repayment
1. Debt Snowball Method

Start by paying off the smallest debt first while making minimum payments on others. Once the smallest debt is paid off, move to the next smallest. This gives a psychological boost and keeps you motivated.

2. Debt Avalanche Method

Focus on paying off the debt with the highest interest rate first while making minimum payments on others. This saves more money on interest over time.

Long-term Financial Planning
1. Retirement Planning

Even though you’re in debt now, start thinking about your future. Investing in mutual funds can be a good way to build a retirement corpus.

2. Children’s Education

Plan for your children’s education early. This reduces the need for high-interest loans in the future.

Benefits of Mutual Funds
1. Diversification

Mutual funds pool money from many investors to buy a diversified portfolio of stocks and bonds. This reduces risk.

2. Professional Management

They are managed by professional fund managers who make investment decisions based on research and analysis.

3. Power of Compounding

Investing in mutual funds over the long term can significantly grow your wealth due to the power of compounding. Reinvesting earnings leads to exponential growth.

4. Liquidity

Mutual funds offer liquidity. You can redeem your investment anytime, subject to exit load and taxes.

5. Flexibility

Mutual funds offer various schemes to suit different financial goals and risk appetites. You can choose from equity, debt, hybrid, and more.

Risk Assessment in Mutual Funds
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Mutual funds are subject to market risks. The value of investments can fluctuate based on market conditions.

2. Interest Rate Risks

Changes in interest rates can affect the value of debt mutual funds. Higher rates may decrease bond prices and vice versa.

3. Credit Risks

Debt funds face credit risks if the issuer of a security defaults on payments.

Categories of Mutual Funds
1. Equity Funds

Invest primarily in stocks. Suitable for long-term growth. They come with higher risk but offer higher returns.

2. Debt Funds

Invest in fixed-income securities like bonds. Suitable for conservative investors looking for stable returns.

3. Hybrid Funds

Invest in a mix of equities and debts. Offer balanced risk and returns. Ideal for moderate risk-takers.

4. Sector Funds

Invest in specific sectors like technology or healthcare. Higher risk due to lack of diversification but can offer high returns.

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Managed by professionals who actively buy and sell securities. They aim to outperform the market.

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Final Insights
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You have Rs. 37 lakhs in unsecured loans.

Your monthly salary is Rs. 50,000.

You have defaulted on all EMIs for the first time.

You took payday loans to manage past EMIs but fell into a deeper debt trap.

You approached a settlement agency but couldn't afford their fees.

You have no assets or external financial support.

Immediate Actions to Stop the Crisis
1. Stop Taking New Loans
Do not take another loan to pay existing EMIs.

Avoid payday loans, as their high interest worsens your situation.

2. Prioritise Loan Payments
List your loans in two categories:

High EMI & Payday Loans: (e.g., Kreditbee, Instamoney, Kissht, Phocket, Rupeeredee, Ramfincorp)
Other Personal Loans: (e.g., Muthoot, Kotak, Fullerton)
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Request a moratorium or restructuring to reduce EMIs.

Many lenders prefer lower EMIs over defaults.

Request waiver or reduction of penalties.

4. Avoid Settlement Agencies
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You can negotiate with lenders directly for better terms.

5. Increase Monthly Income
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Consider renting a room or shared living to reduce expenses.

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Negotiate one-time settlements if possible.

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Avalanche: Pay the highest interest loan first to save money.

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Cook meals at home instead of ordering food.

Use public transport instead of cabs or bikes.

Final Insights
Your situation is difficult, but it can be fixed with discipline.

Avoid taking new loans at any cost.

Negotiate with lenders for lower EMIs.

Close payday loans quickly to escape their high interest.

Find additional income sources to speed up repayment.

Stay mentally strong and seek free legal aid if needed.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 01, 2025
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I have a loan of 9 lakhs, monthly emi 26k, trying to pay with credit cards and taken from others, my salary goes to take care of my family needs only, this 10 lakhs is additional for which no source of income, credit card bills are getting another burden to me, max I can clear EMI of loan for another 2months with extra 2.5lakhs credit card due!! Please suggest me a way to come out from this debt trap! Friends & relatives are not going to help! I alone should struggle to clear these loans! Already working for more than 12hours for my livelihood, so no time to work extra, what to do? How to clear the loans?
Ans: You are carrying a huge burden. Still, you are not giving up. That shows strength.

Now, we need a 360-degree plan to escape this debt trap.

This answer is detailed, practical, and designed to rebuild your financial life.

1. Understand Your Current Debt Burden

Rs. 9 lakhs loan with Rs. 26,000 monthly EMI.

Rs. 2.5 lakhs credit card dues added pressure.

No savings. No help from others.

You are using credit cards to pay EMIs.

This cycle is dangerous and needs to stop now.

