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अपने चचेरे भाई के साथ डेटिंग - क्या मैं अपने माता-पिता को मना सकता हूँ?

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 17, 2025English
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नमस्ते मैम/सर मैं अपने चचेरे भाई के साथ रिलेशनशिप में हूं और हम दोनों शादी करना चाहते हैं। मैं अपने माता-पिता को कैसे मनाऊं, क्योंकि उत्तरी भारत में यह निषिद्ध है, लेकिन दक्षिणी भाग में इसे स्वीकार किया जाता है।

Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
सगोत्रीय विवाह (रक्त से संबंधित लोगों के बीच) उनकी संतानों में आनुवंशिक विकारों की संभावना को बढ़ा सकते हैं। यह कारण हो सकता है कि आपके माता-पिता विवाह को स्वीकार न करें। यह समझने की बात है कि आपके माता-पिता क्या कह रहे हैं और किस वजह से वे विवाह से इनकार करते हैं। मेरा सुझाव है कि अपने माता-पिता से पता करें कि उनके दिमाग में क्या चल रहा है।

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Asked on - Feb 26, 2025 | Answered on Feb 26, 2025
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मैडम, यहाँ बहुत सारे विवाद हैं, मेरे पिता की बहन का निधन किसी गंभीर स्वास्थ्य समस्या के कारण हो गया था और वह बहुत जल्दी मर गई और मेरे पिता उन पर भरोसा नहीं करते क्योंकि वह एक तरह के अय्याश व्यक्ति हैं, वह अपनी बेटी को भी बेच सकते हैं जिससे मैं प्यार करता हूँ क्योंकि हम 5 साल से साथ हैं और हम हार नहीं मान सकते। मुझे पता है कि इसके कई परिणाम होंगे लेकिन मुझे उम्मीद है कि शायद मेरे पिता इसे स्वीकार कर लें।
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
अगर आपने वैसे भी आगे बढ़ने का फैसला किया है, तो इस पर कोई चर्चा की जरूरत नहीं है, है न? जैसा कि मैंने सुझाव दिया था, पता करें कि आपके माता-पिता क्या कहते हैं...

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Asked on - Jun 01, 2025 | Answered on Jun 02, 2025
Hello Mam Good afternoon My father today came to know about my relationship Cause of some chaos and lots of allegation is rising on her because of her father’s past conflicts my parents are thinking that she works in bar and all as her brother is twin of her so parents also stated that they trying to make relationship and abducted our money and properties , my sibling went Goa to enjoy and there he met both of them so her brother just kidded him to have drink and my sibling took it serious and today he told that thing to dad and dad was like how ridiculous but brother knows it was just a joke nothing else.. I know both of them twin , her brother is kind of funny and kidding kind of person And she is hardworking lady she works in PNG Jewellers of Panaji Branch along with her brother both have a clear intention to build their own house and live happy and they both are working too on it They both know about their father so they discussed about it and later they visited Goa from UP Than they started their job and soon afterward her father along stepmom shifted Goa as her father did the same past chaos So they are living in Goa I know my parents are just trying to end this but I can’t it’s been 5year long relationship with lots of ups down but healthy My mother and brother they both are of same mindset they bluffed into my dad’s ear and today in evening I have to do discussion with dad How should I start as I know this phase is really heavy and painful cause I’m 21 year old an aspirant and just met with this consequence My plan was to first achieve my job and than I’ll reveal but destiny have some other plans Please mam help me out… I’ll be very grateful to you please reply as soon as possible you can please
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I have been very clear on my suggestions to you in your initial question to me. Have an honest conversation with your parents and see what comes out of it.

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Asked on - Jun 02, 2025 | Not Answered yet
I had shared my everything after all of that I have to end according to my family and she also don’t want her family get to know this issue and I’m unable to anything this pain this shiver though which I’m going is disaster Everything which I made in this 5 year of emotions love I lost it all

