I am an early 30 aged man. I have a public job which I can say is a descent one. I am married and have a kid. I can't say I am an alcoholic but in someway my happiness is associated with alcohol. My job requires me to travel a lot and on those days I can do without any drinks. But on my off days I tend to drink like half a bottle of whatever alcohol I desire and the only thing I can say about is I gain happiness from it. On rare occasions I am tipsy. I give my family time and carry out daily chores as usual while at home. On the downside, drinking has made be obese and somewhat ill. But I can't figure out if I want to drop alcohol or not. Because as I said I don't see addiction anywhere in my inclination to alcohol but I derive a strange kind of happiness from it. Can you analyze my situation and give some advice?

Ans: I am sorry to hear about your situation.

While it is understandable that losing a job during the pandemic and struggling with addiction can lead to feelings of fear and uncertainty about the future, you need to remember that situations will keep on changing as long as you retain your confidence.

My 2 cents:

1. Seek professional help to overcome addiction and regain control of your life. You can counseling, support groups, and rehabilitation programs.

2. Consider taking online courses or certification programs to enhance your skills and increase your job prospects. Be up to date with the current trends and opportunities.

3. You try to explore financial advising or stock market analysis as an alternate career path. Try going in for certifications and courses with regards to the same. They can help you gain the knowledge and skills needed for this type of job.

4. Leave the past in the past and focus on your strengths and past accomplishments. Be confident in your abilities and remain optimistic.

5. Reach out to friends and family for support and encouragement during this difficult time. They may be able to provide valuable advice or connections that can help you in your job search.

If it all seems too daunting, take one step at a time, seek support, and remain persistent in your efforts to overcome challenges and achieve your goals.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Whisky is a hard liquor and has more alchohol content. Consuming a large peg every day will add burden to the liver in it's detoxification process. Alchohol detoxifying process is impacted with ageing. So if you consider positive ageing, adding quality to your life tears then please stop hard liquor.

Ans: Dear Yashpal,
Kindly join a centre that runs de-addiction programs. Anxiety and Depression is caused by alcoholism and alcoholism leads to Anxiety and Depression. It's a dangerous cycle that must be broken.
Also, change the circle of friends if you are hanging out with ones who are kind enough to offer you a bottle or encourage your drinking.
Keep your family close to you as you need love and support through this challenging time.
Seek the help of a mental health expert who can support the de-addiction program through other interventions as well.
Step Up and Take Charge of your life NOW!

All the best; you can do this!

Ans: Please consult a Psychotherapist

Ans: She will need urgent intervention. Possibly a rehab program. Can you first have her see a psychiatrist perhaps? Sometimes these addictive behaviours stem from underlying anxiety or depression.