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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Nov 15, 2022Hindi
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My friend likes a guy in her office who is senior to her. She has a major crush on him but whenever she sees him around, she goes weak and is unable to utter a word. He is tall, dark and handsome and I have discovered that he is engaged too. I tried telling this to my friend but she still feels for him.
How do I help her?

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She should do her best to get over him.

He is her senior, they share the same office space and he is committed to someone else. Her expressing her feelings is unlikely to cause anything but awkwardness at work.

If she wants to put both her personal life and her career on the line by expressing her feelings, then that is her choice. But like I said, in her place I'd avoid it.

 

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