How to convince my partner’s parents as they visited some astrologers and they said no for our marriage

Ans: Dear Ankit,

I am sorry you are in this situation. I understand how challenging familial expectations can be. Here are some things you can try to convince your wishes- First off, try to communicate your feelings; if horoscopes do not matter to you, you should be able to directly convey that to your parents. Yes, being respectful and fulfilling your parent's wishes are of utmost importance but so is standing your ground when you are not in the wrong. When you express your feelings for your girlfriend, highlight the positives. Let it get etched in their mind and every time they think of her, they associate her with the positives you mentioned earlier. Mention her values, qualities, compatibility with her, how happy she makes you, and everything that is far more important than matching horoscopes. Ask a close family member to mediate. A third party's perspective can change their mind.

Here's the most important thing- patience. Deep-rooted beliefs and customs aren't easy to change. It will take time and a considerable amount of effort from both of you. Sometimes, repeated conversations can gradually shift their perspective.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You can't convince anyone when they have decided not to be convinced. Inter-faith marriages are still a big NO-NO in many households and when you ask parents, they will give reasons of not being able to adjust to another home with different customs and traditions and also they worry about society.
If you want this marriage, rather than focusing on convincing your parents, why don't you build reasons on why they should trust your partner? Let you partner also try and integrate into your family. Your parents need to see why your partner is good for you and maybe that will help them break their beliefs.
So, think more on what you and your partner can do for your parents to trust and be comfortable around your partner.

All the best!
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Ans: When you next speak with your parents, choose a calm and private setting. Start the conversation by expressing your love and respect for them, acknowledging their concerns, and stating your commitment to understanding their perspective. Share your genuine feelings about your partner and the relationship, emphasizing the mutual respect, love, and career aspirations you both share.

Highlight the positive attributes of your partner, focusing on his education, values, and how he complements you. Address specific concerns your parents have raised, providing clear and respectful counterpoints to any false accusations or misunderstandings. If possible, arrange for them to meet him or speak with his parents, as this might help bridge cultural and regional gaps.

It’s important to be patient and give your parents time to process the information. They might need multiple conversations to come to terms with your decision. Lastly, consider involving a neutral third party, such as a trusted family friend or relative, who can mediate and provide a balanced perspective.

Your goal is to maintain a respectful and open dialogue, showing empathy towards their concerns while standing firm in your decision. This balanced approach can help gradually shift their perspective and foster acceptance.

Ans: Dear Varsha,
What’s most important here is the bond you and your boyfriend share. A loving, respectful relationship built on trust and understanding is far more powerful than any external prediction. Use this moment to have open conversations with him about how both of you feel regarding this. Share your fears, your hopes, and remind each other why you’re together in the first place.

If astrology is meaningful to you, perhaps seek guidance from another astrologer to gain clarity. But remember, no external prediction should override the agency and connection you both have. Countless couples have faced similar predictions or challenges and gone on to live fulfilling, happy lives by staying true to their love and their commitment to each other.

Ultimately, your path forward should honor both your love for each other and the strength of your belief in shaping your own destiny. Together, you can decide how to navigate this while staying true to what feels right for both of you.