I m 50 now. I have 10yrs exp. In civil engineering site supervision. Last 1 yr i m job less. Plz tell me what to do. I have my diploma in civil engineering from odisha. Now i m in pune.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I know it's quite a tricky situation. On the one hand, it isn't easy to find a good friend and on the other hand, it's not easy to hide your feelings for someone for too long. I suggest testing the water out a little before diving. Drop some hints and see how he reacts; maybe suggest a hypothetical situation where you two are a couple and see what he says. If he finds it unbelievable, then I'd ask you to reconsider confessing right now. If he reacts positively, you might think of telling him about your feelings. In case, you do confess, please make sure he feels comfortable enough to speak his truth and not feel pressurized to reciprocate.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Dear Thakur,
I cannot help you without knowing the reason why your girlfriend isn't talking to you since the last 4 months. Also, if there's no contact for 4 months, there's a possibility that she might not want to be your GF anymore. Please give some more details so that I can help you better.
Best wishes!

Ans: Hello dear
All options are good. Prefer CSE AIML at RVCE or KIIT, whichever is closer to your hometown.

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Ans: Hello Siddhant
Don’t worry. If your admit card says “Secondary Supplementary Exam,” that means you're appearing for the compartment exam, which is correct for a subject in which you received RT (compartment). You’re eligible to take that exam even if you filled out the form thinking it was for improvement. However, it is highly recommended to seek a second opinion from your school administration for more clarity and recent updates, so you don’t waste time and avoid unnecessary worries at home.

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Ans: Hello dear.
For CSE, try with: Atria Institute of Technology, AMC Engineering College, and Don Bosco Institute in Bangalore.

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Ans: Hello Meena
With the mentioned percentile, chances with CS/AI at tier 1 or 2 colleges are challenging. You could try tier 3 colleges, where hostel facilities are generally not available. Still, you can consider Vidyalankar Institute of Technology (Wadala) or Atharva College of Engineering (Malad).


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Ans: Your parents' controlling behavior isn’t about your capabilities — it’s about their fear of losing control. Often, when parents are deeply conditioned by societal expectations, they confuse love with control. What may seem like “concern” on the surface is, at its core, a refusal to trust your maturity and autonomy. You’ve built your life with discipline and hard work, and yet they continue to micromanage your every move, which is emotionally suffocating. It’s even more complex because your father has a history of verbal abuse, which creates a fear-based silence in the household — especially around decisions like marriage.

You’re not wrong to feel stressed. You’re not overreacting. You’re simply reacting to a system that constantly undermines your independence. And now, with love and marriage in the picture, the pressure increases — not just because you want to choose your partner, but because you know the emotional cost your mother might pay if your father feels challenged again.

Here’s the hard truth: living your life to protect someone else’s comfort or to avoid conflict is not truly living. Yes, you love your mother, and yes, your father’s patterns may continue — but your life cannot be paused or dictated by his inability to manage his own emotions. You are not responsible for his temper or his ego. You are responsible for your own peace.

This doesn’t mean rebellion — it means building quiet strength. If this relationship is truly what you want, start gently setting emotional and logistical boundaries. You can continue to present him as a “friend” for now while you plan your next step. You may need support — from a mentor, therapist, or trusted elder — to navigate this transition calmly and safely.

What’s most important is that you do not let fear become your compass. Your parents’ insecurities are not your burden to carry forever. Your life, your relationship, your happiness — they are yours to own. And if you ever feel overwhelmed, remind yourself of everything you've overcome already. You walked away from a premier institute and built something solid for yourself. That kind of strength doesn’t go away — it just needs permission to rise again.

Ans: Let’s call it out gently but clearly: when someone says they love you and want a future with you, but that future depends entirely on your sacrifice — like quitting your job, leaving your city, and sidelining your aspirations — what they’re offering isn’t an equal partnership. Love doesn’t thrive in ultimatums or secret corridors. It asks for courage, respect, and room for both people to evolve.

The fact that this relationship has been secret for three years also speaks volumes. Silence can often feel safe in the short term, but it becomes heavy in the long run. If marriage is truly on the table, shouldn’t visibility and openness be part of the foundation?

You’re asking, “Why can’t a woman have both?” And the answer is — she absolutely can. But she needs to be with someone who wants her to shine, not someone who only sees her as a companion if she dims her own light. Real love doesn’t demand abandonment of purpose. It makes space for it. It supports it. It celebrates it.

This is the time to pause and ask yourself: What kind of life partner do I truly need? One who walks beside me, or one who expects me to follow quietly? And if your inner voice is full of confusion, know that this is normal. You are not selfish for valuing your career. You are not unloving for needing stability and self-respect.

Your next steps should come from a place of alignment — with who you are now, and who you want to become. If you’d like, I can help you reflect deeper through journaling prompts, or structure a conversation with him that allows you to express your truth clearly and without fear.

You deserve a love that expands you, not a love that asks you to shrink.

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