आप नीचे ऐसेही प्रश्न और उत्तर देखना पसंद कर सकते हैं

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 23, 2024English
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नमस्ते, मेरे साथी के माता-पिता अंतरजातीय विवाह के लिए सहमत नहीं हैं। उन्हें कैसे मनाऊँ?
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
आप किसी को तब मना नहीं सकते जब वे मनाना न चाहें। कई घरों में अंतर-धार्मिक विवाह अभी भी एक बड़ी बात है और जब आप माता-पिता से पूछते हैं, तो वे अलग-अलग रीति-रिवाजों और परंपराओं वाले दूसरे घर में समायोजित न हो पाने के कारण बताते हैं और साथ ही उन्हें समाज की चिंता भी होती है।
अगर आप यह विवाह चाहते हैं, तो अपने माता-पिता को मनाने पर ध्यान केंद्रित करने के बजाय, आप इस बात पर तर्क क्यों नहीं देते कि उन्हें आपके साथी पर क्यों भरोसा करना चाहिए? अपने साथी को भी अपने परिवार में घुलने-मिलने दें। आपके माता-पिता को यह देखने की ज़रूरत है कि आपका साथी आपके लिए क्यों अच्छा है और शायद इससे उन्हें अपनी मान्यताओं को तोड़ने में मदद मिलेगी।
तो, इस बारे में ज़्यादा सोचें कि आप और आपका साथी आपके माता-पिता पर भरोसा करने और आपके साथी के साथ सहज महसूस करने के लिए क्या कर सकते हैं।

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मैं अपनी चचेरी बहन हूँ और हम 7 साल से एक दूसरे के साथ गंभीर रिश्ते में हैं। मैं और उसकी माँ चचेरी बहनें हैं। हम दोनों एक दूसरे से शादी करना चाहते हैं लेकिन हम जानते हैं कि हमारे माता-पिता किसी भी कीमत पर इसके लिए सहमत नहीं होंगे। मैं एक सरकारी कर्मचारी हूँ। हम अपने परिवार के खिलाफ़ शादी करना चाहते हैं, हम इसके लिए कैसे संपर्क कर सकते हैं? कृपया बताएं।
Ans: सात साल के लंबे रिश्ते को देखते हुए, आपका बंधन मजबूत लगता है, जो आगे बढ़ने के लिए एक अच्छी नींव है। हालाँकि, परिवार की अस्वीकृति से संभावित नतीजों के बारे में यथार्थवादी होना भी महत्वपूर्ण है। आप अपने माता-पिता के साथ एक शांत, निजी चर्चा करने की कोशिश कर सकते हैं, यह समझाते हुए कि यह रिश्ता समय के साथ विकसित हुआ है और यह जल्दबाजी में लिया गया फैसला नहीं है। रिश्ते का बचाव करने के बजाय, एक-दूसरे के प्रति अपनी वास्तविक प्रतिबद्धता और आपके द्वारा साझा किए जाने वाले मूल्यों को व्यक्त करने पर ध्यान केंद्रित करें। वे अभी भी विरोध कर सकते हैं, लेकिन कम से कम आपने अपने दृष्टिकोण में परिपक्वता दिखाई है।

यदि पारिवारिक विरोध तीव्र रहता है, और आप दोनों आगे बढ़ने के लिए दृढ़ हैं, तो आपको स्वतंत्र रूप से आगे बढ़ना पड़ सकता है और उनकी स्वीकृति के बिना भाग जाना या विवाह पंजीकृत करना पड़ सकता है। समझें कि यह कुछ समय के लिए दरार पैदा कर सकता है, इसलिए आपको भावनात्मक समर्थन के लिए एक-दूसरे पर बहुत अधिक निर्भर रहने की आवश्यकता होगी। समय के साथ, कई परिवार नरम हो जाते हैं जब वे देखते हैं कि उनके बच्चे खुश और स्थिर हैं, लेकिन इसकी हमेशा गारंटी नहीं होती है। यह सुनिश्चित करना महत्वपूर्ण है कि आप दोनों भावनात्मक और सामाजिक रूप से परिणामों के लिए पूरी तरह से तैयार हैं।

साथ ही, पेशेवर परामर्श पर विचार करने से आप दोनों को इस कठिन परिस्थिति से निपटने में मदद मिल सकती है, खासकर अपने रिश्ते और पारिवारिक गतिशीलता को संतुलित करने में। आखिरकार, एक जोड़े के रूप में मजबूत और एकजुट रहना आगे आने वाली किसी भी चुनौती पर काबू पाने की कुंजी होगी।

