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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 02, 2023Hindi
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Ravi, Is it okay for a 13 year old to have a serious relationship? (Dating-wise)

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

What do you mean by a serious relationship? If you mean you want to start planning a future with your "partner", I'd say no. You will be setting yourself up for disappointment and heartbreak. Plus, you are too young to have a "serious relationship" and spend the best days of your life trying to nurture something that probably won't last.

If you want to hold hands and go to a movie, please go ahead. There's nothing wrong, but be safe. Let your parents know where you are at all times. You might think you know how the world works and what's best for you, but trust me (the adult) there's a lot you don't understand yet and that makes these your best days.

Having said it all, no matter what I say, you will start falling for people at this age, which will lead to heartbreaks. I will only suggest you focus on your studies and don't compromise on them for anyone no matter how much you think you love them.

Best Wishes!

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Is it ok to have sex before marriage? Some people say it's ok because in this generation having casual relationship is cool . But if we follow our religious aspect then this thing will be wrong and if we look in to our history then we see that earlier it was not in our culture but due to social media and Entertainment sources we slowly adapting the foreign culture, like this casual relationship or friends with benefits , all this has come from other countries . And my second question is that what is casual relationship and what is serious relationship ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Right or wrong is simply the way you look at the world. What is the lens that you wear to see the world?
That will define 'your right and your wrong'. Honestly, there is no right or wrong as it's all perception (the way your beliefs rule your thoughts will lead you to believe in right and wrong.)

Society has labeled something as wrong and generations down the line, it has been followed...whether anyone likes it or not simply because of the fear of being condemned. So, that's where sex before marriage falls under. Of course, it was also pushed down as way of controlling cross-mixing of genetic pools perhaps and maybe also to control the population and give children a stable home. Else, it would have been a free for all society which does have it's negative impact.
So, I am sure you know what it is for you and you don't require anyone telling you what you must do or not. Use your mind to do the thing that is right by you and others as well. Sometimes, it may align with the rule makers and sometimes it may go against and that's where every new generation comes in to challenge old thoughts. But be wary of recklessness and impulsive acts...they lead to quite a lot of confusion and aftermath.

Casual by the very word, can mean temporary or fluid with possibly no strings attached and serious is serious maybe leading to a commitment of some nature in a relationship.

All the best!

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