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sivakumar Question by sivakumar on Sep 28, 2023Hindi
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If any wife refused a husband for a reason of financially bad after the marriage of 31 years. and left me before 10 years. now what should I do. In your advise to other always creating that every time only the male is having a bad character. Now in my case it is different. what you can give advice to her.

Ans: Dear Sivakumar,
Is she asking me the question or are you?
Since you are the one to ask me, I can only suggest to you, right? And also, if you wanted me to 'advice' your wife(I only suggest and never give advice), kindly share the story fully...your query lacks complete information and it appears that you want me to speak in your favour.
As a Relationship Expert here and also being a Mental Health professional, my profession does not permit me to take sides or speak in favour of one over the other.
Kindly, post your query fully for you to have better guidance points from me. As I have mentioned earlier, there are parts of your story/challenge that have been omitted by you.

All the best!

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1. Assessing Your Current Financial Position
Flat Worth Rs. 1.5 Crore: This generates rental income, but liquidity is limited.
Equity Portfolio of Rs. 50 Lakh: Market-linked investments with potential for high returns but volatile.
Mutual Funds of Rs. 20 Lakh: Offers diversification and moderate risk exposure.
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Factor in inflation, as expenses will rise over time.
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3. Structuring Retirement Income
Rental Income as a Fixed Source
Your flat generates rental income, which helps with stability.
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Equity exposure is beneficial but risky close to retirement.
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Create an emergency fund of at least 2 years' expenses in liquid assets.
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Ensure comprehensive health insurance for both of you, at least Rs. 15-20 lakh coverage.
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