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46 years old, fearing work due to technical limitations: How can I find happiness and confidence?

Krishna Kumar | Answer |Ask -Follow

Workplace Expert - Answered on Jun 23, 2024

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Before branching out on his own, he worked with companies like Microsoft, Rediff, Flipkart and InMobi.
With over 25 years of experience under his belt, KK is a regular speaker at industry events and academic intuitions, both in India as well as abroad.
KK completed his MBA in marketing from the Sri Sathya Sai Institute of Higher Learning in Andhra Pradesh and his management development programme from XLRI, Jamshedpur.
He has also completed his LLB from Nagpur University and diploma in PR from Bhavan’s College of Management, Nagpur, where he was awarded a gold medal.... more

Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2024Hindi

Career

Dear Sir/ Madam. I am 46 years old working in a reputed organisation. I have around 24 years experience and have worked in big Multinational companies. My job is technical job and have earned and saved good money. I earn a monthly take home salary of Rs. 3 lakh currently . I can crack easily any interviews as my communication is very good. But I find it very difficult to perform technical job due to limitation in grasping things. I was a below average student as I find it very difficult to remember. I do drama in work place and survived 24 years. Because of this I am very unhappy. But now I am in a stage where I want to be myself and be happy without being afraid in work place. How can I improve so that I go to work and come back happily. Thanks for your advice in advance.

Ans: Hello

Now that you are aware of your situation...accept it as is and start working on to be your natural normal self... believe in yourself and most important don't fear losing job. Imposter syndrome happens because we fear losing things in life.

All the best in your new journey.

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Dear Mayank,I am engineering graduate with 10+ years of experience in data centre operations.I have been working for an MNC for the last four years. The company is very good but I am not happy with my professional and personal growth.I am mentioning some issues which I feel restrict me from going ahead in my life and growing in my career.1. I come under pressure immediately. It could be because I want to make everyone happy.2. I get confused a lot. Although I have complete belief on my skills and strengths yet, sometimes, it feels like I am nothing.3. I forgot things very soon because of which I have to work really hard.4. Sometime, it feels that I am getting hopeless with things.5. I have a fluctuating mind. I have to make great effort to be focused.6. I cannot manage my time due to all this. As a result, neither my boss nor my family is happy.It would be great to have your guidance in solving these problems.Thanks and regards,Name withheld on request.

Hi.

These are some practical things you can do to help you resolve most of the issues you shared.

1. Start your day early with some positive thoughts and physical activity. The way you begin your day determines how the rest of the day will go.

2. Spend quality time with your family.

3. Do practise some meditation or yoga as that will help you increase your concentration.

4. Keep your cell phone away from you when at work; check it once, for five minutes, every hour.

5. Find a good mentor at work with whom you can share your concerns openly.

6. Engage in your hobbies.

7. Get good quality sleep.

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Question by Prakash - Feb 17, 2024Hindi

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Hi. I am prakash iyer my age is 40 i am working in transport company as per my age my salary is less i am looking corporate job with high salary i have problem in communication and look issue i want to develop my personality since from childhood i talk less

Ans: Hi Prakash,

It's great that you are looking to enhance your professional and personal development.

Few aspects you can consider-
To enhance your communication skills you can at joining Toast Masters or some similar platforms. These forums will give you opportunity to work on your public speaking skills
You can do self practice by doing recordings of your own. This will help you identify the gaps to work upon.
Take help of friends and family who can regularly help you in articulating your thoughts.
Take relevant courses which will help you get the right job
Network with the people from the industry as this will open doors of opportunities. Attend industry related events this way you expand your connections
Seek professional guidance like career counselling or coaching
Importantly believe in your self and have patience. Keep practicing.

All the best

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Question by Bhavadharani - Apr 24, 2024Hindi

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Hello sir/madam First of all Thank you let me explore here I have complete my UG degree and i have three months experience in payrolls just like intership, but i need to improve the new skills, even communications skills also, but whenever I'm attending the interview i can't faced them I'm struggle to talk them, my confidence level getting low, there is lots of time i tried so hard and it's makes me to hard for me, i was so exhausted , even around people to me, but one thing, i can't even show up to them, because i had a problem i can't even speak probably, my communications level so poor but i need to improve myself, i need show you how much i was confidence level, so consultant me something i need to know about it,

Ans: OK I understand your confidence has taken a beating, I am yet to see a human who hasn't failed. . So don't lose hope..!?

Here's a quick suggestion, go to the net, search for mock interview situations.
Practice makes perfect..!

If you do need further professional advice happy to assist
https://m.me/maxim.emmanuel.2024

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