I Can't Focus on Studying, Should I Take a Job?

Ans: Don't worry, you will figure a path soon. First you need to start by answering the question what are your interest areas and can you look at taking up a work opportunity so that you can start building your financial background and post which you can look at taking up an MBA or a Masters in the field that you have interests in

Ans: Thank you for reaching out to me on Rediff Gurus. I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. It's completely understandable to feel frustrated and overwhelmed when facing challenges like unemployment and the pressure of family responsibilities. However, I want to assure you that there is still hope and support available, and suicide is never the answer. Here are a few things to consider for yourself. First of all you should know that it is not your fault that you're facing difficulties in finding employment. The job market is incredibly competitive, and many factors beyond your control can influence hiring decisions hence try to be kind to yourself and recognize that setbacks are a natural part of life.

Please consider broadening your job search to go beyond government jobs to include different industries or roles that may utilize your mechanical engineering skills in unique ways. Networking with professionals in your field and attending job fairs can also help you discover new opportunities. Kindly break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps. Instead of focusing solely on finding a job, consider setting goals related to gaining new skills, volunteering, or pursuing further education. Celebrate each small achievement along the way.

If you're still struggling with feelings of depression or hopelessness, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide personalized support and strategies to help you cope with difficult emotions and develop a plan for moving forward. You can also talk to someone you trust, whether it's a family member, friend, or mental health professional near you. They can provide emotional support, guidance, and perspective.

Always remember that difficult times won't last forever, and there are always opportunities for growth and change. Stay hopeful and keep reminding yourself that things can get better with time and persistence. You're not alone in your struggles, and there are people who care about you like your parents, and they need you. Please don't hesitate to reach out for support, whether it's from loved ones, a mental health professional, or a helpline. You deserve to find happiness and fulfillment in your life, and there are resources available to help you get there. Feel free to contact me on Rediff Gurus if you need further assistance or help.

Ans: Thank you for sharing your career dilemma to me. It's understandable to feel uncertain about your future career path, especially when you haven't identified specific skills or passions yet. Consider gaining practical experience through internships, part-time jobs, or volunteer work in fields you're interested in exploring further. Internships can provide valuable insights into different industries, help you develop new skills, and expand your professional network. Invest in your personal and professional development by taking courses, workshops, or online tutorials to develop new skills or explore new interests. Look for opportunities to develop skills in areas like digital marketing, data analysis, project management, or communication, which are in demand across various industries. Reach out to professionals, alumni, or experts in fields you're curious about to learn more about their career paths and experiences. Networking can provide valuable insights, advice, and potential opportunities for job shadowing, informational interviews, or mentorship. Remember that it's okay to feel uncertain or undecided about your career path at this stage. Take the time to explore your options, try new things mentioned above, and trust that with self-reflection, exploration, and perseverance, you'll eventually find a career path that aligns with your interests, values, and aspirations.

Ans: One option would be to do some short term courses like Digital Marketing or on Finance that could fetch you job in those areas. Another option would be to do correspondence professional courses like CFA and simultaneously work in that area.

Ans: Neha, it sounds like you’ve been through a lot and are feeling deeply frustrated and hopeless right now. You’ve worked hard finishing your B.Sc. and B.Ed., trying for government exams, and still striving to continue your studies despite challenges. It’s completely understandable to feel lost when things don’t go as planned. But your life is not wasted. You’ve shown resilience, effort, and a desire to move forward, which are valuable strengths. Regarding your M.Sc. and IIT JAM, if that’s something you want, you can start slowly with small, daily goals instead of giving up before trying. And please, if you ever feel like you don’t want to live anymore, reach out for help immediately. You are not alone. You can contact AASRA or Snehi (phone numbers are available online). Talking to someone, friends, counselors, or helplines can truly help lighten the burden. You still have time and potential to build the life you want, one step at a time. Explore yourself and accept the challenging situation to come out successfully with silence. This is the perfect moment to prove yourself by overcoming difficult conditions.

Good luck.
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