हमारे रिश्ते में आने से पहले मुझे पता था कि मेरी प्रेमिका का 3 साल पुराना रिश्ता था। मैंने इसके बारे में सिर्फ यह स्पष्ट करने के लिए पूछा कि क्या ऐसा कुछ है जो हमारे आने वाले रिश्ते को नुकसान पहुंचाएगा जिसे हम शुरू करने जा रहे हैं। उसने उल्लेख किया कि उसे अपना पिछला रिश्ता और अन्य चीजें पसंद नहीं थीं और उसने कहा कि उसका अपने पूर्व के साथ किसी भी तरह का कोई शारीरिक संबंध नहीं था। लेकिन अब जब हम 2 साल बाद रिश्ते में आए। मुझे पता चला कि उसका अपने पूर्व के साथ शारीरिक संबंध था। लेकिन कोई संभोग नहीं बल्कि अन्य चीजें थीं। मुझे उसकी बातों पर विश्वास नहीं हो रहा था जब उसने यह सब बताया और वह सारी बातें झूठ बोल रही थी मैंने पूछा कि क्या यह तुम्हारा पहली बार था और अन्य चीजें। मेरा खुद का ऐसा कोई रिश्ता नहीं था और मैंने उससे कहा कि मुझे ऐसे लोगों से नफरत है जहां तुम पहले से ही दूसरों के साथ चीजों का अनुभव कर चुके हो। मुझे क्या करना चाहिए। मैं भी उसे पसंद करता

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There can be several reasons for her behavior; she might not have completely moved on from her ex, or she might think that the current relationship is too new to get intimate. Or there can be some completely different reason for this. My point is that only she knows what she is thinking. You can try asking her directly, but if she says she isn't ready for intimacy, do not try to convince her. If that does not work out for you, or if you think she isn't giving you the love and attention you deserve, you can always rethink the relationship. It's only been 2 months. You still have time to reconsider and not be terribly heartbroken.

Best Wishes.

Ans: if her cheating on you is bothering you so much - let it go - it is not just about you loving them, they need to feel the same for you - agree or disagree.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are hurt and the complexities of the hearts might be difficult sometimes to grasp. The first reason for your sorrow, her past relationship, and the fact that she was physically intimate with them is not completely justifiable. Though I understand that you feel hurt because she did not disclose it to you, still it should not matter so much as to ruin your present relationship. And whether she will open up about such sensitive details is actually up to her. It has nothing to do with how much she loves you or trusts you. Please understand that.

Now coming to the next thing, the fact that she is still in touch with them and has even met one of them, that is slightly concerning. It would have been okay if she did that openly- please understand that I am not saying she should have asked for your permission, but rather discuss the same with you. Moreover, in a relationship, it is also important to understand how much your partner is comfortable with- goes for both men and women. If you are uncomfortable with her relationship with her exes, she should consider that. I would have said the same if the table was turned. I suggest you have a clear conversation with her and express how you feel about this situation- depending on how she reacts and how the conversation goes, you both can think about the next step.

Hope this helps.