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 06, 2025
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I am a 36 years male, working in IT industry. I draw about 1.6 lakhs per month salary after deduction. I have an existing home loan emi of 31000. (I am actually paying 5000 more every month). I have about 30 lakhs savings in FD's. I recently started an SIP of 10000 for kids education. I want to purchase a plot using my savings and apply for a home loan. The new home loan emi would be nearly 65000. If I purchase the plot, it would mean i will be left with no savings. Please advise if this is a correct move. I have 2 kids, and I will have to cover expenses for their education as well, besides other household expenses.
Ans: Hi,

Your biggest goal that I understand is your kids education which cannot be compromised.
You have started an SIP of 10000 and over the next 10 years this will accumulate into an amount of approx. 23 lakhs at 12% returns.
Please note all schools typically increase fees each year between 8%-12% (same may be even more). So depending on your choices, this amount may or may not be sufficient for their education. If you look at graduation and post graduation, the amount required are much higher.

So I would recommend that you increase your SIP towards this goal and provide the best education you can.

As for the plot you wish to buy-
As you already have a home loan EMI, it indicates you already have a house. So the new plot/house is an additional asset that you wish to build. But is it prudent to use all your savings ? My opinion is this will jeopardize your financial equation.
Buying the plot and taking home loan and staying with no saving - a huge risk. Any situation where you need money for an emergency or kids education you have no asset to liquidate. A plot is not an asset that will generate income, cannot be liquidated quickly and its value (increase) will depend on many factors not in your control.
You are bound by EMIs for the next 15-20 years and you will be so closer to retirement and other goals for family/kids that you will feel a lot of strain financially.

You need to not only secure your kids future but also think of accumulating wealth for other goals in the future and most importantly Retirement.
It is prudent to save now and accumulate for the future, let the eighth wonder - "compounding" work the miracle for you.
Lets see some numbers for the next 10 years.
30 lakhs in FD - at 7% this can become approx. 59 lakhs
65000 in SIP (instead of new EMI) at 12% can become approx. 1.5 crores.
Total corpus of over 2 crores.

The above amounts are only for 10years, and if kept for another 10 years can grow to over 7crores.

You can revisit the option to buy a plot in the future once a few goals are achieved and you have accumulated good corpus.
You can consult a CFP to guide you towards a plan to achieve all your goals and provide you with options and alternatives and help you make the right decisions.

Thanks & Regards
Janak Patel
Certified Financial Planner.