2. Respect Your Courage First

You are working over 12 hours every day.

You are managing home needs and family.

Even in this pressure, you are still standing.

You deserve appreciation for not running away.

That self-discipline is your biggest asset.

3. The Truth – You Cannot Continue Like This

This debt trap will grow every month.

Credit card interest is above 36% yearly.

Paying EMI from cards creates bigger problem.

In 2 months, situation will get worse.

4. Take Control – Accept Reality First

You cannot solve this by earning more.

You have no time to work extra.

You must now reset your financial structure.

5. Step One – STOP Using Credit Cards Immediately

Do not swipe them again for anything.

Do not use cards to pay EMI.

Do not pay minimum due only. Pay in full if possible.

6. Step Two – List All Your Debts

Make a simple sheet with 3 columns:

  • Amount you owe
  
  • Monthly EMI or bill
  
  • Interest rate

List loan, credit cards, other dues separately.

This gives you full picture of your debt.

7. Step Three – Prioritise Debt Based on Risk

Credit cards come first – they have highest interest.

Unsecured loans come next.

Family debts come last.

8. Step Four – Approach the Lender for Loan Restructuring

Contact the bank or NBFC where you have loan.

Ask for “restructuring” under RBI’s personal loan scheme.

They may allow:

  • Lower EMI for longer term
  
  • Temporary EMI holiday for few months

You need to write a request letter to them.

Mention your financial stress and genuine intention to repay.

9. Step Five – Convert Credit Card to Personal Loan

Most banks allow this.

Convert the Rs. 2.5 lakhs into term loan.

That gives fixed EMI and stops interest growth.

Interest on term loan is lesser than card interest.

10. Step Six – Avoid Minimum Payments on Cards

Paying only minimum keeps the card running.

But interest keeps growing every month.

Within 6 months, amount doubles.

11. Step Seven – STOP Any Fresh Loans

Don’t take new loans to repay old ones.

This is not a solution. This is poison.

12. Step Eight – Talk to a Certified Financial Planner

A CFP will guide debt restructuring.

He will suggest repayment plan based on cash flow.

You cannot handle this stress alone.

13. Step Nine – Cut All Non-Essential Expenses

Reduce phone recharge, DTH, fuel usage.

Postpone all festivals, trips, functions, purchases.

Stop all online shopping, gifts, donations temporarily.

14. Step Ten – Pause All Investments for Now

If you are doing SIPs, stop them temporarily.

Your priority now is to clear debts.

SIP can restart later when stable.

15. Step Eleven – Build Emergency Cushion Slowly

Even in tight cash flow, save Rs. 500/month.

Keep in a separate savings account.

This avoids using card for small needs.

16. Emotional Discipline is Now Your Biggest Tool

Say “No” without guilt to social pressure.

Your family must know your full financial truth.

Be honest and take them into confidence.

17. No Shortcuts – Avoid These Traps

Don’t try day trading or crypto schemes.

Don’t fall for quick-money jobs or part-time scams.

Don’t apply for payday loans online.

18. Use Professional Help If Required

There are RBI-registered debt resolution agencies.

They negotiate with banks on your behalf.

They may reduce interest or combine loans.

19. Stay Away from Informal Money Lenders

Never take from local agents or unlicensed lenders.

They can become dangerous if unpaid.

20. Sell Unused Assets If Any

Do you have gold, gadgets, or vehicle?

If not essential, sell to reduce debt.

A temporary sacrifice gives long-term peace.

21. Speak to Employer If Trusted

Some companies offer salary advance or loan.

Check if your HR has such policy.

Keep repayment terms clear and transparent.

22. Review All Bank Accounts

Do you have any FD or RD?

Break it and use it to clear debt.

23. Debt Avalanche Method – Use When Situation Stabilises

Once stable, start paying highest interest loan first.

After that, clear next highest.

24. Inform Lender Before You Default

If you miss EMI, inform bank in writing.

Don’t avoid calls. That worsens credit record.

25. Start Rebuilding Credit Score After 6 Months

Once you close credit card debt, wait 6 months.

Keep one card with Rs. 5,000 limit.

Use it once a month and pay full.

26. Remember – This Pain is Temporary

You are in deep stress today.

But your mindset is strong.

You are ready to act.

That alone can bring you out of this trap.

27. Final Insights

Your life is more valuable than this debt.

You have already proven hard work.

Now you must build financial wisdom.

Stop credit card use immediately.

Speak to lender. Ask for EMI restructuring.

Convert credit card dues into lower-interest loan.

Cut expenses. Postpone luxuries.

Pause investments till loan burden is reduced.

Set a monthly budget. Stick to it.

Don’t give up. Don’t lose hope.

Within 12 months, you can come out.

After that, you will feel proud.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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