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Ashwini Dasgupta |100 Answers |Ask -Follow

Personality Development Expert, Career Coach - Answered on Nov 02, 2023

Ashwini Dasgupta is a personality development coach and a neuro-linguistic programming trainer.
She has 15 years of experience training corporate professionals and has worked at Amazon, JP Morgan, Nomura and Satyam among others.
As a career coach, Ashwini specialises in helping growth-minded IT corporate managers develop their self-worth and create the right mindset so that they can achieve their career goals.
Besides corporate training, she offers personal consultations as well.
Ashwini holds a master’s degree in human resources from the Narsee Monjee Institute of Management Studies, Mumbai, and is a certified NLP trainer from the National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA.
She has completed her soft skills training and image consultancy course from the Image Consulting Business Institute, Mumbai
Ashwini is also a PoSH trainer, certified by the Society for Human Resource Management.... more

Question by Priyank on Oct 05, 2023Hindi

Hello Mam, how to control anger during the job.

Ans: Hi Priyank,

Hope you are doing well.

Apology for the delay in replying.

It's natural to feel angry at times, but it's how you respond to and manage that anger that matters in a professional setting. It's important to decode the emotion (in this case it is anger). For example- when you get angry- ask yourself what is the reason behind. Is it because someone is not listening to you, is it because you are not ok with the idea been shared or is there any other reason. Here, you need to work on yourself in understanding different perspectives of the given situation.

Few simple gateways -
Recognize your triggers- Identify the situations or factors that trigger your anger. This could be a difficult colleague, a heavy workload, or tight deadlines. Awareness is the first step in control.

Take a Break: When you feel anger building, step away from the situation, if possible. A short break can help you cool down and gain perspective.

Use "I" Statements (this is a game changer): When discussing a problem with a colleague or anyone, use "I" statements to express your feelings and needs without blaming or accusing. For example, say, "I feel frustrated when..." instead of "You always..."

Problem-Solve: Instead of focusing on the problem itself, shift your attention to finding solutions. This can help you feel more in control.

These are few navigations which you can start to practice. I will be keen to know your progress.

Until then Be You. Be Confident.

To Your Success
Ashwini Dasgupta
Author of Confidence Decoded- is it a skill or attitude?

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Question by AR - Jan 20, 2022Hindi

Dear Roopashree, I have an anger management problem. When I get angry, I have no control over what I say or do and I end up hurting the people I love (not physically, but because of what I say). This is bad for me at work as well. Though I am good at my job, my temper is my downside. How do I control my anger? Dietwise, is there something I can do? Is there anything I can do that does not involve medication? AR

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You have identified the right direction, that’s half the journey.

As goes the famous saying -- ‘We are what we eat.’

More often than not, our mental reactions are just a symptom of our physical health.

In terms of diet, avoid Rajasic food (too much oil, non-veg, alcohol and spices). Practise deep breathing to process your thoughts and balance any suppressed anger and emotions.

Dealing with anger is a process. You can try this little exercise. During your next phase of anger, just bring your focus to the physical state of your body and see if there are any symptoms like acidity, sinus headache or digestive issues.

If it’s not physical, observe your thought process at the time. Concentrate on your innermost thoughts, write it down and dwell upon it later when you are at peace. Identify any possible pattern/issue and address it.

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