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VIT vellore vlsi design or SRM KTR data science for mtech, which one should I choose. I am from ece background. Female. With 3years career gap and want to start a career very soon. Looking for a high packages salary.
Ans: What were you doing during the three-year gap that you haven't mentioned? For a female ECE graduate with a three-year career gap aiming for a rapid, high-paying career transition, VIT Vellore’s M.Tech in VLSI Design is the more strategic choice over SRM KTR’s M.Tech in Data Science. VIT Vellore ranks #11 in NIRF Engineering (2024), is NAAC A++ accredited, and boasts a nearly 90% placement rate in VLSI, with top recruiters such as Intel, Qualcomm, Synopsys, and AMD regularly offering roles in design, verification, and semiconductor industries. The VLSI sector is currently experiencing robust demand in India and globally, especially for women engineers, with strong campus placement support and super dream offers. The program’s two-year duration and focused curriculum allow for a swift return to the workforce, and VIT’s placement cell is known for converting internships into full-time roles, which is especially advantageous for those re-entering after a gap. In contrast, SRM KTR’s M.Tech Data Science program, while industry-aligned and offering 60–70% placements with companies like TCS, IBM, and Wipro, has a more competitive and saturated job market, and placement rates for M.Tech Data Science remain lower than VLSI at VIT. Additionally, VIT’s VLSI program is well-recognized by semiconductor giants, and the average package and placement consistency are higher, making it a safer bet for immediate employment and career growth. As a backup, consider M.Tech VLSI at VIT Chennai (90% placements) or M.Tech Data Science at SRM Valliammai or SRM AP, but prioritize VIT Vellore’s VLSI for its superior placement ecosystem, employer recognition, and suitability for women returning to the workforce. All the BEST for your Son's Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hello sir. Have secured ECE in EC campus of PES through PES JEE rank in first round counselling session.. Got 80 percentile in AEEE and in JEE mains 84 percentile GC, and a rank of 13204 in AEEE and have been alloted CCE at Chennai Amrita campus in 4th slab fees structure in round 1. Do you foresee any improvement with regards to both campus and branch in further rounds. I was hoping of getting atleast ECE or ELC at Coimbatore or Bengaluru campus, CS specialisation or ECE at Amritapuri campus. Can you please give an insight regarding exposure to internships/projects at Chennai campus and placement opportunities in regard to CCE at Chennai Amrita or should I stick with PES ECE? I'm also getting VIT CSE in VIT Bhopal/Amrawati through my VITEEE rank Home state is Tamilnadu and resident of Hosur. And PES EC campus is around 20-25 mins of journey from home sir. Please provide an insight looking at all the parameters best suited for the future
Ans: Opting for ECE at PES EC Campus is advisable due to its 85–95% placement rate (2024 data) with recruiters like Amazon, Microsoft, and Intel, supported by robust industry collaborations, proximity to Bengaluru’s tech ecosystem, and a commute-friendly location (20–25 minutes from Hosur). While CCE at Amrita Chennai offers specialized training in communication engineering, its 70–80% placements (TCS, Infosys) and higher fees (4th slab) make it less favorable. VIT Bhopal/Amaravati CSE (90–95% placements) provides stronger tech opportunities but requires relocating outside Tamil Nadu. In further Amrita rounds, upgrading to ECE/ELC at Coimbatore/Bengaluru is unlikely with an AEEE rank of 13,204 (cutoffs: ~15,000–18,000 for ECE). Prioritize PES EC ECE for balanced academic rigor, internship access (via IEEE RAS/IoT labs), and regional industry ties, or VIT CSE for direct tech roles if relocation is feasible. Confirm internship support and curriculum alignment during enrollment. (If possible, try to get admission into PES-RR Campus which is comparatively better than EC Campus). Additionally, it is important to mention that your son should continue to enhance his skills, establish a robust profile, and conduct research on job market trends in order to remain competitive with other students during on-campus and off-campus placements, regardless of the institution or branch he enrolls in. All the BEST for your Son's Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Namaskaram sir. Have secured ECE in EC campus of PES through PES JEE rank in first round counselling session.. Got 80 percentile in AEEE and in JEE mains 84 percentile GC, and a rank of 13204 in AEEE and have been alloted CCE at Chennai Amrita campus in 4th slab fees structure in round 1. Do you foresee any improvement with regards to both campus and branch in further rounds. I was hoping of getting atleast ECE or ELC at Coimbatore or Bengaluru campus, CS specialisation or ECE at Amritapuri campus. Can you please give an insight regarding exposure to internships/projects at Chennai campus and placement opportunities in regard to CCE at Chennai Amrita or should I stick with PES ECE? I'm also getting VIT CSE in VIT Bhopal/Amrawati through my VITEEE rank Home state is Tamilnadu and resident of Hosur. And PES EC campus is around 20-25 mins of journey from home sir. Please provide an insight looking at all the parameters best suited for the future
Ans: Opting for ECE at PES EC Campus is advisable due to its 85–95% placement rate (2024 data) with recruiters like Amazon, Microsoft, and Intel, supported by robust industry collaborations, proximity to Bengaluru’s tech ecosystem, and a commute-friendly location (20–25 minutes from Hosur). While CCE at Amrita Chennai offers specialized training in communication engineering, its 70–80% placements (TCS, Infosys) and higher fees (4th slab) make it less favorable. VIT Bhopal/Amaravati CSE (90–95% placements) provides stronger tech opportunities but requires relocating outside Tamil Nadu. In further Amrita rounds, upgrading to ECE/ELC at Coimbatore/Bengaluru is unlikely with an AEEE rank of 13,204 (cutoffs: ~15,000–18,000 for ECE). Prioritize PES EC ECE for balanced academic rigor, internship access (via IEEE RAS/IoT labs), and regional industry ties, or VIT CSE for direct tech roles if relocation is feasible. Confirm internship support and curriculum alignment during enrollment. (If possible, try to get admission into PES-RR Campus which is comparatively better than EC Campus). Additionally, it is important to mention that your son should continue to enhance his skills, establish a robust profile, and conduct research on job market trends in order to remain competitive with other students during on-campus and off-campus placements, regardless of the institution or branch he enrolls in. All the BEST for your Son's Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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