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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 09, 2023

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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sivakumar Question by sivakumar on Sep 28, 2023Hindi
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If any wife refused a husband for a reason of financially bad after the marriage of 31 years. and left me before 10 years. now what should I do. In your advise to other always creating that every time only the male is having a bad character. Now in my case it is different. what you can give advice to her.

Ans: Dear Sivakumar,
Is she asking me the question or are you?
Since you are the one to ask me, I can only suggest to you, right? And also, if you wanted me to 'advice' your wife(I only suggest and never give advice), kindly share the story fully...your query lacks complete information and it appears that you want me to speak in your favour.
As a Relationship Expert here and also being a Mental Health professional, my profession does not permit me to take sides or speak in favour of one over the other.
Kindly, post your query fully for you to have better guidance points from me. As I have mentioned earlier, there are parts of your story/challenge that have been omitted by you.

All the best!

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Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the challenging situation you've been through. It's understandable that trust has been broken, and emotions must be complex. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and that of your son during this time. If you feel comfortable, have an open and honest conversation with your wife about the reasons for her return. It's crucial to express your feelings and concerns. It might be helpful to involve a neutral third party, such as a counselor or mediator, to facilitate the conversation. If she continues to pursue a return against your wishes, you may want to consult with a legal professional to understand your options and rights. Given the complexity of your situation, it might be beneficial to seek legal advice to understand your rights and responsibilities. A lawyer can help you explore options and provide guidance on how to proceed. Take into account the well-being and feelings of your son in any decision-making process. His opinion and comfort level should be considered, especially if he has chosen not to maintain contact with his mother. Decisions made under emotional stress might not be the best ones. Give yourself time to reflect, assess the situation, and decide what is in the best interest of you and your son Ultimately, the decision of whether to allow your wife back into your lives is a personal one. Consider what is in the best interests of you and your son, taking into account your own well-being and the well-being of your family.

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I am about 68 year's I have two sons who are married via arranged process. My younger son's wife is educated teacher. But she had a torturous up bring during high school days. Leading to least interest in married life after marriage. She deserted my son soon after marriage. This led to break down in marriage now heading for a divorce. Please advise.
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How to invest 20 thousand for one year good return
Ans: Investing for one year requires a strategy prioritising safety, liquidity, and reasonable returns. Let us explore suitable options and their benefits.

Understanding Short-Term Investment Needs
Time Frame: One year or less.
Objective: Generate good returns while ensuring minimal risk.
Considerations: Tax implications and ease of withdrawal.
Recommended Investment Categories
1. Debt Mutual Funds
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Ideal Types: Ultra-short duration funds or low-duration funds.
Taxation: Gains taxed as per your income slab.
2. Fixed Deposits with Banks
Why Choose: Bank FDs are a secure option for short-term needs.
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Interest Rate: Competitive for one-year tenure.
Taxation: Interest is added to taxable income.
3. Arbitrage Funds
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Benefits: Tax-efficient returns with minimal risk.
Taxation: Treated as equity funds.
4. Recurring Deposits (RDs)
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Why Avoid High-Risk Investments
Short-term investments should prioritise stability.
Equity-oriented investments are volatile in the short term.
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Active Management vs Index Funds
Avoid Index Funds: These are passive and less flexible for short durations.
Prefer Actively Managed Funds: Fund managers actively optimise returns.
Tax-Efficient Withdrawals
Plan withdrawals to minimise tax liability.
Consider funds with indexation benefits for long-term tax efficiency.
Steps to Start
1. Choose the Right Platform
Invest through an MFD with CFP credentials.
Avoid direct funds for better support and advice.
2. Allocate Wisely
Diversify across debt funds, FDs, and arbitrage funds.
Ensure balance between risk and return.
3. Monitor Regularly
Track fund performance to ensure expected returns.
Be prepared to shift if performance lags.
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At the end of one year, assess gains.
Reinvest in suitable options to maximise growth.
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Short-term investing needs careful selection of options that balance safety and returns. Choose debt mutual funds, bank FDs, or arbitrage funds to meet your objective. Avoid equity-oriented investments for one year. Consult a Certified Financial Planner for tailored guidance.

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