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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 02, 2023Hindi
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I got happily married in 2006 and since 2007 there where small quarrels between my wife and my mother. We were a joint business and my mother always made her feel insecure financially and socially (this I know now after my wife explained the facts).We separated from our parents in 2012 and have 2 kids 13 yrs and 9 years. My wife is unable to forget her past tramuna and after 17 yrs for marriage if any issue comes where I am seen giving sympathy to my parents I am being questioned and argued. She is suffering from Cervical spondylosis and now she has been diagnosed with Dystonia which on emotional grounds have made our life worst. She just wants to quarrel with me right from morning 5.30am there is hue and cry everywhere and does not end anytime. When I am at office she call and ask me to come back urgently and when I am at home she ask to move off as she does not want to see me. I read these symptoms occur in Dystonia but she isn’t ready to meet any psychiatrist. What can be done from my end as I have 2 kids and one is at the faq end of her schooling.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Any physical ailments that hit suddenly can cause a massive disruption to life. Especially, for the caregiver. I can only imagine how unsettled the marriage might feel; but she needs all the support that you can offer.
She possibly is in a state of denial or anger at the way things are at this moment and displaces the disappointment on you. Not fair, I know!
This also causes her to argue with you on things from the past like when you support your parents. But the real challenge I can only assume is her health that is causing her distress.
She needs a change in perspective by accepting things for what they are right now; but not willing to see a mental health expert puts you in a spot. Maybe you can fill in, in a manner that you can by using the weekends to take time off with her. Spend quality time together and also by yourself to find your peace as well.
Ask the children to pitch in when they can; they are old enough to run little chores in the home. At the same time, do not make your wife feel that is incapable of managing things (this could become a huge dependecny which will spoil her mental state further).
Also, I suggest run back home only in case of an emergency else, you will spread yourself thin by allowing yourself to give into her every demand of raising an alarm. This will become a pattern of dependence on you again.
Enable her to care for herself as much as she can and when she can. This can strengthen her mind state and help in her healing. (since I am unaware of the severity of her symptoms). Enable her...

All the best!

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It is unfortunate that you are in this situation.

Your wife is possibly not very inclined to be in a joint family set-up; the reasons maybe many. But isn’t it necessary for you as a husband and a father to look out for your family?

The misunderstandings caused between the two of you over the years because of being in a joint family set-up have never been addressed and much water has flowed under the bridge.

There is a slim chance that matters might get resolved if you get your mother and wife in the same room and iron it out, with you being a neutral person who does not take sides; this is the best option.

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At the end of the day, you have responsibilities towards your wife and child too!

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My wife frequently quarrels with me, putting up baseless aligations on character shoutingly so much that everyone in our apartment hears it easily. This conduct of her is affecting badly my 4 year son and 12 year old daughter and badly tarnishing my social life. We are now married for last 10 years and she is always like this towards me. Please hlp as it is effecting my health. Thanks.
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I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this difficult situation in your marriage. It sounds like your wife's behavior is not only affecting you, but also your children and social life.

It's important to communicate openly with your wife about how her behavior is affecting you and your family. You can try to have a calm and respectful conversation with her about your concerns and express how her behavior is hurting you and your children. It's important to avoid being defensive or confrontational, as this can escalate the situation and make things worse.

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In the meantime, it's important to prioritize the well-being of your children and yourself. You can seek support from trusted friends or family members, join a support group, or consider individual therapy to help you cope with the stress and emotional toll of the situation.

Remember, it's not healthy or acceptable for anyone to be subjected to baseless allegations or verbal abuse. It's important to take steps to protect yourself and your family from this behavior, whether that means seeking professional help

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Your wife's behavior: It's impossible to definitively say what caused your wife's behavior without detailed information and professional expertise. However, her outbursts, accusations, and lack of love/respect could indicate various factors like stress, mental health issues, or unresolved personal conflicts.
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Prioritize your son's well-being: Ensure his needs are met in a stable and healthy environment. Seek professional guidance if needed.
Focus on your own well-being: Seek individual counseling or therapy to process your emotions, understand your options, and build resilience.
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HI mam, i am 55 year old married staying with wife & two daughters & i am earning a good salary, no loans nothing & we can live happily. My wife bit under educated ( 12 std) & she has some health issues also (arthritis from past one year) & getting treatment. We are living separately from my parents from the past 17 years. My wife does not like my mother ( 80 years with old age health issues) coming to my home since my wife commanded by my mother when we were staying with my parents 17 years back. Still she has that old days struggle in her mind & there is a clash between me & my wife whenever my mother comes to my home. So many times I told her to forget all old bad days memories live today's happy life which she never wants to forget. My father passed away 04 years back & my mother comes to my home whenever there is a function or due to health issue stays for hardly about 15-20 days in a year. How to resolve this issue & get back happiness in my family.
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I wish it were easy to forget...and it's a matter of choice whether we want to keep the past behind us or bring it again and again in out present moment. If your wife does not choose to keep the past behind, it is going to be a huge nightmare for you and especially you constantly having to mediate between your mother and wife.
Yes, since your mother stays only for a few days with you in a year, it is fair of you to expect your wife to 'adjust'...But she is unwilling, so what do you do?
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