my friend who is 40 years of age is depressed about her husband having external affair and she truly loves him and wants him, how to bring him back to her .
Ans: Dear Lakshmi,
You can't bring someone back unless he/she wants to come back, right?
Your friend has to take charge (being 'depressed' is not going to solve her problems); which means she needs to decide what is to be done next!
Does she want to continue in the marriage or go separate?
If she wants to continue, she definitely must confront her husband on this and together they must work on rebuilding the marriage with some neutral help from an expert.
Time to stop brooding and time to step up and do what it takes to get to a point of deciding. Is she leaving or staying?
So, be a good friend like you are now and suggest that she needs to take charge by talking to her husband. Where is his mind in all of this? Does he want the marriage as well?
All the questions will be answered and it becomes clear to her whether her love for him is worth it or not. Why waste love on someone who has nothing to do with you?
So for clarity, do suggest to your friend to have that honest chat with her husband where she knows where the marriage stands.
All the best!