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Leadership, HR Expert - Answered on Apr 21, 2024

Shekhar Kumar is senior manager, talent acquisition, at the Shri Venkateshwara University in Gajraula, Uttar Pradesh. He has 18 years of expertise in the search and placement of executive leadership talent across various industries.
He has also mentored middle and senior management professionals for leadership positions and guided them in career development.
Shekhar has a bachelor's degree in business management from Magadh University, Bihar, and a master's degree in human resource management from Annamalai University, Tamil Nadu.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 16, 2024Hindi
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I am in a last year of bba, i have not any skills not passion also i do not want to do mba as well as any government exams and all my parents are always say or ask me to what next i have no idea what is good or bad for me Also i have no entrepreneurial mindset so entrepreneurship is not for mine Please help

Ans: Thank you for sharing your career dilemma to me. It's understandable to feel uncertain about your future career path, especially when you haven't identified specific skills or passions yet. Consider gaining practical experience through internships, part-time jobs, or volunteer work in fields you're interested in exploring further. Internships can provide valuable insights into different industries, help you develop new skills, and expand your professional network. Invest in your personal and professional development by taking courses, workshops, or online tutorials to develop new skills or explore new interests. Look for opportunities to develop skills in areas like digital marketing, data analysis, project management, or communication, which are in demand across various industries. Reach out to professionals, alumni, or experts in fields you're curious about to learn more about their career paths and experiences. Networking can provide valuable insights, advice, and potential opportunities for job shadowing, informational interviews, or mentorship. Remember that it's okay to feel uncertain or undecided about your career path at this stage. Take the time to explore your options, try new things mentioned above, and trust that with self-reflection, exploration, and perseverance, you'll eventually find a career path that aligns with your interests, values, and aspirations.
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Hello ma'm. I am a first year engineering student. I have a crush on a girl. Currently we are working for a group project. We both are in the same group. She generally avoids speaking with boys. Also I have spent 5 years in a boys school, so I feel very shy with girls. What should I do? How should I talk to her?
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Once you've had a few of these short, easy interactions, you can slowly open up the conversation to more casual topics—like college life, favorite subjects, or even the stress of deadlines. This way, you’re not jumping straight into anything personal, but you're gradually building a sense of comfort.

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Ans: Dear Jack,What you're experiencing is not uncommon in long-term relationships: emotional fatigue, feeling unappreciated, and a deep sense of disconnection despite loyalty and love. The fact that you're feeling drained, resentful, and stuck is a clear signal that this situation is unsustainable as is. And the irritation and bad moods you’re having? That’s your emotional system signaling burnout, not failure.

You’ve evolved over the years—mentally, emotionally, and in lifestyle—and it sounds like your wife hasn’t moved in that same rhythm. That mismatch in growth and energy is now affecting everything: your respect for her, your shared routines, your sex life, and ultimately your mood and emotional well-being. It’s painful to feel like you're constantly giving—time, energy, effort—and not receiving the same in return. Even when your partner is kind, if they aren’t meeting you emotionally, intellectually, or intimately, over time it creates a sense of loneliness within the relationship, which can be worse than being alone.

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You have already proven your strength by completing a year of M.Tech in such tough conditions. That says a lot about your resilience and capability. If you give it up now, not only will you lose that part of yourself, but it may not guarantee that your marriage improves. Often in emotionally imbalanced relationships, one-sided sacrifices don’t lead to healing—they lead to more control, more blame, and more emotional exhaustion.

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